When an adult child cuts off a parent, it rarely comes out of nowhere. It’s usually the final stage of a long, painful pattern that could have been repaired years earlier. In this episode, I walk through why so many estrangements happen, what keeps them going, and what actually helps parents rebuild a relationship that feels lost. As a psychologist who has spent more than 30 years working with families, I’ve watched this pattern unfold for decades. And I’ve seen what leads to reconnection too. This is not about blame. It’s about understanding the emotional gap that forms between parents and their adult children, and what it really takes to close it. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why defensiveness is the biggest predictor of long-term estrangement • What adult children actually want from their parents • How acknowledgment and repair create the best chance for reconciliation • Why so many young parents today are afraid of losing their own kids • How connection and credibility work together to keep relationships strong • What real repair sounds like • What parents can do right now to create safety, honesty, and closeness If you’re an older parent hoping to rebuild connection, or a younger parent trying to prevent this from happening in your own family, there are clear, simple steps that make a difference. You don’t need perfection. You just need humility, consistency, and a willingness to show up with openness instead of fear. If you’ve experienced estrangement in your own family, or if you’re worried about it, I hope this brings clarity and direction. Find more at www.DrToddTalks.com. I have an online course called Connection and Credibility that walks you through how to build strong, lasting relationships with your kids. If you’re not ready for the full course, I have articles, podcasts, and free resources you can use right away. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Leave a comment, send a message, or share your experience with this topic. 📺 Subscribe to the channel: youtube.com/@drtoddtalks 📸 Follow on Instagram: @drtoddtalks 🎙 Podcast: Dr. Todd Talks — available wherever you listen 🌐 Explore my parenting course Connection and Credibility and free resources: www.DrToddTalks.com 🧠 Sign up for the Connection and Credibility parenting course: https://correctandconnect.com/courses/connection-credibility/ #parenting #familyrelationships #estrangement #reconnection #healing #parentchildrelationship #DrToddTalks Want more than just tips? My parenting course, Connection & Credibility, helps you build a strong bond with your kids while setting healthy boundaries that actually work. Explore the course: https://correctandconnect.com/courses/connection-credibility/ For more parenting insights, visit my website: https://www.drtoddtalks.com Find me on YouTube at: https://youtube.com/@drtoddtalks Follow on Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtoddtalks
