In this episode of **Forward Facing**, Mali Shadmehry and Andee Hastings sit down with **Tonya Chaplin, founder of Tonya Chaplin Coaching**, for a powerful conversation about **limiting beliefs, mindset, identity, success, personal growth, and rebuilding your life through major transitions**.Tonya explains how fear, comfort, old conditioning, and beliefs formed through life experiences can quietly influence the decisions we make. They explore why **comfort can feel like safety**, why highly driven and successful people can still feel stuck or unfulfilled, and what happens when you finally begin questioning the version of life you thought you were supposed to want.Tonya also shares her own transformation — from nearly two decades in the corporate world to stepping away from a successful career, going through a major weight-loss and fitness journey, competing in bodybuilding in her 40s as a mother of three, and eventually becoming a life performance and mindset coach.The conversation goes deeper into **identity after divorce and major life changes**, including the difficult question many people face when a relationship, career, body, or familiar chapter changes: *Who am I now?*They also discuss **Core Energy Coaching, the Energy Leadership Index, defining your personal values, changing habits through awareness, redefining success on your own terms, and what to look for when choosing a qualified life coach**.If your life looks good on paper but something still feels missing, you’re navigating divorce or another major life transition, or you’re trying to understand why you keep falling into the same patterns, this conversation is for you.Timestamps00:00 – Introduction to Tonya Chaplin01:38 – What Does a Life Coach Actually Do?03:12 – Fear, Failure & the Beliefs Holding Us Back05:36 – Why Comfort Isn’t the Same as Safety08:47 – Who Tonya Works With10:37 – Why Successful People Can Still Feel Stuck13:37 – Why the Goal Was Never Really the Point15:08 – Identity, Energy & the People You Attract17:55 – Core Energy Coaching & the Energy Leadership Index21:05 – Are You Living by Your Own Values?23:51 – When a Successful Life Still Feels Unfulfilling25:55 – Rebuilding Your Life During Divorce29:03 – Why Awareness Comes Before Change33:01 – The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth34:50 – The Skills & Ethics Behind Life Coaching36:30 – How to Spot Red Flags in a Life Coach39:33 – Choosing the Right Support During Vulnerable Times43:44 – What Does Success Actually Mean?45:24 – Tonya’s Personal Journey Begins47:24 – Career, Motherhood & Losing Herself Along the Way55:05 – What Bodybuilding Taught Her About Herself56:34 – The Vision That Led Her to Life Coaching57:14 – Healing, Limiting Beliefs & Starting a New Chapter01:08:44 – Taking Risks & Creating the Life You Actually Want01:09:56 – What 20 Years of Marriage Taught Her01:11:41 – The Identity Shift After Divorce01:12:09 – “Who Am I Now?” After a Relationship Ends01:18:56 – Forward Facing Personal Check-In01:28:35 – Where to Find Tonya & Closing ThoughtsSubscribe to **Forward Facing** for honest conversations about personal growth, relationships, divorce, mindset, resilience, identity and intentionally creating your next chapter. Watch the new episode here - https://youtu.be/OE3EaQmaiaQ#LimitingBeliefs #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #LifeCoaching #ForwardFacing #SelfDevelopment #DivorceRecovery #LifeTransitions #MindsetCoach #PersonalDevelopment
