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I'm Coach Vee, the New Love Strategist with The New Love Collective. As a 6x certified love coach, I help Christian women experience freedom from religion in order to successfully date in modern times, prepare healthy relationships, and overall win at love! And that's God's love, self-love, and real love!

  1. 5D AGO

    You're Not Misunderstanding Him—You're Triggered!

    Most women believe they have a man problem. But what if the real issue isn’t men… it’s the lens you’re seeing them through? In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down one of the most misunderstood dynamics in modern dating: the difference between discernment and trauma response. When your heart has been hurt before, your nervous system learns patterns. It begins scanning for signs of disappointment, inconsistency, or rejection before those things have even happened. The result? Anxiety starts masquerading as intuition, and hypervigilance gets labeled as wisdom. In this conversation, you’ll learn: • The psychological difference between discernment and trauma triggers• Why anxious attachment often feels like “intuition”• How past pain distorts the way you interpret men’s behavior• The hidden cost of mislabeling fear as discernment• Why familiarity is not the same as emotional safety• How healing restores clarity in dating decisions Coach Vee also shares a powerful biblical perspective using the story of Leah and how wounds can shape our expectations in relationships. If you’ve ever said “something just feels off” but couldn’t explain why, this episode will challenge you to examine whether you’re responding to the man in front of you… or to a memory from your past. Because when trauma is interpreting everything, wisdom never has a chance to lead. If this episode resonates with you, join Coach Vee for the Stop the Trauma Workshop on March 14, where she’ll go deeper into identifying the hidden wounds that show up in dating and how to rebuild your relationship decisions from wisdom instead of fear. Learn more and reserve your seat here.

    22 min

  2. FEB 19

    The Cost of Dating Before Healing

    Dating before healing is expensive. Not financially — emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down why so many women repeat the same relationship dynamic with different men… and how unhealed attachment patterns quietly shape who you feel “chemistry” with. You’ll learn: • Why familiarity feels like safety — even when it’s unhealthy• How unhealed wounds influence attraction and decision-making• The psychological and spiritual cost of dating from loneliness instead of readiness• What the story of Samson reveals about desire without discipline• How to know if you’re truly ready for love — or just seeking relief If you’ve ever said, “This time will be different,” only to find yourself in a familiar situation months later… this episode is your wake-up call. Awareness is powerful — but awareness without structure won’t break patterns. If you’re ready to stop repeating and start positioning yourself for healthy love, take the Relationship Readiness Assessment and discover where you truly stand. Listen in. Reflect deeply. And decide whether you’re done paying the cost. 💙

    31 min

  3. FEB 13

    Why Valentine’s Day Makes Unhealed Hearts Loud

    Valentine’s Day doesn’t create insecurity. It exposes it. In this episode, we unpack why February tends to make unhealed hearts loud — especially for single women who are praying for love but still wrestling with attachment wounds, comparison, and the need to be chosen. You’ll learn: • Why emotional validation feels so powerful this time of year• The psychology behind loneliness spikes and impulsive decisions• What Scripture actually says about the heart (Jeremiah 17:9, Proverbs 4:23, Genesis 2:18)• How chasing attention can quietly delay healing• The difference between desiring partnership and depending on validation If you’ve ever found yourself questioning your worth, romanticizing potential, or reopening doors every February… this episode will confront you — and free you. Because love isn’t about luck. It’s about alignment. And alignment starts in the heart. 💙 Ready to do the work? Let's chat!

    22 min

  4. JAN 29

    God Prepares Partners—Not Just Answers Prayers

    You’ve prayed for love.You’ve trusted God with your heart.But dating still feels confusing, draining, or stuck. In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what God actually prepares before partnership—and why answered prayers require readiness, not just faith. Using Genesis 2:18, 1 Corinthians 13:11, and James 1:5, we unpack what it truly means to be a suitable partner, not just a saved woman. We’ll talk about the childish patterns many Christian women are still engaging in, why goodness alone doesn’t sustain marriage, and how emotional maturity, discernment, and accountability shape healthy relationships. You’ll also hear insights from relationship psychology and real-life coaching experience, including a powerful takeaway from No More Lonely Nights, Chapter 23: Relationship Evolution—a chapter that opens many women’s eyes to how love must grow if it’s going to last. This episode is for the woman who knows she wants marriage—but is brave enough to ask:Am I actually ready to partner, or am I just ready for companionship? And if you realize you need accountability, guidance, or clarity about your next step, this episode will help you discern whether private coaching could support the growth you’re being called into. God prepares partners—not just answers prayers.This episode will challenge you, encourage you, and invite you to grow. 💙

    41 min

  5. JAN 21

    Discernment Is a Love Skill—Not a Personality Trait

    You can love God deeply and still choose relationships that disrupt your peace. In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down why so many Christian women confuse chemistry with confirmation—and how attraction, when left unexamined, can override discernment every time. Discernment isn’t intuition.It isn’t a “gift” some women have and others don’t.And it definitely isn’t the same as a feeling. Discernment is a trained skill—spiritual and psychological—and without it, even well-meaning, faith-filled women can keep repeating the same dating cycles with different faces. In this teaching, you’ll learn: Why chemistry activates your nervous system but suppresses discernment The biblical foundation for discernment (and why Scripture never instructs you to follow feelings) How trauma, attachment, and emotional familiarity distort attraction The difference between peace and boredom—and why healthy love can feel unfamiliar at first Why prayer alone isn’t enough if your patterns never change How to assess men by patterns and fruit, not promises or potential Coach Vee also teaches from 1 Samuel 16, revealing how even the prophet Samuel initially misjudged alignment—and what that story teaches us about dating wisely today. If you’ve ever said:“Why do I keep choosing the wrong men?”“I know better—so why does this still happen?”“Is this God… or just chemistry?” This episode will bring clarity. And if you’re ready to stop dating from emotion alone and start choosing with wisdom, this is exactly the work done inside New Heart Academy—the best-selling program for single Christian women who are ready to heal, realign, and attract the love they’ve been praying for. Because God isn’t delaying love.He’s preparing you to choose it well. 💙

    28 min

  6. JAN 14

    Healing Isn’t Optional — It’s Positional

    Healing isn’t optional when it comes to love—it’s positional. In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down why prayer, patience, and good intentions alone don’t stop recurring relationship patterns. If you keep ending up in the same emotional place with different people, the issue isn’t luck, timing, or God withholding—it’s heart positioning. Blending biblical truth, psychology, and real-life insight, this episode explains: Why loving God doesn’t automatically rewire emotional patterns How the heart and nervous system drive attraction and attachment Why time hasn’t healed what awareness hasn’t addressed What Scripture really means when it says to “guard your heart” How healing positions you to recognize, receive, and sustain aligned love This is a direct, compassionate, no-fluff conversation for women who are tired of repeating the same relationship story and ready to choose differently. If you’re done waiting for change and ready to position yourself for it, this episode will challenge, clarify, and point you toward the deeper heart work that happens inside New Heart Academy—the space designed for women ready to heal at the root. Listen with an open heart. Clarity changes outcomes. 💙

    33 min

  7. JAN 7

    Why Nothing is Changing in Your Love Life (& What Staying Comfortable is Really Costing You)

    You’re praying.You’re self-aware.You’ve done the work—at least enough to know what the issue is. So why does nothing seem to be changing? In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down a hard but liberating truth: awareness alone does not produce transformation. Many women stop at insight, believing that knowing the pattern is the same as breaking it. It’s not. You’ll learn: Why familiar emotional cycles feel safer than healthy love How awareness can quietly become a comfort zone The real (often unspoken) cost of staying the same Why God reveals patterns but doesn’t automatically remove them What actually has to happen after awareness for change to occur This episode is for the woman who loves God, desires marriage, and is tired of repeating the same relational outcomes with different people. If you’ve ever thought:“I know better… so why do I keep doing this?”This conversation is for you. If you’re listening this week, the 3-Day Love Strategy Challenge is your next step.It’s designed to help you identify your dominant relationship pattern and learn how to start responding differently—immediately. And if you’re ready for deeper, structured transformation, New Heart Academy is where awareness turns into real re-patterning and alignment. You don’t need another revelation.You need a new response. 🎧 Listen. Reflect. Then move. Ready to move from insight to action?

    26 min

  8. 12/30/2025

    Why Waiting Isn't the Problem - Misalignment Is

    You’ve prayed.You’ve waited.You’ve hoped God would change the pattern. But what if waiting isn’t the problem? In this episode, Coach Vee breaks down why misalignment—not timing—is often the real reason love hasn’t shifted, even for faithful, self-aware Christian women. This is a teaching-heavy, truth-forward conversation that challenges surface-level self-love and digs into how loving yourself first actually changes the men you attract. You’ll learn: Why prayer alone doesn’t dismantle dating patterns How unhealed familiarity disguises itself as chemistry What self-love really looks like beyond affirmations and routines How emotional regulation and discernment protect your heart Why awakening love too soon leads to confusion and heartbreak What Scripture teaches about desire, discipline, and alignment Using the often-misunderstood example of the Shulamite woman from Song of Solomon, this episode explores how desire without discernment creates damage—and how aligned women steward their hearts differently. This is not about blaming yourself.It’s about becoming honest enough to choose differently. If you’re tired of repeating the same emotional story with different men—and you’re ready to reset how you date, discern, and show up—this episode will meet you right where you are. 🎧 And if this conversation resonates, the 3-Day Love Strategy Challenge is your next step toward clarity, alignment, and intentional change.

    24 min
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I'm Coach Vee, the New Love Strategist with The New Love Collective. As a 6x certified love coach, I help Christian women experience freedom from religion in order to successfully date in modern times, prepare healthy relationships, and overall win at love! And that's God's love, self-love, and real love!

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    Freedom Reigns
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    2021 - 2026
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