Gender Stories

Alex Iantaffi
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Every body has a relationship with gender... What's your story?In this podcast Alex Iantaffi, author of "How to Understand Your Gender: a practical guide for exploring who you are" will reflect on how gender impacts different areas of our lives, such as relationships, spirituality, parenting and more. They will have guests to explore these topics as well as reflect on their own experiences as a therapist, writer, educator and trans masculine, non-binary person (don't worry if you don't know what that means, there will be a podcast episode about terminology!). If you have a relevant topic you would like to talk about contact Alex at genderstoriespodcast@gmail.com They would love to chat with you and maybe invite you on the podcast!

  1. The Collective Alchemy of Gender Liberation

    12/30/2025

    The Collective Alchemy of Gender Liberation

    Drs. Mackenzie Steiner and Alex Iantaffi discuss their collaborative program, The Collective Alchemy of Gender Liberation. This is a new, somatic-based program created by trans people for trans people in service to our collective liberation. In this episode, they talk about how the program started, the values it’s rooted in, and how gender is an embodied experience. Mackenzie and Alex also talk about how their collaborative process is heart-centered and based in relationality, rather than product-focused and treating the collaboration as a mean to an end, as is often the case in dominant culture. While the program is by and for trans people, the episode has much to offer to cis folks as well in relation to a deeper understanding of gender and to what a collaborative process centered in decoloniality might look like.   Mackenzie Steiner is a reformed clinical psychologist with over 20 years of clinical experience specializing in attachment, gender identity and socialization, as well as addictions and trauma recovery. For 20 of those years, she worked with veterans facing just about every possible type of concern related to their identities, relationships and mental health, but particularly at the interface of addictions and complex post-traumatic stress. Mackenzie transitioned into private practice at the beginning of 2023 to stretch her wings and be free to practice with communities and in ways unencumbered by organizational constraints. At the heart of her work is building an attuned, compassionate and safe relational base from which to explore the challenging aspects of one’s history and how it intersects with the present moment. Mackenzie accomplishes this through a mosaic of attachment, mindfulness, emotionally and somatically focused approaches as well as parts-work perspectives that she has found most efficiently and humanely promote long-term change and deep healing. And she has found that nature can be a profound ally for this process!  On the more personal side, she is an avid outdoors-person who is most nourished by activities ranging from landscaping to hiking, climbing and backpacking. She is also a seeker of mysteries, having an insatiable curiosity to discover the knowledge and wisdom underlying our physical, psychological, relational and spiritual realities in service of promoting our health and authentic evolution.  Find out more about the Collective Alchemy of Gender Liberation and Dr. Mackenzie Steiner at the following links:  Website: https://www.gender-alchemy.org/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/collectivegenderalchemy/ @collectivegenderalchemy  Dr. Mackenzie Steiner’s website: https://naturesmosaictherapy.com/  Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 12m
  2. Queering Sex Therapy with Dr Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

    11/25/2025

    Queering Sex Therapy with Dr Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

    Drs Dulcinea Alex Pitagora and Alex Iantaffi discuss academic journeys, the complexities of aging as a queer person, and the importance of community and intergenerational connections. They discuss the challenges faced by the queer and trans communities in the current socio-political climate, the experience of being an openly queer therapist, and the impact of capitalism on mental health, while emphasizing the need for self-compassion, joy, and connection in navigating it all.  Dr. Dulcinea/Alex Pitagora is a NY-based psychotherapist and sex therapist (also licensed in NJ, PA, and CO). They have a brick-and-mortar private practice in NYC that includes individual, couples/multi-partner relationship, and poly/leather family therapy, as well as supervision and mentorship. Dr. Pitagora is an out and proud member of the queer, trans, kink, and polyamory communities, and is equally proud to be a former sex worker, as well as an anti-racist/-oppression/-exploitation activist. Dr. Pitagora holds a Master of Arts in Psychology from the New School for Social Research; a Master of Social Work from New York University; a Master of Education and a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology from Widener University; and is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, CST Supervisor, and CE provider along with their colleague Dr. Jillien Kahn. Dr. Pitagora teaches sexual health at New York University; has published articles and chapters in peer-reviewed journals and books; and presented at conferences on the topics of alternative sexuality and gender diversity. Dr. Pitagora is the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, a nationwide alternative lifestyle affirmative provider listing; and was a co-founder and -organizer of the AltSex NYC Conference.  Find out more about Dr Dulcinea’s work at the following links:  https://www.dulcineapitagora.com/  https://kinkdoctor.com/  @kinkdoctor    Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 7m
  3. Somacultural Liberation with Dr Roger Kuhn

    11/11/2025

    Somacultural Liberation with Dr Roger Kuhn

    Drs Roger Kuhn and Alex Iantaffi discuss the intersection of creativity, gender identity, and spirituality. Dr Kuhn shares parts of his own journey of self-discovery through music and writing, as well as delving into the impact of colonization on gender. They also explore the intersection of somatic work and cultural context, emphasizing the essential need for indigenous perspectives in therapeutic practices.   Dr. Roger Kuhn is a Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigiqueer soma-cultural sex therapist, sexuality educator, writer, activist, and musician. Roger’s work explores the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling sexuality and focuses on the way culture impacts and informs our bodily experiences. He is a community organizer of the Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirit powwow, and a board member of the Two-Spirit & Native LGBTQ+ Center for Equity. His first book, Somacultural Liberation, is available in both paperback and audio. His music can be streamed on all digital platforms.    Find out more about Dr Roger Kuhn and follow his work at the following links:    www.rogerkuhn.com  Instagram: @rkoughenr Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 12m
  4. Navigating Conscious Marketing with Tristan Katz

    10/28/2025

    Navigating Conscious Marketing with Tristan Katz

    Dr Alex Iantaffi talks with Tristan Katz about conscious marketing, social justice, and how to navigate the intersection of personal integrity and professional practices. They explore the complexities of marketing in the so-called “wellness space”, the importance of engaging in critical thinking, the responsibilities that come with online visibility, and the role of social media in shaping cultural narratives.   Tristan Katz (they/he) is a business consultant, conscious marketing strategist, and equity-inclusion facilitator with a lifelong commitment to human rights and justice. Tristan supports individuals and organizations in aligning their values with their messaging through an intersectional, anti-oppression lens. Tristan’s work centers authenticity, relationship, and accessibility, and they’ve collaborated with authors, educators, and cultural leaders as well as organizations like Stanford University, HubSpot, Portland Public Schools, and Port of Portland. Currently, Tristan serves as COO and Director of Programming at Fruition Growth Network. He is also a longtime yoga student, Yoga Journal game-changer (2021), and former board member of Accessible Yoga. At the core of everything Tristan offers is the belief that marketing can be a tool for connection, truth-telling, and cultural change—not just sales.  Find out more about Tristan and follow their work at the following links:    https://www.katz-creative.com/  https://instagram.com/tristankatzcreative  Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 8m
  5. Relationality in a F***ed Up World with Dean Spade

    10/15/2025

    Relationality in a F***ed Up World with Dean Spade

    Dr. Alex Iantaffi speaks with Dean Spade about his life-long work in queer and trans liberation, the challenges of writing about relationships, and the importance of emotional awareness and conflict resolution in relationships and movement building.   Dean Spade has been working in movements for queer and trans liberation, anti-militarism, and police and prison abolition for the past 25 years. He’s the author of Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law, and Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During This Crisis (and the Next) the director of the documentary “Pinkwashing Exposed: Seattle Fights Back!.” His new book is Love in a Fucked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up and Raise Hell Together, and he is the host of a new podcast with the same name.  Listen to Dean’s new podcast: https://www.deanspade.net/podcast/  Find out more about Dean and his work at the following links:   deanspade.net IG: @spade.dean X: @deanspade Facebook: Dean Spade Bluesky: deanspade.bsky.social Tiktok: @deanspade  Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 22m
  6. Radical Relating with Mel Cassidy

    09/23/2025

    Radical Relating with Mel Cassidy

    Dr. Alex Iantaffi talks with Mel Cassidy about relationships, non-monogamy, queerness, the power of somatic practices, and love on the path towards collective liberation.  Mel Cassidy is a somatic relationship coach committed to the path of liberatory love and rewilding intimacy. They specialize in working with queer and questioning humans (and those who love them) exploring post-monogamous relationships—with a focus on polyamory, solo polyamory, and relationship anarchy. They are of Irish, Greek, and Khorakhane Romani descent and have lived in 3 countries, across 3 continents. They currently live in British Columbia, Canada, and work with clients and students around the world. Their first book, Radical Relating, A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy, is published by North Atlantic Books. Find out more about Mel and their work at the following links:  Website: radicalrelating.ca Social Media: @radicalrelating on IG/FB/Substack/Insight Timer More on the Radical Relating Book:  www.radicalrelating.ca/book Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 5m
  7. How to Understand Your Relationships: A conversation with the authors Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi

    02/11/2025

    How to Understand Your Relationships: A conversation with the authors Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi

    'Profound and vulnerable. An essential gift for all of us that relate' - Anne Mauro What do we mean when we say 'relationship'? How do we separate our needs and desires from norms and expectations? How can we approach our relationships with mutuality, care and compassion? This down-to-earth guide is the ultimate companion for anybody who wants to examine their place in the world -- how we relate to ourselves, and others. With considerations of historical, cultural, and developmental contexts; explorations of relationship diversity as it manifests in queerness, the ace and aro spectrum, non-monogamy and neurodivergence ; and a look towards deeper, compassionate, interdependent ways to relate - this book will help people of all ages, backgrounds and identities explore their relational world. Order a copy of the Book: How to Understand Your Relationships: A Practical Guide Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

    1h 5m
  8. In Conversation with Anne Mauro

    11/25/2024

    In Conversation with Anne Mauro

    Anne Mauro (she/her) is a Licensed Couples and Family therapist, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapist (AASECT) certified sex therapist, sexuality educator, sex therapy supervisor, and American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) clinical supervisor. Her private practice is nestled in the interwebs on the unceded territory of the Coast Salish peoples in Washington State. She has two publications: More Than Ebony and Ivory: Complexities of sex therapy with interracial couples, can be found in An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy: Centering the lives of indigenous, racialized, and people of color and The Colonization of Black Sexualities: A clinical guide to relearning and healing. Anne is in continued service to the sexuality community by serving as the AASECT Western Representative to the nominating committee.     Links:  www.annemauro.com  https://www.routledge.com/The-Colonization-of-Black-Sexualities-A-Clinical-Guide-to-Relearning-and/Mauro/p/book/9781032233680 https://www.instagram.com/iamannemauro/ Instagram: GenderStories Hosted by Alex Iantaffi Music by Maxwell von Raven Gender Stories logo by Lior Effinger-Weintraub

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Every body has a relationship with gender... What's your story?In this podcast Alex Iantaffi, author of "How to Understand Your Gender: a practical guide for exploring who you are" will reflect on how gender impacts different areas of our lives, such as relationships, spirituality, parenting and more. They will have guests to explore these topics as well as reflect on their own experiences as a therapist, writer, educator and trans masculine, non-binary person (don't worry if you don't know what that means, there will be a podcast episode about terminology!). If you have a relevant topic you would like to talk about contact Alex at genderstoriespodcast@gmail.com They would love to chat with you and maybe invite you on the podcast!

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  • Creator
    Alex Iantaffi
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2025
  • Episodes
    89
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Gender Stories
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    Gender Stories

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