Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind

Corey Shapiro
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Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more. A podcast about one-sided divorce, for the spouse trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't. Hosted by Corey Shapiro, NYC divorce attorney and author of Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind.

  1. 2d ago

    Nobody explained how any of this works

    You are about to hand your case to a lawyer, and no one ever laid out how the system works. This is the scouting report, so you walk in knowing your job and who to trust with the rest. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    5 min

  2. Jun 25

    When It Doesn't Feel Like It's Working

    Somewhere in the middle, the work stops feeling like progress and starts feeling like nothing is changing. This is a pause to show you what already has. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    3 min

  3. Jun 18

    Reply Like a Judge Is Reading Every Word

    A last-minute request blows up your plans with the kids, and you have about ten seconds before you respond badly. Watch how to handle it in real time so the calm answer is also the smart one. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    8 min

  4. Jun 11

    When Being Reasonable Stops Working

    Being nice hasn't worked. Getting angry isn't who you are. There's a third way to respond, and one question gets you there. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    6 min

  5. Jun 4

    Stop Telling. Start Asking.

    When they tune you out, saying it louder won't get through. Step four of the CLEAR Method, and the one move that shifts a conversation from reactive to real. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    8 min

  6. May 28

    What to Say Instead of "That's Ridiculous"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 and you know it isn't really about the kids, your instinct is to push back. That instinct will cost you. Here's the move that actually works. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    7 min

  7. May 21

    Build Momentum Without Caving

    When you're dug in on the big issue and nothing's moving, the answer isn't to push harder. Find the smallest place you actually agree and start there. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    7 min

  8. May 14

    What to Say Instead of "Where Have You Been?"

    When your spouse demands 50/50 after years of barely parenting, the urge to set them straight is overwhelming. That instinct is the trap. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing yourself. In this kind of divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.  The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early, or jump to the phase you're in if you're already mid-divorce.  Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.  The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.org  New episodes Thursdays during the season.  Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.  For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

    8 min
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Every time you cooperate, they escalate. Every time you're fair, they take more. A podcast about one-sided divorce, for the spouse trying to be reasonable with someone who isn't. Hosted by Corey Shapiro, NYC divorce attorney and author of Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind.

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