Friendless

James Avramenko
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Friendless is a podcast about the strange, tender, often painful work of staying connected. Host James Avramenko talks to writers, thinkers, activists, and everyday people about loneliness, platonic love, community, mental health, and what it actually takes to build a life with people in it. No easy answers, no toxic positivity, no pretending the hard parts aren't hard. Just honest, sometimes uncomfortable, often moving conversations from somewhere in the void. But always fun and safety. 

  1. so you're no longer mentally ill...(DBT mini-season finale!)

    -5 ДН. ·  ВИДЕО

    so you're no longer mentally ill...(DBT mini-season finale!)

    In this final episode of the DBT micro-season, James walks back through the terrain — mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness — not to reteach, but to reflect. What landed. What didn't. What surprised him. And, more importantly, how to actually use any of this in real life without turning it into another productivity project or, worse, becoming a DBT zealot who diagnoses everyone at brunch. Expect a tour back through the season, reflection questions to sit with, strategies for practising without burning out, and a slightly insistent reminder that you cannot do this alone — even (especially) coming from a podcast called Friendless. 📩 friendlesspod@gmail.com📱 @friendlesspod on Instagram and TikTok 🌐 friendlesspod.com Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    25 мин.
  2. Celebrating Independent Bookstore Day (with special guests Cathy Jesson & MLA Christine Boyle)

    24 АПР. ·  ВИДЕО

    Celebrating Independent Bookstore Day (with special guests Cathy Jesson & MLA Christine Boyle)

    It's Independent Bookstore Day, and to celebrate, Friendless is doing a double feature — two short conversations recorded at the Bookshelf, both circling the same question: what do bookstores actually do for us that nothing else can? First up is MLA Christine Boyle, BC's Minister of Housing and Municipal Affairs — and a lifelong library and bookstore nerd. We talk about the physical, relational experience you can't get from an online cart, why her 11-year-old plays her like a fiddle every time they walk past a bookshop, and the climate novel her book club still hasn't forgiven her for. Then I sit down with Cathy Jesson, the owner of Black Bond Books. Cathy started in her mother's store in Brandon, Manitoba in the sixties, moved to the coast, built the business into a three-generation family operation, and in 2012 stepped in on a five-day turnaround to save Book Warehouse from closing. She talks about running a bookstore as a business (not a pipe dream), why the magic only happens on the floor and not in the office, and what she wants customers to feel walking out on Independent Bookstore Day. Both conversations are short, warm, and — if you're anything like me — going to send you straight to your nearest independent. Mentioned in this episode: Black Bond Books, Book Warehouse, Hager Books - https://www.blackbondbooks.com/ Ministry for the Future by Kim Stanley Robinson Fire Weather by John Vaillant A Truce That Is Not Peace by Miriam Toews The Women by Kristin Hannah Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert HeinleinFind Friendless on Instagram and TikTok @friendlesspod. Reach out: friendlesspod@gmail.com Check out the Linktree: https://linktr.ee/friendlesspod Fun and safety, Sweet Peas. Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    38 мин.
  3. balancing boundaries: the GIVE and FAST approach (DBT mini-season part 8)

    21 АПР. ·  ВИДЕО

    balancing boundaries: the GIVE and FAST approach (DBT mini-season part 8)

    There's a version of kindness that isn't actually kindness. It's saying yes when you mean no, showing up depleted and resentful, and building relationships on a quiet lie — the lie that you're fine, that it's all okay, that you have no limits. And the thing about that version of kindness is it always ends the same way: in a blowup, a ghost, or an overcorrection so sharp it takes the whole relationship with it. Episode 8 of the DBT mini-season covers Give and Fast — the two interpersonal skills for when getting a yes isn't the point. Give is for when the relationship matters most: how to stay connected, be honest, and get through a hard conversation without torching what you've built. Fast is for when self-respect matters most: how to say no, hold your values, and not apologise for existing. The real skill, as James puts it, is knowing which one you need — and then actually following through. You'll come away with: A clear breakdown of Give (Gentle, Interested, Validate, Easy Manner) with real examples of what it looks and sounds like A full walkthrough of Fast (Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, Truthful) — including why "I don't want to" is a complete sentence Two layered conversation scenarios showing how Give and Fast work alongside Dear Man in practice A reflection prompt to identify where in your life you're sacrificing self-respect just to keep the peace• Email: friendlesspod@gmail.com • Instagram: @friendlesspod • TikTok: @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    27 мин.
  4. Stop Hinting, Start Asking: The Dear Man Skill for Assertive Communication (DBT mini-season part 7)

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    Stop Hinting, Start Asking: The Dear Man Skill for Assertive Communication (DBT mini-season part 7)

    Most of us were never taught how to ask for what we need — we were taught how to be nice, how to be agreeable, and how to silently hope the other person would just figure it out. And when they didn't, we either resented them or came in way too hot trying to make up for lost time. In this very special episode, James unpacks interpersonal effectiveness — the DBT module that's less about managing yourself and more about navigating other people, which, let's be honest, is the hard part. He covers how to get clear on what you actually want from a conversation before you open your mouth (spoiler: most of us skip this step), and walks through Dear Man, a structured skill for asking for things clearly, directly, and kindly without being apologetic or aggressive. This is episode seven of the DBT mini-season. You'll come away with: A framework for identifying your real goal in any difficult conversation (objective, relationship, or self-respect — and why you can only pick one) A full walkthrough of the Dear Man skill with real examples A short practice exercise to apply it to one thing you've been avoiding• Email: friendlesspod@gmail.com • Instagram: @friendlesspod • TikTok: @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    30 мин.
  5. A False Sense of Safety: Iona Whishaw on Trust, Community, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves (Live at the Book Warehouse)

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    A False Sense of Safety: Iona Whishaw on Trust, Community, and the Lies We Tell Ourselves (Live at the Book Warehouse)

    What does it take to truly belong somewhere — and what happens when you didn't know that's what you needed? This week on Friendless, James sits down with Iona Whishaw — bestselling author of the Lane Winslow Mystery series — for a live conversation at the Book Warehouse on Main Street in Vancouver, BC. Her newest novel, A False and Fatal Claim, is the backdrop for a wide-ranging discussion about identity, deception, community, and the surprising things we discover about ourselves when we stop running. They get into: the lies we tell ourselves versus the lies we perform for others; why Iona doesn't plot her novels (and what that means for how story finds her); how Kings Cove functions as both utopia and honest mirror; the way technology has quietly eroded our capacity for friction — and why friction might be exactly what we need; Lane Winslow's journey from deliberate isolation to unexpected belonging; and how writing at 64 gave Iona a whole new life. Iona also shares how her mother — a larger-than-life woman who hitchhiked to Alaska with an evening gown and sneakers — became the unlikely skeleton of Lane Winslow, and what it means to inherit someone's courage second-hand. Recorded live at Book Warehouse Vancouver Pick up Iona's book at the Book Warehouse on Main Street. • Email: friendlesspod@gmail.com • Instagram: @friendlesspod • TikTok: @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    38 мин.
  6. when your emotions are lying to you (and what to do instead) DBT mini-season pt.6

    31 МАР. ·  ВИДЕО

    when your emotions are lying to you (and what to do instead) DBT mini-season pt.6

    Your feelings are real. But what if acting on them is making things worse? In this episode of Friendless, host James Avramenko continues the DBT series with three  tools for navigating emotions without being controlled by them. We cover Opposite Action — the skill for when your emotion is justified, but the urge it's driving you toward would damage something you care about. We look at Problem Solving — for when the emotion does fit the facts and there's something concrete you can actually do. And we explore Building Positive Experiences — the proactive, preventative practice of filling your emotional reserves before crisis hits. James shares personal stories from his medical leave, a financial spiral, and the anxiety he felt recording this very episode — and what it looked like to apply (or not apply) these tools in real time. In this episode: The "action urge" behind every emotion — and when following it makes things worse How avoidance teaches your brain that the threat is real Why you can't half-ass opposite action The difference between a catastrophe and a problem Why positive experiences aren't a luxury — they're emotional infrastructure📧 friendlesspod@gmail.com | 📱 @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    37 мин.
  7. What Is Forgivable? A Conversation With Robyn Harding (Live from the Book Warehouse)

    24 МАР. ·  ВИДЕО

    What Is Forgivable? A Conversation With Robyn Harding (Live from the Book Warehouse)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless recorded live at the Book Warehouse on Main Street, host James Avramenko interviews thriller author Robin Harding about her novel Strangers in the Villa. They discuss the inspiration for the book’s setup—a couple, Sydney and Curtis, retreat to an isolated villa in Catalonia, Spain, to repair their marriage after an affair, then invite in two Australian strangers who won’t leave—by a real trip and intensified by language and cultural barriers. They discuss character psychology, morally gray “damaged and damaging” behaviour, the cruelty of calling an affair “meaningless,” and Harding’s theme of “what is forgivable,” escalating toward an ultimately unforgivable revelation tied to exploitation and trafficking, raising questions of justice versus vigilantism. Harding describes her craft process, multiple POV, and how isolation strips away performance. Find Robyn at robynharding.com or on Instagram @rhardingwriter.  Strangers in the Villa is out now — find it at the Book Warehouse! 📧 friendlesspod@gmail.com | 📱 @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    46 мин.
  8. Naming What You Actually Feel (or 'Fine' Doesn't Cut It) (DBT mini-season part 5)

    17 МАР. ·  ВИДЕО

    Naming What You Actually Feel (or 'Fine' Doesn't Cut It) (DBT mini-season part 5)

    This week on a very special episode of Friendless, we ask what if the goal of emotional maturity isn't to stop feeling things but to stop fighting them?  In Part 5 of Friendless's deep dive into DBT emotional regulation, James unpacks what emotions are actually for, and why treating them like problems to solve is exactly what keeps us stuck. This episode covers three foundational skills: naming emotions accurately (because "I feel bad" tells you nothing useful), checking the facts (the difference between what actually happened and the story your brain added on top), and the PLEASE skill — the unglamorous daily maintenance checklist that has a surprisingly direct line to how regulated you feel. James also gets personal: about spending years terrified of his own anger, about the shame hiding underneath a text that didn't get answered, and about why exercise remains the bane of his existence. In this episode: Why emotions are signals, not malfunctions The smoke alarm analogy that reframes everything How vague labels like "fine" keep you stuck Checking the facts vs. checking the story PLEASE: Physical illness, Eating, Avoid substances, Sleep, Exercise A short practice to try right nowFriendless is a podcast about loneliness, connection, and the honest, sometimes uncomfortable work of understanding ourselves. 📧 friendlesspod@gmail.com  • Instagram: @friendlesspod • TikTok: @friendlesspod Create your podcast today! #madeonzencastr

    37 мин.
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Friendless is a podcast about the strange, tender, often painful work of staying connected. Host James Avramenko talks to writers, thinkers, activists, and everyday people about loneliness, platonic love, community, mental health, and what it actually takes to build a life with people in it. No easy answers, no toxic positivity, no pretending the hard parts aren't hard. Just honest, sometimes uncomfortable, often moving conversations from somewhere in the void. But always fun and safety. 

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  • Автор
    James Avramenko
  • Годы выхода
    2019 - 2026
  • Выпуски
    181
  • Ограничения
    С ненормативной лексикой
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    © 2022 Friendless
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