Doing Marriage Well

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This blog is not Doing Marriage Right. That would be about doing what someone thinks we should all do. Your marriage is the blending of two unique people, and what works for others may not be good for you. There are things that are nearly universally successful for couples, and things that are universally harmful. For those who follow Jesus, there are some expectations and limits. But honesty, there’s a great deal of wiggle room. We’ve seen happy couples living a wide variety of different ways. If it’s in God’s will, and both husband and wife are good with it, who am I to say anything against it? The goal here is to help you find what works well for your marriage. I will do that by offering you things to consider. As things are shared, weight them. Try those that seem like they might work for your marriage. If it’s a good fit, great. If not, ditch it, or consider how to modify it to work for your relationship. Doing Marriage Well means actually doing what builds our marriage relationships. It’s the doing that makes the difference! Every Monday I share about a marriage concept and then spend the rest of the week talking about ways to use it in your life and marriage. On Friday, I will apply the concept to sexuality.

  1. Is Your Spouse Insecure? The Hidden Reason Communication Breaks Down

    May 28

    Is Your Spouse Insecure? The Hidden Reason Communication Breaks Down

    A recent observational study found that romantic partners who feel uncertain about their relationship tend to experience more negative emotions during everyday conversations. Researchers used recordings of couples rather than surveys, which revealed interaction patterns that surveys miss. People who are unsure where they stand often do not give their partner the benefit of the doubt and feel confused and concerned. Those feelings foster negativity and interfere with good communication. The study also showed that when partners helped with daily goals, people felt better during interactions, an effect that was stronger for women. Uncertainty about the relationship creates a weak framework for interpreting partner behaviour. Small slights or separate incidents then accumulate and influence other parts of the marriage. Treating each moment as isolated lets unresolved negativity spill into later conversations and intimacy. The findings are straightforward but require deliberate action to change patterns. Too often we excuse bad behaviour as unrelated to other parts of our marriage. But ignoring how one moment affects the next is a recipe for ongoing hurt. Consistent kindness and support build the security that improves daily communication. Work to make your spouse feel secure and to help them with daily goals. Your small, steady actions matter more than occasional good intentions. Do marriage well consistently.

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This blog is not Doing Marriage Right. That would be about doing what someone thinks we should all do. Your marriage is the blending of two unique people, and what works for others may not be good for you. There are things that are nearly universally successful for couples, and things that are universally harmful. For those who follow Jesus, there are some expectations and limits. But honesty, there’s a great deal of wiggle room. We’ve seen happy couples living a wide variety of different ways. If it’s in God’s will, and both husband and wife are good with it, who am I to say anything against it? The goal here is to help you find what works well for your marriage. I will do that by offering you things to consider. As things are shared, weight them. Try those that seem like they might work for your marriage. If it’s a good fit, great. If not, ditch it, or consider how to modify it to work for your relationship. Doing Marriage Well means actually doing what builds our marriage relationships. It’s the doing that makes the difference! Every Monday I share about a marriage concept and then spend the rest of the week talking about ways to use it in your life and marriage. On Friday, I will apply the concept to sexuality.