Here's Your Red Flag

Toni and Lisa
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Our mission with this podcast is to help survivors of toxic relationships recognize red flags and areas of personal growth, while equipping them with strategies for ultimate and lasting mental health across all relationships. This is a podcast of self discovery. We’ll be talking about personal freedom, safety, security, and strength while embracing our inner voice, recognizing and honoring our gut instinct, accepting imperfection, showing grace to ourselves, and starting anew. For more information please check out our website www.heresyourredflag.com We are also on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. The content provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only.

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  1. Bad Boys! Why We Fall for Them and How to Break the Pattern

    EPISODE 1

    Bad Boys! Why We Fall for Them and How to Break the Pattern

    Toni and Lisa discuss nine reasons women fall for bad boys and discuss how to break the pattern of falling for these types of men. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Here's Your Red Flag podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Lisa and I created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. The content in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

    46 min
  2. How the Enneagram Can Help Us Understand and Navigate Our Relationships

    EPISODE 2

    How the Enneagram Can Help Us Understand and Navigate Our Relationships

    In this episode, in keeping with our mission to equip each other with strategies for ultimate and lasting mental health, Toni and Lisa explain the ancient theory of the Enneagram which is an organized tool that explains our core beliefs, motivations, and personalities. Learning our enneagram personality type, and learning about the other personality types, is like a super power through which to view personality types through an insightful new lens where we might learn more deeply about ourselves and help us better navigate both healthy and toxic relationships. Toni and Lisa had a bit of fun by choosing examples of enneagram types from TV, movies, books and celebrities! So fun! Free Enneagram Test: (Test #2 is the short version Lisa mentions.) https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/test Where each type goes when healthy and unhealthy: https://ninetypes.co/blog/enneagram-movement-points Great books and articles about the enneagram: The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile: https://www.amazon.com/Road-Back-You-Enneagram-Self-Discovery/dp/0830846190/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1673116081&sr=8-1 Enneagram types: https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/enneagram-types/ Thorough enneagram information: https://www.integrative9.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAzeSdBhC4ARIsACj36uGWp5v6K7cUe7j3Otj8MCA2qm5RJxLaW6tu9seCaeoDxmWclhbxl20aAlGBEALw_wcB https://www.integrative9.com/enneagram/ If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

    57 min
  3. Navigating Narcissism Using the Enneagram: Toni and Lisa Discuss What Each Enneagram Personality Type Looks Like as a Narcissist

    EPISODE 3

    Navigating Narcissism Using the Enneagram: Toni and Lisa Discuss What Each Enneagram Personality Type Looks Like as a Narcissist

    Following on the heels of last week’s episode, the enneagram is such a useful tool to help us better understand ourselves, our needs, our motivations, our fears and it can help us improve relationships and better shape our goals and values. For this episode, we are going to navigate narcissism using the enneagram! We thought it would be interesting and helpful to examine the traits of each enneagram type from a narcissistic lens. We want to examine how each enneagram type can show up in an unhealthy, narcissistic way as each type can lack empathy, avoid intimacy, and/or develop a superiority complex. For more information about The Heart Magnet, you can listen to our episode covering it on Season 1, Episode 12. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Lisa and I created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

    47 min
  4. Determining Our Values: Toni and Lisa Interview Lynn Meinke, PCC on the Importance of Developing and Strengthening Our Values Especially in Abusive Relationships

    EPISODE 4

    Determining Our Values: Toni and Lisa Interview Lynn Meinke, PCC on the Importance of Developing and Strengthening Our Values Especially in Abusive Relationships

    Toni and Lisa interview coach and therapist, Lynn Meinke, PCC. Lynn explains the differences between values, needs and beliefs and discusses the importance of developing and strengthening our values especially in abusive relationships. She teaches us an exercise to help us determine our own values by starting with what is most important to us in our lives. We all want to grow and learn, move from surviving to thriving and have the best life possible—that can start with getting in touch with our core values. For questions for Lynn Meinke in future episodes please email us at heresyourredflag@gmail.com Leonard’s Values Needs Wants Model: https://www.facebook.com/100086177694443/posts/pfbid0Qsmj2jDti6x8PBDhQ9Vf18d1DvAQyRMHAQkZnUFbRHyTGT3QCZDwHZbvXLxGEtb9l/?mibextid=unz460 If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

    1h 25m
  5. The Steps to Recognizing and Breaking Free from Narcissists and Toxic Relationships

    EPISODE 5

    The Steps to Recognizing and Breaking Free from Narcissists and Toxic Relationships

    Toni and Lisa discuss how all the past episodes lay a foundation for a specific order of steps in the learning process for people whether in healthy or in narcissistic, abusive and toxic relationships. In both their own lives and in working with others in abusive, toxic and narcissistic relationships, Toni and Lisa have learned that it is beneficial to lay a specific, solid foundation so that we can understand not just what narcissism is but to understand and acknowledge if we are in an abusive or toxic relationship or situation. Lisa and Toni discuss the specific order of steps in the learning process as people become aware of their situation and especially if they are choosing to exit relationships with toxic people. We hope that today’s episode solidifies for our wonderful audience the importance of building a foundation by getting in touch with the inner you. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Other helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

    32 min
  6. Freeing Rapunzel: Toni and Lisa Interview Author, Anne-Christine Witzgall Who was Raised in an Abusive Home

    EPISODE 6

    Freeing Rapunzel: Toni and Lisa Interview Author, Anne-Christine Witzgall Who was Raised in an Abusive Home

    Freeing Rapunzel is Anne-Christine Witzgall’s first book. Her memoir is about how she escaped the shadows of her family’s Nazi past during the cold war era in West Berlin, Germany. This book reveals the consequences of family secrets on each family member. It becomes clear that by hiding past experiences, trauma is transferred to the next generation, but the story also explores the deeper issues women of all ages and cultures face: affirming their self-worth, purpose and becoming resilient. Link to Anne’s Book, Freeing Rapunzel: https://boook.link/Freeing-Rapunzel Get in touch with Anne-Christine Witzgall: https://www.annelifecoaching.com/ Other books mentioned in this episode: Why Does He Do That? (Lundy Bandcroft) The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel A. Van Der Kolk) If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

    1h 2m
  7. Part 1 “Lily”: Lily Discusses How Her Upbringing Led to Marriage to a Narcissistic Abuser

    EPISODE 7

    Part 1 “Lily”: Lily Discusses How Her Upbringing Led to Marriage to a Narcissistic Abuser

    Content warning. This episode discusses instances of sexual abuse and animal abuse. Please listen with care. Toni and Lisa interview “Lily”, a listener who reached out to share her story of marriage to a narcissistic abusive husband. In part 1, Lily discusses how her upbringing and low self-esteem contributed to her not seeing vital red flags. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. The book mentioned in this episode: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bandcroft If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter: https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing: https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org Other helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

    52 min
  8. Part 2 “Lily”: The Many Red Flags and the Cycle of Abuse in her Marriage to a Narcissist

    EPISODE 8

    Part 2 “Lily”: The Many Red Flags and the Cycle of Abuse in her Marriage to a Narcissist

    CONTENT WARNING There are topics including sexual abuse and violence and some strong language this episode. Please listen with care. Lily will detail her former husband’s love bombing and grooming of her, what hooked her and the many red flags she noticed and pushed aside. She will further talk about his devaluing and her exit from the relationship. All names have been changed for anonymity purposes. If you enjoyed our podcast, please leave us 5 stars. We would really appreciate it! You can learn more about Toni and Lisa by visiting our website: https://heresyourredflag.com/ and we invite you to follow Here’s Your Red Flag on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter: Here's Your Red Flag on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086177694443 Here's Your Red Flag on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/heresyourredflag/ Here's Your Red Flag on Twitter:https://twitter.com/heresyourred Excellent books on narcissism, toxic relationships and healing:https://heresyourredflag.com/further-reading Here's Your Red Flag Podcast is intended for mature audiences only. Toni and Lisa created this podcast with the goal of enlightening each other and our listeners in prevailing over narcissistic and toxic people and relationships. Many of our episodes will include topics such as psychological, emotional and physical abuse, and detailed narcissistic and toxic behaviors. Our podcast is for educational and self-improvement purposes only and should not be viewed as a replacement for therapy. We are not professional therapists, however, Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is completing her masters in counseling this semester. If you have a red flag story you’d like to share for an upcoming episode, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us by email at heresyourredflag@gmail.com or private message us through HYRF Facebook or Instagram pages. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.orgOther helpful resources: The National Suicide Hotline: https://988lifeline.org/ Consent Awareness Network: https://consentawareness.net/ Crisis Text Line. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds, all from their secure online platform. The volunteer Crisis Counselor will help you move from a hot moment to a cool moment. https://www.crisistextline.org/

    1h 2m
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Our mission with this podcast is to help survivors of toxic relationships recognize red flags and areas of personal growth, while equipping them with strategies for ultimate and lasting mental health across all relationships. This is a podcast of self discovery. We’ll be talking about personal freedom, safety, security, and strength while embracing our inner voice, recognizing and honoring our gut instinct, accepting imperfection, showing grace to ourselves, and starting anew. For more information please check out our website www.heresyourredflag.com We are also on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. The content provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only.

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  • Creator
    Toni and Lisa
  • Episodes
    29
  • Seasons
    2
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Toni and Lisa 2022
  • Show Website
    Here's Your Red Flag