Found in the Fire

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You understand your patterns. You can name them, trace them, explain them. And you are still running them. Found in the Fire is a podcast for the woman who has done the work — the therapy, the journaling, the courses — and is ready to understand why insight alone has never been enough. Hosted by Erica Adams, neuroscience coach and somatic practitioner, each episode goes into the specific, lived moments that shift when healing actually reaches the body. Somatic practice. EFT. Ancient wisdom. The neuroscience of real change. And the red velvet cake version of what transformation actually looks like on a Tuesday morning.

Episodes

  1. 11h ago

    Somatic Practice is Not Yoga

    A grown woman, rolling up her yoga mat after class, walking to her car with the exact same set jaw she walked in with. This episode names the gap first: not more insight, but the missing step between doing the practice and actually living differently. Then it walks through why the body treats a class like an event instead of a practice, where that structure actually came from, and what the research says about the two different systems that hold understanding and hold tension. Then it takes you through a thirty-second check-in, live, point by point. Try it at your desk. Nobody has to know you're doing it. What we cover: The mechanism, without the mysticism. Naming a pattern (the jaw, the shoulders, the hum) is cognitive, top-down, and it runs through an entirely different part of the brain than the part that actually holds the tension. That part doesn't respond to explanation. It responds to repetition, in the actual moment the tension shows up, the same way a body learns to ride a bike through practice rather than a lecture on physics. Where the hour comes from. Long before wellness was an industry, tending the body wasn't an appointment; it happened in the seams of an ordinary day. The Industrial Revolution changed that, sorting the body's needs into what fit inside a shift and what waited for the bell. Frederick Taylor gave the underlying logic a name: scientific management. Wellness inherited the same unit-of-time structure, without anyone choosing it on purpose. What the research actually shows. Procedural and declarative memory run on separate neural systems, a distinction established by Cohen and Squire's classic 1980 amnesia studies. Motor-learning research consistently shows spaced, distributed repetition outperforms single massed sessions for durable change (Shea, Lai, Black & Park, 2000). A 2022 randomized controlled trial found that just three days of brief mindfulness training measurably improved interoceptive sensibility (de Lima-Araujo et al., 2022). Porges' polyvagal framework describes a nervous system that recalibrates through repeated cues of safety, not one (Porges, 2022), and McEwen's decades of research on allostatic load show the cost of chronic activation accumulates specifically when the body doesn't get enough recovery signal across a day, not just during one scheduled hour of it (McEwen, 1998). Your first live check-in. Guided in the episode, start to finish: the chair underneath you, the jaw, the shoulders, one breath. Thirty seconds, no mat required. Why this belongs next to everything else. A single hour of somatic work was never going to undo a jaw that's been clenching since the nine a.m. meeting. The work was never supposed to live only on the mat. It needed a body that's been shown, in the ordinary windows of an ordinary day, that it's allowed to unclench right now. Research referenced in this episode: Cohen, N. J., & Squire, L. R. (1980). Preserved learning and retention of pattern-analyzing skill in amnesia: Dissociation of knowing how and knowing that. Science.Squire, L. R. (2004). Memory systems of the brain: A brief history and current perspective. Neurobiology of Learning and Memory.Shea, C. H., Lai, Q., Black, C., & Park, J.-H. (2000). Spacing practice sessions across days benefits the learning of motor skills. Human Movement Science.de Lima-Araujo, G. L., de Sousa Júnior, G. M., Mendes, T., Demarzo, M., Farb, N., de Araujo, D. B., & de Sousa, M. B. C. (2022). The impact of a brief mindfulness training on interoception: A randomized controlled trial. PLOS ONE.Porges, S. W. (2022). Polyvagal Theory: A science of safety. Frontiers in Integrative Neuroscience.McEwen, B. S. (1998). Protective and damaging effects of stress mediators. New England Journal of Medicine.van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.Taylor, F. W. (1911). The Principles of Scientific Management. Harper & Brothers.Resources mentioned: The Sovereign Toolkit untamedsovereigntycoaching.comThe Reclamation Container untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  2. Jul 27

    Tapping: The Thing That Sounds Weird But Works Anyway

    A grown woman tapping the side of her own hand in a parking lot, talking to nobody. This episode names the objection first, then walks through exactly what's happening in the body when you tap while holding an activating thought, why the research on stress hormones and EFT backs it up, and takes you through your very first sequence, live, point by point. Try it in the car. Nobody has to know. What we cover: The mechanism, without the mysticism. Tapping on specific points while holding an activating thought appears to send a calming signal to the amygdala at the exact moment it's firing, pairing the alarm with a physical signal of safety. Over repeated rounds, the charge on that memory measurably drops. Where this practice comes from. Traditional Chinese Medicine and the meridian system, documented for over two thousand years. Do-In, the Japanese practice of self-applied percussion along the same pathways. Ayurvedic Marma point therapy, mapping one hundred and seven points where prana concentrates across the body. Three traditions, three continents, the same discovery. What the research actually shows. A 24% drop in cortisol after a single hour of EFT in a randomized controlled trial (Church, Yount & Brooks, 2012), replicated with a 43% drop in a subsequent study (Stapleton, Crighton, Sabot & O'Neill, 2020). Meta-analyses show large effect sizes for anxiety (d=1.23, Clond 2016), depression (d=1.31, Nelms & Castel 2016), and very large effects for PTSD (d=2.96, Sebastian & Nelms 2017). A 2022 systematic review of 139 studies, including 56 randomised controlled trials, concluded that Clinical EFT meets APA Division 12 criteria as an efficacious treatment for anxiety, depression, phobias, and PTSD (Church, Stapleton, Vasudevan & O'Keefe). Neuroimaging studies have shown reduced amygdala and limbic activation following EFT programs (Stapleton et al. 2019, 2022), with a 2025 mechanism review synthesising roughly twenty years of physiological findings on tapping and limbic downregulation (Feinstein, 2025). Your first live sequence. Guided in the episode, start to finish. Written version in the free resource linked below. Why this belongs next to everything else. Tapping is not a replacement for the deeper work. It's a companion to it — a way of moving enough of the charge that the deeper work becomes possible. Research referenced in this episode: Church, D., Yount, G., & Brooks, A. J. (2012). Psychological trauma symptom improvement in veterans using EFT. Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease.Stapleton, P., Crighton, G., Sabot, D., & O'Neill, H. M. (2020). Replication of cortisol and psychological symptom findings in EFT. Psychological Trauma.Clond, M. (2016). EFT for anxiety: A systematic review with meta-analysis. Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease.Nelms, J. A., & Castel, L. (2016). A systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized and nonrandomized trials of EFT for depression. Explore.Sebastian, B., & Nelms, J. (2017). The effectiveness of EFT for PTSD: A meta-analysis. Explore.Church, D., Stapleton, P., Vasudevan, A., & O'Keefe, T. (2022). Clinical EFT as an evidence-based practice for the treatment of psychological and physiological conditions. Frontiers in Psychology.Stapleton, P., et al. (2019). Food for thought: A randomized controlled trial of EFT and cognitive behavior therapy in the treatment of food cravings. Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being.Stapleton, P., Baumann, O., O'Keefe, T., & Bhopti, A. (2022). Effect of EFT on chronic pain: A randomized controlled trial. Complementary Therapies in Clinical Practice.Feinstein, D. (2025). The underlying mechanisms of EFT: A systematic review. Frontiers in Psychology.Resources mentioned: Free Tapping Session, one-page guided script, untamedsovereigntycoaching.comThe Inner Circle ($197/month) untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  3. Jul 20

    The Red Velvet Cake (Explained)

    Back in Episode 1, we named the difference between broccoli and red velvet cake. This episode takes it all the way through: why understanding and change live in different parts of you entirely, and what it actually feels like when the work has done what it's supposed to do. Four new scenes — the invoice sent at full price, the bees on the dandelions, the phone left alone for an hour, the plain no with nothing stapled to it. Not the theory. The felt, ordinary, ten-o'clock-on-a-Tuesday answer to what changes. What we cover: The mechanism, without the mysticism. Broccoli and cake aren't a style preference, they're two different memory systems. Explicit memory — facts, frameworks, the ability to explain your attachment style at a dinner party — is conscious, verbal, and prefrontal-cortex-mediated. Implicit memory — the automatic response that fires before you've decided anything — is older, body-based, and doesn't update just because the explicit system learned something new. The two are dissociable, which is why a person can hold completely accurate insight and still respond exactly as before. What the research actually shows. This dual-system distinction is the basis of Epstein's Cognitive-Experiential Self-Theory, which lays out why intellectual insight is necessary but not sufficient for change — the "experiential system" runs on associative learning, not information, and has to be updated through new lived experience (Epstein & Epstein, 2016, Journal of Psychotherapy Integration). This is the clinical explanation for the exact gap the episode names: knowing your pattern and changing your pattern are not the same neurological event. On the storytelling structure itself — delivered over multiple sittings, by firelight, for absorption rather than efficiency: this maps directly onto anthropologist Polly Wiessner's field research with the Ju/'hoansi Bushmen of the Kalahari, spanning four decades of study. She found that daytime conversation was almost entirely practical and economic, while over 80% of nighttime, firelit talk was storytelling — and that firelight reliably promotes bonding, trust, and shared emotional state among listeners (Wiessner, 2014, PNAS). On Kintsugi: historically accurate as described. The practice developed during the Muromachi period, uses lacquer mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum to make the repaired seams visible rather than hidden, and is tied to the wabi-sabi philosophy of finding value in imperfection and history rather than disguising it. The episode's closing image — the bowl goes back on the shelf and simply holds tea again, rather than becoming a monument to its own break — is an interpretive extension for the audience, not a historical claim, and doesn't need separate sourcing. Research referenced in this episode: Epstein, S., & Epstein, M. L. (2016). An integrative theory of psychotherapy: Research and practice. Journal of Psychotherapy Integration, 26(2), 116–128.Wiessner, P. (2014). Embers of society: Firelight talk among the Ju/'hoansi Bushmen. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 111(39), 14027–14035.Resources Mentioned: The Sovereign Toolkit ($497, 4 weeks, fully async) unatmedsovereigntycoaching.com

  4. Jul 13

    What The Dishes Are Actually About

    He left one dish in the sink, and something in her went from zero to a hundred before she had a reason ready. This episode is about why the small thing is never the thing. Your nervous system doesn't read a single moment on its own. It checks it against a running account of every time you asked and it didn't land, every time you carried more and called it fine. The dish gets read as the newest entry, not a bowl. We name the mechanism, why the alarm doesn't check with the part of you that knows better, and what it actually takes to stop keeping the books alone. What we cover: The mechanism, without the mysticism. The amygdala runs a fast subcortical pathway that reaches it before the cortex finishes a slower, conscious evaluation. That pathway works by pattern-matching — checking an incoming signal against everything it has previously tagged as a threat — not by assessing the actual size of what's in front of you. This is why the alarm can fire at full volume over a single dish: it isn't responding to the dish, it's responding to the pattern the dish just matched. What the research actually shows. Intracranial recordings in the human amygdala show a measurable fear response beginning around 45–88ms after a threat-relevant cue appears, well before conscious perception catches up, and this rapid response happens through a route that runs independent of the cortex (Wang, Luo, Chen, Luan, Wang, Wang & Fang, 2023, Journal of Neuroscience). This subcortical route is now well-documented as the reason emotional reactions can precede and outrun conscious appraisal (Tamietto & de Gelder, 2010, Nature Reviews Neuroscience). The felt experience described in the episode — heat rising, chest tightening, vision narrowing — reflects this: the story ("it's about the dishes, the trash, the thing from March") gets assembled after the arousal is already underway, not before. On letting anger move before regulating: research on animals shows that survival arousal not discharged through movement (shaking, trembling) after a threat passes tends to stay lodged in the nervous system, driving ongoing hyperarousal — the basis for Somatic Experiencing's use of movement to "complete" an interrupted stress response (Levine, 2010, In an Unspoken Voice) This is a different mechanism than classic anger "catharsis" — hitting or yelling at a target, or venting while dwelling on what angered you. A 2024 Ohio State meta-analysis of 154 studies and over 10,000 participants found that arousal-increasing activities (hitting a bag, venting, even jogging) do not reduce anger and often increase it, while arousal-decreasing activities (breathwork, mindfulness) reliably do (Kjærvik & Bushman, 2024, Clinical Psychology Review). The undirected movement described in the episode (not aimed at anyone, followed immediately by slow breath) matches the arousal-decreasing model the research supports, not the venting model it contradicts.  On the belly breathing itself: a single session of slow breathing with an exhale longer than the inhale reliably increases vagal tone (heart-rate variability) and lowers subjective anxiety, in both younger and older adults (Magnon, Dutheil & Vallet, 2021, Scientific Reports). On the ledger carrying forward across relationships and childhood: consistent with attachment theory's concept of internal working models, which describes how early relational patterns get carried forward and shape how new, unrelated moments get read. Research referenced in this episode: Wang, Y., Luo, L., Chen, G., Luan, G., Wang, X., Wang, Q., & Fang, F. (2023). Rapid processing of invisible fearful faces in the human amygdala. Journal of Neuroscience, 43(8), 1405–1413.Tamietto, M., & de Gelder, B. (2010). Neural bases of the non-conscious perception of emotional signals. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 11(10), 697–709.Levine, P. A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.Kjærvik, S. L., & Bushman, B. J. (2024). A meta-analytic review of anger management activities that increase or decrease arousal: What fuels or douses rage? Clinical Psychology Review, 109.Magnon, V., Dutheil, F., & Vallet, G. T. (2021). Benefits from one session of deep and slow breathing on vagal tone and anxiety in young and older adults. Scientific Reports, 11, 19267.Resources mentioned: The Inner Circle ($197/month, ongoing 1:1 async coaching) untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  5. Jul 6

    You Are Not Behind

    You can understand your patterns completely and still not change them and that's not a personal failing, it's neuroscience. This week, Erica breaks down why insight and embodiment live in two different parts of the brain, why your amygdala can't tell a lion from an unanswered text, and what it actually feels like when healing work finally reaches the layer where your patterns live. In this episode The two systems running your life: the prefrontal cortex (where insight and understanding happen) and the amygdala (where the pattern actually fires) — and why they don't automatically update each otherWhy the amygdala can't distinguish a lion from an unanswered text, and what that means for your "overreactions"Revisiting the Snow Queen freeze from last episode: patterns that were intelligent solutions once, now running outdated codeThe "layer mistake" — how getting more articulate about your patterns can become another form of distance from themWhat body-level change actually feels like (hint: quieter and less dramatic than insight)Why shame keeps the amygdala in charge and makes real change harderThis week's free resource and the Reclamation PrimerResources mentioned: Free download: Right Tools, Wrong Layer: A Self-Assessment (PDF, linked in show notes)The Reclamation Primer ($97): a two-hour guided experience through somatic practice, EFT, and inner world journeys: untamedsovereigntycoaching.comMentioned: last week's episode on the Snow Queen freeze

  6. Jul 1 ·  Bonus

    The Snow Queen Containers

    Mentioned in this episode: The Snow Queen practice containers — Seven Days with the Snow Queen and The Snow Queen Deep Dive — are available now at untamedsovereigntycoaching.com. If this episode reached you, send it to someone who needs it. The woman who is very good at being okay — she's listening to something right now, and it might as well be this.

  7. Jun 20

    The Snow Queen

    EPISODE OVERVIEW This episode names the mechanism. Episodes one through three built the architecture of the performing woman — the pattern, the cost, the way the body holds what performance asks you to suppress. Now we go one layer deeper, to the specific story that taught you to doubt your own knowing. That story is the Snow Queen. But not the timeless archetype you may assume she is. The Snow Queen is a documented 19th-century literary response to rejection — one man's inability to tolerate a woman's no, transformed into a cultural narrative that millions of women internalized as proof that having a boundary makes you cold. This episode traces the Queen's origin, names her mechanism, and brings in the work of Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés on the frozen heart — the soul-level knowing that gets numbed when you are taught not to feel. The Queen's greatest lie is that you can protect yourself from being hurt without also protecting yourself from being alive. This episode begins the work of seeing through it. IN THIS EPISODE Where we've been — a thread from Episodes 1 through 3 that shows how each layer connects: the wall, the instrument, the performing woman, and now the source of her deepest distortion The Snow Queen's actual origin: Hans Christian Andersen, Jenny Lind, and the 1843 rejection that became one of the most internalised stories in Western culture What Andersen actually encoded — the woman whose refusal to be available, soft, or willing became evidence of her essential coldness — and how women took on the punishment written for a woman who dared to refuse Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés on the frozen heart: the specific capacity the Queen's spell is designed to numb, and why the broken heart is not a problem but a doorway The Snow Queen as mechanism, not character: how she functions as the internalized voice that creates a gap between what you actually feel and what you are permitted to believe about what you feel How the mirror and the splinters work — Andersen's original imagery as a precise description of what happens when you are taught that your body's sensitivity is evidence of your brokenness Why the Queen's origin matters: she is not ancient, not timeless, not true. She is changeable. And that changes everything. How to recognize her voice — in the "shoulds," in the interpretations that arrive faster than the feeling, in the way your sensitivity gets reframed as liability A fourth cost of the performing woman: the numbing of the broken heart, and the disconnection from the soul-level knowing that lives there What becomes possible when you slow down enough to actually feel — when the splinter begins to come loose FREE RESOURCE — 7 SIGNS YOU'RE OPERATING UNDER HER SPELL Seven concrete, specific, recognisable patterns. Not theory — the actual language the Queen uses: the shoulds, the interpretations that beat you to your own feeling, the ways she turns your sensitivity back against you. Once you can see her, you understand what you're actually working with. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/free-resources READY TO GO DEEPER? The Reclamation Primer is two hours of direct experience with all three modalities I use in this work — somatic practice, EFT tapping, and an inner world journey. Not an explanation of how these work. An experience of what it feels like to work at the layer where the Queen actually lives. $97. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/the-reclamation-primer RESEARCH & REFERENCES The following sources were referenced or inform the content of this episode. THE SNOW QUEEN — ORIGINAL TEXT & LITERARY CONTEXT: Andersen, H.C. (1844). "The Snow Queen." Published in New Fairy Tales, Volume Two, Second Collection.  The primary source. Andersen's seven-part fairy tale, written in December 1844. The episode's reading of the Snow Queen as a document of masculine rejection rather than a timeless archetype draws from the specific biographical and historical context of its creation. Wullschlager, J. (2000). Hans Christian Andersen: The Life of a Storyteller. Allen Lane / Penguin.  The definitive English-language biography of Andersen. Documents his pursuit of Jenny Lind, her consistent disinterest in a romantic relationship with him, and the creative work that followed. The biographical record for the episode's claim that the Snow Queen is a literary response to a woman's no. → penguinrandomhouse.com THE FROZEN HEART — DR. CLARISSA PINKOLA ESTÉS: Estés, C.P. (1992). Women Who Run with the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype. Ballantine Books.  The foundational text. Estés's decades of work as a Jungian analyst and cantadora (keeper of old stories) is the intellectual lineage for this episode's treatment of the frozen heart, the joyous body, and the soul-level knowing that lives in the broken heart. She documents, story by story, what happens to women when they are taught that their instincts and their capacity to feel are dangerous.  Estés, C.P. (2011). The Joyous Body: Myths and Stories of the Wise Woman Archetype. Sounds True. The audio program directly referenced in this episode. Dr. Estés's work on the joyous body, the full, embodied aliveness that becomes available when women stop managing their experience and on the broken heart as a doorway to soul-level knowing, not a problem to be solved.  CULTURAL ADAPTATIONS REFERENCED: Lewis, C.S. (1950). The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe. Geoffrey Bles. Lewis drew explicitly from Andersen's Snow Queen in creating the White Witch of Narnia. Her domain is a world where it is always winter and never Christmas, perpetual numbness, suspended feeling, the death of the joyous. A direct cultural lineage from the original Queen. Frozen. (2013). Directed by Chris Buck and Jennifer Lee. Walt Disney Animation Studios. Disney's adaptation inverts the Snow Queen's original meaning: the cold woman becomes sympathetic, her isolation a wound rather than a corruption. That inversion is itself evidence of cultural movement. But the original figure, before the inversion, is the one doing the cultural work this episode examines. INTEROCEPTION — PRIOR EPISODE RESEARCH: The research on interoception, higher sensitivity in women socialised female, and the gap between interoceptive sensitivity and accuracy was covered in depth in Episode 2. Show notes and references for that episode are available at untamedsovereigntycoaching.com. NOTE ON THE RESEARCH The claim this episode makes about the Snow Queen's origin is historical, not interpretive. The biographical record of Andersen's relationship with Jenny Lind, the timing of the fairy tale's composition, and the pattern of Andersen's fiction responding to his romantic rejections are documented in the scholarly literature. The broader claim, that cultural narratives about cold, boundaried women function as punishment rather than description, draws on feminist literary criticism and the body of work emerging from Jungian depth psychology and trauma-informed feminist practice. This is not a neutral reading of Andersen. It is an intentional one. The distinction matters. CONNECT Instagram: @untamed.sovereignty   Website: untamedsovereigntycoaching.com If this episode named something you recognize, the voice that arrives faster than the feeling, the way your sensitivity becomes the evidence against you, share it with someone who needs to hear that the Queen is not timeless. She is not the truth about who you are. She was written by a man who could not tolerate a woman's no, and she has been living in women's bodies ever since. Put it in their hands. ◆ UNTAMED SOVEREIGNTY COACHING · Found in the Fire — Season 1, Episode 04 · untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  8. Jun 16

    The Performing Woman

    EPISODE OVERVIEW This episode names something most high-functioning people have never had language for: the specific exhaustion of competent performance. Not burnout from doing too much — the deeper cost of managing your interior life before anyone ever has to witness it. The performing woman is not faking her life. She is doing everything she is supposed to do, with genuine skill and genuine care, while running a continuous background process of self-management that never shows up on a list and never gets to rest. This episode names what that actually costs her — in her nervous system, in her relationship with her own body's signals, and in the particular loneliness of being known only by the version of herself she has assembled to be acceptable. And it asks what it means when that performance begins to crack. IN THIS EPISODE What the performing woman is actually doing — and why it is structural, not a costume, not a choice, and not a personality traitThe three costs she has been paying without a name for any of them: the hypervigilance that never fully switches off, the loss of her own interoceptive signal (a concept we introduced last week), and the specific loneliness of being surrounded by people who love a version of her that is not all of herHow the performing pattern is built — piece by piece, across a whole childhood, through ordinary environments and ordinary corrections, until the fawn response becomes automatic and faster than thoughtWhy understanding the pattern is not enough to change it — and where the actual work lives (the body, not the mind)The crack: what it means when the performance begins to fail in small, persistent ways — and why that is not a breakdown but an invitationFREE RESOURCE — THE INTEROCEPTION INVENTORY Ten prompts over ten days to begin opening the channel between you and your body's signals. Not a diagnostic tool. Not a course. Just ten things to notice — one per day — structured to start the conversation. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/free-resource READY TO GO DEEPER? The Reclamation Primer is the best two hours you can spend if you want to actually experience all three modalities — somatic practice, EFT tapping, and an inner world journey — before you decide whether any of this is for you. Not an explanation. An experience. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/the-reclamation-primer RESEARCH & REFERENCES The following sources were referenced or inform the content of this episode. THE FAWN RESPONSE: Walker, P. (2013). Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Azure Coyote Publishing. — Pete Walker's foundational work identifying the fawn response as a fourth survival strategy alongside fight, flight, and freeze. Walker describes fawning as the pattern of becoming agreeable and accommodating to appease perceived threat — and the way that pattern outlives the threat itself. → pete-walker.comPorges, S.W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W.W. Norton & Company. — The neurological framework underlying the social engagement system and survival responses. The fawn response maps onto Porges' work on how the nervous system mobilizes connection and appeasement when direct fight-or-flight is not available. → stephenporges.comMaté, G. (2019). When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress. Vintage Canada. — Documents the relationship between chronic suppression of emotional expression and physical health outcomes. Relevant to the episode's exploration of how managing the interior takes a cumulative toll the body cannot simply absorb.THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE: van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books. — The primary source cited in this episode. Decades of research documenting how incomplete emotional responses are held in the body as chronic tension, activation, and physiological patterning — and why insight-based approaches alone cannot fully address patterns that live at the body level. → besselvanderkolk.comLevine, P.A. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books. — Somatic Experiencing, the modality developed by Levine, directly informs the idea that unexpressed physiological responses stay in the system. Relevant to the episode's description of ambient tension, bracing, and perpetual readiness as the body holding what performance requires you to ignore.CHILDHOOD CONDITIONING AND THE NERVOUS SYSTEM: Felitti, V.J., et al. (1998). Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study. American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245–258. — The landmark ACE study documenting how early adverse experiences are encoded in the nervous system and produce measurable effects across the lifespan. The episode's account of the fawn response being built in "ordinary environments" is grounded in this body of research. → cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acesSiegel, D.J. (2012). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are (2nd ed.). Guilford Press. — Interpersonal neurobiology and how relational experiences in childhood shape the developing nervous system. Relevant to the episode's account of how repeated correction of emotional expression becomes encoded below the level of conscious choice.LEONARD COHEN: Cohen, L. (1992). "Anthem." The Future. Columbia Records. — Source of the closing quote: "There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in."NOTE ON THE RESEARCH The fawn response as a named concept originates in trauma therapy rather than academic neuroscience, and the research base is still developing. What is well-established is the underlying neurophysiology: survival responses are subcortical, automatic, and faster than conscious thought, which is why pattern-change work must happen at the body level rather than the cognitive level. The clinical literature on ACEs, somatic trauma, and nervous system regulation consistently supports the core claim of this episode — that the pattern is not personality, it is learned adaptation, and learned adaptations can be unlearned. That is the work. CONNECT Instagram: @untamed.sovereignty Website: untamedsovereigntycoaching.com If this episode landed for you — share it with the woman in your life who holds everything together for everyone and has never once considered that the exhaustion might not be about volume. She needs to hear that the gap between who she is performing and who she actually is was never a flaw. It was a strategy. And strategies can change. ◆ UNTAMED SOVEREIGNTY COACHING · Found in the Fire — Season 1, Episode 03 · untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  9. Jun 6

    What Your Body Has Been Trying To Tell You

    EPISODE OVERVIEW This episode goes into interoception — the body's ability to perceive its own internal states — and why it matters more than almost anything else in this work. Research consistently shows that people socialized as women receive stronger interoceptive signals than people socialized as men, while also being more likely to distrust what they're feeling. That gap between signal strength and signal trust is not a personal failure. It is the predictable result of a culture that has spent centuries teaching women to override their own knowing. IN THIS EPISODE  What interoception actually is — and why it is the foundational mechanism by which you access your own emotional lifeThe research on why people socialized as women receive stronger   body signals and have a harder time trusting themThe systematic, cultural process by which women are taught to   dismiss their own interoceptive knowing — in medicine, in   relationships, and internallyWhat it actually looks like to start staying in the conversation   with your body's signals — in specific, ordinary moments FREE RESOURCE — THE INTEROCEPTION INVENTORY Ten prompts over ten days to begin opening the channel between you and your body's signals. Not a diagnostic tool. Not a course. Just ten things to notice — one per day — structured to start the conversation. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/free-resource READY TO GO DEEPER? The Reclamation Primer is the best two hours you can spend if you want to actually experience all three modalities — somatic practice, EFT tapping, and an inner world journey — before you decide whether any of this is for you. Not an explanation. An experience. → untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/the-reclamation-primer RESEARCH & REFERENCES The following studies were referenced or inform the content of this episode.  INTEROCEPTION — SEX AND GENDER DIFFERENCES:Klabunde, M., Kaye, W.H., et al. (2017). Interoception and gender: What aspects should we pay attention to? Consciousness and Cognition, 48, 42–52. — The primary study cited for higher interoceptive awareness in females (noticing bodily sensations more often, better understanding the relationship between bodily sensations and emotional states) and lower interoceptive accuracy (less efficient in consciously detecting heartbeats). → pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27866005Ainley, V., et al. (2021). Sex differences in interoceptive accuracy: A meta-analysis. International Journal of Psychophysiology. — Meta-analysis examining sex differences across multiple interoceptive tasks, including heartbeat detection and gastric awareness. Finds that males tend to report greater confidence in interoceptive perception. → researchgate.net/publication/356412051Mazgaj, R., et al. (2020). Sex-specific relationships between interoceptive accuracy and emotion regulation. PLOS ONE. — Examines the relationship between interoception and emotion regulation, finding sex-specific differences in how interoceptive accuracy relates to emotional processing in males versus females. → ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7324473MEDICAL DISMISSAL OF WOMEN'S SYMPTOMS:Lichtman, J.H., et al. (2018). Symptom recognition and healthcare experiences of young women with acute myocardial infarction. Circulation: Cardiovascular Quality and Outcomes (Yale School of Public Health / American Heart Association). — Young women are more likely to have cardiac symptoms dismissed by providers as non-cardiac. Published in Circulation, a journal of the American Heart Association. → news.yale.edu/2018/02/19/heart-attack-symptoms-often-misinterpreted-younger-womenSafdar, B., et al. (referenced in multiple emergency medicine studies). Women presenting to emergency departments with chest pain wait approximately 29% longer than men to be evaluated for possible cardiac events. Women under 55 are up to seven times more likely than men to be sent home from the ER without proper cardiac testing. — Referenced in the Journal of the American Heart Association and cited across multiple emergency medicine research reviews.Academic Emergency Medicine (referenced study). Women presenting to emergency departments with severe abdominal pain wait up to 33% longer than men presenting with the same symptoms. → northwell.edu/katz-institute-for-womens-health/articles/gaslighting-in-womens-healthNIH Policy on Sex as a Biological Variable (2016). It was not until 2016 that the National Institutes of Health required sex to be considered as a biological variable in most studies it funded — meaning the majority of prior clinical research, including pain research, was conducted primarily on male subjects. → orwh.od.nih.gov/sex-gender/nih-policy-sex-biological-variableNOTE ON THE RESEARCH The science of interoception and sex differences is active and evolving. Some studies find clear differences in interoceptive sensitivity between people socialized as women and men; others find that differences in reporting confidence (women consistently underestimating their own accuracy) account for some of the gap. What remains consistent across the literature is this: people socialized as women notice more, trust it less, and have been given strong cultural reasons for that distrust. That is the gap this work is designed to close. CONNECT Instagram: @untamed.sovereignty Website: untamedsovereigntycoaching.com If this episode resonated — share it with the person in your life who has been doing everything right and still lying awake at 2am reconstructing conversations. She needs to hear that the gap between understanding and change is not her fault. ◆ UNTAMED SOVEREIGNTY COACHING   Found in the Fire — Season 1, Episode 02   untamedsovereigntycoaching.com

  10. May 30

    Welcome to Found in the Fire

    What You'll Learn From This Episode: Why years of therapy, journaling, and podcasts can leave you more informed about your patterns — and still running every single one of them.The difference between the part of your brain that understands and the part that actually changes — and why they don't talk to each other.What the work looks like from the outside: the traffic that doesn't ruin your morning, the invoice you send without changing the number, the Saturday you actually see the bees.Why the gap between understanding and change is not a personal failure — and what it actually is.You have done the work. You have the language for all of it. You can trace the pattern, name the wound, explain the mechanism with clinical precision. And you are still running it. In the first episode of Found in the Fire, Erica asks the question most healing content won't: why does understanding so rarely produce change? The answer lives in the gap between the thinking brain and the body — in the fact that the part of you that holds all your hard-won insight is not the part of you that runs the pattern. Those two parts live in different rooms. They don't communicate. And all the frameworks in the world won't reach a pattern that doesn't live where the frameworks land. This episode is an honest map of where the real work lives. Not the methodology. The specific, lived, felt-in-the-body moments of what actually changes when the work finally reaches the right layer. What Tuesday morning looks like on the other side of it. If you have been doing everything right and still lying awake at 2am reconstructing conversations — this one is for you. Mentioned in This Episode: The Reclamation Primer — the best two hours you can spend if you want to experience all three modalities before deciding if this work is for you: untamedsovereigntycoaching.com/the-reclamation-primerNext episode: What Your Body Has Been Trying to Tell You — on interoception, women's sensitivity as intelligence, and what gets possible when you stop calling it a liability.If this landed: share it with the woman in your life who has been doing everything right and still can't quite figure out why it doesn't feel like enough. She needs to hear that the gap between understanding and change is not her fault. Found in the Fire is a podcast about somatic healing, ancient wisdom, and the specific moments that change everything. New episodes every other week. Host: Erica Adams / Untamed Sovereignty Coaching.

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You understand your patterns. You can name them, trace them, explain them. And you are still running them. Found in the Fire is a podcast for the woman who has done the work — the therapy, the journaling, the courses — and is ready to understand why insight alone has never been enough. Hosted by Erica Adams, neuroscience coach and somatic practitioner, each episode goes into the specific, lived moments that shift when healing actually reaches the body. Somatic practice. EFT. Ancient wisdom. The neuroscience of real change. And the red velvet cake version of what transformation actually looks like on a Tuesday morning.

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    Erica
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