29 episodes

Join us in Doing it Best with Eldercare Success where we explore ways to relieve the stress, exhaustion and overwhelm that we all face in caring for an aging parent, frail spouse, or partner. Fear, frustration, emotional and financial strain do not have to be your MO! In this show we dive into unraveling the tricks, traps and gotchas that create more questions than answers while caring for those we love.
Join Nancy May, and her guests as she helps relieve the pressures and delivers solid ways to find more joy and freedom as we care for those with those we love. Here you’ll learn how to find the ground under your feet again. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead.
keeping our feet on solid ground. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead.

Eldercare Success Nancy May, CareManity, LLC

    • Health & Fitness
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Join us in Doing it Best with Eldercare Success where we explore ways to relieve the stress, exhaustion and overwhelm that we all face in caring for an aging parent, frail spouse, or partner. Fear, frustration, emotional and financial strain do not have to be your MO! In this show we dive into unraveling the tricks, traps and gotchas that create more questions than answers while caring for those we love.
Join Nancy May, and her guests as she helps relieve the pressures and delivers solid ways to find more joy and freedom as we care for those with those we love. Here you’ll learn how to find the ground under your feet again. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead.
keeping our feet on solid ground. Hang tight there’s a better road ahead.

    Dad Please Stop Driving!

    Dad Please Stop Driving!

    This episode is about how to get your parents, or a frail spouse, to give up driving.
    This is a sticky subject for many families and such conversations often erupt in anger. Trust between you and your parents can wind up strained and your own frustrations and doubts pushed to the limits.
    Some families resort to lies, big and little ones, to get their parents to stop driving. However, once they discern that you’re lying, or trying to, that bond of trust between you all may never recover. As a consequence, your caregiving days will grow more difficult.
    If they’ve agreed to give up driving, and you find you need to dispose of that car. Finding someone to “take it off your hands” may not be easy, especially if it’s seen lots of wear. If it turns out it’s not worth much, consider donating it to a local vocational school where students can practice repairs. Or donate it to a charitable organization like https://www.kars4kids.org/ (Kars4Kids), Vhttps://vietnamveteranscardonation.org/ (eterans Car Donation), https://www.wheelsforwishes.org/ (Make A Wish), or https://www.habitat.org/support/donate-your-car?c1=GAW_SE_NWandsource=USA_BRNDandcr2=search__-__usa__-__brandandkw=habitat_for_humanity_car_donation_exmandcr5=445474173588andcr7=candgclid=Cj0KCQjwuuKXBhCRARIsAC-gM0iUCRyzwG2zFY0j0SDIV537Rq74GFh5EeU872bqebNr4X186BmnxjgaAqepEALw_wcB (Habitat for Humanity - Car Donation). If the car still has some value, contact https://www.webuyanycarusa.com/?utm_source=uk_siteandutm_medium=auto-redirectandutm_campaign=us-geo (We Buy Any Car). This organization will buy used vehicles for anything from $100 to $100,000! If the registered owner of the car has already passed, you can try asking the family’s estate attorney to help transfer ownership. However, this may be through probate if you’re not a beneficiary.
    Finally, if you’re just starting down this road (pun intended) a little empathy will serve you well in moving the conversation in a positive direction.
    Listen in for more details on how to get things done.
    Host: Nancy May, Author of https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (How to Survive) https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After! ) is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a https://www.howtosurvive911.com/ (free, fillable File-of-Life) go to https://howtosurvive911.com/ (www.howtosurvive911.com). Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/ElderCareSuccess/ (Eldercare Success).
    Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be taken as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.
    CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.

    • 10 min
    Recognizing the 12 Steps of Caregiver Burnout

    Recognizing the 12 Steps of Caregiver Burnout

    How do you know if you’re heading into a Burnout?
    Some professionals say there are three stages leading to burnout. Here, you’ll learn there are really 12 stages. Each shows we’ve sunk a little deeper toward the bottom. Surprisingly, knowing whether you’ve reached your limit might not be obvious. Learn how to identify if you’re facing burnout and when it’s too late to get out without needing medical help.
    As caregivers we’re often exhausted at the end of a day: the emotional and physical strain and stress take their toll, bit by bit. Yet, sometimes we think that how we’re feeling is just part of the job. We think it will eventually ease up, or go away when our charge passes or goes into a care facility.
    If you’re caring for someone outside the home, the strain can be worse. If your employer doesn’t understand what it’s like to be a caregiver for someone, they might not understand how this could impact your work performance -- which it often does. It’s the rare individual who can burn the candle at both ends and still remain physically and mentally strong.
    In this episode of Summer Shorts, Eldercare Success style we also dive into how to get the support you need at work from your employer and your peers.
    Here's an article that is of value to any caregiver, but especially if you're employed outside the home.
    https://makeadifference.media/mental/the-pandemics-forgotten-heroes-how-the-public-sector-can-better-support-key-workers-wellbeing/ (How the public sector can better support key workers' wellbeing. )

    Guest:https://www.humanityworksconsultancy.com/diversity-equity-inclusion ( Sharon Aneja )is a Positive Psychology coach, wellbeing consultant, and founder of https://www.humanityworksconsultancy.com/ (Humanity Works Consultancy.) She helps organizations put out the flames of burnout through her signature energizer program. She also founded Recharge@Work and is a UN Women UK Delegate for the Commission on the Status of Women. Sharon and her Humanity Works team’s focus is to help you maximize your organization’s people-first approach through their Positive Psychology coaching, training, and consultancy services.
    Host: Nancy May, Author of https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (How to Survive) https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After! ) is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to https://howtosurvive911.com/ (www.howtosurvive911.com). Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/ElderCareSuccess/ (Eldercare Success).
    Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be taken as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial advisors as each person’s situation is different. (c) Copyright 2022 CareManity, LLC all rights reserved.
    CareManity is a trademark of CareManity, LLC.

    • 14 min
    How to Have Wish Planning Conversations

    How to Have Wish Planning Conversations

    “Final Wishes” conversations don’t always have to be difficult. Some people believe such discussions create “bad mojo” or push the inevitable forward. However, they can be somewhat fun, especially if turned into a travel-type game.
    In this episode of Summer Shorts, I dive into some easy ways for you and your loved ones to lay things out for when that time comes. Sharing your wishes, and outside legal documents, can make caregiving a bit easier, when you know what, how, and when to make such difficult decisions. It moves us, caregivers, away from later heartaches when that time comes, while allowing for more time to celebrate life, now.
    It’s important not to wait to have these conversations because attorneys can’t legally accept someone’s signature on a document when they’re later determined not to be of sound mind and body. Besides, one can learn so much more about family history, quirky growing-up stories, traditions, and special treasures you never knew about, while memories are fresher. It’s good to understand who gets grandma’s keepsakes or grandpa’s favorite watch, or the family photos and books. These small bequests often mean more to some than most bigger things.
    Discussions should be had, and decisions made on when to enter into Hospice, being kept on life support, getting CPR and intubated, etc. They are best known before things happen and there’s no time. These things will eat at your heart, as a caregiver, if you don’t know or make the wrong call.
    Here are some books/tools to get you started.
    Book: https://www.amazon.com/Being-Mortal-Medicine-What-Matters-Book/dp/B00JCW0BCY/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=being+mortal+bookandqid=1659303376andsr=8-1 (Being Mortal). I absolutely love this book, by a surgeon, who has seen many families suffer by not knowing what their family member’s last wishes. He gently guides the thought process in how to make your wishes known with more dignity. Most doctors do not know how to have these types of conversations with their own families.
    Workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Final-Wishes-Documents-Instructions-Household/dp/1797048589/ref=sr_1_2?crid=15VTIKH2XUZ3Candkeywords=wish+documentsandqid=1659302733andsprefix=wish+documents%2Caps%2C104andsr=8-2%20-%20customerReviews (Final Wishes: Estate Planning Documents.) A book that won’t help with personal wishes, yet it does provide a good workbook-style format for what documents are needed and where all accounts are located.
    Tool/Resource: Consider helping someone write a letter to those they love, to be opened once they’ve passed. This might be a little scary for the person writing the letter, and for those who’ll wind up opening it. Consider what might be included for you, the caregiver, and others. https://www.thebalance.com/how-to-make-your-funeral-wishes-known-to-your-loved-ones-3505376 (How To Make Your Funeral Wishes Known To Your Loved Ones. )

    Host: Nancy May, Author of https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (How to Survive) https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After! ) is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to https://howtosurvive911.com/ (www.howtosurvive911.com). Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/ElderCareSuccess/ (Eldercare Success).
    Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer CareManity, LLC. The information discussed should not be taken as medical, legal, or financial advice. Please seek the advice of your own personal medical, legal or financial...

    • 9 min
    Do Dementia Patients See White?

    Do Dementia Patients See White?

    Do people with dementia see the color white?
    The other day a professional caregiver friend of mine told me that those with dementia have difficulty with the color white. Although skeptical, this statement piqued my interest. However, with some research, I found out more about this, and although there’s some truth there, it isn’t exactly correct.
    Over time changes occur in the brain of those afflicted with dementia. Some become more challenged than others in detecting shapes of the same hue. In this episode, we dive into this a bit more, including how cognitive impairments impacted the world-famous artist, William de Kooning, as well as my good friend, and renowned kinetic sculptor Walter Einsel. After sustaining some stroke-involved brain damage, Walter used the book Drawing from the Right Side of the Brain to retrain his hands and mind to draw and work again.
    Art can also be a wonderful tool for our loved ones as they grow frailer. We’ll share more tips on how art can be very therapeutic, and the joy of gaining special keepsakes that your loved ones can create.
    Here are some tools and resources to help spark creativity:
    Michael’s Art Supply Store will price match any other advertised price. If you’re in the store and know of a price that’s lower elsewhere, show them the advertisement and you’ll get the discount. Also, if you sign up for their free membership, you’ll get weekly updates on coupons and other price discounts.
    https://www.michaels.com/10-pack-8in-by-10in-super-value-canvas-by-artist-loft-necessities/10131568.html (10 Pack of 8”x 10” stretched frame canvas )
    https://www.michaels.com/super-value-25pc-brush-set-by-artists-loft-necessities/10503498.html (Super value 25-piece artist brush set )
    https://www.michaels.com/36-color-acrylic-paint-valuepk-by-artists-loft-necessities/10622008.html (36 colors acrylic paint set) (only $14.99)
    https://www.michaels.com/easel-art-box-by-artists-loft/10504495.html (Tabletop art box easel) $29.99 special sale price

    So that you and your new artists feel the part: a French (artist’s) beret. I bought several of these for mom in different colors. She loved them and they stirred up memories of the beige one she wore when we were growing up on Long Island.
    https://www.amazon.com/Chapeau-Tribe-Classic-Stretchable-French/dp/B07TW8NCX8/ref=asc_df_B07TW8NCX8/?tag=hyprod-20andlinkCode=df0andhvadid=406271256156andhvpos=andhvnetw=gandhvrand=16494284397483545998andhvpone=andhvptwo=andhvqmt=andhvdev=candhvdvcmdl=andhvlocint=andhvlocphy=9012365andhvtargid=pla-914467044197andpsc=1andtag=andref=andadgrpid=89223259320andhvpone=andhvptwo=andhvadid=406271256156andhvpos=andhvnetw=gandhvrand=16494284397483545998andhvqmt=andhvdev=candhvdvcmdl=andhvlocint=andhvlocphy=9012365andhvtargid=pla-914467044197 (French Berets in different colors). A classic for sure!

    If paints are too much for you, as a caregiver to manage, consider adult coloring books. Here are a few links to some fun, beautiful options, and coloring pens.
    https://www.amazon.com/Relaxing-Flowers-Coloring-Patterns-Decorations/dp/B08NS7PGY1/ref=sr_1_9?crid=3CEETORE5AAHZandkeywords=adult+coloring+bookandqid=1658693764andsprefix=adult+col%2Caps%2C114andsr=8-9 (Relaxing flower design coloring book)
    https://www.amazon.com/Simple-Coloring-Book-Seniors-Alzheimers/dp/B08QFMFKWW/ref=sr_1_14?crid=ZZY3KQ84LBN6andkeywords=adult+coloring+book+for+elderlyandqid=1658693890andsprefix=adult+coloring+book+for+elder%2Caps%2C122andsr=8-14 (Large print coloring books for those with poor eyesight)
    https://www.amazon.com/100-Animals-Coloring-Elephants-Horses/dp/1098578805?ref_=ast_sto_dp (Animal coloring books)

    Coloring pens. Many are small in width and difficult for anyone with neuropathy or...

    • 11 min
    Dementia Road Trips & Tips

    Dementia Road Trips & Tips

    Have you ever worried about taking a road trip with a loved one suffering from dementia? If so, this show is for you!
    You don’t have to restrict outings with them just to doctor visits. Always staying in can be tough on you and even more so for those you’re caring for.
    Trust me on this one!
    This episode’s tips come from one of our listeners: Polly. She shares her stories about how she takes her husband, who’s suffering from Leukodystrophy (a rare form of dementia) on special road trips. Although he’s lost some basic functions, he still seems to understand what’s going on around him.
    Listen in and learn what Polly’s been doing to help her husband, and herself, through both good and tough days. You’ll also hear my story about how my own dad and I used to take long day trips together and get lost together in the Florida swamps.
    In the meantime, here are some items that may make things easier and safer while you enjoy your own trips:
    https://www.amazon.com/Valorcielo-Portable-Vehicle-Support-Supports/dp/B08PRWY7VN/ref=asc_df_B08PRWY7VN/?tag=hyprod-20andlinkCode=df0andhvadid=563758539284andhvpos=andhvnetw=gandhvrand=12497531477390869918andhvpone=andhvptwo=andhvqmt=andhvdev=candhvdvcmdl=andhvlocint=andhvlocphy=9012365andhvtargid=pla-1638854547827andth=1 (Auto Door Assist Handle Grips): These are easy to use on any car.
    https://www.amazon.com/ZipSeven-Automotive-Assistance-Handicapped-Accessories/dp/B08FZGNSNG/ref=sr_1_14?gclid=CjwKCAjwoMSWBhAdEiwAVJ2ndip3WYzF22JFlTTJjUm6RaZ-69vmKM19K8w_rizwFE-VSiblG84kexoCoKUQAvD_BwEandhvadid=177803384617andhvdev=candhvlocphy=9012365andhvnetw=gandhvqmt=eandhvrand=1432392343176149193andhvtargid=kwd-40604400485andhydadcr=21884_9712114andkeywords=car+accessories+for+elderlyandqid=1657908263andsr=8-14 (Car Grab Handles (over door)): A bit less stable but they are great for extra stability when you need someone to twist and turn before sitting.
    Lift Support Handle: Wow, these are great when your passenger has some strength in their grip and simply needs a little extra pull to get up.
    https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07GC48KZ3/ref=sspa_dk_detail_6?psc=1andpd_rd_i=B07GC48KZ3andpd_rd_w=w4Me5andcontent-id=amzn1.sym.3481f441-61ac-4028-9c1a-7f9ce8ec50c5andpf_rd_p=3481f441-61ac-4028-9c1a-7f9ce8ec50c5andpf_rd_r=3FSJXWQCNSX8V2EJ3H8Candpd_rd_wg=F6mfiandpd_rd_r=5d787348-4c0a-45e4-aca3-61f43d7c0515ands=hpcandspLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyV0RCSkwyUjdEU1c4JmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwMjg0OTA1MTkxRDZFQ0RTWU1BOSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMzE3MzkxNUFFTkFVQUZOWkJKJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfZGV0YWlsX3RoZW1hdGljJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ== (Transfer Support Sling): Simply slip this behind the back of your passenger and give a tug. Viola, they're standing! Make sure they place their hands on your shoulders for added support.
    Adjustable side walker (for those who are more mobile): This is a side walker vs. one that's positioned in front of a person. It gives just enough support for added stability and more than a walking cane. Here's a better video on how this item works.

    Host: Nancy May, Author https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (How to Survive) https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Medical-Emergencies-Step-Step/dp/1734841605 (911 Medical Emergencies, Step-by-Step Before, During, After! ) is an acknowledged expert in managing the path of step-by-step caring for aging parents, even from over 1200 miles away. For a free, fillable File-of-Life go to https://howtosurvive911.com/ (www.howtosurvive911.com). Nancy is also the Co-Founder of CareManity LLC, and the private FaceBook group, https://www.facebook.com/groups/ElderCareSuccess/ (Eldercare Success).
    Disclaimer: The views, perspectives, and opinions expressed in this show are those of the show guests and not directly those of the companies they serve or that of the host or the producer...

    • 6 min
    Protein Drinks, Recipes & Solutions - Yummy!

    Protein Drinks, Recipes & Solutions - Yummy!

    Protein Drinks. Here's how to make your own, that taste better, and costs less!
    In this episode, we discuss how to make a home blended protein drink that tastes better and costs less to make than those big brand-name protein meal replacement drinks. Its protein content is also higher and there’s less processed sugar (unless you add another sugar-based ingredient).
    The cool thing with this is that you should enjoy the recipe too. I certainly did! You can substitute any extra ingredient or mix up the flavors so that you or those you care for don’t get bored. Here’s my example Using a large counter blender or bullet brand-type blender:
    Use the https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Bullet-Blender-Small-Silver/dp/B012T634SM/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=bullet+blenderandqid=1657210469andsr=8-4 (blender cup) or container to mix the following ingredients.
    Add a few chunks of your favorite store-bought or DIY frozen fruit. I like mango, strawberries, blueberries, and pineapple.
    Next, some water, or milk, cashew milk, or almond milk to cover the fruit.
    Add one scoop of your favorite protein powder. I mention two of these in this episode:

    https://www.amazon.com/Dymatize-Hydrolyzed-Absorbing-Digesting-Servings/dp/B099J2SWXV/?_encoding=UTF8andpd_rd_w=UdLKyandcontent-id=amzn1.sym.bbb6bbd8-d236-47cb-b42f-734cb0cacc1fandpf_rd_p=bbb6bbd8-d236-47cb-b42f-734cb0cacc1fandpf_rd_r=A02X5EB8MY90JM1ZRQSEandpd_rd_wg=Rn8QQandpd_rd_r=0310c83e-6fe8-4593-a6fa-7735ea19fcb5andref_=pd_gw_ci_mcx_mi (Dymatize Protein Powder) (25g protein, 1g sugar), available in vanilla, chocolate, or Dunkin Mocha Latte flavors
    https://www.amazon.com/Vital-Proteins-Collagen-Unflavored-Supplement/dp/B08HL3RXXZ/ref=sr_1_6?crid=1OSOO1EC26RHRandkeywords=vital+proteins+collagen+peptides+powderandqid=1657209992ands=hpcandsprefix=vital+protein%2Chpc%2C98andsr=1-6 (Voita Proteins Powder) (18 g protein, 0 sugar). This protein powder has no flavor so you can make up your own as you create your own recipes.
    https://www.amazon.com/Orgain-Organic-Protein-Powder-Vanilla/dp/B00J074W7Q/ref=sr_1_6?crid=1R1F7ZPUSNSNXandkeywords=protein+powderandqid=1657210130ands=hpcandsprefix=protein+po%2Chpc%2C99andsr=1-6 (Organic Protein Powder) (21g plant protein, 0g sugar). This one comes in vanilla, iced coffee, strawberries and cream, and unsweetened/natural flavors.

    4. You can also add your own concoction of flavors including:
    Cinnamon – a dash or two based on your taste
    Coffee from your leftover morning coffee pot (store leftover coffee in the refrigerator, too)
    Cocoa powder – no sugar
    Vanilla extract, or other extract flavors you might like
    Yogurt – ideally low fat/low sugar
    Ice cream – for a dessert treat
    Or other creative flavorings and foods including veggies!

    5. Add into the blender cup, 2 -3 ice cubes, depending on the consistency you want and enjoy the most.
    If using a https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Bullet-Blender-Small-Silver/dp/B012T634SM/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=bullet+blenderandqid=1657210469andsr=8-4 (Bullet Blender )and frozen fruit, I don’t add any ice cubes as the blended frozen fruit makes the drink rich and smooth on its own.
    6. Close the lid tight and blend all ingredients until smooth and creamy. You may want to add more liquid if your blended protein drink is too thick. Or use a spoon and enjoy like a thick shake.
    Experiment with your own ingredient ideas. Get creative and add veggies for a more savory drink. Or add ice cream with a green nutritious veggie. Think ice cream-flavored garden peppers.
    Extra note: If your loved one is taking prescription medications, please check with your doctor or healthcare provider to make sure that any type of protein drink is safe and will not interact with their medications. A blended drink, made with proper nutrition in mind, will help those who have...

    • 7 min

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