Hidden in Plain Sight

Extrovergent
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Hidden in Plain Sight is a podcast about the parts of ourselves people don’t always see — beyond the coping mechanisms, expectations, burnout, masking, and pressure to always “have it all together.” Hosted by Extrovergent® | ADHD Brain, the show explores neurodivergence, mental health, identity, relationships, self-growth, and the everyday experiences that shape how we move through the world. Through honest conversations, humor, lived experiences, and unfiltered perspectives, Hidden in Plain Sight creates space for authenticity, self-awareness, connection, and the reminder that none of us are as alone as we think. Some episodes are deep. Some are funny. Some are uncomfortable. Some are healing. But all of them are real. No pretending. No perfect image. Just honest conversations about being human.

Episodes

  1. 5d ago

    Bracing for Disappointment: Understanding RSD (ft. Brent Daviau)

    Have you ever read too much into a delayed text, a short reply, criticism, or a change in someone’s tone—even while part of you knows there may be nothing wrong? For people who experience rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), the possibility of rejection can feel like rejection has already happened. You may brace for disappointment, replay conversations, search for signs that you did something wrong, people-please to stay accepted, or pull away before anyone gets the chance to hurt you. In this episode of Hidden in Plain Sight, Extrovergent sits down with Brent Daviau for an honest conversation about the emotional intensity many neurodivergent people carry quietly. Brent shares what it was like growing up as a deeply sensitive boy in a world that expected him to “toughen up,” how years of criticism and masking followed him into adulthood, and why emotional awareness does not make a man any less of a man. Together, they unpack the painful disconnect between what you logically know and what you emotionally feel. We talk about: • Why ordinary social moments can feel like emotional emergencies • Fear of abandonment, people-pleasing, limerence, and emotional masking • How old rejection can shape relationships, trust, and self-worth • Learning your triggers, seeking support, and working with sensitivity instead of against it If you have ever been called too sensitive, overreactive, needy, dramatic, or “too much,” this conversation is for you. Your sensitivity is not proof that you are broken. It may also be connected to the empathy, loyalty, compassion, emotional intuition, and resilience that make you who you are. The goal is not to stop feeling—it is to understand what you feel, regulate the intensity, trust yourself, and find people who value the real you. You are worthy. You are more than your fear of rejection, and you are not alone. Listen/Watch Bracing for Disappointment: Understanding RSD featuring Brent Daviau now. 📚 Mentioned in this episode: How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe. Get your copy here: https://amzn.to/4yHlt5o Join the Waitlist for NeuroDiversion 2027: https://www.NeuroDiversion.org Connect with Extrovergent: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@extrovergent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/extrovergent Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Extrovergent YouTube: https://youtube.com/@extrovergent Discord Community: https://discord.gg/BChWyemFnT Join the mailing list for new episodes, reflections, and real conversations beyond the mic. https://PodcastByExtrovergent.com If this podcast has helped you feel seen, tips are optional but deeply appreciated and help keep these conversations going. https://podcastbyextrovergent.com/products/tip

  2. Jul 19

    The Women Everyone Missed (ft. Sarah Buckley)

    How many women spent their entire lives believing they were too sensitive, too emotional, lazy, disorganized, or somehow failing—when they were actually neurodivergent? For decades, countless women were overlooked, misunderstood, or given diagnoses that never fully explained what they were experiencing. They became high-achieving maskers—people-pleasing, overachieving, and pushing through exhaustion because they believed they had no other choice. In this episode of Hidden in Plain Sight, Extrovergent sits down with Sarah Buckley, founder of The Chronic Confessions, for an honest conversation about late-diagnosed ADHD, chronic illness, mental health, masking, identity, and the grief that can come with finally receiving answers. Sarah shares how she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at 18 and built her identity around that diagnosis for more than two decades. At 41, a complete reevaluation revealed that she actually had combined-type ADHD. The discovery brought understanding—but it also brought anger, grief, and the difficult task of figuring out who she was beneath years of diagnoses, expectations, trauma, and survival. Together, we discuss: • Why ADHD and other forms of neurodivergence are so often missed in women. • The exhaustion and identity loss caused by masking. • Being labeled “too much,” “too emotional,” or “too sensitive”. • The complicated emotions surrounding a late diagnosis. • Living with chronic illness and invisible disabilities. • Learning to advocate for yourself when you know something isn’t right. • Finding community through The Chronic Confessions. • Rebuilding your identity without letting a diagnosis define you A diagnosis doesn’t change who you have always been. But it can replace confusion with understanding, shame with compassion, and self-criticism with self-acceptance. If parts of Sarah’s story feel familiar, remember: you are not broken. You are not lazy. You are not failing at life—and you are not alone. Content note: This episode includes discussions of mental health, medical misdiagnosis, bullying, domestic abuse, divorce, trauma, and chronic illness. Connect with Sarah Buckley and The Chronic Confessions: https://linktr.ee/TheeSarahBee Connect with Extrovergent: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@extrovergent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/extrovergent Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Extrovergent YouTube: https://youtube.com/@extrovergent Discord Community: https://discord.gg/BChWyemFnT Join the mailing list for new episodes, reflections, and real conversations beyond the mic. https://PodcastByExtrovergent.com If this podcast has helped you feel seen, tips are optional but deeply appreciated and help keep these conversations going. https://podcastbyextrovergent.com/products/tip

  3. Jul 12

    The Streets Were the Classroom (ft. The Intellectual Gangster)

    Some people learn from books. Some people learn from mentors. And some people learn because life gave them no choice. In this episode of Hidden in Plain Sight, Extrovergent sits down with The Intellectual Gangster for a raw, funny, honest, and thought-provoking conversation about street smarts, survival, resilience, fatherhood, growth, and what it means to turn hard lessons into wisdom. This conversation explores the difference between book smarts and life smarts, how tough environments shape the way people move through the world, why struggle can reveal who you really are, and how success does not always look the way people expect it to look. From jail to personal growth, from social media illusions to real-life responsibility, this episode is a reminder that intelligence is not always measured by degrees, titles, or the way someone dresses. Sometimes wisdom comes from what you survived, what you learned, and how you choose to show up after it. If you have ever felt judged by your past, misunderstood by your appearance, or counted out because people could not see your full story, this episode is for you. Takeaways Street smarts and book smarts are different forms of intelligence.Survival skills and techniques are adaptable and essential for personal growth. Perception can be deceivingBetrayal from close ones hurts the mostDifferences should be respected and understoodKindness and empathy are essentialFaith and resilience are powerful Chapters 00:00 The Intellectual Gangster05:30 Mentors and Life Lessons11:56 Critical Thinking and Problem-Solving19:02 Perceptions of Success and Identity25:07 Perception vs. Reality34:14 Differences and Disagreements40:28 Overcoming Struggles Connect with Extrovergent: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@extrovergent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/extrovergent Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Extrovergent YouTube: https://youtube.com/@extrovergent Discord Community: https://discord.gg/BChWyemFnT Join the mailing list for new episodes, reflections, and real conversations beyond the mic. https://PodcastByExtrovergent.com If this podcast has helped you feel seen, tips are optional but deeply appreciated and help keep these conversations going. https://podcastbyextrovergent.com/products/tip Music from #Uppbeat https://uppbeat.io/t/hey-pluto/gangster License code: 3BFUJERKQVYOZJJF

  4. Jul 5

    The Hidden Truths of ADHD (ft. ADHD Coach Ryan Mayer, PCC)

    Most people think ADHD is just being distracted, forgetful, or unable to sit still. But the hidden truth is much deeper. In this episode of Hidden in Plain Sight, Extrovergent sits down with Ryan Mayer, certified ADHD and life coach, to talk about the invisible side of ADHD — the exhaustion, shame, masking, emotional sensitivity, executive dysfunction, and effort that many people never see. Ryan shares his journey from being labeled gifted as a child, to struggling in school, to navigating corporate jobs where he excelled with people but struggled with follow-through, admin work, and everyday details. After years of feeling misunderstood, burned out, and hopeless, Ryan discovered ADHD coaching and became the support he once needed himself. Together, we break down why ADHD is not laziness, a lack of discipline, or a character flaw. Ryan explains how ADHD brains often operate through interest, novelty, challenge, urgency, and passion — and why forcing neurodivergent brains into neurotypical systems often creates shame instead of success. We talk about everyday tasks like laundry, emails, meetings, hygiene, deadlines, and routines, and why they can feel overwhelming when your brain is working twice as hard beneath the surface. We also discuss tools like INCUP, VAST, body doubling, startup stacks, brain battery awareness, workplace accommodations, and how to ask for support without always having to disclose your diagnosis. But this episode is not just about struggle. It is about hope, self-awareness, community, and learning how to build a life that works with your brain instead of against it. Because ADHD does not mean you are broken. It does not mean you are lazy. It does not mean you are not trying hard enough. Sometimes the most powerful shift begins when you stop asking, “What is wrong with me?” and start asking, “How does my brain actually work?” This episode is for anyone with ADHD, anyone who loves someone with ADHD, or anyone who has ever felt overwhelmed, misunderstood, exhausted from masking, or tired of trying to fit into systems that were never built for them. The more you understand yourself, the less you have to hide. Guest: ADHD Coach Ryan Mayer, MBA, PCC Website: https://ryanmayercoaching.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_coach_ryanmayer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_coach_ryan YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RyanMayerCoaching Items Mentioned in Episode: Mini Visual Timer: https://amzn.to/4eY28UC ADHD 2.0 Book: https://amzn.to/4wpy4rS Connect with Extrovergent: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@extrovergent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/extrovergent Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Extrovergent YouTube: https://youtube.com/@extrovergent

  5. Jun 28

    Is Neurodivergence a Super Power? (ft. AuthentiGirl)

    Is neurodivergence really a superpower... or has social media oversimplified what many people actually experience? In this episode of Hidden in Plain Sight, I sit down with AuthentiGirl, a neurodevelopmental consultant and assessor with more than 25 years of experience supporting individuals with ADHD and autism. As someone who is also AuDHD herself, she brings both professional expertise and lived experience to a conversation that challenges some of the most common narratives surrounding neurodivergence. Together, we explore the strengths, struggles, misconceptions, and realities that often get overlooked when people reduce ADHD and autism to either a superpower or a disability. From pattern recognition and creativity to burnout, masking, emotional exhaustion, and the pressure to fit into a world not designed for neurodivergent minds, we discuss what it really means to live with a brain that experiences the world differently. In this episode, we discuss: • Why the term “superpower” can feel empowering for some and invalidating for others • The hidden cost of masking and people-pleasing • ADHD, autism, and the reality of "spiky" strengths and challenges • Why many neurodivergent people experience burnout • Pattern recognition, creativity, justice sensitivity, and other often-overlooked strengths • Practical supports like body doubling and co-regulation • How social media has helped—and sometimes hurt—the conversation around neurodivergence • Why understanding yourself is more important than fitting a stereotype Whether you're neurodivergent yourself, supporting someone who is, or simply curious to learn more, this episode offers a balanced, honest, and compassionate perspective on what neurodivergence actually looks like beyond the labels. Because the goal isn't to prove you're a superhuman. It's to understand yourself, embrace your strengths, navigate your challenges, and remember that you're not alone. Remember to love yourself, just the way you are. 🧡 DISCORD Community - Join People who get it: https://discord.gg/BChWyemFnT Connect with Extrovergent®: TikTok Instagram Facebook YouTube Extrovergent® Gear: Extrovergent® | ADHD Powered Gear Amazon Essentials: Amazon | ADHD Essentials Join the mailing list for new episodes, reflections, and real conversations beyond the mic. https://PodcastByExtrovergent.com If this podcast has helped you feel seen, tips are optional but deeply appreciated and help keep these conversations going. https://podcastbyextrovergent.com/products/tip

  6. Jun 2

    Welcome to Hidden in Plain Sight

    What if the struggles you’ve spent your whole life hiding… were never meant to be carried alone? Hidden in Plain Sight is a podcast about the internal experiences people often hide behind smiles, success, humor, productivity, or the pressure to “have it all together.” Hosted by Extrovergent®, each episode explores honest conversations around neurodivergence, mental health, burnout, relationships, identity, emotional resilience, and what it really means to navigate life while feeling different underneath the surface. Some conversations are deep. Some are funny. Some are uncomfortable. Some are healing. But all of them are real. Because even in the middle of burnout, overthinking, emotional exhaustion, or feeling misunderstood… there is still growth, healing, connection, hope, and the reminder that you are not broken and you are not alone. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, emotionally exhausted, overly self-aware, or like you’ve been surviving while looking fine… you may finally feel seen here. Connect with Extrovergent: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@extrovergent Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/extrovergent Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Extrovergent YouTube: https://youtube.com/@extrovergent Discord Community: https://discord.gg/BChWyemFnT Join the mailing list for new episodes, reflections, and real conversations beyond the mic. https://PodcastByExtrovergent.com If this podcast has helped you feel seen, tips are optional but deeply appreciated and help keep these conversations going. https://podcastbyextrovergent.com/products/tip

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Hidden in Plain Sight is a podcast about the parts of ourselves people don’t always see — beyond the coping mechanisms, expectations, burnout, masking, and pressure to always “have it all together.” Hosted by Extrovergent® | ADHD Brain, the show explores neurodivergence, mental health, identity, relationships, self-growth, and the everyday experiences that shape how we move through the world. Through honest conversations, humor, lived experiences, and unfiltered perspectives, Hidden in Plain Sight creates space for authenticity, self-awareness, connection, and the reminder that none of us are as alone as we think. Some episodes are deep. Some are funny. Some are uncomfortable. Some are healing. But all of them are real. No pretending. No perfect image. Just honest conversations about being human.

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  • Creator
    Extrovergent
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    6
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Extrovergent
  • Show Website
    Hidden in Plain Sight