High Functioning Codependency After Betrayal - with Terri Cole

Are you helping… or are you overfunctioning?

This week Amie is joined by psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about the hidden emotional pattern so many women live inside: high functioning codependency.

This conversation is especially powerful for women navigating betrayal trauma, divorce, parallel parenting, emotional exhaustion, and the deep work of rebuilding boundaries.

Listen to learn:

• Why strong women become overfunctioners

• How betrayal trauma fuels codependent patterns

• What boundaries actually look like

• Why self-trust starts small

• How to stop rescuing everyone around you

• What healing really requires

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Chapters

• 01:51 Meet Terri Cole

• 05:18 Defining High Functioning Codependency

• 13:01 Anticipatory Anxiety Control

• 19:30 Boundaries Quiz

• 26:27 What Am I Tolerating?

• 31:07 VIP Section Relationships

• 39:45 Mourning the Dream

• 43:43 Chosen Me Mindset

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