Don’t F*kn Shrink

Daffney Allwein

You know that voice in your head that whispers “play it safe, stay small, don’t rock the boat”? Yeah… we’re not listening to that here. Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink, the podcast for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to stop holding back, build unshakable confidence, and show up fully in their lives. I’m Daffney Allwein,  performance coach, athlete, and unapologetic believer that you were never meant to shrink yourself to fit. For nearly two decades, I’ve helped elite performers, from pro athletes to top-level executives, rebuild their bodies, strengthen their mindset, and rise higher than they thought possible. On this show, you’ll get: Unfiltered conversations with people who’ve faced setbacks, reinvented themselves, and refused to quitMindset strategies to push past fear, self-doubt, and perfectionismPerformance habits that fuel success without burnoutReal talk on leadership, resilience, and personal growth, the kind nobody puts in their highlight reel This isn’t fluff. This isn’t fake inspiration. This is the place to get tools, truth, and a powerful reminder that you were made to take up space. So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, break through your limits, and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… hit that follow button. Because the journey starts now. 

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  1. 6天前

    10: Alzheimer's Prevention Made Fun! Simple Habits to Boost Your Brain and Your Life with Rachel Daugherty

    Send us a text What if your story could be the very thing that helps someone else heal? Rachel Daugherty, better known on Instagram as BootyAndBrains, joins this episode to talk about turning pain into purpose, movement into medicine, and why healing your body and brain doesn’t have to be hard. From losing her mom to Alzheimer’s to building a platform around brain health, humor, and fitness, Rachel shares how she transformed grief into impact one honest post, one pushup, and one laugh at a time. Together, she and Daffney discuss what it looks like to care for someone you have a complicated relationship with, why women need to stop waiting for the “perfect time” to take care of themselves, and how simple bite-size movement can change your life. If you’ve ever said, “I’ll start when things calm down,” or felt stuck in survival mode, this one’s your reminder: IT MATTERS. You matter. And you don’t have to do it perfectly. You just have to start. About Rachel Daugherty: Rachel’s work is grounded in deep respect, care, and empathy for those who know the weight of an Alzheimer’s diagnosis within their family. She specializes in translating complex science into clear, relatable insights, always backed by solid research. Her Alzheimer’s prevention journey began from a personal mission - to protect her two children from the pain and uncertainty she once faced. Today, she’s dedicated to teaching others how to do the same.  bootyandbrains.co instagram.com/bootyandbrains.co In This Episode: (01:30) How Rachel built the Booty And Brains platform(03:55) Caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s(10:30) How trauma, fear, and conditioning can keep us from exercising(15:15) Incorporating movement into daily life(22:05) How post-meal walks impact metabolism, blood sugar, and longevity(26:30) Why every small habit matters(30:50) Rachel’s top 3 Alzheimer’s prevention tips Connect with Daffney: The Game-Changer Consult → This 60 min deep dive offers you clarity and insight into what’s possible for your next 60 days. Leave this consult feeling full of possibility and with the energy of purpose! liftprowellness.com Instagram | YouTube | Merch Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    36 分钟
  2. 10月31日

    09: Parenting While Pink-Slipped: Rebuilding Career and Confidence with Kathleen Borgueta

    Send us a text When life hands you a pink slip in the middle of postpartum recovery, how do you rebuild not just your career, but your confidence, identity, and sense of purpose? In this episode of Don’t Fkn Shrink*, Daffney Allwein sits down with Kathleen Borgueta, founder of Pivoting Parents, a community created to help parents navigate professional pivots, layoffs, and reinvention with resilience and grace. Kathleen shares her story of receiving her layoff notice while newly postpartum and recovering from a C-section, a moment that could have broken her but instead became the spark for something transformative. Through vulnerability, grit, and community, she turned her experience into a movement that empowers parents to reclaim their power and purpose after career disruptions. 💬 “I received my pink slip sitting on the floor of my community center in my postpartum. I could not have been more freshly minted a mom.” ✨ In this episode: What it really looks like to navigate identity loss after a layoffThe emotional and physical impact of job loss during postpartum recoveryHow Pivoting Parents helps moms and dads find clarity and community in the messBuilding resilience through purpose and serviceWhy grief is part of growth and how to rebuild stronger than before 🎟️ Event Spotlight:  Don’t miss Kathleen’s upcoming event, Life After Layoffs: Navigating Grief and Building Resilience with Dr. Maya, happening November 7, 2025, at 12 PM ET.  👉 Register on Eventbrite 🌐 Connect with Kathleen:  Website: https://www.pivotingparents.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pivotingparents/ LinkedIn (Personal): https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathleenborgueta/ LinkedIn (Company): https://www.linkedin.com/company/pivoting-parents/ 🎧 Listen now for an honest, hopeful conversation about motherhood, layoffs, and rediscovering who you are when life doesn’t go to plan. Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    36 分钟
  3. 10月17日

    07: How Does It Make Sense? Jane Pilger on Binge Eating, Shame, and Self-Compassion

    Send us a text In this powerful episode of Don’t Fk*n Shrink, Daffney Allwein sits down with Jane Pilger, Certified Binge Eating and Body Trust Coach, host of the Binge Eating Breakthrough™ podcast, and endurance athlete. Jane shares her 25-year journey of struggling with binge eating, the moment she realized food was a tool for safety, and how she finally broke free from shame by understanding the connection between the nervous system, emotions, and behavior. This isn’t a conversation about food rules or willpower. It’s about healing your relationship with yourself, rewriting old stories, and finding compassion for the part of you that learned to survive. ✨ In this episode: The real difference between binge eating and overeating How food becomes a coping mechanism for safety The “safety paradox” and why comfort foods can feel like a threat The eight reasons people struggle with food and how to heal them Why shame and judgment keep you stuck How to regulate your nervous system for long-term change The surprising link between self-respect, curiosity, and recovery 💬 “We are asking the wrong questions. Instead of ‘What’s wrong with me?’ ask ‘How does this make sense?’” – Jane Pilger 🎧 Listen now to reclaim your power and finally make peace with food. To learn more about the food habit 'Safety Paradox' keeping you stuck and the '8 Reasons Why' Strategy Connect with Jane directly at https://www.janepilger.com/ Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    58 分钟
  4. 10月10日

    06: Redefining Success: Ellen Bryan on Fear, Faith, and Finding Peace

    Send us a text  In this episode of Don’t Fk*n Shrink, Daffney Allwein sits down with journalist, author, and storyteller Ellen Bryan for a conversation that blends honesty, courage, and grace. Ellen opens up about walking away from traditional definitions of success and finding a new rhythm in her life that honors her values, her family, and her purpose. She shares how fear once kept her from taking bold steps, why she finally decided to leap anyway, and what it really looks like to balance ambition with motherhood. From newsroom deadlines to bedtime stories, Ellen has lived both sides of the story. This raw and real conversation reminds us that confidence doesn’t mean pretending you have it all together — it means showing up even when you’re scared. ✨ In this episode: Letting go of external validation and redefining successFinding purpose and peace through faith and alignmentNavigating motherhood and ambition with honestyPushing past fear and starting before you feel readyLiving authentically without shrinking for anyone🎧 Listen now and remember: growth happens when you stop waiting for permission. Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    50 分钟
  5. 10月3日

    05: Stop Settling: Kari Hurd on Authenticity, Dating, and Living Boldly

    Send us a text  How often do you say, “I’m fine” when you’re anything but? In this powerful episode of Don’t Fk*n Shrink, host Daffney Allwein sits down with podcaster and speaker Kari Hurd to unpack what it really means to live authentically and why “fine” just isn’t enough. Kari shares her candid story of becoming a single mom, navigating heartbreak, dismantling her old life, and building a new one rooted in authenticity and family. She opens up about dating after 50 (yes, the infamous fish selfies make an appearance) and the values that guide her through life’s challenges. ✨ What you’ll hear in this episode: Why authenticity is non-negotiable in midlifeHow to stop settling and choose yourself firstThe funny and frustrating truths about dating appsPractical exercises for clarifying your valuesWhy the right partner should fit your life, not shrink it This episode is equal parts raw, real, and hilarious. It’s for every woman who’s ready to stop shrinking, reclaim her power, and live boldly.  Take the Challenge for yourself. 14:00 Circle the 10 Values that resonate most with you. Then choose your 2 "Beacon Values" from that Values List of 10. Link Here: https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare... Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    45 分钟
  6. 9月5日

    04: Raising an Autistic Son and Rising From Abuse with Shelly McLaughlin

    Send us a text In this episode of Don’t F*kn Shrink, Daffney Allwein sits down with Shelly McLaughlin, Program Director at Pathfinders for Autism, mom to a 23 year old autistic son, and a fierce advocate for families and communities. Shelly shares the devastating moment when a doctor told her that her son would never function in society, and how she refused to shrink in the face of that label. From navigating schools to helping Hunter discover his passion in film editing, her story is one of resilience and relentless advocacy. But Shelly’s path was not without personal hurdles. She bravely opens up about surviving domestic abuse, the red flags she wishes she had recognized sooner, and how isolation can be the most dangerous weapon of an abuser. Today, she uses her voice to train law enforcement, educate schools, and support families so that no one has to feel alone. 👉 You can support Shelly’s work and help families across the country: Donate to Pathfinders for Autism, which provides training, resources, and community programs: https://pathfindersforautism.org/donate/ Support the Autism Sensory and Communication Bags project, which equips law enforcement with tools to better connect with autistic individuals during emergencies: https://www.towson.edu/iwb/centers/hussman/SARC is a lifeline for victims and survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, and stalking by providing safe haven, advocacy, resources, and hope in Harford County Maryland. https://www.sarc-maryland.org/ ✨ Takeaways: How small accommodations can transform an autistic child’s school experienceWhy building community support is the lifeline parents needThe power of law enforcement training to create safer interactionsRed flags of narcissistic abuse and why speaking out is survivalWhy not shrinking is the most impactful choice we can makeLoved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    42 分钟
  7. 9月1日

    03: She Refused to Shrink: Jennifer Burns’ Journey from Dismissal to Health

    Send us a text  Doctors said “we don’t know.” Jennifer Burns said, “that’s not good enough.” On this episode of Don’t F*kn Shrink, host Daffney Allwein sits down with Jennifer to share her story of refusing to shrink when traditional medicine had no answers. She fought for herself, found the right care, and reclaimed her vibrant health. Part of her discovery was that foods she thought were healthy, eggs, yogurt, and cashews, were fueling her pain and weight gain. By uncovering hidden triggers, shifting to an anti-inflammatory diet, and embracing yoga, Jennifer lost 20 pounds, eliminated hip pain, and regained her energy in her 50s. ✨ What you’ll hear: Why refusing to shrink and self advocacy changes everything The turning point when Jennifer decided “we don’t know” was not acceptable The surprising food sensitivities that fueled her pain How she transformed her health and confidence in midlife A message of hope for every woman told to “just accept it” Jennifer’s journey proves: you never have to shrink. Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    31 分钟
  8. 9月1日

    02: How to Think for Yourself in a Polarized World with Matt Lewis

    Send us a text  Matt Lewis joins me for a real conversation about identity, work, and courage. Matt is a columnist and author of Filthy Rich Politicians and Too Dumb to Fail, and the host of Matt Lewis Can’t Lose. He has appeared on C-SPAN, PBS NewsHour, MSNBC’s Morning Joe, HBO’s Real Time with Bill Maher, and CBS News’ Face The Nation as a political commentator. We talk about growing up in rural Maryland, early career detours, why political consulting was the wrong fit, and how writing, teaching, and podcasting became the right lane. You’ll hear what “crunchy cons” means, how to check whether your beliefs are truly yours, and the simple filter Matt uses for work and life: choose easy, work hard. If you are ready to stop shrinking and show up as yourself, this one is for you. Resources and links:  • Matt’s site: https://www.mattklewis.com/ • Matt’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MattLewis/featured • Matt’s podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/matt-lewis-cant-lose/id1737212124 • Filthy Rich Politicians by Matt K. Lewis • Too Dumb to Fail by Matt K. Lewis Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    39 分钟
  9. 9月1日

    01: What No One Tells You About Starting a Podcast and Refusing to Shrink

    Send us a text  Welcome to the first episode of Don’t F*kn Shrink. This show was born in a single moment. When Brittany Clark made a powerful declaration and then pulled back, I could not stay quiet. I told her: “Don’t Fkn Shrink.”* That moment lit the fire for everything you will hear here. In this episode Brittany interviews me about why I had to bring this message to life. We talk about my journey, the lessons that shaped me, and why I believe confidence and resilience are skills we practice, not gifts we are born with. You’ll hear: The story behind Don’t F*kn ShrinkWhy podcasting is the platform I chose to share without gatekeepersHow childhood experiences and motherhood shaped my voiceThe role of courage, optimism, and nervous system awareness in building true confidenceWhy every single one of us has a story worth tellingThis movement is about more than me. It’s about collaboration and lifting each other up. Check out Brittany’s Design work https://www.instagram.com/thewonderfoundry/ Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

    46 分钟
  10. 8月23日

    Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink

    Send us a text You know that voice in your head that whispers “play it safe, stay small, don’t rock the boat”? Yeah… we’re not listening to that here. Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink, the podcast for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to stop holding back, build unshakable confidence, and show up fully in their lives. I’m Daffney Allwein,  performance coach, athlete, and unapologetic believer that you were never meant to shrink yourself to fit. For nearly two decades, I’ve helped elite performers, from pro athletes to top-level executives, rebuild their bodies, strengthen their mindset, and rise higher than they thought possible. On this show, you’ll get: Unfiltered conversations with people who’ve faced setbacks, reinvented themselves, and refused to quitMindset strategies to push past fear, self-doubt, and perfectionismPerformance habits that fuel success without burnoutReal talk on leadership, resilience, and personal growth, the kind nobody puts in their highlight reel This isn’t fluff. This isn’t fake inspiration. This is the place to get tools, truth, and a powerful reminder that you were made to take up space. So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, break through your limits, and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… hit that follow button. Because the journey starts now.  Loved this episode? Share it with a friend who needs to hear this! Love this show? Say thanks by leaving a positive review. Ready to show the world you're not going to F*kn Shrink!? 👚🍵Get the merch here. Want to learn more about my work? Schedule a 👉Game Changer consult with me. Ready to stop shrinking and start living boldly? Join the Don’t F*kn Shrink community and connect with Daffney here: 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube 📸 Instagram 🌐 Website

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You know that voice in your head that whispers “play it safe, stay small, don’t rock the boat”? Yeah… we’re not listening to that here. Welcome to Don’t F*kn Shrink, the podcast for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to stop holding back, build unshakable confidence, and show up fully in their lives. I’m Daffney Allwein,  performance coach, athlete, and unapologetic believer that you were never meant to shrink yourself to fit. For nearly two decades, I’ve helped elite performers, from pro athletes to top-level executives, rebuild their bodies, strengthen their mindset, and rise higher than they thought possible. On this show, you’ll get: Unfiltered conversations with people who’ve faced setbacks, reinvented themselves, and refused to quitMindset strategies to push past fear, self-doubt, and perfectionismPerformance habits that fuel success without burnoutReal talk on leadership, resilience, and personal growth, the kind nobody puts in their highlight reel This isn’t fluff. This isn’t fake inspiration. This is the place to get tools, truth, and a powerful reminder that you were made to take up space. So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, break through your limits, and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside… hit that follow button. Because the journey starts now.