Don’t Scare the Newbies!

kirizal & S
  • 5.0 (4)
  • Sexuality

Kink can be scary, but talking about it doesn’t have to be! S and kirizal, a couple in a 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship chat about kink, sex, relationships, communication, and everything in between Winner of Best Media, Alternative Awards 2026 Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

  1. 4d ago

    Desire Without Empathy: The Piano Teacher

    It's time for another kinky movie night, and for the second time in a row kirizal suggested something slow paced and arty that S isn't all the way sold on! This time it's The Piano Teacher, talking about how sadism and masochism are explored in a way that is separate from negotiated and consensual kink, an interesting twist on corruption themes, and how this movie invites the viewer to experience isolation, disconnection, and discomfort right along with its characters. Plus, the notorious and ambiguous ending, the uncomfortable questions it forces the audience to ask, and the shifting balances of power. Content Note: Major spoilers for The Piano Teacher throughout, in depth discussion of sexual violence, abuse (including emotional incest). Due to the content and themes of the movie, discussion around whether or not a scene depicting sexual violence is or is not non-consensual and ambiguous/extremely dubious consent. Self harm mention. Mentions of real life abuse history. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    Desire Without Empathy: The Piano Teacher

  2. Jul 8

    A Masked Assailant With a Store-Bought Penis: Planning for Public Play

    What goes into planning for a public play event? In this episode, kirizal and S talk about the considerations for planning a public scene - fetiquette, rules, equipment, time, and the role of the audience - love the attention or terrified of it, they’re there! Then, W/we get into some actual planning - see how W/we plan four days worth of scenes for an upcoming event, including the much anticipated second interrogation. Content Note: Discussion of breath play, blood play, consensual non-consent play including simulated sexual assault, burns, and historical torture Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    A Masked Assailant With a Store-Bought Penis: Planning for Public Play

  3. Jul 1

    The Full Bloody Experience: Period Sex

    This week, kirizal and S are talking periods. While period sex doesn't necessarily have to be a kink, it can be - and W/we talk about what this does for U/us. S shares why They took a while to get on board with getting bloody, W/we talk about the impact of misogyny on how periods and period sex are seen, and the emotionally masochistic intersection of dysphoria and pleasure for kirizal. Plus - period sex isn't gross... BUT. How W/we get gross and degrading in O/our play. Content Notes: Discussion of blood play (other than periods), sexual coercion/pressure in relationships, and brief mention of CNC and fantasies about sexual assault. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    The Full Bloody Experience: Period Sex

  4. Jun 24

    Leather and Laces: Leather Community and Bootblacking with Duncan and Tea

    This week’s guests are Duncan, one of the founders of Newcastle Leathermen, and Tea, a bootblack and Newcastle Leathermen’s first nonbinary member. Plus Tea’s partner popping in with an occasional comment! O/our guests share the power of community, culture differences between Leather communities and the Fetlife-based kink scene, visibility and how Newcastle Leathermen navigate venues and social media, bootblacking and why this role is so valued, and an overview of Leather history and its impact. Find out more about Newcastle Leathermen at https://www.newcastleleathermen.com/ Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    Leather and Laces: Leather Community and Bootblacking with Duncan and Tea

  5. Jun 17

    Are W/we Actually Quite Gay: Sexual Orientation

    This week, kirizal and S are chatting about sexual orientation - from O/our coming out stories (one at 14, and one at 41!), kirizal’s multiple coming outs and the pan vs bi distinction, T4T dating, and whether O/our kink identities are a part of sexual orientation for U/us. Plus - outsourcing the terrifying task of talking to women, hot takes from S and the usual soapbox moments from kirizal. Content Note: Discussions of homophobia and biphobia Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    Are W/we Actually Quite Gay: Sexual Orientation

  6. Jun 10

    Giving Up The Trappings of Adulthood: ABDL & Ageplay with Jenby Doll & Tealeaves

    Adult babies Jen and Tealeaves sat down with kirizal and S this week to share their experiences - through all the noise of stigma and misconceptions, they share the authenticity and joy of little space, kink as a core part of identity, the intimacy of vulnerability, and lots more. Plus - censorship and recent legal challenges, a fascinating diversion into inducing lactation, and Jen's plans to make an ABDL romcom (W/we are already so sat - someone please, fund it!). Content Note: Detailed discussion of diaper wearing and use, kinkshaming and stigma, and some conversation about misogyny and transphobia as elements of kink play. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials and O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies And visit @Tealeaves_ on Fetlife, and @Jenby_Doll on Fetlife and X Videos

    Giving Up The Trappings of Adulthood: ABDL & Ageplay with Jenby Doll & Tealeaves

  7. Jun 3

    Can W/we Be Your Weird Cousins: Kink At Pride

    It's Pride Month, so in the first of O/our queer focused episodes kirizal and S jump straight in with the annual discourse topic, does kink belong at Pride? W/we also chat about O/our first Prides, the commercialisation and coorporate involvement in Pride season, bystander consent, children and families at Pride, purity culture and the very British fear of acknowleding sex, and lots more! kirizal also manages to make S feel "a bit sick" which, given some of the stuff that they say on a regular basis, is quite impressive. There's a bit of a hum in the background of part of this one - mainly at the start and fades pretty quick once it gets going - once again technology has been vexing U/us. Apologies! Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials plus O/our merch at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    Can W/we Be Your Weird Cousins: Kink At Pride

  8. May 27

    Just me And The Cat: Addiction, Recovery, & A Little Bit Of Kink

    After the S-heavy long distance episode, W/we thought it was kirizal's turn to have the spotlight and dive into one of their specialist topics - addiction and recovery. kirizal spent most of their 20s battling mental health issues which spiralled into drug dependency and a crisis that almost cost them their life. In this episode W/we talk about that journey through into recovery, unmasking the darker side of 12 step programs, and kirizal's post-recovery life and the shift to a recovery-capital based moderation approach. But what does that have to do with kink? W/we talk about pleasure-seeking as a coping mechanism, neurodiversity crossovers, self-medicating of shame, and the complex relationship people can have with control and surrender. Plus, at the centre of it all connection - the healing power of community. Content Note: This is an emotional one - detailed discussion of drug use including intravenous drug use, overdose, suicide attempt, suicide, pet death, transphobia, shame, "13th stepping" sexual abuse, domestic violence and sexual assault within 12 step groups. Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

    Just me And The Cat: Addiction, Recovery, & A Little Bit Of Kink
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Kink can be scary, but talking about it doesn’t have to be! S and kirizal, a couple in a 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationship chat about kink, sex, relationships, communication, and everything in between Winner of Best Media, Alternative Awards 2026 Follow kirizal’s blog and find all their socials at www.kirizal.com Support U/us on Patreon at patreon.com/dontscarethenewbies

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