64 episodes
Friends Missing Friends Hannah Rumsey
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- Society & Culture
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5.0 • 70 Ratings
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Host Hannah Rumsey talks with those who have experienced the death of friends, grief experts, and more, to normalize the complex grief of losing a friend in a world that often doesn’t understand. Together we can cherish and remember the friends we miss.
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62. Grief and Dreams
Today I talk all about dreams with Alejandro Salinas, including:
Dreams we’ve had about dead loved ones
Connecting with our dead loved ones
How dreams help us to process emotions
Lucid dreaming
And more!
Alejandro is one of the co-founders and current president of the Chicago Death Doula Collective, a non-profit collective dedicated to providing support, advocacy, education, and care around death and dying in Chicago. It was formed in 2020 not long after the death of his father. He has hosted death cafés for 6 years and has recently created The Coffin Cards, a deck of 115 questions about death, dying, and grief, and The Coffin Cards Podcast to have even more conversations on the topic with various guests. He fronts the Chicano goth rock / post punk band Grave Love. He teaches yoga twice a week at Chi Yoga Shack, practices massage, and is a former teacher at The Soma Institute. He previously co-hosted The Dream Freaks podcast with Tree Carr and Jennifer Claroscura.
Check out the Chicago Death Doula Collective here: https://www.chicagodeathdoulacollective.com/
Check out The Coffin Cards here: https://www.thecoffincards.com/
Listen to The Coffin Cards podcast
here: https://open.spotify.com/show/2qbCOZBv0Iz2JBXKwJDl8E?si=fed7283b70494b37&utm_medium=share&utm_source=linktree&nd=1&dlsi=c98b898b6b324204
Follow the band Grave Love @grave_love_band
Resources:
The list of books Alejandro recommended:
The Toltec Secret: Dreaming Practices of the Ancient Mexicans: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/21535017-the-toltec-secret
The Art of Dreaming: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12847.The_Art_of_Dreaming
Lucid Dreaming: Gateway to the Inner Self:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4803306-lucid-dreaming
Dreaming through Darkness: Shine Light into the Shadow to Live the Life of Your Dreams: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34196974-dreaming-through-darkness
Man’s Search for Meaning: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning
Get in touch:
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You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com. -
61. Review of Dan Levy's film GOOD GRIEF (minor spoilers)
If you're looking for a film about friendship and grief, look no further! Dan Levy's 2023 film Good Grief is about a man mourning the loss of his husband as his two best friends help him on his journey of grief.
(SPOILER alert: I don't give away juicy details but I do discuss the main character's emotional arc related plot points -- if you don't like to know anything before a film then just be aware!)
I also talk about how the movie acknowledges the nuances and complexity of grief, the realities of supporting a grieving person, some of my favorite quotes, and more!
Do I recommend the film? Yes! Maybe just grab some tissues first.
Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com. -
60. From Best Friend to Ex-Friend: When Friendships Fall Apart
Today I talk to Sydney Bauer about what it’s like to grieve a friend who’s still alive. When she was in high school, her best friend of 9 years abruptly ended their friendship, leaving her reeling. We talk about what that’s like, including:
How grief isn’t just mourning the past, but the future too
The importance of friendships
The long-term effects of losing your best friend at such an impressionable age
How to set healthy boundaries
And more!
Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com. -
59. Life's Too Short to Rush: Redesigning Your Life, Friendships, and Relationships
Today I talk to Rob Farquhar, a Sydney voiceover talent and podcaster, about redesigning his life after a major loss.
After the loss of his wife of eighteen years, Rob is moving back to be closer to his longtime friends. We talk about adult friendships, making big life changes after loss, and how the good stuff’s on the other side of fear. And a lot of that requires patience, not rushing the grieving or building of new relationships, and better getting to know ourselves and what we really want.
You can learn more about Rob here:
http://www.robf.com.au/
https://www.facebook.com/RadioRobVO/
Twitter/Instagram: @gmradiorob
Facebook: Rob.Farquhar
Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com. -
58. How to use Photography to Process Grief
Today I talk to Shannon MacFarlane (she/they). Shannon is a compassionate, creative, kind, and quirky human who enjoys being outside, hoarding eclectic information, scratching dog and cat butts, and snacks. She's working on her PhD in psychology with an emphasis in Thanatology. She supports mourning and grieving humans with art and education.
Learn more about Shannon at www.slobberedlens.com and @slobberedlens (Facebook and Instagram)
Shannon and I discuss
How photography helps her be present with the big emotions, and revisit the intense emotions later
Including the whole spectrum of emotions in grief
Examining our personal history
And more!
Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com. -
57. Big Friendship: Roadtrip Edition!
This episode is a little different and special -- it takes place in the car, on a road trip with my friend Michele!
We talk about:
the book Big Friendship
what friendship means to us
loneliness and creating our own community
what we want from our life moving forward
(And lots of laughter and silliness!).
Resources:
Read the book Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52766000-big-friendship
Get in touch:
Thank you for listening to Friends Missing Friends. If you enjoyed it, please follow/subscribe, leave stars and a review – it’s so appreciated!
You can send in your questions to friendsmissingfriends@gmail.com, send a voice clip to our google voice number 312-291-1781, and follow us on IG @friendsmissingfriends. For more information, you can visit our website: friendsmissingfriends.com.
Customer Reviews
Awesome Interview with Toby Dorr
Loved the interview with Toby, thank you Hannah!
So needed!
Friends Missing Friends is a unique and healing podcast about grief and friendship. For being a difficult topic, the podcast is so listenable and calming. The vulnerability from both the host and guests make this show so special. Thank you for creating this space!
Building the community we need!!
This podcast helped me start processing my grief after losing a friend years ago, which I never really talked about with anyone until now. It inspired me to start having conversations about what I experienced, and in doing so, I found that almost everyone I talked to are also missing friends. Hannah is creating the space we need to have these meaningful conversations around something that many people struggle with in silence. This podcast is like having a friend by your side during a really hard time. I’ve learned a lot from it so far, and would recommend it to anyone!!