Help Them Bloom

Evelyn Mendal

Welcome to your home away from home for parenting support. As a child and parenting expert, I'm here to chat about all things child development, mental health (both parent and child’s), and parenting strategies based on science and preserving our critical human connection to our children.

  1. 47. Friendship in Your 30s & 40s: The Real Talk We Needed as Moms

    6D AGO

    47. Friendship in Your 30s & 40s: The Real Talk We Needed as Moms

    What if friendship isn’t meant to look the same in every season of your life? In this deeply honest and affirming episode of Help Them Bloom, host Evelyn Mendal sits down with Rebecca Smith, founder of Mamala Organics, for a powerful conversation about adult friendship, motherhood, identity, and the invisible emotional labor women carry – especially after becoming moms. From postpartum isolation and “playdate friendships” to soul-level connections and modeling healthy relationships for our children, this episode explores why not every friend can meet every need – and why that realization can be incredibly freeing. Friendships exist for reasons, seasons, and lifetimes. Together, Evelyn and Rebecca unpack how women can release guilt, comparison, and unrealistic expectations – and instead build intentional, values-aligned friendships that support who we are now. This episode is for any woman who has ever thought: “Why do friendships feel harder now?” “Is something wrong with me?” “Will I ever find my people again?” ✨ Spoiler: You will. About the Guest: https://linkin.bio/mamala Rebecca Smith is the founder of Mamala Organics, a line of organic, functional support snacks created to nourish women through postpartum healing and beyond—because women deserve food that supports their bodies, not just their kids’. Learn more about Mamala Organics: https://www.mamalaorganics.com/ Follow Mamala Organics: https://www.instagram.com/mamala_organics Chapters:  00:00 Setting the stage: friendship, motherhood & seasons of life 08:55 Introducing Rebecca Smith, Founder of Mamala Organics 011:45 Why adult friendships feel different after becoming a mom 12:45 The isolation of early motherhood & misaligned life timing 14:20 Can you really make lifelong friends later in life? 16:45 Releasing disappointment & categorizing friendships by purpose 17:15 Seeking value-aligned friendships intentionally 19:30 “Your partner can’t be everything” — redefining emotional support 21:30 Letting friendships ebb and flow without guilt 24:10 The power of women’s circles & intentional female community 25:45 Choosing the right energy around your kids 26:35 How adult friendships shape children’s social blueprints 31:15 Belonging vs. authenticity (for kids and adults) 32:30 Preparing kids for social challenges at every age 35:15 Mamala Organics: postpartum nourishment & food as medicine Subscribe to Help Them Bloom:  Follow us on Instagram: @hatchandbloomco instagram.com/hatchandbloomco  Visit our website: https://www.hatchandbloom.co/ Produced by Haynow Media: https://haynowmedia.com/

    30 min
  2. 46. Transform Your Parenting by Healing Yourself First & Breaking Generational Patterns | Andrea Paola

    12/16/2025

    46. Transform Your Parenting by Healing Yourself First & Breaking Generational Patterns | Andrea Paola

    What if the hardest parts of parenting have nothing to do with your kids—and everything to do with what you carry? Andrea Paola, psychologist and parent coach reveals why modern parenting feels so overwhelming—and what’s actually underneath the guilt, burnout, and emotional triggers so many of us experience. Andrea opens up about her personal journey through intergenerational trauma, family constellations, inner child work, and breaking the patterns she inherited—especially after becoming a mother to her daughter, Violeta. In this episode of Help Them Bloom with Evelyn Mendal, you'll learn:  - Why parenting activates our deepest wounds - How our 0–6 childhood years shape everything - Why “mom guilt” is so universal - What family constellations revealed about Andrea’s past - How to stop parenting from the wounded child within - How curiosity—not perfection—creates healing - Why true parenting transformation starts with us, not our kids Learn more about Andrea's work: https://linktr.ee/iamandreapaola?utm_source=linktree_profile_share Timestamps: 00:00 The Reality of Parenting 02:38 Generational Patterns and Their Impact 05:28 Family Constellations: A Path to Healing 08:13 The Inner Child and Parenting Dynamics 11:10 Navigating Fear and Anxiety in Parenting 14:07 Creating Safe Spaces for Children 16:55 The Journey of Self-Discovery 19:43 Building New Family Dynamics 22:46 Choosing What to Carry Forward 25:38 Empathy and Connection in Parenting Subscribe to Help Them Bloom:  Follow us on Instagram: @hatchandbloomco instagram.com/hatchandbloomco  Visit our website: https://www.hatchandbloom.co/ Produced by Haynow Media: https://haynowmedia.com/

    35 min
  3. 45. Are You and Your Partner Parenting Opposites? | Jordanne Sculler, LMHC

    12/02/2025

    45. Are You and Your Partner Parenting Opposites? | Jordanne Sculler, LMHC

    What if the real tension in your relationship isn’t actually about parenting—but about the ache of feeling unheard, unseen, and misunderstood? Jordanne Sculler, Psychotherapist at Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, unpacks the complex emotional undercurrents that surface the moment children enter a relationship. She explores how unresolved histories, mismatched communication styles, and old attachment patterns quietly shape the way partners navigate parenthood. A specialist in relationship work and couples therapy, Jordanne helps partners truly understand one another, communicate with clarity and intention, and rebuild emotional connection—especially during the early parenting years when life feels especially chaotic, triggering, and unfamiliar. If you’re overwhelmed by sleep struggles, discipline differences, mental load imbalance, fading intimacy, or a painful sense of disconnect, this episode offers the insight, tools, and validation you need to begin finding your way back to each other. In this episode of Help Them Bloom with Evelyn Mendal, you’ll learn:  - Why parenting exposes differences in upbringing and values - What really happens when partners have opposite parenting styles - The co-sleeping debate: a real client example broken down - How to communicate without getting defensive - The Imago technique for actually hearing each other - Why curiosity is the most underrated relationship skill - How to find alignment—not sameness—in how you raise your kids - And why no one is prepared for the transformation that comes with becoming a parent Learn more about Jordanne's practice: https://www.jordannescullerlmhc.com/ Follow Jordanne on social: https://www.instagram.com/jordannesculler/ Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics 01:52 Navigating Parenting Styles in Relationships 05:34 The Importance of Communication and Understanding 11:19 Finding Common Ground in Parenting 16:50 Respecting Each Other's Parenting Approaches 18:50 Navigating Parental Dynamics 20:41 The Impact of Arguments on Children 25:26 Fostering Connection Post-Children 33:30 Deepening Relationship Through Curiosity Subscribe to Help Them Bloom:  Follow us on Instagram: @hatchandbloomco instagram.com/hatchandbloomco  Visit our website: https://www.hatchandbloom.co/ Produced by Haynow Media: https://haynowmedia.com/

    38 min
  4. 44. Tween to Teen: What’s Really Happening in Their Brain? | Kirsten Cobabe

    11/24/2025

    44. Tween to Teen: What’s Really Happening in Their Brain? | Kirsten Cobabe

    If your sweet, easygoing child is suddenly rolling their eyes, pushing boundaries, or questioning everything… you are NOT alone. Kirsten Cobabe — former therapist, parent coach, and the internet’s beloved Teen Whisperer — joins Help The Bloom with Evelyn Mendal to unpack one of the biggest developmental shifts your child will ever go through: the transition from childhood into the tween and teen years. Evelyn also opens up about her own 10‑year‑old entering this new territory — and the fears, unknowns, and “against the system” pressures so many modern parents face. Kirsten drops truth bombs about: - Why your tween suddenly sees you differently - What’s really happening in their brain (hint: it’s not “just hormones”) - Individuation — why pushing back is healthy - How to stay connected even when the attitude shows up - Why authenticity matters more than perfection - How parents can support teens in a world obsessed with performance, grades, and achievement - The identity crisis that begins as early as 9–10 years old - How to preserve the most important thing of all: your relationship Follow Kirsten on Instagram: @kirstencobabe https://www.instagram.com/kirstencobabe/?hl=en Learn about Parenting Wave:  https://www.instagram.com/parentingwave/?hl=en https://www.parentingwave.com/ Subscribe to Help Them Bloom:  Follow us on Instagram: @hatchandbloomco instagram.com/hatchandbloomco  Visit our website: https://www.hatchandbloom.co/ Produced by Haynow Media: https://haynowmedia.com/

    39 min
  5. 43. Why Is Potty Training So Stressful for Parents? Real Talk & Game-Changing Solutions

    11/11/2025

    43. Why Is Potty Training So Stressful for Parents? Real Talk & Game-Changing Solutions

    Why does potty training feel like the ultimate parenting stress test? In this episode of Help Them Bloom, host Evelyn Mendal, parenting and child development expert, dives deep into one of the most anxiety-inducing milestones for parents — potty training. Evelyn is joined by Tabby Pool, a Miami-based potty training consultant and pediatric occupational therapist with 15+ years of experience across the UK, Australia, and South Africa, and Elena Ducoin, mom and inventor of My Bee Bear, a unique potty training underwear designed for both day and night use. Together, they unpack: - Why potty training is such a developmental challenge — not just a “three-day method.” - How cultural expectations have shaped unrealistic timelines. - The real signs of readiness (and what not to focus on). - How to make the process less of a power struggle — and maybe even fun! - The story behind a mom’s creative invention that changed nighttime training forever. Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Potty Training Challenges 01:51 Understanding the Stress of Potty Training 04:44 Signs of Potty Readiness 07:09 Cultural Shifts in Potty Training Practices 08:40 Personal Experiences with Potty Training 12:00 Innovative Solutions for Nighttime Potty Training 15:58 Creating a Supportive Environment for Potty Training 19:28 No Pressure Approach to Potty Training 24:49 Addressing Regression and Withholding in Potty Training 26:26 Understanding Constipation in Children 31:06 Addressing Fears Around Toilet Use 35:05 Strategies for Daytime and Nighttime Potty Training 41:59 Recognizing Red Flags in Toilet Training 48:12 Innovative Solutions for Potty Training Challenges Follow along on Instagram: @hatchandbloomco instagram.com/hatchandbloomco Visit the website: https://www.hatchandbloom.co/ Produced by Haynow Media: https://haynowmedia.com/

    55 min

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Welcome to your home away from home for parenting support. As a child and parenting expert, I'm here to chat about all things child development, mental health (both parent and child’s), and parenting strategies based on science and preserving our critical human connection to our children.