Everyday NLP Bites Florence Madden

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt

In this last podcast of Season 5 I look at comparisons. Comparisons, especially unclear ones, take us down a blind alley. Whether it is willing ourselves to do something ‘better’ or someone else telling us to - how do we know we have got there or measure our achievement ? The end result is often disappointment and blame. What would happen if we stopped doing this to ourselves or others ? By being claer what we are comparing with we can measure and celebrate success.

In the NLP Meta Model these are referred to as Comparative Deletions – watch or listen to find out more !

“Winners compare their achievements with their goals.” Nido Qubein

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“ʺThey are all the same!ʺ Is the cruelest
gallows humankind ever built.” ― Lamine Pearlheart, Author

How often to we talk about groups of people with the implication that they are all the same and think the same ?  ‘They’ ‘The government’ ‘Management’ ‘ the Council’ or more vaguely still ‘some people’. 

In the NLP Meta Model these are referred to as an Unspecified Referential Index.

They are commonplace ways of speaking ,but what’s the effect on the point we want to make, our credibility or even the impact on our own thinking? How more effective or happier might we be by being clear who we are referring to?



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“I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.” Lily Tomlin, Actor

Being specific can be exhausting in conversation ….and yet without it there possibilities of misunderstanding are huge! What more could we learn if we asked more questions of others, or noticed when we aren’t being clear?

In NLP Meta model these are referred to as Unspecified Verbs and Simple Deletions

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“Vague expression permits the hearer to imagine whatever suits him and what he already thinks in any case.”

Theodor Adorno German sociologist, philosopher and musicologist

In this podcast my focus is on ‘fat’ words – words which potentially contain different meanings to different people and as a result can lead to misunderstandings. They require us to ask more questions to really understand what some one is saying….and yet you have to notice them first. E.g. you might ask me what I mean by ‘misunderstandings’ !!!

In the NLP Meta Model these are referred to as Nominalisations.

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“Argue for your limitations and sure enough, they’re yours.” Richard Bach Spiritual Writer

In this podcast I look our self-imposed rules, when we say we must or mustn’t  do something,  or that we can or can’t. Often we  say these things without considering if they are true……….and I wonder what would happen if we did question them ? And of course we also pass these 'rules' onto others too !

In the NLP Meta Model these are referred to as Modal Operators of Possibility or Necessity.

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“All generalizations are false, including this one.” Mark Twain


In this week’s episode I look at the effect of generalizations where we use words like all, everyone, no one, always, never etc. In NLP Meta Model these are referred to as Universal Quantifiers. But what impact do they have on the point we may be making or indeed on ourselves and others ?

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