Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher Marshall Burtcher

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your Pain

Resistance to pain is often vilified. It is seen as a block, a problem, a thing to solve.  It becomes the problem, the hindrance that is preventing your healing and success!

What if resistance was a teacher?  What if it was a protector?  What if it was a signal for the need for more safety?

Discover how resistance is an ally in your healing and not a problem to solve in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com




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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

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End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" Practice

We fix, pursue, chase and try to create healing.  We are stuck in transactional relationships with our healing, ourselves, and others.  Often in an effort to have worth and feel lovable.  

This is the trap of transactional love.

Let's start breaking of this with the approach of loving ourselves anyway.  Learn how in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com


 

Real Healing vs Transactional Healing

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Watch after checking with your capacity and availability for hearing information that can be confronting.

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Often, we get into the healing work in order to try to fix, prevent, or cause something else to happen.  This fast becomes a trap, as we start expecting specific results from our efforts.  When those do not materialize, we get angry with our emotions, our efforts, ourselves, or others.

It leads to a sense of defeat, frustration, and seeking different "instant healing" solutions.

This is transactional healing.

To really heal, we must identify and interrupt this habit and begin practicing real healing.

Learn how in this episode!


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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: Warmly Welcome Emotions

Today we will practice welcoming emotions warmly and what to watch out for.

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To Fix

The rush to forgive is a rush to fix. This is the fawn impulse driving us to regulate our distress and discomfort with their feelings, as well as try to prevent more harm happening by rescinding the accountability the other person inherited with their behaviors.   

Learn how I address this and help nurture more safety and personal allyship to my emotions and experience in today's episode.

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]

This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts.  

I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.

Specifically, you will learn:

1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing

2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness

3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoy

You will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings.  These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.

Here are the workshop details:

Date: April 26, 2023

Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)

Investment: Free

Replay Availability:  The replay will be available April 27, 2023

Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Are You Ultra-Independent?

Do you say, "I don't need anyone!"

You are in a trap.  The trap called "counter-dependence".

Counter-dependence develops as a reaction to the enmeshment experience of codependency. 

For many, enmeshment and connection are confused with each other.  The deep sense of being highly close or engulfed by another feels intense.  It is often draining, overwhelming, scary, with moments of ecstacy and euphoria. It can be very, very painful.

They give everything to the relationship, believing that is was is required, and that it will be reciprocated.  "This is what love does!"

Then that is betrayed, discarded, or goes unrecognized.  This ends up hurting them deeply emotionally and relationally, and often financially.  They may lose everything they've built and be left exposed, unprepared, and dealing with big challenges.

This can motivate a person to move towards never "needing anyone" or "depending on anyone". This is a means to safety, to control, and to protection of one's self from the big harm and loss they've experienced.

The person becomes very empowered financially and materially.  They also isolate socially and emotionally, keeping opportunities at arm's length and avoiding vulnerability and connection.

This is a trap, as we are left starving for emotional, physical, social, and psychological connection.

Learn how to identify this trap and how to get out of it in today's episode!

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Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com


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Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

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[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts March 12, 2023]

This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:

- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work
- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"
- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healing

There are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:

- Safety
- Sanity
- Personal Sovereignty
- Trust Yourself
- Know Yourself
- Love Yourself
- Be Yourself
- Share Yourself

I will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".

This includes:

- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care
- Capacity & Emotional Care
- Foundations of Personal Power
- Foundations of Self-Trust
- Fantasy and Reality
- Foundations of Worth
- Foundations of Knowing Yourself
- Detecting Safe People & Buliding Resources

These eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.

You'll be empowered to create these results because:

- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality
- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions
- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself
- You'll be discovering your real worth
- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others
- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe people

Students that have learned these skills report:

- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves
- More confiden