This is our Mom and Daughter Podcast! Vicki (Mom) lives in LA; Ingrid (daughter) lives in New York. We're doing our best to cultivate a raw and transparent relationship - that is also generous and safe. Join us in learning how every aspect of life shapes our interactions with each other!
Politics in the Family
Politics: one of the hottest button issues every time families come together. Last year thanksgiving sparked extra emotions in our family and it taught us some valuable lessons about the reasons political conversations blow into such large proportions inside a family unit. We have found that those emotions don't necessarily come from the topic at hand but from a deeper place of misunderstanding. We hope you can glean some applicable advice from this story
This episode was originally recorded in the summertime - summer bod and all that. But if you're anything like me, my self-consciousness does not dwindle near the holidays. Everyone is coming together, dressing up, and eating so much food. While some of the metaphors involving bathing suits don't quite land, there is just as much to learn about loving however you look through the holiday season.
How Therapy Helped Us
We have found that having an outside pair of eyes and ears, specifically those of a trained psychologist, continues to help both Mom and I through challenging sections of life. When things have become really rocky in our mom-daughter relationship, it is usually a sign that we each need to take a harder look at ourselves individually. Therapists help us do that. Here is our story about the first time Mom and I went through some therapy both together and individually and the way it bettered us. We also discuss the importance of having friends who act as "outside" eyes and help us take the perspective of another person. We offer gratitude to Madeline Levine, Ph.D., researcher, and author of The Price of Privilege, referenced in this episode.
Forgiveness - Re-Release
Forgiveness is a tricky business. It is a vital practice, it takes practice; it includes both words and actions, and it is both an event and a process. And we're supposed to teach it to our kids?! Today we listen to a discussion Mom and I had a year and a half ago on the way she taught me to forgive and what I'm learning about forgiveness as a grow into an adult.
Thanks to Julie Lythcott-Haims for her life-giving work in her new book: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/your-turn and her book referred to in this podcast https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult
We are also grateful for the work of Ted Tripp https://www.shepherdpress.com/products/shepherding-a-childs-heart/, who initially taught us so much about modeling forgiveness to our children as young parents.
Communication has many iterations but its principles remain the same. This week we listen back to the 2019 version of Ingrid and Vicki. Our lives were pretty different but the way we process information was much the same. We discuss the way we each make decisions and how that informs the way we talk to each other. As you listen, what can you learn about your own communication style?
Multi-Generational Friendship: Guest Gillian Fritzsche
Learning is often far more cyclical than it is linear - at that goes from relationships as well as timelines. This week we interview Gillian Fritszche, a director/writer/producer in the film and tv industry who also happens to be a lifelong friend to both Mom and Me. She tells her story of creating an adult relationship with her Mom and we get to learn from her experience and wisdom. There is something special, important, and celebratory about multi-generational friendship.
Very Insightful and Fun!
Love the genuine, insightful but lighthearted good intentions conversations.
I could listen to these all day long. I am a fan!
Thanks for starting these!
How refreshing to listen to such warm, engaging exchange! I love Vicki and Ingrid’s podcast! How cool to experience such healthy conversation between mom and adult daughter covering a myriad of relevant topics!
Great Conversation Starters
Vicki and Ingrid are great examples of how parents and their adult children can have open and respectful conversations about all kinds of challenging topics. Their openness to really hear what each other has to say is wonderfully refreshing to listen to. Vicki is extremely knowledgeable and Ingrid is wise beyond her years.