Faith & Feels

Rika Lopez
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Faith & Feels is a podcast dedicated to exploring the intersection of mental health specifically sexual brokenness and trauma, with a special focus on the Asian American faith-based community. Hosted by Rika Matoba Lopez, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), these episodes will cover interviews of ordinary people as well as professionals who share stories and lessons on struggles with love/sex/porn addiction and emotional/betrayal trauma. Whether you're looking for guidance, encouragement, or simply a space to feel seen and heard, Faith & Feels is here to create a safe environment where men and women alike can journey through healing and wholeness together. Our goal is to make tough conversations less taboo and to remind you that you are not alone. Join us as we explore topics often kept in the dark and work towards breaking cycles of shame and silence, with honesty, vulnerability, and hope.

  1. Ep. 53 Hope for the Man in Recovery with Dr. Kervins Clement

    MAR 26

    Ep. 53 Hope for the Man in Recovery with Dr. Kervins Clement

    In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Dr. Kervins Clement, CSAT, founder of Clement Counseling and Consulting who is trained in sex addiction, Gottman Method, EFT, and EMDR. We dive into a profound conversation about the intersections of trauma, sexuality, and healing. We talk about the concept of eroticized rage, the complexities of shame in sexual experiences, and the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey. Dr. Clement shares his insights on reclaiming sexual identity and intimacy, and we discuss the need for more open and honest conversations about sexuality within the church and beyond. We close the episode with encouragement for those in recovery, talking about the importance of doing the work for yourself and recognizing that healing is a continuous journey. Resources: https://www.youtube.com/@DrKervinsClement Takeaways: Today's episode includes sensitive topics around sexual health and trauma. Eroticized rage is when feelings of anger become intertwined with sexual arousal. The body responds to sensations without choosing what's right or wrong. Shame can complicate the understanding of sexual arousal in trauma survivors. Healing involves reclaiming one's sexual identity and desires. Self-compassion is crucial in the healing process. Conversations about sex should be normalized to reduce shame. Recovery requires hard work, accountability, and ownership. You are not your addiction; focus on your health and well-being. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Healing and Faith 01:48 Meet Dr. Kervins Clement: Background and Expertise 09:02 Understanding Eroticized Rage 19:44 Navigating Shame and Trauma in Sexuality 27:40 Reclaiming Sexual Identity and Intimacy 39:25 The Importance of Self-Compassion 46:22 Encouragement for Those in Recovery Pixabay Music : "In plus Music" "Viacheslavstarostin"

    59 min
  2. Ep. 52 Sex and Love Addiction in the Church - The Full Conversation ( With Pastor Wilson & Kristen)

    FEB 27

    Ep. 52 Sex and Love Addiction in the Church - The Full Conversation ( With Pastor Wilson & Kristen)

    (*Fully Updated Version from Episode 44) In this eye opening and honest conversation, I’m joined by Kristen Whitmore and Pastor Wilson Wang from Renew Church on the SOLA Leaders Podcast to talk about a topic the Church often avoids — sex and love addiction. Together, we explore the reality that many believers silently struggle with pornography, shame, and relational brokenness, and why creating safe, grace-filled spaces for these conversations is essential for true healing. I share my personal journey into becoming a therapist and how my own story shaped my passion for integrated healing — where faith, emotional health, and relationships come together. In this episode, we unpack the difference between sexual addiction and love addiction, the deeper longing for connection and approval beneath these patterns, and the ripple effects pornography has on individuals, marriages, and mental health. We also talk about why accountability, community, and honest discipleship are key to recovery — and how the Church can move from silence to support. Most importantly, this conversation is a reminder that no one is beyond hope. Freedom, transformation, and wholeness are possible when we step out of isolation and into the light. If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, longed for deeper healing, or wondered how the Church can respond with both truth and compassion, this episode is for you. *This episode belongs to Sola Network Leaders Podcast. For more info, visit www.sola.network.com Recommendations: www.joinrelay.app www.sherecovery.org www.puredesireministries.org www.fightthenewdrug.com www.sa.org Books: "Beyond the Porn Phenomenon" by Barna Report "Unwanted" by Jay Stringer "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody *Pixabay Music : "Viacheslavstarrostin" Sound Bites: "This podcast is for those who love Jesus." "We talk about sex and love addiction in the church." "Sex addiction is a hidden and prevalent sin." "Love addiction stems from abandonment." "We want to normalize these conversations." "We need accountability to fight this fight." "The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it's connection." "There's hope, there's transformation available." "You are not alone in this struggle." Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields 01:34 Exploring Sexual and Love Addiction 02:57 Rika's Journey to Therapy 11:12 Understanding Love Addiction 13:54 Bringing Conversations to the Church 16:46 Creating Safe Spaces for Women 19:32 The Role of Accountability in Recovery 23:21 Engaging in Conversations about Sexual Addiction 28:09 Statistics on Sexual Addiction 31:17 The Damaging Effects of Pornography 34:11 The Importance of Connection in Recovery 39:37 Words of Hope for Ministry Leaders

    47 min
  3. Ep. 51 Chit Chat with Me & the Hubs

    JAN 23

    Ep. 51 Chit Chat with Me & the Hubs

    Happy New Year 2026 Everyone! This episode is just a casual conversation with me and my husband, Henry. We’re sharing a little about what life has been like lately, a goal we have for the new year, and some encouraging moments from our journey with therapy and God. Sit back, relax, and just hang out with us. I’ll be posting once a month now (with maybe an occasional surprise bonus episode). I’m hoping to preserve more energy for my personal relationships, my spiritual community, and a few side projects. Thank you for walking alongside me. I hope these conversations continue to bring you small doses of joy and encouragement. *Resources mentioned : www.fullyhealth.org "Run to the Father "Worship Song by Cody Carnes Pixabay Music : "Calm Soft Music"

    33 min
  4. Ep. 50 A Pause and A Thank You

    12/29/2025

    Ep. 50 A Pause and A Thank You

    In this milestone 50th episode of Faith & Feels, I pause to reflect with gratitude on this journey and the community that has grown alongside it. As 2025 comes to a close, I share briefly how this year shaped me—through public speaking opportunities that stretched my confidence, a car accident that became a spiritual wake-up call, and deeper lessons about living intentionally rather than reactively. This episode is less about achievements and more about alignment—being rooted in Christ, tending to what matters most, and listening for God’s gentle guidance in the quiet moments. I also share why I’ll be shifting to monthly episodes in 2026, creating space for sustainability, deeper connection, and new creative expressions. Whether you’ve been here since the beginning or are just tuning in, this episode is an invitation to reflect, slow down, and consider what it means to live anchored in your identity in Christ while investing intentionally in the relationships and callings God has placed before you. Thank you for being part of this journey—truly. **Special shout out to all my guests for your generous time in sharing your heart, passion, and courage!! Many of you were so vulnerable in sharing your personal stories so thank you from the bottom of my heart for your bravery!!!God was and is glorified thru each of your testimony!!

    27 min
  5. Ep.49 When Faith Meets Betrayal Trauma with Gina Kaye

    12/15/2025

    Ep.49 When Faith Meets Betrayal Trauma with Gina Kaye

    In this episode of Faith & Feels, I sit down with Gina Kaye for an honest and courageous conversation about betrayal trauma and the role faith can play in the healing journey. Gina shares her story of discovering her ex-husband’s hidden struggles with addiction, walking through the pain of divorce, and slowly rebuilding her life after everything she thought was secure fell apart. Together, we talk about the deep impact of betrayal trauma, why specialized support and safe community are essential for healing, and how often faith spaces lack the language and structure to care well for those in crisis. Gina also speaks to the ways betrayal can shake one’s faith, especially for women who feel unseen or silenced in their pain. This conversation is for anyone who feels lost, overwhelmed, or unsure where to turn. Gina’s story is a reminder that healing takes time, help matters, and you deserve to find your voice. You are not alone—and there is hope. Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of betrayal trauma, addiction, and divorce, which may be activating for some listeners. Please take care of yourself and pause or skip this episode if needed. Resources: Gina's email address - gina.kaye@bai.care www.beginagaininstitute.com Support groups for partners of a porn/ sex addict - sanon.org/find-a-meeting/ To get info on certified sex addiction therapists directory - www.iitap.com To get info on Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional training - https://iitap.com/general/custom.asp?page=PSAP *Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Interesting Motivational" Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Feels Podcast 01:45 Gina K's Journey Through Betrayal Trauma 06:06 Understanding Addiction and Seeking Help 10:45 The Importance of Specialized Support 18:26 Navigating Divorce and Rebuilding Life 22:12 Life After Divorce: Finding Purpose 30:24 The Role of Faith in Healing 32:07 Encouragement for Women in Pain 34:01 Church's Role in Addressing Addiction 39:19 The Complexity of Addiction and Recovery 44:10 Finding God in the Mess 50:41 Conclusion and Resources

    52 min
  6. Ep.48 The Gift of Spiritual Direction with Josh Mun

    12/01/2025

    Ep.48 The Gift of Spiritual Direction with Josh Mun

    In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with spiritual director Joshua Mun to explore how spiritual direction can deepen our emotional and spiritual well-being. Together, we unpack the ancient roots of spiritual direction, how it differs from therapy, and how it helps us discern God’s presence—especially in seasons of anxiety, overwhelm, or transition. We also discuss using positive imagination in spiritual practices, navigating political and cultural conversations within faith communities, and creating safe spaces for honest reflection. The episode closes with a gentle prayer, inviting listeners to rest and reconnect with God. If you're interested in pursuing spiritual direction, please email Josh at joshua.mun@biola.edu Takeaways: -Spiritual direction helps individuals notice God's presence in their lives. -It differs from therapy by focusing on spiritual growth rather than diagnosing mental health issues. -Creating safe spaces for dialogue is essential in addressing difficult topics. -Spiritual direction can be a powerful tool for those struggling with mental health. -Honesty and humility are crucial in engaging with political conversations within the church. -Spiritual practices can help strengthen one's relationship with God. -The power of spiritual direction lies in pointing individuals back to God. -Spiritual direction is becoming increasingly popular in evangelical spaces. -Anger and other emotions can be explored in a spiritual context. -God delights in each individual and rejoices over them. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Faith in Fields 02:02 Meet Josh Mun: A Journey into Spiritual Direction 10:46 Understanding Spiritual Direction vs. Therapy 19:23 Navigating Mental Health in Spiritual Direction 29:07 Creating Safe Spaces for Difficult Conversations 43:20 Closing Reflections and Prayer 49:48 Conclusion and Invitation to Spiritual Direction *Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" and "Worship Piano Instrumental"

    51 min
  7. Ep.47 From Cultural Expectations to Kingdom Identity: JJ Raymond's Journey

    11/17/2025

    Ep.47 From Cultural Expectations to Kingdom Identity: JJ Raymond's Journey

    In this episode of Faith and Feels, I sit down with JJ Raymond for a heartfelt conversation about identity, culture, and calling within sports ministry. JJ shares his journey as a transracial adoptee and his work with Athletes in Action—Cru’s ministry that has been helping athletes find hope and purpose in Jesus for decades. As the Regional Director for the Pacific Southwest, he provides care and direction for staff across California, Arizona, and Hawaii, while his wife Carly disciples student athletes at UC Irvine. Together, we talk about the pressures student athletes face, the importance of discipleship and representation, and how embracing our cultural identity shapes the way we live out our faith. My hope is that this episode invites you to bring your whole self to God’s table and walk your own journey with grace and understanding. For more info on JJ's ministry, please visit www.raymondministy.com www.athletesinaction.org Pixabay Music : "Exciting Day" and "Atmospheric Inspirational" Takeaways: -JJ Raymond shares his journey of faith and identity. -The importance of being seen and known by God. -Athletes in Action aims to reach student athletes with the gospel. -Student athletes face unique pressures and challenges. -Discipleship is crucial for spiritual growth in sports. -Cultural identity plays a significant role in personal fulfillment. -Stories of transformation highlight God's work in athletes' lives. -Navigating cultural differences is essential for Asian American athletes. -Encouragement for the next generation to embrace their identity. -The process of understanding truth is as important as the truth itself.

    50 min
  8. Ep. 46 Self Care isn't Selfish - it's Stewardship

    11/03/2025

    Ep. 46 Self Care isn't Selfish - it's Stewardship

    Lately, I’ve been reminded how easy it is to feel guilty for slowing down or taking care of ourselves. After coming back from my trip and feeling jet-lagged, God gently reminded me that rest is actually an act of trust. In this episode, I talk about what self-care looks like through the lens of faith — how it’s not selfish, but stewardship. Even Jesus withdrew to rest and pray, and if He needed that space, so do we. I hope this conversation encourages you to release the guilt, embrace rest as worship, and remember that you don’t have to earn your worth or your rest. Hope this encourages you! Recommended Books: The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Meeting God in Scripture by Jan Johnson Pixabay Music: "Exciting Day" "Christian Instrumental"

    28 min
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Faith & Feels is a podcast dedicated to exploring the intersection of mental health specifically sexual brokenness and trauma, with a special focus on the Asian American faith-based community. Hosted by Rika Matoba Lopez, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), these episodes will cover interviews of ordinary people as well as professionals who share stories and lessons on struggles with love/sex/porn addiction and emotional/betrayal trauma. Whether you're looking for guidance, encouragement, or simply a space to feel seen and heard, Faith & Feels is here to create a safe environment where men and women alike can journey through healing and wholeness together. Our goal is to make tough conversations less taboo and to remind you that you are not alone. Join us as we explore topics often kept in the dark and work towards breaking cycles of shame and silence, with honesty, vulnerability, and hope.

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  • Creator
    Rika Lopez
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    54
  • Rating
    Clean
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