Growing Yet Grown

Doyin & Simone
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Growing Yet Grown is a podcast hosted by two friends in their 30s. We explore the reality of growing after you’re already grown - careers evolving, relationships changing, money decisions getting heavier, identities shifting, and expectations colliding with real life. Each episode is a candid, thoughtful conversation about the choices and tensions that define modern adulthood - no easy answers, just honest reflection, lived experience, and practical insight. This podcast is for anyone who knows that adulthood isn’t a finish line - it’s a phase of continuous growth, questioning, and becoming.

Episodes

  1. Setting Healthy Boundary : Saying "No" Without Feeling Bad

    1d ago

    Setting Healthy Boundary : Saying "No" Without Feeling Bad

    "Is your inability to say 'no' to family expectations actually a sign that you haven't built your 'boundary muscle' yet?" In this episode of Growing Yet Grown, Doyin and Simone tackle one of the "spiciest" topics in African adulthood: how to set boundaries with the people who raised you, sacrificed for you, and still expect things from you that you can't always give. Growing up in a collectivist culture means we value community responsibility. But as we navigate life; those deep-rooted expectations can often feel like they’re in direct conflict with our personal growth. How do you hold gratitude for the sacrifices your parents made while advocating for your own values? "We love the 'village' that raised us, but what happens when the cost of community starts to bankrupt your mental and financial well-being?" Inside this conversation, we explore: Why setting boundaries is a skill that should start at a very young age and not when you’re already at a breaking point. How to differentiate between a "knee-jerk reaction" and a boundary rooted in your core principles. The art of "containing your help" and why you shouldn't start a financial commitment (like school fees or remittances) that you can't maintain in perpetuity. The Price of "No": Accepting the short-term discomfort and even the "terrible child" label, for the sake of a more honest, long-term relationship. Why you shouldn't be "more gingered" about someone else's survival or business than they are. #settingboundaries #familyboundaries #healthyboundaries

    35 min
  2. Your Relationship With Money Is Broken, Here's Why

    Jun 9

    Your Relationship With Money Is Broken, Here's Why

    65% of Americans are stressed about money and most of it starts way before adulthood. In this episode, Doyin and Simone discuss how our relationship with money is formed from childhood and why they quietly shape every financial decision we make as adults: including who we choose to marry, who we stay friends with, and how we handle money in our families. They break down: The 4 money personalities: avoider, over-controller, spender, and hoarder and how to spot yours How your first money memories wire your financial behaviour today Why financial transparency in marriage is non-negotiable and what happens when partners have clashing money personalities. Money mindsets worth unlearning Whether you grew up watching your parents fight about money, hide money, or never discuss it at all, this episode is how you improve your relationship with money.

    33 min
  3. Parenting Confessions: Here's Why We're Parenting Differently

    Jun 2

    Parenting Confessions: Here's Why We're Parenting Differently

    We were raised strict but with our own kids, we are parenting differently.  Today, 98% of millennial parents now talk to their kids about mental health, compared to just a fraction of their own parents. In this episode, We get into what it actually looks like raising black children in America  as millennial West African women. We discussed the difficulties we experienced in talking to kids about race and how our upbringing influences our parenting philosophies; From liberating ways to encourage confidence and open dialogue, to breaking free from fears we inherited. We also delve deeper into what gentle parenting is; why it’s hard and if we are for it or not.  This one is for every mom in diaspora, who’s figuring it out in real time, without a village, without a manual, and without anyone who truly gets the specific thing you're navigating.  We still don't have all the answers. In fact, we want yours. If you've raised older kids in the diaspora, we need your advice. Drop it in the comments.  #GentleParenting #BlackParenting #parentingpodcast

    47 min
  4. 56% of Adults Have No Will — Here's What That's Really Costing Them

    May 26

    56% of Adults Have No Will — Here's What That's Really Costing Them

    56% of adults in the US have no estate planning documents whatsoever. If that's you, this episode is the push you've been waiting for. In this eye-opening episode, We dive into the emotional and practical sides of estate planning, revealing why so many avoid it and how to start the process without feeling overwhelmed. This episode isn’t just for the wealthy, it’s for anyone who cares about their family’s future. If avoiding this conversation has left you feeling overwhelmed, this episode offers clarity and actionable tips to get started today. Whether you're just starting out or updating your plan, these insights will help you make empowered decisions and avoid costly mistakes.  This is the episode for every adult who knows they should have a will and keeps finding reasons not to. Tune in now for the simplest steps to start protecting what matters most.  *Note: This is not legal advice. Please consult a licensed estate planning attorney.*  #estateplanning #will  #guardianship #WillAndTrust #EstateplanningTips #ProtectYourFamily #WillPlanning

    31 min
  5. The New Reality of Modern Marriages - Breadwinner Wives, Stay-At-Home Dads & More

    May 20

    The New Reality of Modern Marriages - Breadwinner Wives, Stay-At-Home Dads & More

    Many women are now earning more than ever, and this is causing a shift in traditional marriage roles.  Even while this is  happening, so many couples still hold on to old expectations.  What happens when the breadwinner is the woman? And how do stay-at-home dads challenge the norms?  In this episode, We have an honest conversation about these dynamics in households, and how they are reshaping marriages today.  We delve deeper into decades-old stereotypes around gender, money, and power in marriage. From eye-opening data: 16% of US marriages now have women as the primary breadwinners, and stay-at-home dads are on the rise. We share personal stories, cultural expectations, and practical advice on how couples can adapt, communicate, and thrive in the evolving relationship landscape.  This episode emphasizes the opportunities this new dynamic opens, and the pitfalls to avoid. Whether you’re single and planning or married and want to lead a healthier, more flexible partnership, you’ll walk away with actionable insights and fresh perspectives.  Are you ready to redefine what marriage means in your life?  #ModernMarriage #BreadwinnerWife #StayAtHomeDad

    55 min
  6. Why Changing Your Mind on Important Decision Feels Similar to Failure

    May 13

    Why Changing Your Mind on Important Decision Feels Similar to Failure

    Most of us get stuck in feeling like changing our minds is a failure but what if it’s actually a sign of growth? In this episode, We explore why changing your mind isn’t weakness, but rather a powerful indicator that you’re learning, growing, and refining your understanding of what’s right for you. We explore the delicate balance of making bold decisions in marriage, navigating fears, and respecting the impact on loved ones. This episode is perfect if you’re at a crossroads: considering a career pivot, rethinking family plans, or simply wondering if you’ve lost your way. Whether you're a high-achiever or someone grappling with societal expectations, you'll leave motivated to see change as a sign of your resilience. It’s time to challenge the narrative around failure and discover how your evolving mind can lead to your most authentic life. Tune in and start seeing change as a stepping stone, not a setback.

    41 min
  7. The Surprising Truth About Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

    May 6

    The Surprising Truth About Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

    85% of working mothers left full-time employment within 3 years of having a baby — even though 98% of them said they wanted to go back. This is mostly Because the practical realities of motherhood from child care costs to work flexibility and societal expectations often make fulfilling career ambitions feel impossible.  In this eye-opening episode, we explore how organizations unintentionally sideline moms through inflexible policies, and how the absence of community and support can derail both career progress and personal well-being.  We also break down practical strategies for navigating the balancing act; from negotiating your return after maternity leave, to re-strategizing for promotions, and planning your career in seasons rather than all at once. This episode is important because the current system often overlooks the real costs of motherhood. From sleep deprivation, career gaps, societal judgments, and the financial burden of support. It is Perfect for working moms, aspiring parents, HR professionals, and anyone committed to reshaping the narrative around women, work, and family. If you’ve ever wondered how to thrive in your career while raising children or want to support someone on that journey, this episode will equip you with the mindset and tools to do just that.

    37 min
  8. Protecting Yourself Before Marriage: Prenups, Red Flags & Financial Protection

    Apr 29

    Protecting Yourself Before Marriage: Prenups, Red Flags & Financial Protection

    More women are realizing the power of financial protection before marriage and demanding prenups.  Simone and Doyin discuss the purpose of prenups, how they impact trust, and why more women are asking their partners to sign them even in cultures where the idea still feels taboo. We discuss how modern women are reshaping the story around marriage and money.  This episode is perfect for women in their 30s who are reevaluating what financial security means for their future. If you're ready to challenge old perceptions, educate yourself on navigating money conversations, or simply want to understand how to safeguard your assets without sacrificing love, this is your must-listen episode. Hit play now.

    36 min
  9. Why You Feel Behind in Life: Even When You're Doing Everything Right

    Apr 22

    Why You Feel Behind in Life: Even When You're Doing Everything Right

    Most of us are caught in the quiet storm of unmet expectations, making us feel like we're falling short despite all our efforts. If you're grappling with where you thought you'd be by now, this episode is your wake-up call.  In this episode, Doyin and Simone get honest about one of the most common but least talked about feelings among women in their 30s. They uncover startling research showing only 25% of women hit all four traditional milestones (career, marriage, home, children) while exploring why societal pressures often shape our self-worth more than our personal goals.  In this episode, you'll discover how to identify whether these expectations are self-imposed or inherited, and how to reframe them to fit your unique journey. Whether you're frustrated about career stagnation, timing around family, or simply feeling behind with honest insights and practical advice show you how to manage these feelings without guilt.

    30 min
  10. The Real Reasons Why We DON’T Talk About Money With Our Friends

    Apr 15

    The Real Reasons Why We DON’T Talk About Money With Our Friends

    Most people secretly struggle with discussing their income, yet they also miss out on valuable insights from friends who understand their financial realities. What if honesty about money could unlock better opportunities, deeper trust, and smarter decisions without judgment or shame? In this eye-opening episode, Simone and Doyin share personal stories, from Nigeria and Cameroon to the US, revealing why conversations about earnings are often viewed as taboo and how that costs us opportunities and growth. Don't let silence keep you from the opportunities and relationships you deserve. Hit play and start transforming your financial conversations today.

    25 min
  11. How to Actually Find Someone Worth Building With

    Mar 25

    How to Actually Find Someone Worth Building With

    In this season finale, we discuss the complexities of dating in today's world. Dating in your 30s feels harder than it should be. You have the career and some stability - But finding a serious relationship still feels impossible. We have an honest conversation about the challenges of modern dating, marriage, red flags, money, boundaries, dating apps, arranged marriages, and how to choose the right life partner. Because love isn’t just chemistry — it’s decisions, character, and alignment

    36 min
  12. Building Wealth - What ACTUALLY matters and what's HYPE?

    Mar 18

    Building Wealth - What ACTUALLY matters and what's HYPE?

    In this conversation, Doyin and Simone explore the multifaceted concept of building wealth, emphasizing the importance of financial freedom, flexibility, and the various strategies one can employ to achieve financial stability. They discuss the significance of understanding personal definitions of wealth, the impact of lifestyle choices, and the necessity of making informed financial decisions. The conversation also touches on the challenges of societal expectations, the role of time in wealth accumulation, and the importance of having honest discussions about financial responsibilities with family.   Chapters   00:00 Introduction to Wealth Building 02:27 Defining Wealth: Freedom and Flexibility 05:28 Strategies for Building Wealth Without Inheritance 08:23 Understanding the Concept of 'Enough' 11:47 Key Money Moves in Your 30s 14:30 Overrated Wealth Strategies: Home Ownership and Side Hustles 17:41 The Reality of Passive Income 20:25 Quiet Wealth Decisions: Marriage and Time 23:26 Balancing Family Obligations and Wealth Building 26:03 Starting from Zero: Advice for New Wealth Builders

    51 min
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Growing Yet Grown is a podcast hosted by two friends in their 30s. We explore the reality of growing after you’re already grown - careers evolving, relationships changing, money decisions getting heavier, identities shifting, and expectations colliding with real life. Each episode is a candid, thoughtful conversation about the choices and tensions that define modern adulthood - no easy answers, just honest reflection, lived experience, and practical insight. This podcast is for anyone who knows that adulthood isn’t a finish line - it’s a phase of continuous growth, questioning, and becoming.

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  • Creator
    Doyin & Simone
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    12
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