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Navigating manhood in the 21st century can be confusing and hard. ‘Harden up and be tough’ no longer cuts it, nor does ‘open up and be emotional’. Each week, join Mike, a global men’s coach, as he and his guests hit you with honest and loving straight talk designed to support everyday men getting more from the everyday.

Everyday Legends Mike Campbell

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Navigating manhood in the 21st century can be confusing and hard. ‘Harden up and be tough’ no longer cuts it, nor does ‘open up and be emotional’. Each week, join Mike, a global men’s coach, as he and his guests hit you with honest and loving straight talk designed to support everyday men getting more from the everyday.

    042 - Leading from the heart with Ardie Savea

    042 - Leading from the heart with Ardie Savea

    For those unfamiliar with New Zealand - we are a small country in the arse end of the world, as we tend to call it.
    We have some sheep. Probably not as many as you might think.
    It’s very green. Quite beautiful, really.
    We can claim to Middle Earth, but that’s really a minority of the population.
    We currently love shutting ourselves off from the rest of the world (much to this author’s frustration - Hi Cindy).
    And we love the All Blacks.
     
    While there certainly is a wide range of humans in this country, the cliche is that most boys grow up idolising and dreaming of being All Black.
     
    Hi - I’m Mike, I’m one of those dudes. I played rugby intensely and competitively most of my life, travelled the world with it, met some wonderful mates, had some remarkable times, played some epic and ‘story of a lifetime’ games.
    But I never made it to those heights. I’ve told some of my story plenty of times, some of that occasionally touches on a particular broken leg and a bunch of stories about not having ‘it’ anymore and subsequently hiding away and not pushing myself.
     
    So, yeah - the All Black dream dropped away.
     
    Yet, being a fan did not.
    And the older I get, the more mature I get, the more I see the men in amongst those men.
     
    And let's be clear, in New Zealand for the longest time the All Blacks have held this kind of awed position, a revered model of manhood; strong, stoic, unemotional, humble, and ever-capable man’s man.
    Then times changed. A new century, a new decade, and men have more scope to explore a wider breadth of manhood.
     
    So to, it would turn out, do All Blacks.
    Enter today’s brilliant, inspiring, humble, strong, caring, powerful and poignant guest - current All Black sometimes caption, full-time legend Ardie Savea.
     
    In this Episode: Yeah, f*****g Ardie Savea is on the show.
    This man is someone - I think - single-handedly changing aspects of the game of rugby and how to be a warrior on the field, a leader of men and others of it, with heart, with integrity, and with a consistent example of exploring his depths and inviting others to theirs.
    Anf that, really, is what we explore in this episode.
    Ardie and I wander through some of his stories, going into his own journey of healing - still - some of the tougher shit from his past, knowing that the “stuff he was going to take to his grave” is exactly what was holding back the deepest and riches connections in his life, including that with his wife.
    We explore some of what goes on inside the All Blacks culture, how they approach high performance and high-stress situations, and how they can learn to translate that to real life and challenging relationships, but more so we explore Ardie Savea the man.
    Which, to be clear, in my opinion, is a man who encapsulates what I term ‘the everyday legend’ - this modern representation of ‘Zeus Energy’.
    So yeah, I flatter him with that a touch, but then, if you appreciate a dude, let him know, bro.
     
    I loved this chat for the little boy in me getting to yarn with an All Black legend and for the legend sat across from me who chose to share some of the shit most men never do, let alone All Black stars very much in the public eye.
     
    I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. 
    As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.
    Ardie’s Bio:  At ASAV we want to inspire youth and their families to embrace uniqueness. To empower people to be truly and authentically happy.
    It’s simple. Happy humans mean better people. Better people build better communities. Better communities for us, for our children and their children to come.
    We might be the new now. But our dream is that every generation after us uses their “them” and adds to our foundation. Everyone can contribute something no

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    041 - How to Find Purpose

    041 - How to Find Purpose

    There is one thing that comes up more than most when it comes to working with men; PURPOSE.
    Sure, many guys want to 'get confidence' and some want to simply get out of the frustrating place they are now, stop the sabotage and spending a vast majority of their time caught in their head.
    But even for those guys, at some point, the work turns to 'finding purpose', Which, when you talk to them - as I do all the time - the idea we have gleaned from the world of personal development, self-help, and 'success' is that a man must find his 'One True Purpose' as if there is something waiting for all of us, something we were born to 'uncover' which will then make ou lives not only complete, but make our lives.
    We learn to hang the entire of our happiness (outside of that which we have possibly lumped on our romantic partners) onto this idea that 'once I find my purpose I'll be happy and everything in my life will make sense and be ultra meaningful'.
    If you can't tell yet from my approach here, I think this is a load of bollocks that tends to send most men into a frenzy of ludicrously high expectations they can't meet - can never find this elusive 'one purpose' - and so go into the mode of self-beat-up, a consistent mode of 'shoulds' ('I should be living my purpose') and ultimately being kind of frozen in inaction until this one big purpose hits us over the head somehow.
    Lies and misnomers.
    This is something we deal with a lot in my coaching and so I have decided to do a solo episode on it as well as release a punchy yet powerful teaching mini-course on actually finding purpose.
     
    In this episode I bring you a take on the above as we explore why this happens and how it messes with our lives.
    I'll take you through a couple of simple examples of purpose as we explore the vital difference between 'finding your purpose' and 'living with purpose. This will include one seemingly insignificant aspect of all of our everyday lives in which you'll soon be able to not only see the purpose in it, but use the explanation to apply to many things in your everyday life.
    this little trick will help you on the road to doing away with the ideas of discipline and motivation - things of the past when you truly understand purpose.
    One of the reasons I decided to put this episode together was because we have decided to package up and release a live teaching from inside my coaching program the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY (ELA) in which I take the guys through this critical difference and get them to go through an example that completely squashes this idea of finding your one true purpose and instead instantly gets you on the path to living with purpose.
    One of the ... purposes of this mini-course and the incredibly affordable investment of just $47 (AUD) is so you have the appropriate buy-in to take on board the lessons in it and then actually apply it with purpose into your life. Without that buy-in, purchasing a mini-course like this is just masturbation.
    This teaching also has another purpose of being an exclusive sneak behind the curtain of what we do in the coaching work with me in ELA.
    You can get access to the course here - it is one 45 minute teaching with some supporting emails and content.
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    040 - Getting to Zero Conflict with Jayson Gaddis

    040 - Getting to Zero Conflict with Jayson Gaddis

    Name one thing people avoid probably more than most other things.
    The plague - definitely. Not really Covid - although, we have become a world of attempting to avoid that at all other costs. I mean, it is the new plague, really. 
    I digress.
    I suppose you could say walking into traffic. Perhaps putting metal in the microwave. Things like these do have undesirable consequences, no doubt. But what I’m talking about is more mundane yet wholly impactful on our lives.
    Conflict.
    Tell me you’ve never avoided conflict and I’ll tell you you’re lying.
    Go on, tell me… ahhh.
    Okay yeah, so conflict is something we simply do not learn how to manage, navigate, and handle.
    Yet, it’s one of the more common elements of being a human, especially a human who is in relationships with other humans.
    We avoid it. We butcher it. We create it unnecessarily. We get stuck in our heads about it and create conflict there instead of just having conversations with people.
    All in all, it’s something we could do with some more education on.
    Luckily for you, me and everyone else - there are people skilled in and specifically working on helping us understand and navigate conflict with ease.
    Enter Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, and now the author of the BRAND NEW book (like right now it’s being released - get it here first).
    His book is called ‘Getting to Zero - how to work through conflict in your high-stakes relationships’ - funnily enough the name of this episode too.
     
    In this Episode: Having Jayson on the show has been a desire of mine for a while, and the timing of his book release was too good a chance to pass up.
    You can probably imagine that we discuss conflict in this episode, and we do. However, we also dive into Jayson’s own story of one relationship ending after another frustrating relationship ending that sparked the curiosity in him to explore why that was happening and uncovering how his way of relating was central to that.
    Jayson’s own lessons can teach us a lot and we dive into that. While we also cover aspects of conflict and a wonderful topic I just loved - choosing to be the relational leader.
    I personally learnt a bunch from this conversation and am looking forward to reading the book to explore conflict management strategies for myself and my relationships. After all, if we don’t learn this, we are choosing to continue patterns we learnt along the way to this point in our lives and relationships and choosing to suffer the same consequences.
     
    I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. 
    As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.
     
    Get Jayson’s Book here right now.
     
    Jayson’s Bio:  Jayson Gaddis is an author, relationship expert, and coach who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school – “How to do Relationships.” Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship trainings and trains coaches from all over the world on how to be relationship coaches. 
    Jayson has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels. He’s the host of The Relationship School Podcast with over 4 million downloads (and over 330 episodes). He is also the visionary behind The Relationship School®. His book Getting to Zero will be out in fall of 2021.
     
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    • 1 hr 3 min
    039 - How to be a great partner with Mark Groves

    039 - How to be a great partner with Mark Groves

    Welcome back to the show a good friend of mine and the first guest to appear twice - Mark Groves.
    For those who don’t know Mark, he is a human connection specialist who delivers content, courses, and no BS advice on relationships.
    Right now I’m talking a lot about relationships and being a - *cough* great partner - so the first person on my list to have a conversation about this stuff for you guys is Mark.
    So, I gave him a shout, and here we are - a conversation that wanders through many aspects of being a great partner.
     
    In this Episode: Mark and I explore some of the things that prevent us from being great partners.
    We then venture into some of his own story - and what happened to him after a full-on breakup. Well, what he chose to do - put his heart behind the walls of a seemingly safe cage - until he got stumped and called to total honesty by the question “When was the last time you fully let someone love you?”
    I mean, that one will cut through - once you get beyond the easy to answer initially “Always” and look at what really lies beneath.
    We both share stories of broken engagements and hints at abandoning our own values and integrity under the misguided thinking of “winning them over and maintaining harmony in the relationship”.
    We then venture into attachment, and why someone might not reciprocate when we say what we want. From here to look at secure attachment, and fundamentally one of the main aspects of being a great partner - being secure in yourself.
    As always, I loved this chat with Mark I think there are wonderful gems in here for you, as there always is for me in our conversations.
    I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. 
    If you’re ready to take the plunge and BECOME A GREAT PARTNER yourself, then grab your spot in the Better Partner Project here now while they’re available for a limited time.
    As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.
     
    Where you can find Mark and the pieces we discussed: Create The Love website Create The Love Instagram Mark’s site Mine’d in the App Store  
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    • 1 hr 9 min
    038 - How to Not Suck at Commitment

    038 - How to Not Suck at Commitment

    I grew up hearing many different things that were presented to me as ‘fact’.
    The thing about growing up is that what we witness, by in large, is what we see as truth in the world until we somehow learn differently.
    I thought professional wrestling was real for a good while until I had the dream shattered.
    Many of these truths we take on and form part of our lens of the world, and in other ways often part of our identity.
    One of those ideas and stories perpetuated around me, especially in my twenties was this doozie - “Men are afraid of commitment”.
    That’s just truth, isn’t it?
    Well, no. it’s not. But it’s the kind of little mistruth that infiltrates the minds of men and people who deal with and relate with men that almost give it permission to fulfil as a prophecy.
    And so I, like many men before and after me, used this as a bit of a crutch to lean my lack of - and fear of - commitment onto.
    Until I shattered it into the total and utter bollocks that it is.
    Enter - this episode.
     
    In this Episode: It’s true that commitment is a big deal for men. So much so that it harks back to our instinctual and evolutionary ancestry.
    This and how it now plays out for us in terms of both consequences and opportunities is what I cover in today’s solo episode.
    In this, I share a story about me sleeping on the couch one night after being delivered some s****y news by my wife - and I explain why I did that and how it links back to commitment.
    And I share a story of having my heart broken so severely I out it away in a cosy sounding cage of “I’m just not looking for commitment right now”.
    I give you examples and strategies to go away and put into practise in your life.
    Please do so - please implement this information.
    And if you need support with that especially in the area of relationships, then take this limited time opportunity to access the Better Partner Project - my 4 week accelerator course in relationships for men. 

    The Better Partner project is the first 4-step course in relationships for men that combines done-for-you psychology, easy actions and communication tools to help you finally become the partner you’ve always wanted to be (and that she deserves). Without guesswork, confusion or pretending to be someone you’re not. Enrol here, get instant access, start when you want.
     
    I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. 
    As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.
     
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    • 55 min
    037 - She Is Not Your Rehab with Matt Brown

    037 - She Is Not Your Rehab with Matt Brown

    It’s been a belief of mine for a while now that many of the most messed up and avoidable issues we have on a global scale are the result of dysfunctional, disconnected, and discontent men.
    To expand upon that, even more, I think we have a problem with how we portray what a healthy and mature man is, and we lack adequate passages and initiations into true grown-ass mature manhood.
    As a result, we have many men, through no fault of their own, going about life still running some outdated and adolescent psychology. When I say ‘no fault of their own’ I mean we learn what we learn growing up, we model what is modelled to us and so at the point of just going about living how we’ve learnt to live and to make our way in the world we do just that; our best with what we’ve learnt and been given.
    But unfortunately, many of us fall short in being healthy men - which, hopefully, you can start to see, is totally understandable when we haven’t had a healthy idea of wTF that is.
    So - dysfunctional, disconnected, discontent, disenfranchised even - and we have men who are too in their head, or too in their anger, or too in their fists, or too in their sensitivity, we have men who can’t find the middle ground of being a useful, healthy and mature men and member of commnuity.
    This certainly isn’t to shame on men - f**k no - it’s to point out some shit that hasn’t been working for us and direct us to how we can be better, for ourselves and those we influence.
    It’d also not to totally blame men for the world’s wrongs - f**k no - but it is to offer some shit that we get to own and improve upon.
    One of the incredibly obvious ways in which men who haven’t learnt how to deal with the shit from their past and truly grow into healthy manhood cause damage in the world is violence on themselves and violence on others.
    We have shelters for battered women and victims of family violence - all incredibly important and much needed things. But one thing we absolutely need is work and support for men to heal, grow, and become safe, mature, and loving men so we can prevent the violence in the first place.
     
    In this Episode: Enter Matt Brown (and his wife Sarah) - founders of She is not your rehab - a powerful organisation and movement working to change ideas of masculinity through supporting, educating and empowering men to transform the pain of their past instead of transmitting it onto others.
    They have made some huge waves globally, even getting The Rock himself into a campaign of theirs.
    Beyond that, they have done remarkable work both in places like New Zealand’s high-security prisons, throughout the community, and in Matt’s barbershops My Father’s Barber.
    Matt and I discuss his own story from a “volatile childhood” of abuse and violence to healing his own pain to starting to cut hair in order to connect with men, and then the forming of She is not your rehab and the wonderful work they are doing.
    I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. I had a great chat with Matt and am a HUGE supporter of their work. You can find out more about him and the work they’re doing and how to access the book below.
    As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook.



    Where to find Matt and She Is Not Your Rehab: She Is Not Your Rehab Get the Book here Matt on IG SINYR on IG Video campaign that got The Rock involved 


    Matt’s Bio:
    Matt Brown, is a New Zealand born Samoan and an internationally acclaimed barber, hair artist, communicator, husband, and father of three children known for ‘giving great cuts’ and ‘inspiring great men.’
    He is a survivor of family violence and childhood sexual abuse and shares his story with the men who frequent his busy Christchurch and Palmerston North barbershops, My Fathers Barbers, as a

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For men but not just for men

As a woman it’s good to know the whole story. Yes is the a podcast forces for men but it’s not just for men. It’s about relationships with ourself and others. Absolutely love Mike Campbell and the things he has to say. So excited for this podcast! Definitely meets my expectations!

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