Expanding Consciousness

Michael Wally and Nikolas Haag

How to connect to your higher self & escape the matrix. Two software engineers deconstruct together what they learned about spirituality, non-duality and the human experience. We explore to sharpen our awareness, make life more enjoyable, be little kinder, become more authentic, less reactive, more present & ultimately expand our consciousness. For Feedback & Inquiries: expanding.consciousness.podcast@gmail.com

  1. 1d ago

    The Father Wound: Masculinity, Suppressed Emotion, and Reparenting Yourself | Ep. 89

    Nikolas and Michael get personal about masculinity and the father wound: how boys are quietly taught to suppress emotion, the difference between inheriting a parent's fear and reacting against it, and what it takes to change a pattern carried since childhood. They talk about parenting the way they wish they had been parented, loving a child for who they are rather than what they do, and the hard question of whether a relational wound can be completed without the parent. It ends on blame, grief, and the good memories worth holding onto. 00:00 Intro 00:45 Masculinity and the father wound 02:54 Looking at the father relationship for the first time 06:05 How boys get taught to suppress emotion 10:30 Masculinity as a denial of "soft" qualities 13:13 How suppression is passed down 16:40 Transmission, reaction, and the "shy kid" label 20:31 It took suffering and awareness to change 23:03 Parenting as a second-time father 26:57 Love for who you are vs what you do: the shame wound 31:47 Relational wounds and relational repair 34:23 Safety, TRE, and reparenting yourself 36:44 Can you complete a father wound without the father? 39:54 Letting go of blame 43:23 Grieving what you did not get 46:28 Wrap-up

  2. 4d ago

    What Are We Afraid to Say? Self-Censorship, Honesty, and the True Mirror | Ep. 88

    Nikolas and Michael turn the lens on themselves and the podcast itself: the quiet fear of saying the wrong thing, where self-censorship comes from, and what honest conversation actually costs. They trace their path from software engineering into psychology, move through charged territory like COVID and polarization, and get into the strange discomfort of hearing your own voice. Nikolas introduces the "true mirror," and they land on podcasting as a kind of shadow work and a practice in staying present. 00:00 Intro 00:45 The discomfort of putting yourself out there 04:29 From software engineering to psychology 08:14 Self-censorship and the fear of saying the wrong thing 09:56 Being apolitical, and the social cost of speaking 11:55 COVID as a charged entry point 16:07 Platforms, news, and whose interests 18:10 Relaxing the self-censorship 20:35 Intention and the casual, unscripted format 23:44 Hearing your own voice: the cringe 26:39 The "true mirror": seeing yourself unflipped 29:23 Self-observation and self-acceptance 31:55 Podcasting as working on yourself 37:21 Staying present and becoming a good conversationalist 43:19 Why this should be taught, and the joy in it 45:00 Wrap-up

  3. Sep 12

    Unwinding the Body: Hakomi and the Somatic Art of Allowing | Ep. 87

    Michael brings his first experience of Hakomi, a gentle, mindfulness-based somatic therapy, and the two of them unpack what actually happens when the body starts to unwind on its own. They get into following impulses instead of forcing them, why a guided container helps, the discipline of allowing rather than controlling, and how exaggerating a tension can be the thing that finally releases it. Along the way: repression and chronic pain, fascia and non-directive movement, and where Hakomi sits next to TRE. 00:00 Intro 00:45 Michael's first Hakomi session 06:45 Remote vs. in-person somatic work 09:48 The body unwinding on its own: following the impulse 12:30 Why a guided container helps 16:00 Allowing vs. controlling 19:00 Expectations, impatience, and resistance 22:15 Bringing what is below awareness back online 26:45 Exaggerating a tension to release it 30:45 Repression, chronic pain, and compartmentalization 35:15 Fascia, unwinding, and not needing to know why 40:15 Aftereffects and worse before better 42:45 When it is too much: TRE and overdoing it 46:05 Hakomi vs. TRE: a tool or a whole path 48:55 Wrap-up

  4. Aug 9

    Breathing Into Transformation: Breathwork, Trauma & Safety w/ Megan Ashton | Ep. 86

    Megan's Website: https://unitybreathwork.com/ In this episode of Expanding Consciousness, we sit down with Megan Ashton, founder of Unity Breathwork, to explore the transformative potential—and the responsibilities—of conscious connected breathwork. Megan shares her deeply personal journey from addiction, disordered eating, and years of searching for healing modalities to discovering breathwork and experiencing a profound shift in her relationship with herself. We explore what actually happens during a conscious connected breathwork session, including emotional releases, altered states of consciousness, physical sensations, insights, and experiences of deep peace and clarity. A major focus of the conversation is trauma-informed breathwork. Megan explains why agency, empowerment, nervous-system awareness, preparation, grounding, and integration are essential when working with people in highly vulnerable states. We discuss why facilitators should create space for catharsis without chasing it, how to recognize the edges of someone’s window of tolerance, and why the facilitator’s own nervous system matters. We also dive into the role of touch, group dynamics, music, intuition, and even elements of IFS in breathwork—and question how much direction a facilitator should provide when the body’s own wisdom may know what is needed. Timestamps 00:00 – Grounding with Conscious Breathing 03:56 – Megan’s Journey: Addiction, Disordered Eating & Searching for Healing 06:18 – Discovering Conscious Connected Breathwork 08:47 – What Is Conscious Connected Breathwork? 09:57 – Conscious Connected Breathwork vs. Wim Hof 11:46 – Why the First 15 Minutes Can Feel Difficult 13:31 – What Happens During a Breathwork Session? 15:38 – Emotional Release, Visions, Insights & Non-Ordinary States 17:14 – Why Repetition Matters for Nervous System Change 18:26 – The “Stress Bucket” & Processing Trauma Through the Body 21:14 – Do You Need to Relive Trauma to Heal It? 22:58 – Catharsis: Holding Space Without Chasing It 24:03 – Microdose vs. Macrodose Breathwork 25:23 – The Window of Tolerance & Avoiding Overwhelm 25:45 – What Actually Makes an Experience Traumatizing? 26:59 – Agency, Empowerment & Safety in Breathwork 27:33 – What Does Trauma-Informed Breathwork Look Like? 28:02 – Preparing People for Tetany & Intense Experiences 29:45 – The Importance of Grounding & Integration 30:18 – The Facilitator’s Nervous System & Creating a Safe Container 31:19 – Is Bluetooth Affected by Breathwork? 32:14 – Music, Touch, IFS & Other Breathwork Approaches 33:14 – Why Megan Prefers Live, Intuitive Facilitation 35:16 – The Power of the Group Container 36:45 – Touch, Safety & Co-Regulation 38:06 – Relational Trauma & the Role of the Facilitator 39:14 – Two Points of Consent & Reading the Body 41:13 – Why Trauma-Informed Training Matters 42:44 – Adverse Experiences in Breathwork 43:10 – Seizures, Hypoxic Blackouts & Breath-Holding 45:32 – The Risk of Combining Wim Hof Techniques with Long Breathwork Sessions 48:01 – The Bohr Effect & What Happens During Prolonged Breathwork 48:50 – Why Safety Conversations Matter 49:44 – Megan’s 450-Hour Breathwork Facilitator Training 51:07 – Professional Standards & the Wild West of Breathwork 51:51 – Red Flags When Choosing a Breathwork Facilitator 53:23 – Final Thoughts: The Power and Responsibility of Breathwork

  5. Jul 22

    Healing Trauma in the Body: Nervous System & Integrative Mental Health w/ Shari B. Kaplan | Ep. 85

    You can do years of inner work, but if your nervous system is still organized around threat, the body keeps paying the price through stress, inflammation, and chronic pain. In this episode, trauma therapist Shari B. Kaplan (LCSW) joins Nikolas and Michael to explore how trauma lives in the body, why the nervous system holds the key to lasting healing, and what it really takes to move from surviving to thriving. With over 30 years of clinical experience, Shari weaves together somatic awareness, Internal Family Systems, Jungian depth work, and integrative approaches to mental health. We get into the link between trauma, chronic pain, and inflammation, how to work with the nervous system instead of against it, practical tools for regulation and breathwork, and why raising the bar on what we accept as good mental health treatment matters more than ever. Guest: Shari B. Kaplan, LCSW, Founder of Cannectd Wellness Chapters: 0:00 Intro 0:45 Welcome & Shari's Work 5:22 Personal Journey and the Influence of Family 9:58 Plant Medicine & Integrative Healing 14:31 Integrating Cannabis and Ketamine in Treatment 19:02 Therapeutic Techniques and the Client Relationship 25:38 Empowering Clients Through Breathwork 28:20 Techniques for Calming the Nervous System 31:29 Navigating Resistance to Emotional Expression 34:58 Understanding Anger and Its Release 39:17 Holistic Approaches to Therapy 42:44 Reorganizing Identity and Beliefs 48:31 Integrating Therapy and Coaching

  6. Jun 17

    Spirituality vs. Psychology: Are They at Odds or Two Halves of the Same Path? | Ep. 84

    Coming from opposite directions — Nikolas from a hard-science skepticism of anything "woo," Michael from a spiritual high horse that looked down on psychology — the two meet in the middle to ask a deceptively simple question: are spirituality and psychology compatible, complementary, or fundamentally at odds? The conversation moves from spiritual bypassing and hitting plateaus on the meditation cushion, to how psychology's "third wave" (mindfulness, DBT, ACT) quietly absorbed Eastern practice, to the existential terrain — death, meaning, and the fear of the void — where they argue psychology alone may run out of road. From there they get into the harder questions: the risks of untrained spiritual and psychedelic facilitation, safety and trauma-informed containers, the clinicalization of plant medicine, and a genuinely contested back-and-forth on cultural appropriation, decolonization, and what (if anything) gets lost when an indigenous practice becomes a Western framework. A wide-ranging, exploratory dialogue for anyone interested in the meeting point of inner work, psychedelics, mental health, and the existential questions that neither science nor spirituality answers cleanly on its own. Timestamps 00:00 Intro 00:41 Are spirituality and psychology compatible? 01:40 Two opposite starting points & plant medicine opening the lid 02:57 From engineering to spirituality and back to psychology 04:10 Carl Rogers, unconditional positive regard & Ram Dass 05:08 The third wave: CBT, mindfulness, DBT & Eastern roots 07:05 12-step programs, surrender & shedding the ego 08:25 Where psychology hits its limits: existential questions 09:49 Death through a Western lens vs. a spiritual lens 13:21 Is death just the end? Consciousness, matter & the void 14:45 "Die before you die" & the West's troubled relationship with death 16:57 Plant medicine, joy, and the patterns it revealed 18:50 What psychology brings: precision, containment & safety 21:42 Safety in spiritual ceremony & the trauma-informed gap 24:47 Liberty vs. risk: psychosis, cannabis & applying caution 27:11 Clinicalization of plant medicine — losing the sacred? 28:41 Appropriation, decolonization & "letting it change you" 31:19 Strains, spirits, the entourage effect & synthesized compounds 33:47 Does context make it the same experience? Set, setting & safety 36:22 Clinical rooms vs. cozy containers & the MAPS tension 40:46 Mindfulness, John Kabat-Zinn & where appropriation begins 42:54 You can't monopolize spirituality 44:29 Suffering as the doorway to both paths 45:48 Michael Singer's "Wisdom Untethered" & closing thoughts

    Spirituality vs. Psychology: Are They at Odds or Two Halves of the Same Path? | Ep. 84

  7. Jun 14

    The Felt Sense: How Your Body Heals Itself — Eugene Gendlin's Focusing Explained | Ep. 83

    In this episode, Nikolas and Michael unpack Focusing, the therapeutic method developed by philosopher and psychologist Eugene Gendlin out of his research with Carl Rogers' client-centered therapy. What began as an attempt to isolate why some therapy sessions succeed and others fail became a powerful practice that has sold half a million copies and helped bridge the gap between the talk-therapy era and today's somatic approaches. At the heart of the conversation is the "felt sense" — that nebulous, hard-to-pin-down space between sensation and emotion where we actually make meaning. The two explore how to get in touch with it, why we resist uncomfortable experiences and store them in the body, and how meaning follows experience rather than leading it. Along the way they walk through the six steps of Focusing, compare it to EMDR and Somatic Experiencing, and dig into a bigger question: what does it actually mean to be wounded, and what does it mean to heal? A thoughtful, exploratory conversation for anyone interested in somatic psychology, trauma processing, and the body's natural capacity to unwind itself — no re-traumatization required. Peter Levine clip mentioned in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hdUnCj05RMs Timestamps 00:00 Introduction 00:41 What is Focusing & its origins with Carl Rogers 03:05 The felt sense explained — between sensation and emotion 06:35 Walking through an example of the felt sense 08:23 The felt shift & why you don't compartmentalize the experience 10:58 Meaning follows experience (not the other way around) 13:12 Body awareness, somatic unfolding & the body's wisdom 15:53 How experiences get stored: overwhelm, dissociation & programming 17:49 Why we reject experiences & store them in the body 20:20 Overload, childhood & falling back to primitive responses 21:48 Re-experiencing the "residue" without reliving the story 23:38 Why resistance exists: aversion to discomfort & habit 25:29 The six steps of Focusing (creating space, felt sense, handle, resonate, ask) 30:48 Comparing Focusing to EMDR & Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing 34:43 Is trauma processing the same across modalities? 36:16 What does it mean to be wounded and to heal? 40:37 Updating a 1970s framework for modern somatic psychology 42:44 Habits as identity & the disorientation of change 45:02 Attitude, intrinsic motivation & creating your own suffering 47:31 Closing thoughts

    The Felt Sense: How Your Body Heals Itself — Eugene Gendlin's Focusing Explained | Ep. 83

  8. May 23

    Annihilating the Ego: A Sufi Path to Inner Peace with Salima Adelstein | Ep. 82

    The 5 C's: https://instituteofspiritualhealing.com/5c/ Sufism Foundations Course: https://instituteofspiritualhealing.com/foundations-sh/ Salima Adelstein is a Sufi spiritual guide and emotional healer with 35 years of experience accessing the deeper layers of the heart. After 25 years on a different spiritual path that included meditation and time in India, an unexpected encounter with a Sufi master in New Mexico shifted everything for her. In this conversation she walks us through the core of Sufism: the heart-mind connection, the three inner voices (the ego/nafs, the negative outside voice, and the voice of the divine), the practice of remembrance (dhikr), forgiveness and mercy, ego annihilation, and surrender. We talk about how Sufism strips away the hidden "pictures in the heart" we carry from childhood and ancestry, why peace has to start in your own heart before it can radiate outward, and what a daily practice actually looks like. A grounded conversation for anyone curious about how a heart-centered tradition meets ordinary life. 0:00 Intro 0:41 Introduction to Sufism and Salima's Journey 8:12 The Heart-Mind Connection in Sufism 13:43 Navigating Inner Voices and Discernment 18:55 The Role of Forgiveness and Mercy 26:24 Annihilation of the Ego and Surrender 34:22 Living from an Open Heart 37:29 Practical Steps in Sufism

    Annihilating the Ego: A Sufi Path to Inner Peace with Salima Adelstein | Ep. 82
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How to connect to your higher self & escape the matrix. Two software engineers deconstruct together what they learned about spirituality, non-duality and the human experience. We explore to sharpen our awareness, make life more enjoyable, be little kinder, become more authentic, less reactive, more present & ultimately expand our consciousness. For Feedback & Inquiries: expanding.consciousness.podcast@gmail.com

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  • Creator
    Michael Wally and Nikolas Haag
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    88
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Michael Wally and Nikolas Haag
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