Here's The Thing: A Beginner's Guide to Adulting

Wendy Kimber
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Welcome to Here’s the Thing, a weekly podcast for young adults who want to make their “Decade of Decision” a little more dazzling and a little less disastrous. As a certified life coach with a passion for helping young adults, I teach bite sized concepts you can practice right away, to help you make sense of the world around you as you figure out how to live life as an adult- the absolute best stage yet!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 3d ago

    Ep.82 Hope

    What does it actually mean to have hope—and what do you do when you’re having a hard time finding it? In this episode, we explore the surprising psychology of hope through two powerful real-life stories: a dramatic rescue at sea and a refugee family building a life they never expected to live. Then we turn to psychologist Charles Snyder’s Hope Theory and the three ingredients that help hope become more than wishful thinking: having something worth moving toward, finding possible pathways to get there, and recognizing where you still have the power to act. Whether you’re chasing a future you really want, adjusting to a life you didn’t choose, or simply trying to figure out your next step, hope doesn’t require knowing exactly how everything will turn out. Sometimes it begins with recognizing that there is still possibility ahead—and deciding to participate in what happens next. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  2. Aug 19

    Ep.81 Decision Fatigue: Stop Spending Your Brain Power on Things That Don't Matter

    Ever get to the end of the day and feel like choosing what to eat for dinner requires more brainpower than you have left? That’s decision fatigue. In this episode, we’re talking about why even small choices can start to feel exhausting after a day full of decisions—and how to stop spending so much of your attention on things that don’t really matter. You’ll learn how simple defaults, routines, and “decide once” rules can quiet some of the constant negotiation happening in your head without turning your life into a rigid schedule. Because the goal isn’t to eliminate choices or optimize every minute of your life. It’s to spend less attention deciding things you don’t care much about, so you have more of yourself available for the people, experiences, and decisions you do. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  3. Aug 12

    Ep.80 Three Lessons I Didn't Expect To Learn This Year

    Three people. Three experiences. Three lessons that have completely changed the way I think about time. This year has reminded me that time can feel abundant long before we realize how precious it really is. In this episode, I’m sharing three deeply personal lessons I’ve learned about appreciating what your body can do, giving your time and energy to the people who matter most, and staying curious enough to keep growing throughout your life. This isn’t an episode about making every minute productive or living afraid of running out of time. It’s about something much simpler: choosing your time instead of accidentally spending it. If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll do that someday,” this episode might change the way you think about someday. Don’t postpone living. Don’t postpone loving. Don’t postpone growing. Your life is being built in the ordinary days—and you get to decide what you want to build. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  4. Aug 5

    Ep.79 Playing Nice

    Playing Nice Most of us were taught to "play nice" as children—to share, take turns, and think about other people's feelings. But what does that lesson look like when you're an adult? In this episode, we explore the surprising difference between childhood kindness and healthy adult relationships. Through stories about mischievous grandchildren, practical counseling concepts, and everyday examples, we'll talk about why emotional maturity isn't about keeping everyone happy—it's about learning to honor both other people's needs and your own. If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, struggled with disappointing people you love, or confused kindness with self-sacrifice, this conversation will help you rethink what it really means to be a compassionate, emotionally healthy adult. Because playing nice isn't about disappearing to make everyone else comfortable. It's about remembering that everyone has needs—including you. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  5. Jul 29

    Ep.78 How to Apologize Like An Adult

    How to Apologize Like an Adult Last week, we talked about how to make a mistake like an adult. This week, we're taking the next step: learning how to apologize. Most of us grew up believing an apology is supposed to make everything better. But healthy apologies aren't about making our guilt disappear or convincing someone to forgive us. They're about acknowledging reality. In this episode, we'll explore the difference between apologizing and repairing the damage, why explanations often get in the way of accountability, and why the other person's healing isn't ours to control. You'll learn how a genuine apology becomes an act of honesty rather than a negotiation—and why one of the greatest gifts you can give someone is simply letting them know, "I see what happened, and I understand that it affected you." If you've ever struggled to say "I'm sorry," wondered why some apologies feel empty, or wanted to rebuild trust after a mistake, this episode will give you a healthier, more mature way to think about accountability, relationships, and repair. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  6. Jul 22

    Ep.77 How to Make a Mistake Like An Adult

    How do adults actually handle mistakes? Most of us don't have a problem admitting that people make mistakes—we just have a much harder time admitting our own. Instead, we explain them, justify them, or quietly file them away so we don't have to look too closely. In this first episode of a two-part series, we're exploring what it really means to make a mistake like an adult. You'll learn a simple five-step framework for looking honestly at your choices without drowning in shame or defending yourself out of growth. We'll talk about the difference between accountability and self-condemnation, why understanding the story behind your behavior matters, and how your mistakes can become some of your greatest teachers. If you've ever found yourself saying, "But I had a good reason," or replaying a mistake long after it happened, this episode will help you replace blame and guilt with curiosity, honesty, and practical change. Because the goal isn't to become someone who never makes mistakes. It's to become someone who knows what to do after they make one. Next week, we'll build on this conversation by talking about one of the most important—and most misunderstood—adult skills of all: how to apologize in a way that actually repairs relationships. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  7. Jul 15

    Ep.76 Building a Strong Marriage: Keep Falling in Love With the Person

    Healthy marriages aren't found—they're built. In this episode, we're talking about one of the most important foundations of a lasting marriage: never stopping your friendship. As life fills with careers, kids, responsibilities, and routines, it's easy to focus on building a life together while forgetting to keep getting to know the person you married. Drawing on lessons from building homes, we'll explore why every marriage has seasons, how the "blueprints" we inherit shape our relationships, and why curiosity, encouragement, and genuine friendship are some of the strongest predictors of a happy marriage. Whether you're dating, engaged, newly married, or have been married for years, this episode will encourage you to keep falling in love with the person—not just the role—they've become. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. Jul 8

    Ep.75 Why Bad Moods Spread (And How to Stop Catching Them!)

    Have you ever noticed that someone else's bad mood can become your bad mood? There's actually a scientific reason for that. This week, we're talking about emotional contagion—the surprising way emotions spread from person to person, just like a cold. You'll learn why negativity can be so contagious, why empathy doesn't mean absorbing someone else's emotions, and how to stay calm, caring, and grounded even when the people around you are having a hard day. In this episode, you'll discover: What emotional contagion is and why it happensThe difference between empathy and emotional absorptionHow to support struggling people without getting pulled under yourselfA simple two-question exercise to help you recognize when you've "caught" someone else's moodHow your own peace, hope, and kindness can positively influence everyone around you If you've ever ended the day carrying emotions that didn't seem to belong to you, this episode will give you practical tools to protect your emotional health while still loving the people around you. Because while emotions are contagious…you get to choose what you spread. Connect with me!  Make sure to go follow me on Instagram @wendykimbercoaching and click the link in my bio to schedule an appointment with me, grab my free weekly email, or watch my videos on YouTube, and more! 🎧 If this episode helped you, share it with a friend who’s navigating adulting right alongside you. Have a wonderful week, and I’ll talk to you next time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Welcome to Here’s the Thing, a weekly podcast for young adults who want to make their “Decade of Decision” a little more dazzling and a little less disastrous. As a certified life coach with a passion for helping young adults, I teach bite sized concepts you can practice right away, to help you make sense of the world around you as you figure out how to live life as an adult- the absolute best stage yet!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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