You are alone with a kind of emotional pain that feels like a kind of despair you cannot put into words. The partner left the room, or stopped texting back, or came back with coffee and an apology that closed the conversation before the work could begin, or did everything "right" and somehow you still feel like you are a freak and alone in the middle of the afternoon, with no plan about what to do next. In this episode I name why the loop of waiting for another human to do what only you can do is not a failure of partnership but a misattribution of the source of the distress, why the cultural binary of your fault or theirs keeps the work from beginning, and what becomes available the moment you understand that being responsible for your distress is not the same as being to blame for it. We walk through three moments where this pattern shows up — the unanswered text, the kiss-and-make-up morning, the partner who is doing everything right — and what the lens does to each one. This episode is for you if you have ever said to yourself, "if they loved me right, this wouldn't hurt this much." When You're Ready CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop Three days, seven people, live on Zoom. You'll leave with a clear, personalized map for your CPTSD Resolution. Offered twice a year in February and September. https://cptsdmedicine.com/weekendworkshop Happily Ever After — The All-Inclusive CPTSD Resolution Experience Six months of close-proximity training with me. Application required. https://cptsdmedicine.com/services About Dr. Tanner Wallace Tanner Wallace, PhD and Level 3 IFS Practitioner, is the founder of CPTSD Medicine and the author of the CPTSD Medicine Healing Protocol, a proprietary applied mental health training curriculum that teaches HouseHolder CycleBreakers to resolve complex relational trauma at the root. A former tenured professor of health and human development, she left academia to build the services she could not find as a childhood trauma survivor diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder: a structured six-month container that trains humans to become their own best intervention scientists. Inside her signature container, Happily Ever After, she works with a small number of students to resolve, not manage, their CPTSD. About the Podcast _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Heal First, Then Pick Your Life Partner is for high-functioning adults with complex trauma who are tired of repeating painful relationship patterns. If you perform well professionally but struggle intensely in your closest relationships, this podcast helps you see why. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Each episode takes an ordinary moment of adult life — attending a family wedding, going through old photographs, ending a relationship, writing a holiday card, having a hard conversation with someone you love — and shows you what's actually happening underneath it through the lens of complex trauma. You'll hear my take on the lived experience of CPTSD, drawn from five years of building a proprietary trauma resolution curriculum and from my own work as a survivor who no longer qualifies for the diagnoses I once did. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> This is diagnostic, declarative, and unlike anything else in the CPTSD space. Hosted by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD, founder of CPTSD Medicine.
