The Big Four Oh: The Podcast About Turning 40

Stephanie McLaughlin
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Sometime around age 40 (+/-) you might start feeling like some part of your life no longer fits and you don't know what to do about it. It could be at work or at home - or simply inside of you. You might be asking questions like, "How did I get here?" Or, "Is this all there is?" "Is this what I've been working so hard for?" Or, "Why aren't I happier?" Growing out of her own experience turning 40, Stephanie McLaughlin became captivated by the big “four oh,” and how people handle the milestone birthday. On The Big Four Oh Podcast, Stephanie has conversations with people about their life experience around turning 40. This birthday often comes wrapped in larger life changes, whether it’s a newfound search for meaning, accepting your mortality, or shedding all those things you did because some external authority said you “should.” Her mission is to make it common cultural knowledge that there IS a transition most of us face around age 40, and then showcase so many versions of that transition that every single person approaching, or recently turned, 40 with dread in their heart, knows that they are not alone. I know you don't want to call it a midlife crisis, so I won't, but "if the glove fits, you must acquit." 😉

  1. APR 30

    Turning 40 and becoming the doctor your mother deserved

    Dr. Polly Watson did everything right. Medical school, residency, a thriving OB-GYN practice, two kids. And yet somewhere in her mid-thirties she looked up and realized the career she built felt nothing like the one she intended. What followed was a decade of discomfort, reckoning, and a slow, scary pivot to something that felt much better. In this episode, Polly talks about why women's perimenopause symptoms get dismissed, what conventional medicine gets wrong about menopause, and the fear she hid behind a mortgage payment for longer than she’d like. If you've ever had a life that looked fine from the outside but felt wrong on the inside, this one is for you. Guest Bio Dr. Polly Watson is a board-certified OB-GYN with over 20 years of experience, specializing in menopausal, sexual, and functional medicine. She is an expert in addressing a wide range of hormonal concerns, including PCOS, PMS, perimenopause, menopause, low libido, and sexual pain. As a certified practitioner with the Institute for Functional Medicine (IFM), Dr. Watson integrates holistic care approaches that go beyond traditional medicine through her North Carolina-based practice, Hormone Wellness MD. Her specialized training includes menopausal medicine through The Menopause Society, and sexual medicine through the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health. Dr. Watson partners closely with her patients, utilizing a combination of lifestyle modifications, nutrition, mindfulness, bio-identical hormones, and supplements to optimize hormonal balance and overall well-being. Turning 40 and becoming the doctor your mother deservedDr. Polly Watson spent nearly a decade doing everything right. Eight years of postgraduate training, a full OB-GYN practice, two kids, and a schedule that looked successful from every angle. But somewhere in her mid-thirties, she picked her head up and realized she felt more like an insurance clerk than a physician. What followed wasn't a quick pivot. It was a slow, sometimes terrifying, decade-long journey from conventional medicine into functional gynecology, from following the path to building her own. Along the way she navigated early menopause, a failed first business, a fear she wasn't quite ready to name, and the hard work of becoming the kind of doctor she always intended to be. She got there. And this conversation is about how. Episode Highlights Polly traces her original drive to become a doctor back to watching her mother go through early menopause at 38 and receive what she describes as abysmal care, a pattern of women not being heard that she would spend her entire career pushing back against.The arrival of electronic health records transformed medicine in ways that left many physicians feeling like they were working for insurance companies rather than patients. Polly felt it acutely, and it became one of the early signals that something needed to change.When patients started arriving with garbage bags full of supplements and questions conventional medicine couldn't answer, Polly followed her curiosity into integrative and functional medicine spaces and found a world of doctors who were actually happy.At 39, sweating through the sheets and struggling to remember the names of drugs she prescribed daily, Polly experienced her own early perimenopause.She breaks down the outdated science behind hormone replacement therapy, debunking the Women's Health Initiative study clearly and accessibly, and makes a compelling case for why the conversation needs to shift from fear to informed decision-making.Polly founded Hormone Wellness MD in January 2019, in her mid-forties, with no formal business training and a previous failed business in her rearview mirror. She reflects honestly on the fear that kept her in the wrong place longer than she needed to be.Her take on menopause as a second adolescence, a chance to separate from old identities and show up with more intention, reframes a transition most women dread into something genuinely worth getting curious about. Polly's story is ultimately about learning to trust the discomfort, even when everything on the outside looks completely fine. She didn't leave conventional medicine because it stopped working. She left because she was finally honest about the fact that it stopped working for her, and that fear, not logistics, was the thing standing in the way. What she found on the other side is a practice she's proud of, patients she actually has time for, and a Tuesday night pottery class where she's learning to stop forcing the clay. Not bad for a decade's worth of slow, scary work. If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate the show, follow wherever you listen, and share it with someone who might need to hear it. It genuinely helps more people find these conversations. Guest ResourcesListen to the Menopause Rescue Podcast Connect with Polly on Facebook Connect with Polly on Instagram Are you stuck in people-pleasing mode?Download Stephanie’s People Pleasing Playbook to understand where it comes from, how it’s showing up, and what it’s costing you. www.thebigfouroh.com/peoplepleaser ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    53 min

  2. APR 10

    Turning 40 and redefining what normal means

    John King spent decades building a life that looked successful on paper, until it all unraveled in a single moment in his mid-40s. What followed wasn’t a clean reset. It was years of redefining what normal meant for him and then rebuilding according to that definition. This conversation gets into what happens when you can’t push your way through anymore, and how small, daily choices can become the foundation for something entirely different. It looks at identity, resilience, and illustrates what it really means to find your way back to yourself. Guest Bios Dr. John A. King is a Warumungu man, childhood abuse and trafficking survivor, and founder of The Phoenix Collective, a platform for trauma recovery built by survivors, for survivors. Drawing on decades of lived experience, he equips men to face PTSD, rebuild identity, and develop the mental toughness needed to thrive. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and speaker, Dr. King blends raw honesty with practical strategies to help men heal without losing their edge. Melissa King is the co-founder of the Phoenix Collective and a certified life coach with a decade of experience in trauma recovery, wellness, and organizational leadership. In addition to her nonprofit work, Melissa is the co-founder of November Media, a social impact marketing firm with a digital reach exceeding 4 million. Turning 40 and redefining what normal means John King built a life that, from the outside, looked like success by every possible measure. He was driven, accomplished, and constantly moving. But in his mid-40s, everything changed in a single moment when long-suppressed childhood trauma resurfaced, setting off a chain reaction that dismantled his marriage, his career, and his identity. What followed wasn’t a quick recovery. It was years of rebuilding from the ground up, redefining who he was, what “normal” meant, and how to create a life that actually worked for him. This conversation with John and his wife Melissa is about that unraveling, and the intentional, often unexpected ways he found his way back. In this episode, we talk about: How a life that looks successful can actually be built on survival and constant motionWhat it feels like when everything that once worked suddenly stops workingThe difference between burnout and what John describes as a complete “system failure”Why rebuilding your life often starts with small, daily decisions rather than big changesThe shift from external validation to internal authority, and why it’s so uncomfortableHow John developed a set of tools to manage his mental health and shorten recovery timeThe role of steady, supportive relationships during periods of deep transition This conversation provides a different lens on healing. There’s no clean “before and after;” instead, it provides a picture of what it means to live with ongoing challenges while building the awareness and tools to navigate them. It’s a reminder that transformation isn’t always about eliminating struggle, but about learning how to come back to yourself, again and again, with more clarity each time. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh Podcast with someone who might need to hear it. Guest ResourcesFree gifts from John & Melissa for TBFO listeners: Register for free talks and get free replays of any past talks Purchase lifetime access to the Phoenix Collective course catalog for $27 (regularly $97). Enter the coupon PHX27 at checkout. Visit John’s website Find John on Facebook Find John on Instagram Find John on TikTok Are you stuck in people-pleasing mode?Download Stephanie’s People Pleasing Playbook to understand where it comes from, how it’s showing up, and what it’s costing you. ww.thebigfouroh.com/peoplepleaser ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    1h 1m

  3. MAR 17

    Turning 40 and recognizing the patterns keeping you stuck

    Zoey Charif describes how a painful breakup in her early thirties forced her to confront her lack of self-worth and the relationship patterns she had repeated for years. Growing up across continents, Zoey was no stranger to change, but this moment required a different kind of transition: an internal one. By examining her values and the beliefs guiding her choices, she began rebuilding her life in a way that finally felt aligned. Zoey and Stephanie explore self-awareness, authenticity, and the freedom that comes when you stop living by what life “should” look like and start choosing what actually fits you. Guest Bio Zoey Charif isn’t just redefining how we think about love — she’s providing a blueprint for it. As the author of “Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated”, Zoey spent nearly two decades decoding the patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a relentless drive to challenge everything we’ve been taught about relationships. Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, Canada, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework isn’t just theoretical, it’s coachable, actionable, and designed to help people transform how they choose, build, and sustain relationships. Her work is a wake-up call: love isn’t magic. It’s math, psychology, and emotional mastery. Outside of the relationship space, Zoey is a powerhouse entrepreneur — the founder of Business Plans USA— helping startups and established businesses secure funding and scale with precision. Whether she’s helping people find aligned love or aligned success, Zoey’s mission is the same: to turn hope into mastery and potential into reality. Turning 40 and recognizing the patterns keeping you stuckZoey Charif has spent most of her life navigating change. Born in Afghanistan and raised across multiple countries, transition has been part of her story from the beginning. But in her early thirties, after a painful breakup left her questioning her self-worth and direction, Zoey hit a personal rock bottom that forced her to look inward. Instead of continuing down the same path, she developed a framework to examine her values, rebuild her confidence, and change the patterns shaping her relationships and life. In this conversation, Zoey shares how that moment of self-reflection led to a rapid and profound shift, one that ultimately helped her create a healthier relationship, a stronger sense of identity, and a life that feels much more aligned with who she truly is. In This Episode, We Talk About How a childhood filled with constant transition shaped Zoey’s resilience and adaptability, buy ultimately affected her sense of selfThe breakup in her early thirties that forced her to confront her sense of self-worth and the patterns in her relationshipsWhy many of us spend our twenties and early thirties blaming external circumstances before realizing we may be part of the patternHow small shifts in mindset, daily habits, and environment can trigger surprisingly fast personal transformationMeeting her husband at a dog park and discovering the difference between dramatic relationships and peaceful onesLetting go of comparison and embracing an unconventional life path as she approaches 40 Self-awareness can completely change the trajectory of a life. Zoey shares how recognizing her own role in repeating relationship patterns allowed her to break those cycles and create something healthier. Along the way, she and Stephanie reflect on the broader midlife transition many people experience, the shift from external validation to internal alignment, and the surprising freedom that comes from letting go of expectations about what life “should” look like. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share it with someone who might need to hear this conversation. Guest ResourcesZoey’s book, “Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated” Connect with Zoey on Instagram Zoey’s website Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    54 min

  4. FEB 25

    Turning 40 and choosing safety over chemistry

    Cora Rennie was a good girl who did everything “right.” Military. Marriage. Motherhood. Long-term partnership. From the outside, her life looked good. Inside, though, something felt off. Cora shares how divorce, a passionate but painful second relationship, and the looming reality of an empty nest forced her to confront the fact that her nervous system, not her conscious mind, had been choosing her partners. As she learned about people pleasing, the fawning response, and what safety really feels like in the body, she started making choices from a different place. If you have ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns in love, or why midlife feels like a blank slate you did not ask for, this episode will land. Guest Bio Cora is a recovering people-pleaser, and identifies as a highly sensitive deep-feeler. Through her training to become a biodynamic craniosacral therapist, Cora gained profound insights into the body's innate wisdom, and learned directly in her own body, the importance of a felt-sense of safety. Cora incorporates the foundations of the cranio modality with her personal gifts and own lifelong healing experiences, to support others in their recovery-of-self processes. She believes there are key components to true, deep, lasting healing that communicate directly to the physiological wiring of our systems, and providing those elements allows for us to cultivate a deep sense of self, resilience, and trust. Her work combines an understanding of natural body responses with deeply attuned presence, for those navigating complex emotional landscapes. Turning 40 and choosing safety over chemistryWhen Cora Rennie divorced her husband at 36 after 18 years together, it shocked everyone around her. From the outside, their marriage looked steady and intact. Inside, they were two conflict-avoidant people growing further apart through miscarriage, postpartum struggles, military deployments, and years of emotional disconnection. What followed was a fast, passionate relationship filled with chemistry, red flags, financial strain, betrayal, and hard-earned clarity. But beneath the relationship drama was a woman beginning to understand how a lifetime of living by “the next step” had shaped her choices. In her early 40s, staring down the reality of becoming an empty nester, Cora finally made a choice that felt like her own. And that changed everything. In This Episode, We Talk About: How a “good girl” identity can quietly become a people-pleasing pattern that runs your lifeThe moment Cora realized she could not stay in a marriage where emotions were unwelcome but intimacy was expectedWhy intense chemistry can cloud discernment, and how oxytocin plays a role in bondingOverlooking red flags, merging finances, and losing herself in a relationship that felt like a “love story” but not a “life story”Reconnecting with creativity, sensuality, and art as part of reclaiming her identityDiscovering the fawning response and how the nervous system can unconsciously choose our partnersFacing the empty nest transition and asking, “Who am I now?”The difference between living by default and making a conscious, heart-led choiceHow biodynamic cranio psychotherapy and nervous system regulation reshaped her healing Cora’s story is not just about divorce, dating, or even people pleasing. It is about the shift from living by internalized programming to living by conscious choice. For most of her life, each step she took felt predetermined, like the next logical box to check. Military. Marriage. Motherhood. Partnership. Even divorce felt like the inevitable next move. But in midlife, she looked at a blank slate. In the stillness before her youngest left home, she realized this was the first time she could choose without reacting, without fawning, without following a script. When the external noise quieted enough that she could hear something internal speak up, she found the heartbeat of this midlife transition so many of us experience. If this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh. It helps more people find these conversations and realize they are not alone in their own turning-40 transition. Guest ResourcesCora’s offer for listeners: $40 OFF the Understanding People Pleasing Summit VIP All Access Pass Use promo code BIGFOUROH Find Cora on YouTube Connect with Cora on Facebook Connect with Cora on Instagram Recovering people pleaser? Same here.From Pleasing to Peace is a free guide based on real stories from this podcast: people who’ve done the brave work of untangling people pleasing at midlife. www.thebigfouroh.com/peoplepleaser ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    55 min

  5. FEB 10

    Turning 40 and discovering why a lifetime of ‘normal’ felt so hard

    A career pivot in his early 40s forced Nathan Karol to confront something he had not thought about since childhood: how his brain actually works. What followed was not a crisis, but a reorientation. Through therapy, testing accommodations, and a willingness to rebuild his systems from the inside out, Nathan found relief, momentum, and a version of success that fits him. This conversation explores late-diagnosed ADHD, identity, ambition, and the freedom that comes from finally working with your wiring instead of against it. Guest Bio Nathan Karol has played many roles in the world both personal and professional. Most notably he is a husband, father, Jew by choice, mental health advocate and mediocre golfer. He's spent his life figuring out what he wants to do when he "grows up," having been mentored and influenced by some amazing human beings. The years around forty have been full of change, reflection, awareness and hard work both professionally and personally. Turning 40 and discovering why a lifetime of ‘normal’ felt so hardNathan Karol’s midlife transition did not arrive with fireworks or a dramatic breakdown. It arrived through pressure, persistence, and a growing realization that the way he had been moving through the world no longer fit his life or, more importantly, how his brain worked. In his early 40s, while pivoting into a new career in financial services, Nathan was forced to confront something he had not thought about since childhood: ADHD. What followed was a reckoning. Through therapy, testing accommodations, and a radical reframing of what success can look like, Nathan found clarity, self-trust, and a path that finally works with his wiring instead of against it. In this episode, we talk about: Growing up curious, hands-on, and constantly in motion, and how early experiences shape adult identity.Losing connection to a childhood ADHD diagnosis and the quiet ways it continued to affect work, stress, and self-worth.Why traditional career paths and rigid structures can be especially punishing for ADHD brains.Hitting a wall in midlife when intense licensing exams forced Nathan to relearn how his brain actually works.The power of therapy, diagnosis, and accommodations in adulthood, and why none of that is a failure.Letting go of a solo business that no longer scaled, and stepping into a role that offers both structure and autonomy.Redefining success as building systems that work for you, not forcing yourself into ones that do not. Midlife clarity often comes from revisiting old truths with new eyes. Nathan didn’t start over from scratch. But he worked towards understanding himself enough to choose a path that fit. His transition demonstrates how self-awareness, support, and flexibility can turn long-standing friction into momentum, and how learning how your brain works can change everything about how you live and work. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh Podcast. It helps more people find these stories and reminds them they are not alone. Guest ResourcesConnect with Nathan on Instagram Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    1h 8m

  6. FEB 1 ·  BONUS

    The Midlife Burn Book: What People Are Really Saying About Midlife

    The Midlife Burn Book: What People Are Really Saying About MidlifeToday, Stephanie McLaughlin shares the unexpected result of an experiment she brought to Podfest 2026: the Midlife Burn Book. Here’s what happened when real people were invited to reflect on midlife, in their own words, written in a notebook passed hand to hand at Podfest. What was intended to be a playful, analog, nostalgia-tinted way to connect with other podcasters turned into a compelling snapshot of what so many people are carrying beneath the surface as they approach or move through midlife. Stephanie explains the origins of the Burn Book; the prompts inspired by years of conversations on the show; and the sometimes surprisingly honest responses people left behind. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Why Stephanie brought the Midlife Burn Book to Podfest and what she hoped would happenThe 10 core themes that have emerged across nearly four years of The Big Four Oh conversationsHow burnout often comes from obedience, over-functioning, and living by rules we did not chooseThe prompt that resonated most: “What I no longer need to justify”The grief that can accompany shedding identities that once felt essentialWhy exhaustion is often information, not a personal failureWhat it looks like to redefine success from the inside out In reflecting on the responses in the Burn Book, Stephanie notices a striking pattern: people were far more ready to explore the rupture than the resolution. The episode underscores how universal the midlife transition really is, and how often the questions we avoid are already waiting just beneath the surface. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh Podcast. Your support helps these conversations reach more people who are realizing they are not alone as the ground begins to shift beneath their feet. ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    26 min

  7. JAN 20

    Turning 40 and realizing burnout was the warning, not the problem

    Burnout rarely announces itself. It shows up as brain fog, chronic stress, unexplained health issues, and a sense that you are doing everything right but still falling apart. Michelle Niemeyer spent years powering through a high-pressure career, a difficult marriage, and nonstop responsibility before her body forced a reckoning. This conversation explores how achievement can become a coping mechanism, how chronic inflammation becomes “normal,” and why real healing often requires changing how you relate to work, time, and control. Michelle’s story offers a helpful reframe of midlife burnout: not as collapse, but as an opportunity to build a life that finally fits. Guest Bio Michelle Niemeyer is a speaker, coach and former attorney who teaches professionals how to bend time so they can stay sharp, productive and profitable – without burning out. After finding her way to burnout and back in her own high-performing legal career, Michelle created The Art of Bending Time, a framework that helps people connect the dots across work, life, and purpose to magnetize success and reclaim their joy. She helps businesses retain top talent, boost development, and keep their people energized and engaged – all while making the magic happen. Turning 40 and realizing burnout was the warning, not the problemFrom the outside, Michelle Niemeyer looked like the picture of success. She was a high-achieving attorney, deeply involved in her community, and constantly in motion. Underneath that polished exterior, she was exhausted, chronically stressed, and living in a body that was fighting itself. In her mid-30s and early 40s, Michelle’s drive to achieve, her hyper-independence, and years of pushing through discomfort collided with burnout and a serious autoimmune diagnosis. What followed was not just a health reckoning, but a complete transformation in how she relates to work, relationships, time, and herself. Episode Highlights: How Michelle’s childhood conditioning around achievement and responsibility shaped her relentless work ethic.What it looks like when burnout shows up as brain fog, detachment, and physical symptoms long before we recognize it as burnout.The moment her body forced her to pay attention, and how an autoimmune diagnosis changed everything.How lifestyle changes, stress reduction, and radical self-awareness helped Michelle reverse disease progression.The surprising emotional and personality shift that came with learning to slow down and ask for help.Why burnout is often less about time management and more about alignment. Michelle’s story is a reminder that midlife transitions often arrive disguised as health crises, exhaustion, or emotional unraveling. For her, healing was not just about diet or medication, it was about dismantling a lifetime of hyper-independence, redefining success, and reconnecting with what actually brings energy and joy. Her transformation highlights a truth many listeners will recognize: when you stop living in constant survival mode, your body and your life respond in ways that can feel almost miraculous. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh Podcast. It helps more people find these stories and reminds others in the middle of their own transition that they are not alone. Guest ResourcesMichelle’s Website Connect with Michelle on LinkedIn Connect with Michelle on Facebook Connect with Michelle on Instagram Michelle’s Offer for TBFO Listeners! Free Community with Clarity Exercise and SWORD Form Do you have the Midlife Ick? Download Stephanie’s guide to the Ick to diagnose whether you or someone you love is suffering from this insidious midlife malaise. www.thebigfouroh.com/ick ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

    55 min

  8. JAN 13

    Turning 40 and becoming “uncorked”

    What happens when a life that looks “fine” stops feeling true? Mikelann Valterra discusses the strange freedom that can follow loss. From rebuilding financially at age 40 to learning how to trust intuition, design a life on her own terms, and say no to other people’s expectations, Mikelann shares what it looks like to move from survival into possibility. This conversation is for anyone in midlife who feels untethered, restless, or quietly hungry for something more, even if they cannot yet name it. Guest Bio Mikelann Valterra is an author, speaker, financial therapist, and master money coach who helps women around the world rise above the money fog, transform their relationship with money, and design their ideal life. For twenty-five years, Mikelann Valterra, MA, AFC has been a thought leader in financial psychology. She has written, spoken, and been interviewed extensively on powerful, practical ways to reduce money anxiety and teaches effective methods for earning, saving, reducing debt, and managing money. Her new book, Rise Above the Money Fog is now available online. When she’s not working with clients, you can find Mikelann on the dance floor, indulging her love of Argentine Tango. Turning 40 and becoming “uncorked”Mikelann Valterra’s transformation began just before her 40th birthday, with a divorce that ended a “good on paper” marriage, the loss of nearly all her financial stability, and a year spent rebuilding from zero while living in her childhood bedroom. What followed was not a collapse, but an “uncorking,” a period of deep self-reflection, creative awakening, and intentional redesign of her life, her finances, and her sense of self. Episode Highlights How a career that looked unconventional on paper led Mikelann to pioneer money coaching before it was widely knownWhy “losing everything” after divorce felt terrifying and oddly freeing at the same timeThe messy middle between ending a marriage and starting over financially at age 40How journaling, therapy, and deep self-reflection helped her rebuild from the ground upThe shift from living by external “shoulds” to designing a life that actually fitWhy knowing yourself is the foundation of both financial peace and personal fulfillmentHow synchronicity, intuition, and curiosity led Mikelann to Argentine tango, and how dance became part of her second adulthood Midlife transitions are rarely neat or linear, but they can be profoundly liberating. Through honesty, humor, and hard-earned wisdom, Mikelann illustrates how rebuilding after loss can open the door to creativity, clarity, and trusting yourself. Her story reframes starting over not as failure, but as an invitation to design a life that aligns with who you truly are, not who you were told to be. If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate, follow, and share The Big Four Oh Podcast. It helps more people find these stories and reminds listeners that they are not alone in the messy middle. Guest ResourcesTake the Money Personality Quiz (In the top bar!) Connect with Mikelann on Facebook Connect with Mikelann on IG Connect with Mikelann on TikTok Connect with Mikelann on Pinterest Mikelann’s website ConnectTheBigFourOh.com TBFO on Instagram TBFO on Facebook Get the Email Digest Listen, Rate & SubscribeYouTube Podcasts Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon Podcasts SponsorThe Big Four Oh Podcast is produced and presented by Savoir Faire Marketing/Communications

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Sometime around age 40 (+/-) you might start feeling like some part of your life no longer fits and you don't know what to do about it. It could be at work or at home - or simply inside of you. You might be asking questions like, "How did I get here?" Or, "Is this all there is?" "Is this what I've been working so hard for?" Or, "Why aren't I happier?" Growing out of her own experience turning 40, Stephanie McLaughlin became captivated by the big “four oh,” and how people handle the milestone birthday. On The Big Four Oh Podcast, Stephanie has conversations with people about their life experience around turning 40. This birthday often comes wrapped in larger life changes, whether it’s a newfound search for meaning, accepting your mortality, or shedding all those things you did because some external authority said you “should.” Her mission is to make it common cultural knowledge that there IS a transition most of us face around age 40, and then showcase so many versions of that transition that every single person approaching, or recently turned, 40 with dread in their heart, knows that they are not alone. I know you don't want to call it a midlife crisis, so I won't, but "if the glove fits, you must acquit." 😉

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