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1d ago

Starting from Hope

Can you judge less the specific choices you have than the fact you have choices? Can you worry less about what you achieved than what you learned? Can you find a place to call home and live in it even when it isn’t perfect? In short, can you start from hope not regret? Humans in general, and I in particular, are creatures of judgment. We are constantly evaluating. All animals I suppose do so, and those who do it well, tend to survive better than those who are oblivious. However, sometimes, we evaluate too much. We forget the many choices we have in favor of assessing whether they are good enough. We sometimes make the perfect the enemy of the good. People say you should run to things and not away from them. But, at least for me, you don’t want to run to things because it locks in the end point. Rather, we need to accept change and proceed from the premise that the path is ours to choose. Not every path of course, the world makes some paths available and we decide others are not for us. But if we start from hope, the choice tends to be less about which path leads to the goal and more about which path gives me choices that are appealing. As you read this I wonder: * Do you fully appreciate the choices you have in front of you? * Can you resist the temptation to compare what you have to what you want? * Can you look ahead and see opportunity, not use the future to try to make up for the past? Many of us are our own harshest critics. As we start the week, can we make a choice, even if it’s the choice to stay where we are. There is hope in every path. There is learning in every path. What more do we need? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
4d ago

It's all downhill

Do you feel the acceleration of growth that comes from true partnership? Do you see the risk taking that is enabled by safety? Do you know the freedom that comes from unconditionality? Can you know that all of these things are there for you and use them to continue to find joy? So we close this week with an intention written months later, but coming back to the same theme. When I choose to believe in my key connections, that they are truly unconditional, life is all downhill. It’s easy. There is flow and movement and growth. But believing is a choice, and it’s not a choice you need to make once. It’s a choice you need to make in each day, sometimes in each moment. But I do believe that the path to joy flows through belief in these connections, in letting them flow into you, through you, and into the world around you. As you read this I wonder: * When was the last time you experienced the growth that can come from a true connection? * What would it take for you to make the active choice to believe? * Whatever that is, can you be willing to ask for it? There’s probably nothing more frightening than being the first person to ask the question, about whether the other person senses what you sense. But, someone has to. And far more often than not, the answer is yes. And so, as we close out the week, can you be a little bit closer to making the ask? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
6d ago

Outside of Time

Can you not be deterred by distance, neither time nor space? Can you know that the ties that connect souls exist in their own dimension? Can you feel those ties more strongly in moments of absence and flow them back to where your heart belongs? Today’s post connects strongly to Monday’s even though I didn’t write them sequentially but roughly 2 weeks apart. Those rare connections that exist are not bound by time nor by space. They exist outside of the normal constraints we think about when we think about relationships. People talk about this from time to time. Even though it’s been years, it feels like it was just yesterday. Or it’s almost the same talking to you on the phone as in person. Those are manifestations of what I’m talking about here but it’s also something different. The right connection is a constant flow of energy. Yes, it requires some tending but far less than you’d imagine. As you read this I wonder: * Who are the people with whom you exist outside of space and time? * Have you pondered what it would mean to admit to yourself and to them that your souls are connected? * Can you see the connection in your quiet places and let it sustain you? This arc is a long journey for me. I still have my doubts. I still feel conditionality in almost every connection as if the wrong act will cause it to be cut off. But this week, can we all have a bit more faith in the universe and in those with whom we so strongly resonate? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Aug 3

Lifting You Higher

Can you focus on your deepest connections? On the ones that reach into your center and lift you higher? Can you feed energy to them? Can you feel it return to you, not as an exchange but simply because the other person wants to feed you as much as you want to feed them? Can you recognize how rare that is and know you are a part of it, that you are a part of true love? One of the things I’ve come to believe in life is that certain connections we have are qualitatively different than the rest. It’s not about love per se, it’s about the strength of the connection, about how purely energy flows from one side of it to the other. When you encounter the right person, it’s an endless loop of energy flowing back and forth. But the right people are rare. And I think we sometimes miss them because we don’t see the energy in motion. We feel it in moments where it happens, if we are paying attention; but, because there is no visible sign, it can slip by us. I’m very conscious these days of those people in my life and I truly give thanks for them every day. As you read this I wonder: * Have you felt the difference between connections, those that are special versus those that are more normal? * Do you consciously feed energy where it returns to you? * Have you told just one of those people what they mean to you? When I wrote this, I wrote the word true love. Maybe that’s right in a certain sense, but the love I mean here is different than the way true love is often used. As you start the week, can you give thanks, in your mind and in your words, for those who flow energy back to you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Jul 31

What is Feeling?

Can you see that feeling is not giving names to sensations? Can you find the points of connection, what holds you safe in the rushing river? Can you flow with the current? What you sense in the middle of it all and tethered to love, that is feeling.I think I’ve mentioned that few of these intentions are recent, meaning most were published long after I wrote them. This one is very recent, I’m writing this post two days after that intention. It hit me that hard, and, having this outlet, I wanted to share. Think of feeling as a raging river. Most of the time, we sit on the bank and dip our toe in the water. That's not feeling, that's sensing. Every once in a while we hurl ourselves into the middle of the river and because we are untethered, we tumble and get lost. So true feeling requires not only the willingness to go into the middle of the river but a tether to keep us safely there while the water rushes by.What is the tether then that allows us to feel? My best answer is love, but a special kind of love. A love that allows you to be a mess without explaining. A love that lets you stay silent until you are ready. A love that seeks to stabilize you without directing you. A love that is unconditional. A high bar indeed which is, I think, why most of us spend most of our time on the banks of the river. I’m not going to give you the standard questions today because what I really want you to sit with is this. Is that love with you? Or is something close to it? How far into the river can you wade today and still feel safe? As we close the week, can you try taking one step further out? You’re safe. And if not, simply step back. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Jul 29

From Behind the Walls

Where is your heart today? Can you bring it out from behind the walls, can you open it up to the world, can you reach across the ravines that separate you? Can you accept that pain is coming and know that the joy you create and live will swamp it? Can you be the love you want to see? If there is one thing in life that I know intimately, it’s walls. I’ve built them so many times and in so many ways, both consciously and unconsciously. Mostly they were designed to keep me safe, often from myself. Even when I thought they were to keep others out, they were mostly to keep me in, to keep me from seeing too clearly. The strongest walls are not the walls of behavior, they are the walls made by stories. Because behavior is easy to change. Stories remain. We fit observations to them. We connect our feelings to them. They control our internal dialogue and sometimes our external dialogue as well. And a full throated assault rarely changes a wall or a story, but love, given and received, can slowly unwind them if we give it time.As you read this I wonder: * How do you bring your heart more into the open and show it to others? * Can you allow love to slowly undermine your walls? * Can you have faith that doing so will create more joy than pain, even if the pain comes first? The hardest thing about our walls is they are there because at least at one moment in time, they served us. This week, can you remove a single brick and let your light shine forth? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Jul 27

Beneath the Water

Can you sink deeper today? Can you acknowledge things you normally ignore and recognize that they are part of you and are just as worthy of notice as the things you focus on every day? We spend so much time at the surface of our lives. Sometimes it’s because we simply don’t have time to get deeper. Other times, it’s because we cannot fully explore without someone and there is nobody by our side to help. And still other times, we are resistant to what we know lies beneath. Of the three, I think the second is the hardest. The first is transitory and the third a matter of will but the second is relational and not fully within our control.Often the things beneath are uncomfortable. They are unfamiliar. They may even be frightening. But they are part of us. In fact, they are a bigger part of us than we imagine because I believe change, real change, almost always happens beneath before it reaches the surface. And we know it’s there before we name it and that can create tension as well. As you read this I wonder: * What is one thing beneath the surface that you can acknowledge today? * Can you look below periodically and try to stay ahead of what you are becoming? * Can what you find be a source of wonder, even when it is not who you wish you were? What’s below is as real as what is at the surface. As you begin the week, can you be willing to wade a little deeper and see what you find? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com
Jul 24

One More Step

Can you feel the path that lies before you? Can you keep your eyes on the path rather than the distractions that are off it? Can you keep your mind on the next step rather than the destination? Can you let your soul lead you to the place the universe has prepared for you? Sometimes I return to these and I wonder about my word choice. The juxtaposition of feeling, seeing, and being led. Three different ways to progress. While they are related, they are different. Seeing is concrete, feeling is less so and being led requires neither feeling nor seeing but something between trust and surrender. Of the three, I’m the most comfortable with seeing. I want to know what is in front of me and strategize about how to make it better. That requires more than feeling or being led. But I’m learning that much of what I see is illusory or conditional. I see a lot less than I think I do. Feeling my way forward is uncomfortable but in some ways, I have more faith in what I feel than what I see. As you read this I wonder: * Are you seeing, feeling, or being led today? Why is that? * Can you allow yourself to continue in the face of distraction, to not let what happens around you always change what happens within you? * Can you trust yourself or another enough to be led in peace? Being led is the hardest. For me at least, it’s hard to trust myself enough to lead without assessment. Oddly, there are people around me I trust more than myself, maybe not to see but to feel or to lead. This week, can you connect more closely with yourself and with others so that you have more faith in what you feel and see? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit aconstantbecoming.substack.com

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