Parenting Understood

Ep. 163- The power of validation in parenting: A conversation with Dr. Raphael

In this episode of Parenting Understood, we are joined by Dr. Debbie Raphael, a child and adult psychiatrist, to discuss how her personal experiences as a parent intertwine with her professional insights. Dr. Raphael shares how becoming a mother during her child psychiatry fellowship deepened her understanding of validation, attunement, and mentalization—skills that foster healthy emotional development in children. She explains how parents' ability to validate their child's feelings builds self-trust and resilience from early childhood through adolescence. The conversation also explores the importance of community support, self-care, and maintaining balance between empathy and boundaries. Dr. Raphael introduces her forthcoming book, which integrates clinical research and lived experience to guide parents in creating positive childhood experiences that buffer against stress and adversity. We reflect on how nurturing connection—both within families and communities—supports mental health across generations.