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This podcast provides life coaching with power, purpose, and practical tools for a confident, healthy, and happy life.

    #85: A Mindset to Take Action

    #85: A Mindset to Take Action

    Allison Maslan, an entrepreneur and author, said, “Once you make a decision, take action that moment. Write the letter, make the call, send the email. Show up in a bigger way than you ever have before, but don't wait for the planets to align. Take action now, and by next week, your anxiety will start to dissipate because you are going for it. I am always so impressed by persistent people, whether they are getting the results they want or not. No matter what, if they keep pushing forward, the big break they are waiting for is just one step away. Why would you ever want to miss that opportunity?”



    I’ve thought a lot about that, and as a spiritual person looking to feel and notice more personal revelation every day, this is the pivotal decision: Once you make a decision, take action immediately.



    When Lot’s family left, and his wife looked back toward their former home, it is suggested that she did it because she paused. She hesitated on the path forward toward her future, wondering if it was really the right decision. She longed for the past, looking back on and valuing what she left behind. The idea that she was turned into a pillar of salt is really about the fact that when we stall on our journey and question the decisions we have made, after knowing they are the right thing for us, it makes us completely immobile. Now, we hesitate between two decisions. Should we move forward on the path we realized was absolutely right for us? Or, should we turn back? Take the action that felt inspired and guided, or ruminate on our lack—all that we have lost, and what we gave up to begin the new direction?



    The kinds of actions we need to take immediately after deciding are things like writing a letter, making a phone call, or sending an e-mail. Those might seem like small things that are fairly inconsequential, especially when compared to Lot’s family leaving their homeland never to return. But it is in the small and simple things we do every day that our entire lives, nature, and character are forged into patterns that can lead to our success and happiness. Those small things, like taking each little step without looking back, make all the difference.



    When you take action now, next week, your anxiety will be smaller. She is acknowledging the idea clearly asserted in the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway, by Susan Jeffers, which plainly tells us that we will ALL feel fear when we are stretching, growing, and moving in new directions. The only way out of the fear is through it—to do the very thing that we believe drives fear and anxiety. To avoid the action only increases the fear and whittles away at our self-confidence, replacing it with self-doubt and “should” statements we tell ourselves, statements that erode any drive to overcome those feelings and take the action. Allison knows, as anyone living large does, that acting quickly on your decisions keeps those fears and doubts small and actually makes the action much easier to take.



    I am impressed by persistent people. They won’t always have a big impact or get the outcomes they are working toward. But by being persistent, they are much more likely to eventually make progress and find the way forward, little by little. After all, that is the very nature of persistence. The opportunity is certainly NEVER going to come if there isn’t any effort. But, by persisting in taking small efforts forward, or backward if that happens along the way, at least some kind of progress is more likely to happen. In some ways that effort can be a complete gamble. But, the alternative is just failure from the outset by doing no...

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    #84: Redefine Your Vision of Success

    #84: Redefine Your Vision of Success

    If you're focused on things that are outside your control, it may be time to redefine your vision of success. The end-goal is important, yes, but the journey is where the real work happens. For this reason, today we focus on the journey of success, instead of the outcome.



    If now is a great time for you to work with a coach, let me know!



    New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

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    #83: How to Let Go of a Challenging Situation

    #83: How to Let Go of a Challenging Situation

    In today’s podcast we talk about mindset, and specifically how to leave the past behind, let go of a challenging situation, and look forward to create new possibilities. When stuck in a situation that doesn't go as planned this kind of freedom is just what we're looking for.



    Have you ever tried to let something go, but found it just kept coming to your mind?



    In the story I tell as an example today, that is exactly what happens. When something stressful won’t leave your mind, and you are trying to move on, it takes time and energy away from what we need to do in other areas of life and work.



    To change the discussion, we use a tool with the circle of control, circle of influence, and circle of concern. This tool can help you identify what you can and cannot change, and find ways to focus in the areas where your time and energy can have an impact.



    Some areas we typically think we can control, but over which we have very little influence, are:



    * What others say

    * Other people’s opinions of us

    * Whether other people agree with us

    * Whether others like or dislike us

    * Whether people are happy with us or pleased by us



    And yet we can never control what other people say, think, or do.



    Join me in this episode to explore the idea of letting go of tough situations, and find a new way to use the circle of control tool as well.



    New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.

    • 12 min
    #82: 10 Common Assumptions about Life that Don’t Work and 3 That Help

    #82: 10 Common Assumptions about Life that Don’t Work and 3 That Help

    In today's podcast, I'm sharing ten common assumptions about life that don't work and three that help you. Assumptions are things we think or believe, but which we take for granted. We might have gained  these ideas early  in life or because of a single high-impact experience. Regardless of how we began thinking this way, these ten assumptions hurt our healthy mindset. Listen to the podcast for details....







    While there are many assumptions that don't really work for healthy thinking, here are three that do:



    * Give others the benefit of the doubt.

    * It’s not personal. In other words, it’s not about you.

    * Small and simple habits bring big results over time.



    It can be difficult to change even one small habit, especially an automatic thought we've believed over time. But letting go of assumptions about life that don't help us is a great way to change things in the future. And adopting a few new assumptions that open possibilities can serve us even better! If now is a great time for you to work with a coach to take stock of your mindset and try on some new habits, let me know!



    New Day, performed by Danny Gokey, (P) 2021 Danny Gokey, under exclusive license to Capitol Christian Music Group, Inc., was written by Ethan Hulse, Coby Wedgeworth, and Danny Gokey. Copyright © 2019 Better Than I Found It (BMI) (adm. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) All rights reserved. Used by permission; and EGH Music Publishing (BMI) / Be Essential Songs (BMI) / Colby Wedgeworth Music (ASCAP) / Fair Trade Music Publishing (ASCAP) / (admin at EssentialMusicPublishing.com). All rights reserved. Used by permission.



     

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