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Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—this podcast is your guide to a healthier, faith-filled life transition. Hosted by family law attorney, mediator, and life coach Lesa Koski, each episode is designed to take the fear out of major life change and guide you toward peace—whether you’re facing separation, navigating a divorce, working to strengthen your relationship, or rebuilding your life in midlife. You’ll get heart-centered legal clarity, emotional support, and practical tools to help you heal, grow, and move forward with confidence. Topics include: Peaceful divorce strategies and mediation support Co-parenting help and parenting plans that actually work Prenups, postnups, and how to protect what matters most Emotional healing, mindset shifts, and confidence after a hard season Menopause, health changes, and how midlife affects mood, marriage, and motivation Wellness basics that make a real difference: rest, nutrition, movement, strength, and community This is more than a show about endings—it’s about becoming the woman who rises stronger, steadier, and clearer on the other side. About the Host: Lesa has spent over 25 years helping families through mediation and family law, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. She’s also a breast cancer survivor, wellness advocate, cowgirl at heart, and follower of Jesus who believes your hardest season can become your greatest comeback. If you’re craving practical guidance, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about rebuilding life after 40, you’re in the right place. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/

  1. Choosing Yourself After Trauma: Healing Childhood Loss, Miscarriage & Generational Pain with Life Coach Vivian Moyo

    4D AGO

    Choosing Yourself After Trauma: Healing Childhood Loss, Miscarriage & Generational Pain with Life Coach Vivian Moyo

    Healing from trauma, childhood grief, miscarriage, and generational pain starts with one step: choosing yourself. In this powerful episode of Doing Life Different, Lesa Koski talks with life coach Vivian Moyo about healing trauma, the impact of losing a parent young, how silence in families creates emotional wounds, and how choosing yourself becomes an act of self-love. Vivian shares her story of childhood loss, two devastating miscarriages, and the moment she began her healing journey. If you’re navigating midlife trauma, divorce recovery, grief, anxiety, or a major life change, this conversation will help you feel seen, supported, and hopeful. In this episode, we talk about trauma healing, generational trauma, grief recovery, and how to choose yourself when life feels heavy. Vivian’s message is a reminder that healing is possible—and midlife is not your crisis, it’s your comeback. 🎧 Listen now and share this with a woman who needs encouragement today. In this episode, we talk about trauma healing, generational trauma, grief recovery, and how to choose yourself when life feels heavy. Vivian’s message is a reminder that healing is possible—and midlife is not your crisis, it’s your comeback. 🎧 Listen now and share this with a woman who needs encouragement today. Timestamps:(00:00) Welcome + technical difficulties + introducing life coach Vivian Moyo (02:10) Vivian’s background: born in Zimbabwe, now living in London (04:20) Losing her mother at age three and having no memory of her (07:10) The trauma of family silence and not knowing how her mother died (10:35) Why children need truth, support, and emotional safety (13:50) Generational trauma and how pain gets passed down (16:30) Moving to the UK at 11 and feeling different within the family (20:05) Miscarriage and heartbreak: losing her first pregnancy at five months (22:45) Losing a second pregnancy at five months and reaching a breaking point (25:30) Suicidal thoughts and the “still voice” that changed everything (28:10) Vivian’s calling: helping young girls build confidence and self-worth (31:10) Supporting women through domestic abuse and trauma recovery (33:45) Vivian’s upcoming book: The Invisible Girl (launching in June) (36:10) One powerful tip for self-love: “Choose yourself” (38:05) Final encouragement + how to connect with Vivian Key Takeaways:Trauma can start early, and silence often deepens the woundGenerational trauma is real, but healing can break the cycleGrief and miscarriage loss can create deep emotional pain, but recovery is possibleHealing often begins when we choose support, truth, and self-compassion“Choosing yourself” is one of the strongest acts of self-love and boundary-setting Guest Bio:Vivian Moyo is a London-based life coach, speaker, and founder of women-focused healing initiatives supporting survivors of trauma and domestic abuse. Born in Zimbabwe, Vivian has transformed her personal journey of loss and resilience into a mission to help women heal, build confidence, and reclaim their lives. She is the author of the upcoming book The Invisible Girl, launching in June. Resource Links:Vivian: Youtube Channel : https://www.youtube.com/@MoyoWellnessTherapy TikTok : a...

    32 min
  2. Perimenopause Symptoms Explained: Menopause, Mood, Cholesterol & the New Rules of Women’s Health

    JAN 13

    Perimenopause Symptoms Explained: Menopause, Mood, Cholesterol & the New Rules of Women’s Health

    Perimenopause symptoms can feel confusing—mood swings, brain fog, weight gain, sleep issues, and even cholesterol changes. In this episode, Lesa Koski talks with women’s health journalist and author Meghan Rabbitt about perimenopause vs. menopause, the most common perimenopause symptoms, what’s “normal,” and what deserves a doctor visit. You’ll learn how to track symptoms, ask better questions, and advocate for yourself during the menopause transition. If you’re navigating perimenopause symptoms in midlife, this conversation will help you feel informed, empowered, and supported.(Primary keyword used 3–5x: perimenopause symptoms)Timestamps (in parentheses):(00:00) Welcome + why women’s health needs new rules (02:10) Meghan’s story: writing on women’s health and Maria Shriver’s invitation LinkedIn (06:15) “We are not small men” and what that means for care (10:05) Perimenopause vs. menopause: definitions and the 12-month rule (14:40) Tracking cycles + when bleeding after a year matters (18:30) Perimenopause symptoms you might not connect to hormones (25:10) Mood changes, anxiety, rage, and brain fog (30:55) Vaginal/urinary symptoms and why women should talk about them (36:45) Cholesterol, heart health, and menopause-related risk shifts (42:25) Hormone therapy: what we know now vs. what we feared (49:10) Lifestyle tools that truly help (sleep, stress, strength training) (56:00) The “doctor visit” strategy: list symptoms and prioritize (59:30) Book recap + closing encouragementKey Takeaways:Perimenopause symptoms can include mood changes, brain fog, joint pain, skin changes, and cholesterol shifts—not just hot flashes.You’re not in menopause until you’ve gone 12 full months without a period.Track symptoms and cycles so you can advocate clearly at appointments.Prioritize your top 2–3 concerns for each doctor visit to get better care.Hormone therapy is more nuanced than many women were led to believe; ask informed questions.Guest Bio:Meghan Rabbitt is an award-winning journalist and editor covering women’s health, nutrition, and psychology. She’s an editor and writer at Shriver Media and the author of The New Rules of Women’s Health: Your Guide to Thriving at Every Age (foreword by Maria Shriver).a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/734289/the-new-rules-of-womens-health-by-meghan-rabbitt-foreword-by-maria-shriver/?utm_source=chatgpt.com" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

    36 min
  3. Why We Do Things We Know Aren’t Right for Us (And How to Listen to That Inner Knowing)

    JAN 7

    Why We Do Things We Know Aren’t Right for Us (And How to Listen to That Inner Knowing)

    Why do we do things we know aren’t right for us? In this episode, Lesa Koski shares personal stories—from a disastrous snorkeling trip to an icy ski fall—to explore midlife mindset, intuition, and why ignoring our inner knowing leads to unnecessary pain.Using her S.O.U.L. self-coaching method, Lesa walks through how stillness, surrender, and aligned decisions help women over 40 stop fighting themselves and start living with more clarity. This episode is especially helpful for women navigating divorce, boundaries, people-pleasing, or major life transitions who want to make choices that actually feel right.Timestamps(00:00) Welcome + why the New Year feels like a reset(03:40) The question that won’t leave us alone: why do we go against ourselves?(07:20) The Hawaii snorkeling story (red flags we ignored)(15:10) The icy ski fall + ignoring inner knowing(24:30) How people-pleasing overrides intuition(30:40) Using the S.O.U.L. Method before making decisions(39:00) Purpose vs. obligation: when sacrifice is aligned(48:10) Divorce Clarity 40+ community invitationKey TakeawaysIgnoring inner knowing often leads to unnecessary sufferingPeople-pleasing can override intuitionStillness reveals what we already knowAlignment feels different than obligationPurposeful sacrifice brings peace, not resentmentGuest BioLesa Koski is a former family law attorney turned mediator, divorce coach, and mindset coach. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce, midlife transitions, and emotional overwhelm with clarity, faith, and grounded tools. Lesa is the host of Doing Life Different and creator of the S.O.U.L. Method™.Resource LinksBook a coaching session with Lesa: Find More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjMarrie Simpson’s Metabolic Reseta...

    19 min
  4. How to Process Unwanted Feelings After 40 | The S.O.U.L. Method for Emotional Clarity

    12/30/2025

    How to Process Unwanted Feelings After 40 | The S.O.U.L. Method for Emotional Clarity

    How to Process Unwanted Feelings After 40 | The S.O.U.L. Method for Emotional Clarity Episode DescriptionUnwanted feelings after 40 can feel overwhelming—especially during divorce or emotional seasons. In this episode, Lesa shares her S.O.U.L. Method to calm emotions, regulate your nervous system, and move forward with clarity. Learn how to process unwanted feelings, set boundaries, and choose aligned action with faith-based support. This episode is for women navigating divorce, emotional overwhelm, and midlife transitions who want clarity instead of chaos. Timestamps(00:00) Why unwanted feelings surface during the holidays (05:12) Introducing the S.O.U.L. Method (10:08) Stillness and surrendering emotions to God (18:30) Identifying beliefs behind your feelings (26:15) Using empathy and strengths on yourself (34:40) Aligned action and setting guilt-free boundaries (41:50) Divorce Clarity 40+ community invitation Key TakeawaysUnwanted feelings are signals, not failuresStillness helps regulate emotional overwhelmQuestioning beliefs reduces sufferingBoundaries are an act of self-respectSmall aligned actions build self-trust Guest BioLesa Koski is a former family law attorney turned mediator, divorce coach, and mindset coach. She helps women over 40 navigate divorce, emotional overwhelm, and midlife transitions with clarity, faith, and grounded decision-making. Resource LinksBook a coaching session with Lesa: Find More From Lesa Here!Sign up for my newsletter https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjMarrie Simpson’s Metabolic Resetjjflizanes.com/lesaSign up for my newsletter! https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjEbook https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G4B2ZY1W?ref=yb_qv_ov_kndl_dp_rwDivorce Clarity 40+...

    19 min
  5. Forgiveness After 40: How Letting Go Heals Your Heart, Body & Faith

    12/23/2025

    Forgiveness After 40: How Letting Go Heals Your Heart, Body & Faith

    Forgiveness After 40: How Letting Go Heals Your Heart, Body & Faith Episode DescriptionForgiveness after 40 can unlock emotional healing, peace, and renewed faith. In this heartfelt holiday episode, Lesa Koski shares how forgiveness changed her life and helped her release anger, anxiety, and judgment. Through personal stories, faith-based reflection, and practical steps, this episode explores forgiveness as a path to healing—not for others, but for yourself. If you’re navigating divorce, grief, or emotional wounds in midlife, this conversation will help you reconnect with God, reclaim joy, and move forward lighter and freer. (Primary keyword: forgiveness after 40 — used naturally throughout) Timestamps(00:00) Holiday reflections, grief, and why forgiveness matters (04:15) Lessons learned through chaos and childhood stories (10:40) Teaching through stories instead of advice (16:05) Why forgiveness accelerates healing and growth (20:50) Core wounds, stillness, and listening for God (27:30) A faith-based practice for forgiveness and release (35:10) Letting God judge instead of carrying anger (41:45) Forgiveness, health, and emotional freedom (48:20) Forgiving without an apology and finding peace (55:30) Closing reflections and holiday blessing Key TakeawaysForgiveness is a healing practice that frees you, not the other personStillness and prayer help create space to hear God clearlyYou don’t need an apology to forgive and move forwardCarrying anger can impact emotional and physical healthForgiveness opens the door to greater joy, peace, and faith Guest BioLesa Koski is a family law attorney turned mediator, life coach, and host of Doing Life Different. She supports women over 40 navigating divorce, faith, forgiveness, and midlife reinvention with clarity, compassion, and grounded wisdom. Resource LinksCore Wounds Course: JJ Flizanes – https://jjflizanes.com/lesaSign up for Lesa’s Newsletter: https://enchanting-basil-714.myflodesk.com/qwzridafyjLesa’s Ebook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G4B2ZY1W?ref=yb_qv_ov_kndl_dp_rwPodcast Episode Mentioned: Andy Bull interview on forgiveness and healing (search within the show archive) Andi Bull's episode: https://player.captivate.fm/episode/e87157ca-599f-4155-9b7e-3d577d1ee81d/Ja href="https://www.skool.com/divorce-clarity-40-8663/about?ref=0a6121fb1a754a9385d369922b4204ef" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

    16 min
  6. Menopause & Divorce: How Midlife Hormonal Change Becomes an Opportunity for Healing

    12/16/2025

    Menopause & Divorce: How Midlife Hormonal Change Becomes an Opportunity for Healing

    Menopause and divorce can feel overwhelming, but they don’t have to break you. In this powerful conversation, we explore menopause and divorce as opportunities for growth, healing, and self-love. Host Lesa Koski shares her personal menopause journey alongside Coach Tracy, unpacking how hormonal changes, mindset, anxiety, weight gain, and emotional regulation intersect during midlife. This episode reframes menopause and divorce as chapters—not endings—and offers practical tools to help women navigate this season with clarity, compassion, and confidence. If you’re facing menopause, divorce, or both, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more empowered. Timestamps(00:00) Introduction to menopause, divorce, and midlife transitions (03:15) Why menopause and divorce often overlap during midlife (07:42) Weight gain, loss of control, and learning self-acceptance (12:30) Menopause as a physiological and emotional circumstance (17:10) Metabolic health, hormones, and mindset explained (22:45) Anxiety, panic, and changing your relationship with your thoughts (28:30) The role of self-love, shame, and acceptance in healing (33:50) Hormone testing, functional medicine, and natural support options (39:20) Why menopause can be an opportunity instead of a setback (44:10) Final encouragement for women navigating menopause and divorce Key TakeawaysMenopause and divorce are life circumstances, not personal failuresHormonal changes impact mental, emotional, and metabolic healthMindset plays a powerful role in how menopause symptoms are experiencedAnxiety is often driven by thought patterns—not permanent conditionsMidlife can be a season of self-love, growth, and reinvention Guest BioCoach Tracy is a life coach specializing in mindset, metabolic health, and emotional resilience for women navigating major life transitions. Through her coaching programs and tools, she helps women understand the connection between thoughts, feelings, hormones, and behavior—empowering them to move through menopause, anxiety, and midlife change with clarity and confidence. Guest Bio: Coach Tracy is a master life and weight coach and the creator of the Self-Made U™ method and planner, where she helps high-achieving women and men learn how to manage their minds, regulate emotions, and create results from the inside out. As Lesa’s longtime coach, Tracy has walked alongside her through breast cancer, major life transitions, and the process of “doing life different,” equipping her with tools that now support women in midlife all over the world. Resource Links: Learn more about coaching with Lesa KoskiListen to more episodes of Doing Life Different: Self-Made U™ Planner & tools from a...

    22 min
  7. It Doesn’t Have to Be Hard: Midlife Mindset Shifts to Stop White-Knuckling Life with Coach Tracy

    12/09/2025

    It Doesn’t Have to Be Hard: Midlife Mindset Shifts to Stop White-Knuckling Life with Coach Tracy

    Midlife mindset, stress relief, and emotional healing for women over 40. In this episode, we explore how to shift your midlife mindset, lower stress, and stop white-knuckling your way through life. Host Lesa Koski and her coach, Coach Tracy, unpack the beliefs that keep women stuck in “it has to be hard” mode and show you how slowing down can actually lead to better results in your health, relationships, and emotional well-being. You’ll hear how Lesa’s breast cancer journey forced her into stillness, why cortisol and hormones matter more than we think, and how tools like daily self-coaching and intentional planning can transform your midlife mindset. If you’ve ever felt like you’re grinding through your days, pushing harder but feeling worse, this conversation will help you see a softer, more sustainable way forward. Listen in to learn how to name your emotions without judgment, examine the thoughts driving them, and give yourself permission to move at a healthier pace—without losing your ambition or your identity. This episode is a powerful invitation to reframe your midlife mindset and start doing life different. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to why we make life harder than it needs to be (03:10) Lesa’s breast cancer story and the surprising power of stillness (07:45) White-knuckling, overachieving, and the “no pain, no gain” myth (13:20) Cortisol, hormones, and why stress can block weight loss and healing (18:50) The courage to slow down and sit with your emotions (23:30) Naming feelings, stopping judgment, and shifting core beliefs (29:05) Using intentional planning to decide how you want to feel (34:40) Practical micro-steps to create more ease in everyday life (39:10) Final encouragement: it doesn’t have to be hard & how to get support Key Takeaways: Ease can create better results than effort. Slowing down, resting, and listening to your body often leads to deeper healing and more sustainable progress than constant pushing.Your thoughts—not your circumstances—create your emotional experience. When you can name what you’re feeling and see the belief behind it, you can finally change it.Stress and cortisol matter. White-knuckling, over-fasting, and over-training can backfire, especially for midlife women, by raising cortisol and blocking physical and emotional results.Stillness takes courage, not weakness. Sitting with your emotions, instead of fixing or judging them, is a powerful way to lower stress and reclaim your peace.You can decide how you want to feel ahead of time. Intentional planning—choosing your desired feeling and thought before events—can transform everything from social gatherings to work commitments. Guest Bio: Coach Tracy is a master life and weight coach and the creator of the Self-Made U™ method and planner, where she helps high-achieving women and men learn how to manage their minds, regulate emotions, and create results from the inside out. As Lesa’s longtime coach, Tracy has walked alongside her through breast cancer, major life transitions, and the process of “doing life different,” equipping her with tools that now support women in midlife all over the world. Resource Links: Learn more about coaching with Lesa KoskiListen to more episodes of Doing Life Different: Self-Made U™ Planner & tools from a...

    29 min
  8. Stillness in Midlife: The First Daily Shift to Heal Anxiety and Hear Your Calling

    12/02/2025

    Stillness in Midlife: The First Daily Shift to Heal Anxiety and Hear Your Calling

    Stillness, midlife anxiety, Christian mindset, healing, surrender, and purpose—this episode dives into stillness as the first daily shift to heal your mindset. Stillness is the doorway to hearing your calling, calming anxiety, and reconnecting with God when life feels loud and out of control. In this solo episode, host and author Lesa Koski shares how stillness became the unexpected beginning of her healing journey after a breast cancer diagnosis. She walks you through her come-to-Jesus moment in Arizona, the shock of hearing “you have cancer,” and the deep, surprising peace she found on the morning of her surgery. You’ll learn why stillness is not passive or weak, but a powerful spiritual and emotional reset that breaks the cycle of overthinking, people-pleasing, and white-knuckling your way through life. Lesa offers real-life tools to help you practice stillness when your mind is spinning—whether you’re facing cancer, divorce, health fears, or simply the quiet ache of a life that feels “too much.” If you’re a woman over 40 or 50 feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or burned out, this conversation will show you how stillness can become your first daily shift toward peace, purpose, and a more joyful, God-led life. Stillness doesn’t remove the hard things, but it changes how you move through them. Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction to stillness as the first daily shift (02:05) Living in lifelong anxiety, fear, and fight-or-flight (04:12) The Arizona come-to-Jesus moment and praying for healing (07:03) The mammogram callback and terrifying biopsy experience (09:45) Hearing “you have breast cancer” and being forced to stop (12:18) Letting go of control and surrendering outcomes to God (14:40) Crying on hay bales, walking in the woods, and praying through fear (17:02) The morning of surgery, malignant hyperthermia, and supernatural peace (19:30) Why stillness is the foundation of healing and mindset work (21:08) Practical tools to access stillness when your mind is spinning (23:05) Using the feelings wheel and Scripture to name and process emotions (24:15) How to get Lesa’s ebook, newsletter, and next steps for your healing journey Key Takeaways: Stillness is the first daily shift that opens the door to hearing your calling and healing your mindset.A crisis (like cancer, divorce, or a child in trouble) can force you into stillness—and that stillness can become holy ground.You can’t control outcomes, but you can control how you move through hard seasons by surrendering to God.Stillness isn’t about doing nothing; it’s about feeling your feelings, noticing God’s presence, and interrupting anxiety’s momentum.Simple practices—walking, crying in a safe place, grounding in your body, and using a feelings wheel—can help you access stillness even in the middle of chaos. Guest Bio: Lesa Koski is an attorney/mediator, podcast host, breast cancer survivor, and author of 5 Daily Shifts to Hear Your Calling and Heal Your Mindset. She helps women over 40 and 50 move from anxiety and overwhelm into peace, purpose, and God-led confidence by teaching practical, faith-centered mindset tools and daily shifts that support midlife reinvention. Resource Links: 📘 5 Daily Shifts to Hear Your Calling and Heal Your Mindset (ebook)🎁 Free Feelings Wheel Download: a...

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Divorce, co-parenting, menopause, marriage, and starting over after 40—this podcast is your guide to a healthier, faith-filled life transition. Hosted by family law attorney, mediator, and life coach Lesa Koski, each episode is designed to take the fear out of major life change and guide you toward peace—whether you’re facing separation, navigating a divorce, working to strengthen your relationship, or rebuilding your life in midlife. You’ll get heart-centered legal clarity, emotional support, and practical tools to help you heal, grow, and move forward with confidence. Topics include: Peaceful divorce strategies and mediation support Co-parenting help and parenting plans that actually work Prenups, postnups, and how to protect what matters most Emotional healing, mindset shifts, and confidence after a hard season Menopause, health changes, and how midlife affects mood, marriage, and motivation Wellness basics that make a real difference: rest, nutrition, movement, strength, and community This is more than a show about endings—it’s about becoming the woman who rises stronger, steadier, and clearer on the other side. About the Host: Lesa has spent over 25 years helping families through mediation and family law, always focused on protecting what matters most—your kids and your peace of mind. She’s also a breast cancer survivor, wellness advocate, cowgirl at heart, and follower of Jesus who believes your hardest season can become your greatest comeback. If you’re craving practical guidance, soul-level encouragement, and real conversations about rebuilding life after 40, you’re in the right place. Website: https://www.lesakoski.com/

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