From Darkness to Light

I just listened to the episode on family constellations, and as a clinical psychologist who studies and treats families, this episode was very biased toward the estranged parent (unsurprising, since the host is that parent). It’s important to remember that the parent must change - to wait for the child to return, you have to show the them that it’s safe to return. The idea of one being “superior” or that the child should “bow down” can be a weapon that parents use against their children. I hope this was just a translation issue for Shama, since these words connote a serious power imbalance - that of a master to a servant. I see this dynamic in my practice all the time. These sentiments can very easily be used to minimize the child, their feelings, their experiences. Parents must remember: you had a life before your child. Your child has only known life with you in it. That responsibility should come with a great sense of humility, which is something that was absent from this episode.

You have taken advance of your daughters success in such a selfish and embarrassing way. What a disgrace you are

Shama has a beautiful way of speaking to my soul! I relate to her so incredibly much. Thank you for sharing, Shama!

Shama is a gift to the humans who have lots of experiences ...trauma ... sudden loss...heartbreak ...she has felt these and more im sure! she has a gentle way to share her life and she understands and I feel she wants to be a help to help to let it go ...let us live without all the memories drowning us forever ...yes thank you 💟