I've Changed My Mind

Khalia Deborah Stokes
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There’s power in changing your mind—and you have every right to do so. I’ve Changed My Mind is a podcast that blends storytelling with perspective shifts. Each episode is a short, solo talk that invites you to take another look at the beliefs, behaviors, and patterns many of us may have accepted as truth at some point in our lives. Through personal stories, lessons and honest reflection, Khalia Deborah Stokes challenges you to reconsider the familiar—not by giving you a bunch of new ideas, but by helping you see old ones differently. Sometimes it is not about reinventing the wheel but going back to the basics. This isn’t about perfection or performance—it’s about unlearning what no longer serves you and reshaping how you move through life. Whether it’s healing from hyper-independence, breaking generational cycles, or embracing help for the first time, every episode offers a moment of pause, a spark of insight, and hopefully a reason to reconsider the familiar. This is your permission to evolve. One story at a time.

Episodes

  1. AUG 11

    The "Women In" Series: You're Not Lost. You're Between Versions of Yourself

    If you feel like the life you used to love suddenly doesn’t fit anymore, you’re not broken — you’re becoming. This episode is for every woman standing in the “in-between” space — where the old version of you is fading, the new one hasn’t fully emerged, and everything feels quiet, weird, and uncomfortable. Khalia Deborah Stokes pulls back the curtain on her own transition season — the breaking, the stripping away, the redefining — and shares why this space isn’t punishment, it’s preparation. You’ll walk away with a new perspective, practical tools for protecting your becoming, and the reminder that the version of you God is building is worth the wait. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to reframe the “in-between” season so you stop calling it lost and start calling it transition. Why breaking isn’t about destroying you — it’s about making your foundation strong enough to hold your calling. How to release shame without dishonoring the version of yourself that got you here. The daily anchors and relationships you need to protect your growth. Why blooming isn’t the goal — becoming is. Show Notes & Links: 📖 Read the “Solitary Confinement” chapter from my book Cheers to the Fall → CLICK HERE TO ORDER YOUR COPY UPDATE: The Between Versions workbook is no longer available on Etsy. Subscribe to my Substack to get other resources & more: CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE ✨ If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend who might be in her own transition season. And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast — your support helps this message reach more women who need it.

    46 min

  2. JUN 23

    Redefining Legacy: What We Really Leave Behind

    Legacy is more than the money and material items you leave behind. It’s more than money, businesses, or property passed down—it is also the everyday moments that shape who we are and who comes after us. In this episode, Khalia shares how she’s changed her mind about legacy—not as a transaction, but as transformation. From morning routines to private prayers, from forgiveness to consistency, she explores how our lives write a legacy far more powerful than anything on paper. Tune in to reimagine what legacy really means, and ask yourself: What kind of breadcrumbs are you leaving behind for the next generation?

    15 min

  3. MAY 20

    Imposter Syndrome is Not Just My Fault

    We hear about imposter syndrome all the time—like it’s just a confidence issue or a personal flaw. But what if it’s not just you doubting you? What if it’s the world around you, the systems you move through, and the silent expectations you’ve internalized? In this episode, I’m unpacking my personal journey with imposter syndrome—and why I’ve changed my mind about what really causes it. From navigating family pressure to breaking generational patterns to showing up in rooms where I wasn’t expected to belong, this is a conversation about identity, survival, and healing the gap between who we are and who we’ve been told to be. Because imposter syndrome isn’t just something we make up. It’s something we’ve been taught. And it’s time to reimagine it and start unlearning it.

    19 min

  4. MAY 1

    The Silent Roast Session In Your Head

    Ever catch yourself mid-roast... but the target is you? You call it “being real,” “staying sharp,” or “pushing for better”—but what if that inner critic is actually holding you back? In this episode of I’ve Changed My Mind, host Khalia Deborah Stokes unpacks the toxic self-talk we’ve normalized, and shares how she learned to challenge the chatterbox in her head. The one that said she wasn’t enough, didn’t belong, and needed to be “better” to be worthy. This isn’t about blind positivity. It’s about recognizing the difference between helpful growth and harmful self-sabotage—and choosing to speak life, not limitation, over yourself. Because that mental roast session might feel familiar… But it’s not home.

    16 min

  5. APR 23

    Hyper-Independence Isn’t a Flex

    Changing your mind about asking for help—and why it’s the bravest thing you can do. For years, I believed real strength meant doing life alone. I wore hyper-independence like a badge of honor — until it started to break me. In this episode of I’ve Changed My Mind, I share the story behind how I became self-sufficient in the most self-sabotaging way and why asking for help isn’t a weakness... it’s a lifeline. We’ll explore: How childhood experiences shape our belief about strength The hidden cost of “I got it” culture Why not asking for help is a subtle form of self-sabotage And how redefining strength has helped me heal If you’ve ever struggled to ask for help, felt the weight of being the “strong one,” or wondered why you’re so tired even when you’re “doing everything right” — this episode is for you. 🎧 Tune in, share with a friend, and let this be your permission to lean.

    14 min

  6. 10/29/2024

    Revisit The Past In Order To Move Forward

    "From shadows of shame to the light of love, I’m reclaiming every piece of me that was lost—because I deserve to embrace the beautiful life I was always meant to live." In this episode, I'll be discussing how I changed my mind regarding the importance of revisiting my past in order to move forward and healing the younger me.

    48 min

  7. 09/18/2024

    Do Less To Be More...To Be ME!

    "When I felt the most successful in my life, I felt the need to step back and take my worth back from my success." In this episode, I will discuss how I have decided to do less during a time in my life when people might have expected me to push harder.

    19 min
  • 7 Episodes

4.6
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14 Ratings

About

There’s power in changing your mind—and you have every right to do so. I’ve Changed My Mind is a podcast that blends storytelling with perspective shifts. Each episode is a short, solo talk that invites you to take another look at the beliefs, behaviors, and patterns many of us may have accepted as truth at some point in our lives. Through personal stories, lessons and honest reflection, Khalia Deborah Stokes challenges you to reconsider the familiar—not by giving you a bunch of new ideas, but by helping you see old ones differently. Sometimes it is not about reinventing the wheel but going back to the basics. This isn’t about perfection or performance—it’s about unlearning what no longer serves you and reshaping how you move through life. Whether it’s healing from hyper-independence, breaking generational cycles, or embracing help for the first time, every episode offers a moment of pause, a spark of insight, and hopefully a reason to reconsider the familiar. This is your permission to evolve. One story at a time.

Information

  • Creator
    Khalia Deborah Stokes
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2025
  • Episodes
    7
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    I've Changed My Mind