Hey, Sister‪!‬ Courtney Lewis and Carley Ferguson

In this short concluding episode of Season 2, Courtney and Carley share information for a giveaway and explain their decision to temporarily step back from podcasting (without a planned date for returning). Thank you for listening this season! We love you sisters. 
 
Visit www.heysisterpodcast.org/giveaway for giveaway information or check out our stores on Instagram this week. 
 
Check out the guest we are sad we needed to cancel our interview with, Michael Anderson from the podcast, Everyday Impact. 
 

Teaching children to accept “no” answers and follow instructions are critical skills. When family members learn these skills and incorporate them into their daily lives, behaviors can be corrected and the parent-child relationship is more connected. Janice Mireles and Rachael Moss, parenting experts and Teaching Self-Government mentors, join Courtney and Carley for the second part in a discussion about the 4 basic skills every child and parent needs. For the first two skills, check out Season 2 Episode 8.  This episode is part of the Connections within Motherhood series, airing May 2023.
 
Call to Action: 
“Using these fundamental skills can create so much success in so many  areas, but even if you teach these skills daily, you won't be able to see the connection that you want, you won't live your family mission or reach your vision if your tone isn't right. So my call to action is to notice your tone!
 
Take a deep breath before you speak. Look into your children's eyes when you speak, and feel love and trust toward them. Believe the best of them. I know this can be hard when we have such deep neural pathways and lifelong habits of lecturing or snapping and griping, yelling, whatever it may be. So at first, just notice and practice and see what a difference that alone makes.” - Janice Mireles
 
 
 
Show Timeline:
 
0:00 Guests and topic introduction
 
2:30 Accepting no answers: includes criticism (positive and negative) and not getting what you prefer
 
5:30 Using disagree appropriately skill within the “accepting a no answer” skill
 
12:45 Pre-teaching plug, rewarding vs. bribing, communicating with pre-teens and teenagers
 
16:00 Dropping the subject with your mouth and your mind
 
18:15 Following instructions: be clear, break down tasks, make sure task is accomplishable for the child, children blooming under praise afterwards
 
21:00 Check back: the last step in following instructions
 
24:00 When instructions are consequences, they do NOT need to be negative. Making cookies with mama, serving siblings at lunch.    
 
27:00 Using TSG instead of custom-crafting punishments based on children’s natures (Courtney’s a-ha moment transitioning from a different parenting model)
 
28:30 Call to action, concluding thoughts, outtakes
 
 
 
Resources:
 
Connect with Janice and Rachael 
https://www.instagram.com/bossymossy/ https://www.instagram.com/encouragedmama/  
Connect with Hey, Sister!
https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/  
Learn more about Teaching Self-Government
https://teachingselfgovernment.com  
Parenting: A house United (book referenced)
https://teachingselfgovernment.com/store/parenting-a-house-united/  
Check out past episodes of Hey, Sister! (including Part 1 of this 2-part segment)
https://heysisterpodcast.org/home-2/episodes/  

Best friend parenting experts Janice Mireles and Rachael Moss join Courtney and Carley to discuss 2 of the 4 basic skills within Teaching Self-Government: Accepting consequences and disagreeing appropriately. Janice and Rachael give an overview of all 4 basic skills, then share specific examples and benefits of accepting consequences and what it means and looks like to disagree appropriately. This episode is part of the Connections within Motherhood series, airing May 2023.
 
Call to Action: 
“Take the opportunity each time you're interacting with your child and look them in the eyes.” -Rachael Moss
 
Show Timeline:
 
0:00 Guests and topic introduction
 
4:15 Overview of 4 basic skills, steps to achieving them and books about each skill. Explanation of cue cards for adult use. 4 basic skills: following instructions, accepting no answers and criticism, accepting consequences, and disagreeing appropriately
 
9:30 Accepting consequences/corrections: correcting behavior, connecting to heart. Examples: siblings bickering earn extra chore
 
19:45 Disagreeing appropriately: example unloading dishwasher, counter suggestions
 
24:00 Carley’s personal coaching through real-life scenario with rolling pin: no answers and disagreeing appropriately deep-dive
 
26:45 Pre-teaching and practicing; lowering anxiety through consistency on parent’s part
 
34:00 Connect with Rachael and Janice, call to action, concluding thoughts, outtakes
 
 
Resources:
Learn more about Teaching Self-Government
Parenting: A House United (book)
Children’s books
Cue Cards
Hey, Sister! Past Episodes
 
Connect: 
Rachael's Instagram
Janice's Instagram
Hey, Sister! Instagram
 
 

The importance and benefits of pre-teaching ourselves and our children is discussed with parenting expert Paije Baumert, a mentor from Teaching Self-Government. Paije gives a brief overview of 4 basic skills every child and adult need to understand and shares the skill she utilizes most in her daily life as a mother of an 18-month old (giving no-answers). This episode is part of the Connections within Motherhood series, airing May 2023.
Call to Action:
"Choose this week not to take your toddler's behaviors personally! And do a self pre-teach every day before you interact with any of your children. There, I guess I gave you two, but they go hand in hand." - Paije Baumert
 
Resources: 
Learn more about Teaching Self Government: https://teachingselfgovernment.com/
Listen to Paije & Nicholeen on the TSG podcast: https://teachingselfgovernment.com/podcasts/
Connect with Hey, Sister! Podcast: https://heysisterpodcast.org/
 
Show Timeline: 
0:00 Guest and topic introduction
 
3:15 How teaching self-government (TSG) has helped Paije in her relationships
 
6:00 The four basic skills: following instructions, accepting no for an answer (and criticism), accepting consequences and disagreeing appropriately
 
8:30 No-answers are a crucial skill for toddlers, teaching breathing to calm down before receiving a no-answer, getting out of emotional back brain into logical front brain 
 
12:15 Using cue phrases to calm a child, “we don’t talk like that”, pre-teaching, emotional manipulation not a healthy response, 
 
20:00 Pre-teaching explanation: telling someone what needs to happen before it happens, examples of skills to pre-teach
 
27:00 Skill permanence in toddlers, similar to object permanence in babies
 
31:30 Pre-teaching brings anxiety levels way down, role-playing is form of pre-teaching, TSG courses and mentoring calls
 
 
36:45 Call to action, concluding thoughts, outtakes

Family vision, family mission, proactive parenting, the roles of mother and father—it’s all covered in this compelling conversation with Nicholeen Peck, parenting expert and founder of the proven parenting system Teaching Self-Government. Nicholeen is one of the world’s leading voices in protecting and supporting the family, and her love for motherhood shines through in all she says and does. This episode airs as part of the month theme of "Motherhood", dedicated to strengthening connections within motherhood.  
 
Call to action: 
Find calmness in your parenting! “Calmness is the basis for good communication and understanding in relationships. Without calmness, we fall into power struggles and traps that make us frustrated with ourselves and each other.” (Teaching Self-Government website) Find calmness with the free calm parent toolkit offered on Nicholeen’s website. 
 
Download the Calm Parenting Toolkit 
 
Resources:
https://teachingselfgovernment.com
 
Parenting: A House United Get Nicholeen's popular parenting book!
 
TSG Instagram
 
 
Hey, Sister! Instagram
 
 
 
Timeline: 
0:00 Guest and topic introduction
 
6:15 Self-government definition and overview of Parenting: A House United. Shooting analogy—Aligning the aught (who you ought to be) and front-site (personal wants). Course correcting daily.
 
9:15 Overview of four basic skills within Teaching Self-Government
 
12:30 Family vision and mission explanation 
 
14:00 Roles of mother and father. Discussion on vision. Vision is the WHY.
 
17:45 Discussion on family mission. Mission is the HOW. Missions can be for various areas of life: personal, parent, family, work. Missions provide the feeling of living your ultimate purpose.
 
23:15 Reactive and proactive parenting
 
25:15 The 8 personal missions
 
31:45 Creating a family mission statement. Peck family mission statement.
 
37:30 World’s view of motherhood
 
41:45 Calm Parenting toolkit: call to action, closing remarks, outtakes (Courtney’s star-struck comments)

Author, speaker and podcaster Rebecca George joins Courtney and Carley to discuss using talents to fulfill personal callings through connection to God, others and self.   
Call to Action: Practice obedience in our callings. “The outcome is His, the obedience is yours!” (Not sure what your calling is? Try creating a venn diagram to figure it out—discussed in this episode and in Rebecca’s book.)
 
 
Referenced Resources: 
 
“Do the Thing” (Rebecca’s new book!) https://www.amazon.com/Do-Thing-Gospel-Centered-Gumption-Go-Getter/dp/0830784357
 
Connect with Rebecca: 
https://www.radicalradiance.live
https://www.instagram.com/rebeccageorgeauthor/
 
Connect with Hey, Sister!
heysisterpodcast.org
https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/
https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodcast
 
Referenced Prior Episodes: 
Episode about the effect music has on us (Sound of Music // Maren Paris Cline)
https://heysisterpodcast.org/43-sound-of-music-maren-paris-cline/
 
 
Show Timeline: 
 
0:00 Show topic and guest introduction
 
3:15 Finding important connections—community within your work. Connections aren’t something else to do on your journey, it’s part of the journey!
 
8:15 Overcoming feelings of comparison and envy
 
12:15 Finding callings this side of Heaven; “what matters” Venn diagram discussion (What matters to God, others and me?)
 
21:00 Rebecca’s book info and concluding thoughts