Gender Fluids WhoHaha

ya’ll are great. I give that one star review, one star *tables turning* I’m here to advance your algorithms with the blessing of 5 more stars & publicly protest the enlightenment entitlement at hand in that one star review. Ya’ll are great to listen to- funny, honest, open minded, humbly flawed, & genuinely human. I feel truly allied in the experience of being listening to ya’ll, thank you for this pod cast *applause*

to Arielle— I apologize to both you and your gf for drunkenly fangirling & sending you that accidental nip slip selfie 🤦‍♀️ for what it’s worth, I continue to listen to this podcast despite the full-body cringe reaction I get thinking about it

it’s really important to be receptive to critique from community and not attempt to hide it (which only makes it grow). some of your tendencies on the show to laud normative beauty standards are harmful—“their mom was relieved that I’m attractive”, “[the threesome was great because a, b, and c - that] we’re all attractive”. what about some young listener trying to find community who has to then rifle through all the possibilities of what that means and try to negotiate whether they are considered attractive enough to relieve their partners mom or be visually appreciable in sex? what if a trans listener weren’t “attractive”? would mom meetings and threesomes be hindered by having different facial and body proportions? please stop using this term as though it contains any objectivity and as though this universalized usage somehow doesn’t perpetuate beauty hierarchies that actually just terrorize real trans people—including y’all I’m sure #internalizedoppression. qualify attractive with “to me” and go further to address and obliterate attractiveness hierarchies in your show for the safety, welcome, and basic respect of the community you ostensibly aim to serve and inhabit.

on the flippantly generalized and bemoaned temperament of black dental hygienists: this is egregious racism. deal with it immediately.