Gutter Wisdom

Priestess Francesca
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  • SEXUALITY

Gutter Wisdom is the podcast for the capable, complex human who followed the rules — and still wasn’t prepared for what happens when comfort falls apart. How you sex is how you live. If you’re compromised in the bedroom, you’re likely compromised everywhere else. A compromised sex life is a compromised life life. Hosted by Priestess Francesca, a professional Dominatrix, former HVAC engineer, and trauma-informed sexologist, this show dismantles the wall between your erotic life and your daily life. Born and raised in Brooklyn, Francesca spent over a decade living a double life: engineering HVAC systems for New York City skyscrapers by day, and commanding high-stakes scenes in the dungeon by night. From mechanical rooms to the erotic underground, she discovered that human beings operate just like the systems she engineered — if you ignore pressure valves and hidden friction points, eventually, the whole thing blows. That’s why we don’t do goddess platitudes or dry clinical lectures. We use sexuality as the ultimate diagnostic lens to examine the mechanics of your life. We take the skills required in the dark (negotiation, sensation, boundaries, and surrender) and engineer them into protocols you’re gunna wanna carry with you everywhere. Because let’s be honest: everything is harder when you’re naked. And if you can learn to hold your ground and stay present during an intense scene in the bedroom, the boardroom doesn’t stand a chance. Expect episodes on: Somatic literacy (and why “regulating” your nervous system is often just a fancy way to bypass your feelings)The psychology of kink, power dynamics, and BDSMNavigating trauma, shadow, and desire without the fluffReal-world stories from the construction site to the dungeon to the C-suite It’s time to stop performing and start living. It’s time to engineer your liberation. Start here: Discover your erotic baseline by taking the Engineering Hotness Quiz: https://www.priestessfrancesca.com/quiz

Episodes

  1. 8H AGO

    Red Flags That Feel Like Belonging

    In this episode of Gutter Wisdom, Priestess Francesca and Brittany Wittig continue the Safety Briefing series by naming the red flags that most people miss — not because they’re naïve, but because these dynamics are engineered to feel affirming, intimate, and special. This conversation examines how power closes relationally, long before it ever becomes overtly abusive. From leaders taking credit for spiritual experiences, to human-controlled “initiations,” to the subtle construction of dependency through endless containers — this episode breaks down how cult dynamics and spiritual exploitation actually form. And once you see the mechanics, you can’t unsee it. Why the most dangerous red flags don’t feel dangerousHow leaders subtly take credit for your spiritual experiencesThe litmus test for whether a guide is giving you your power backPride vs divine pride in spiritual leadershipThe “hairline fracture” that precedes major abuse of powerReal-world case studies: John of God, OneTaste, and cult dynamicsWhy controlled initiations are a major warning signHow retreats and healing spaces get mistaken for “the initiation”Why leaders should want you to graduate — not stay foreverThe danger of signal-boosting pearls without examining the container01:10 — The Red Flags People Miss Affirmation, specialness, and relational seduction 02:05 — Taking Credit for Spiritual Experiences The pride trap most leaders fall into 03:55 — The Litmus Test for Power Transfer Do the gifts remain when the guide leaves? 04:35 — Pride vs Divine Pride What leaders get to take credit for — and what they don’t 06:55 — Case Study: John of God From humility to God complex to abuse 08:50 — The Hairline Fracture How small misalignments compound into massive harm 09:55 — Controlled Initiations Why human-managed enlightenment is a red flag 11:45 — Retreats Aren’t the Initiation Why life delivers the real initiations 13:55 — Kink, Sexuality & False Prescriptions Why desire initiates — not the practitioner 15:50 — Case Study: OneTaste Sexual initiation, power, and institutional harm 18:50 — Signal Boosting Without Discernment Why resonance alone is not enough 21:15 — The Antidote Leaders who want you to graduate This episode builds directly on Episode 2, moving from why people are vulnerable to spiritual authority into how exploitation quietly takes shape. If EP2 helped you understand the conditions, EP3 helps you recognize the pattern while you’re inside it. As you listen, notice: Whether power is being handed back or subtly retainedWhether the container points you toward life or back toward itselfWhether there’s always “one more level” you need to accessBefore continuing this series, check your own system. The Engineering Hotness Quiz helps you assess how you respond to authority, where discernment holds (and where it collapses), and whether your internal alarm system is online.  Take the quiz here: 👉 PriestessFrancesca.com/Quiz Brittany Wittig is a trusted colleague and collaborator of Priestess Francesca, known for her grounded approach to leadership, ethics, and trauma-informed practice in spiritual and relational spaces.

    24 min

  2. 8H AGO

    Why We Hand Power Away When We’re Looking for Meaning

    In this episode of Gutter Wisdom, Priestess Francesca is joined by trusted colleague Brittany Wittig to begin dismantling the Spiritual Industrial Complex — not by shaming seekers, but by naming the real mechanism underneath it: hunger. This conversation isn’t about gullibility or intelligence. It’s about what happens when collective trauma, grief, and loss collide with unexamined authority — and how that collision makes otherwise capable people vulnerable to manipulation, cult dynamics, and predatory “healing” spaces. Together, Francesca and Brittany trace the historical cycles of spiritual movements during times of crisis, unpack why exploitative leaders often don’t start out intending harm, and name the early hairline fractures where integrity quietly slips. This is the beginning of the Safety Briefing series and is designed to be listened to in order.  What You’ll Hear in This Episode: Why spikes in spirituality always follow collective traumaHow hunger for meaning gets mistaken for awakeningThe historical rise of spiritual movements during war, pandemics, and social upheavalWhy exploitation so often hides inside resonanceThe concept of “the pearl wrapped in shit”How cult dynamics emerge without malicious intentWhy denying your own capacity for harm makes you more dangerousThe difference between pride and divine pride in leadershipHow subtle misalignment compounds into massive harm over time00:00 — Welcome to the Safety Briefing Why this series exists and why it matters now 02:20 — Why Everyone’s Suddenly “Spiritual” Collective trauma, grief, and the hunger for meaning 04:45 — A Short History of Spiritual Exploitation Civil War, WWI, Vietnam, COVID — and the predictable cycles 07:00 — The Pearl Wrapped in Shit Why resonance is not proof of integrity 09:20 — Scientology & the New Age Echo Chamber Tracing modern spiritual language back to its roots 11:30 — Leadership, Responsibility, and Cult Formation Why most cult leaders don’t set out to create cults 13:55 — Training Yourself to Hold Power Why Francesca paused teaching to study cult dynamics 16:10 — The Hairline Fracture How small deviations from integrity compound over time 18:40 — Pride vs Divine Pride Where authority goes wrong — and how to stay accountable This episode lays the foundation for Episodes 3–5 by naming the conditions that make people vulnerable to unhealthy authority: Episode 3: Red Flags of Spiritual Authority (That Don’t Look Like Red Flags)Episode 4: When Healing Becomes a HustleEpisode 5: Who Gets to Hold Power (And Why It Matters)If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t understand how people fall for this,” — this episode is your answer. Listener Reflection  Where you’ve felt hungry for meaning, belonging, or clarityWhere resonance may have overridden discernmentWhere authority felt comforting instead of earnedBefore moving deeper into this series, it’s worth checking your own internal alarm system. The Engineering Hotness Quiz helps you identify: Where your system holds under pressureWhere discernment collapsesHow authority actually lands in your bodyTake the quiz at:   👉 PriestessFrancesca.com/Quiz Brittany Wittig is a trusted colleague and collaborator of Priestess Francesca, known for her grounded approach to leadership, healing, and integrity in spiritual guidance.

    20 min

  3. 5D AGO

    From HVAC to High Protocol: The Gutter Wisdom Manifesto

    This is not a pivot story.   It’s a systems story.   In this opening episode of Gutter Wisdom, Priestess Francesca breaks down the unlikely (and inevitable) throughline between engineering HVAC systems for New York City skyscrapers and running high-stakes scenes in the dungeon. Because whether you’re negotiating airflow on the 40th floor or consent in a hotel suite, the mechanics are the same: pressure, power, and what happens when the container fails. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why the basement (the Mechanical Room) is where real control actually livesHow compartmentalization keeps high-functioning people stuck on the “40th floor”What the dungeon teaches about negotiation, ego, and unspoken vulnerabilitiesWhy the spiritual and healing industries often prey on people who are hungry for changeHow to spot the hustle before you get sold a three-dollar insight for twelve thousand dollarsThis episode also sets up the first mini-series of Gutter Wisdom:  A four-part deep dive into the Spiritual Industrial Complex, cult dynamics, and how smart, successful people get manipulated when they’re looking for answers. Before we go any further, consider this your orientation. If your life feels broken, you don’t fix it on the 40th floor.   You go down into the Mechanical Room.   Into the shadow.   Into the gutter.   That’s where the controls are. Start Here If you want to know where pressure is leaking in your system (and whether you’re operating from the surface or the basement) take the Engineering Hotness Quiz. 👉 https://www.priestessfrancesca.com/quiz

    6 min

  4. TRAILER

    Get Your Mind in the Gutter (Trailer)

    They tell you to get your mind out of the gutter. But what if that’s exactly where the truth lives? Gutter Wisdom is the podcast for the capable, complex human who followed the rules — and still wasn’t prepared for what happens when comfort falls apart. Hosted by Priestess Francesca. A professional Dominatrix, former HVAC engineer, and trauma-informed sexologist. This show dismantles the wall between your erotic life and your life. We don’t do goddess platitudes or spiritual bypassing. And we don’t offer tidy answers or healing fantasies. Instead, we use sexuality as the ultimate diagnostic lens; a way to examine pressure, power, desire, and what actually holds when things get intense. Because whether you’re in the bedroom, the boardroom, or standing on a subway platform at rush hour, the mechanics are the same: If you ignore the friction… If you suppress the pressure… Eventually, the whole thing blows. Expect episodes on: Somatic literacy (and why “regulation” is often just a polite way to avoid what you’re feeling)The psychology of kink, power dynamics, and BDSM as real-world skill setsNavigating trauma, shadow, and desire without the fluff or false safetyUnfiltered stories from the dungeon to everyday life, served with a side of Brooklyn gritFind Your Baseline Before the first protocol drops, discover your erotic baseline and see exactly where pressure is leaking in your system. 👉 Take the Engineering Hotness Quiz PriestessfrancescaQuiz — priestess francesca

    3 min

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About

Gutter Wisdom is the podcast for the capable, complex human who followed the rules — and still wasn’t prepared for what happens when comfort falls apart. How you sex is how you live. If you’re compromised in the bedroom, you’re likely compromised everywhere else. A compromised sex life is a compromised life life. Hosted by Priestess Francesca, a professional Dominatrix, former HVAC engineer, and trauma-informed sexologist, this show dismantles the wall between your erotic life and your daily life. Born and raised in Brooklyn, Francesca spent over a decade living a double life: engineering HVAC systems for New York City skyscrapers by day, and commanding high-stakes scenes in the dungeon by night. From mechanical rooms to the erotic underground, she discovered that human beings operate just like the systems she engineered — if you ignore pressure valves and hidden friction points, eventually, the whole thing blows. That’s why we don’t do goddess platitudes or dry clinical lectures. We use sexuality as the ultimate diagnostic lens to examine the mechanics of your life. We take the skills required in the dark (negotiation, sensation, boundaries, and surrender) and engineer them into protocols you’re gunna wanna carry with you everywhere. Because let’s be honest: everything is harder when you’re naked. And if you can learn to hold your ground and stay present during an intense scene in the bedroom, the boardroom doesn’t stand a chance. Expect episodes on: Somatic literacy (and why “regulating” your nervous system is often just a fancy way to bypass your feelings)The psychology of kink, power dynamics, and BDSMNavigating trauma, shadow, and desire without the fluffReal-world stories from the construction site to the dungeon to the C-suite It’s time to stop performing and start living. It’s time to engineer your liberation. Start here: Discover your erotic baseline by taking the Engineering Hotness Quiz: https://www.priestessfrancesca.com/quiz

Information

  • Creator
    Priestess Francesca
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    4
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Gutter Wisdom
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