Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina
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You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

  1. 7h ago ·  Bonus

    Why You Keep Wanting Closure from Your Ex + Why You Constantly Ask for Reassurance in Your Relationship

    Tenderoni Hotline #37: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and reclaiming your self-trust. In today’s episode, we’re diving into two deeply relatable questions that so many of us carry quietly. First, what’s really going on when you can’t stop thinking about your ex and keep reaching for “closure,” even though you know they won’t give you what you need? We’ll explore why this craving is less about them and more about your nervous system’s longing for completion, and how to create that sense of closure from within. Then we turn toward the ache of constantly seeking reassurance, even in a loving, safe relationship. If you find yourself asking “Are we okay?” again and again, this part is for you. We’ll unpack the roots of that pattern and talk about how to gently retrain your nervous system to trust safety, love, and steadiness without outsourcing your emotional security. You’ll walk away with nervous system-informed tools, a whole lot of compassion, and a deeper understanding of why your brain and body respond the way they do. Because you’re not broken. You’re healing. So settle in, grab your cozy beverage of choice, and let’s get into it. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshift The Shift

    15 min

  2. 5d ago

    The Truth About Nervous System Reset

    #384: Do you ever feel like your nervous system is on autopilot, constantly stuck in survival mode, and that a quick "reset" could somehow erase all your stress and trauma? Tune in this week as I unpack why there is no magic button to instantly reset your nervous system, and why chasing one might actually make things worse. We dive into what your nervous system is really doing when it reacts to stress, trauma, or emotional challenges, and why these responses aren’t malfunctions but intelligent, survival-driven adaptations. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/384 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshift The Shift

    21 min

  3. Jun 18

    Role Confusion: The Overwhelm You Didn't Know You Signed Up For

    #383: Ever feel like the roles in your life - partner, parent, friend, employee - are colliding in ways that leave you exhausted and unsure of who you are supposed to be? In this episode, I’m unpacking the subtle and pervasive experience of role confusion and how it can sneak into your life without you even realizing it. We explore how taking on others’ expectations, trying to manage everyone’s emotions, and overextending yourself creates a constant state of overwhelm. This isn’t just about being busy. It’s a misalignment between what your nervous system is actually capable of handling and the roles you feel you must perform. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/383 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshift The Shift

    17 min

  4. Jun 16 ·  Bonus

    Why I Call You “My Love” (And Why I'm Not Stopping)

    Tenderoni Hotline #36: A listener recently wrote in with a request: please stop calling your audience "my love/my beauty." In this episode, I respond to that message and explore the deeper questions underneath it. Why do terms of endearment feel comforting to some people and uncomfortable to others? What happens when trauma teaches us that closeness, care, or tenderness are things to be wary of? And at what point does healing ask us to move beyond avoiding discomfort and begin building safety from within? We dive into the relationship between nervous system regulation, emotional outsourcing, trauma recovery, and self-trust. I also share why calling people "my love" is not a branding decision or a marketing strategy, but an authentic expression of who I am, my culture, and the kind of world I want to help create. If you've ever struggled to receive kindness, felt suspicious of tenderness, or found yourself looking outside yourself for safety, worth, or belonging, this episode offers a compassionate invitation to get curious about those patterns. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en My 12-week programs include live teaching, guided somatic practices, journaling workbooks, and a private podcast where I answer your questions directly. Learn more at: beatrizalbina.com/courses

    23 min

  5. Jun 11

    Self-Compassion: Radical Kindness for Your Nervous System

    #382: Do you find yourself stuck in the same emotional loops, beating yourself up when things don’t go as planned, or folding around boundaries because the perfectionist story in your mind says you should? This week, we’re exploring how real self-compassion helps you stay with yourself in uncomfortable moments without spiraling, shutting down, or reverting to old habits. I also share how dead-end thinking keeps us looping in guilt, shame, and self-abandonment, and the real mechanics of staying present with your feelings, even when life doesn’t go the way you expect. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/382 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshift The Shift

    32 min

  6. Jun 4

    The People-Pleasing Trap: Keeping Everyone Happy but You

    #381: What happens when you stop people pleasing and the people around you are no longer pleased? If the thought of setting boundaries, speaking up, or disappointing someone makes your nervous system panic, this episode will hit home. I explore why so many of us stay stuck in over-functioning, over-giving, and self-abandonment, and why growth often comes with discomfort from the people who benefited from the old version of you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/381 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing! Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out. EEO Pre-Sale

    21 min

  7. Jun 2 ·  Bonus

    The Hidden Connection Between Food & Nervous System Healing with Ali Shapiro

    Tenderoni Hotline #35: What if your relationship with food has far less to do with willpower and far more to do with your nervous system? In this deeply thoughtful and delightfully nerdy conversation, I’m joined by Ali Shapiro, MS, CHHC, holistic nutritionist, creator of the Truce with Food method, host of the The Truce with Food podcast (formerly The Insatiable podcast), and 33-year cancer survivor, to explore the hidden connection between food, safety, belonging, emotional outsourcing, and self-worth. Together we unpack why so many of us get stuck in cycles of restriction, perfectionism, binge eating, and trying to be “good” with food. We talk about the developmental psychology underneath emotional eating, the pressure to earn health through discipline and control, and why nervous system regulation matters so much when it comes to nourishment and healing. Ali shares her compassionate, research-based approach that integrates functional nutrition, developmental psychology, and root-cause behavior change to help people build lasting change without shame or rigid wellness rules. We also explore how diet culture and wellness culture often reinforce the same old patterns of self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and outsourcing authority, while disconnecting us from our own inner wisdom and body trust. This episode is for anyone who feels exhausted by all-or-nothing thinking around food and wants a more grounded, compassionate, and sustainable way forward. Learn more about Ali and her work at trucewithfood.com. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

    41 min

  8. May 28

    How to Know If You’re Ready for Coaching and Real Change

    #380: Are you actually ready for coaching, or do you just want your life to feel different? In this episode, I unpack the difference between wanting change and being truly available for change. If you’ve been reading the books, listening to the podcasts, and trying to heal your codependent, perfectionist, or people-pleasing habits but still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns, this conversation might help you understand why. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/380 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en Mentioned in this episode: Join The Shift today! You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshift The Shift

    34 min
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You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

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  • Creator
    Béa Victoria Albina
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    439
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Béa Victoria Albina All Rights Reserved
  • Show Website
    Feminist Wellness

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