High Vibe Divorce

Melissa Wheeler Farag
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High Vibe Divorce is a place where divorce, wellness, and spirituality meet. High Vibe Divorce is hosted by a family law mediator, divorcee, and recovering divorce litigator of 10 years, Melissa Wheeler Farag. On this podcast, Melissa and featured guests discuss how divorce can be a catalyst for a more fulfilling, authentic, and transformed life. This isn’t a place to bemoan the horrors and pain points of divorce; this is a place to look for higher vibe solutions and optimism. The only way out is through.

  1. 12h ago

    53 - Redefining Family: Two Divorced Attorneys on Co-Parenting, Mediation, and Regulating Through Divorce

    Episode 53: Redefining Family: Two Divorced Attorneys on Co-Parenting, Mediation, and Regulating Through Divorce What if divorce didn’t have to mean the destruction of your family—but instead became an opportunity to redefine it? In Episode 53 of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with Rebecca Tierney and Chris Koepsel, co-founders of Redefining Family—two attorneys turned mediators, divorce coaches, and co-parenting coaches with a uniquely personal perspective on divorce: they were once married to each other. After meeting in law school, building careers in Big Law, getting married, having two children, and eventually divorcing, Rebecca and Chris had to figure out how to restructure their own family. Nearly eight years after their divorce, they now co-parent their two children—and even run a divorce practice together. Their story is a powerful example of what can happen when former spouses move beyond the traditional idea of what a family is supposed to look like and instead focus on becoming allies for their children. As Rebecca explains, their marriage may have ended, but over time they developed a different kind of trust that ultimately allowed them to build Redefining Family together. In This Episode Melissa, Rebecca, and Chris discuss: Divorce as a restructuring rather than an ending. Chris brings his transactional legal background to divorce and compares the process to a restructuring: when children are involved, the family still needs to function, but under a new structure and a new partnership. Why litigation can damage long-term co-parenting relationships and how mediation can create space for more holistic, human-centered problem solving. Moving from Big Law to divorce work. Rebecca and Chris share how their backgrounds in complex litigation, transactional work, and corporate law inform the way they now help individuals and families. The grief and identity loss that accompany divorce. Divorce can involve grieving not only the marriage, but the future you imagined, your identity within the relationship, and the family structure you thought would always exist. Their own “kitchen table” divorce. Rebecca and Chris largely created their own settlement agreement, divided their assets, and developed a parenting plan together—with a little professional assistance along the way. Why detailed parenting plans actually create more freedom. A specific agreement can serve as scaffolding during the early years after separation. As trust develops, parents can choose to deviate from it—but clarity helps reduce unnecessary conflict when disagreements arise. How parenting schedules can evolve as children grow. Rebecca and Chris started with a 2-2-3 schedule when their children were young and later transitioned to a 2-2-5-5 schedule that gave both the parents and children greater consistency. Why co-parenting can sometimes make you a more present parent. Chris shares how having his children 50% of the time allows him to be intentional and fully engaged during his parenting time while also having time to recharge. Gender roles and invisible labor. Rebecca and Chris candidly discuss the division of labor during their marriage and how divorce required each of them to develop skills and assume responsibilities that previously belonged to the other spouse. The “leading spouse” and the “lagging spouse.” The person who initiated the divorce may be emotionally and practically much further ahead. Chris explains why the leading spouse may need to offer grace while the lagging spouse catches up—and why both spouses may need to learn skills previously handled by the other. Helping parents step into new roles after divorce. A parent who was less involved during the marriage may need time and support to develop parenting skills, while the former primary caregiver may need to learn how to relinquish control. Divorce as an opportunity for men to redefine themselves. Chris discusses the lack of models and community for divorced fathers and how divorce can force men to ask important questions about identity, values, relationships, and the kind of father they want to become. How family-of-origin conditioning shows up in divorce negotiations. From who “should” pay health insurance to assumptions about caregiving and financial responsibility, unconscious beliefs inherited from our families can unexpectedly drive conflict. Regulating your nervous system before making major divorce decisions. When someone is dysregulated, even basic questions—Have you eaten? Have you slept? What is happening in your body?—can be important before trying to negotiate or problem-solve. Simple wellness practices during divorce. Rebecca recommends something accessible and achievable: walking for 30 minutes. Movement, time outdoors, and a small daily routine can provide a sense of accomplishment when everything else feels overwhelming. The importance of community during divorce, particularly for men. Divorce can be profoundly isolating, and sometimes support comes from unexpected people who have been through it themselves. A Different Way to Think About Divorce One of the biggest themes of this conversation is acceptance and non-attachment. Divorce changes roles. It changes relationships. It changes family structures. Trying to hold tightly to the way things used to be can create even more suffering. As Melissa shares at the beginning of the episode: “Let go of attachment and remember that everything is unfolding perfectly.” — Ram Dass Rebecca and Chris could not have predicted that they would go from law school classmates, to romantic partners, to spouses and parents, to divorced co-parents—and eventually to business partners helping other families navigate divorce. Their story is a reminder that you may not know what your family will look like on the other side of divorce. Different does not necessarily mean worse. Something meaningful can emerge from a chapter that initially feels like an ending. About Rebecca Tierney & Chris Koepsel Rebecca and Chris are the co-founders of Redefining Family, where they help individuals and couples navigate divorce and co-parenting outside of traditional litigation. They offer decision coaching, divorce coaching, and co-parenting coaching nationwide. Because they are licensed California attorneys, they also provide mediation and limited-scope legal services in California, including preparation of marital settlement agreements, parenting plans, and related divorce documents. Their Integrated Divorce Method supports clients from the earliest stages of considering divorce through education, coaching, co-parenting support, nervous-system and attachment education, and ultimately mediation. They also work with individuals who already have divorce attorneys and want additional coaching and co-parenting support. Connect with Redefining Family Website: redefiningfamily.com Instagram & Social Media: @RedefiningFamilyLA Email: chris@redefiningfamily.com | rebecca@redefiningfamily.com A free 30-minute consultation with Rebecca or Chris can be scheduled through their website. About High Vibe Divorce High Vibe Divorce is hosted by Melissa Wheeler Farag, family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator. The podcast explores divorce through a different lens—one that recognizes that divorce can be painful, messy, and deeply challenging while also creating an opportunity for transformation. Divorce isn't a failure, and your life isn't over. In fact, it may just be beginning. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform, and share the episode with someone who may need it. Divorce can be stressful and isolating, so keep the conversation going and stay connected to the people in your life who are navigating it. Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

  2. Apr 15

    52 - Embrace Change and GROW with Ryah Arthur

    Episode 52: Embrace Change and GROW with Ryah Arthur Episode Snapshot What if one of the most powerful ways to navigate divorce isn’t through thinking—but through movement, community, and daily self-commitment? In this episode, Melissa sits down with Laguna Beach-based trainer and former professional surfer Ryah Arthur to explore how physical wellness, accountability, and aligned habits can become a foundation for healing and transformation during life’s most challenging transitions. From outdoor community workouts to his 90-day GROW program, Ryah shares how small, consistent actions—hydration, sleep, nutrition, movement, and stress regulation—can radically shift your mental, emotional, and physical state. Together, they discuss why getting “out of your head and into your body” is essential during divorce, and how building discipline and self-trust creates real resilience. Today’s Affirmation “I use the creative power of my personal vibration. I speak it into being.” About Today’s Guest: Ryah Arthur Ryah Arthur is a wellness coach, trainer, and former professional surfer based in Laguna Beach, California. With deep roots in the local community, he leads outdoor, functional fitness classes focused on breathwork, mobility, and strength. He is the creator of the GROW program, a 90-day holistic lifestyle program designed to help individuals optimize their health, reduce stress, and align their habits with their highest vision for their lives. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why community-based movement can be a game changer during divorce How physical activity helps you shift from mental overwhelm to grounded presence The six foundational movement patterns every body needs (and how to start simply) Why discipline = self-love (and how to build it in small, sustainable ways) The role of accountability in creating lasting change How stress (emotional, physical, mental) impacts your body—and how to regulate it Why focusing only on your problems keeps you stuck—and what to do instead How to define your “dream” and use it as a guiding force for transformation The power of daily wins in building resilience and confidence Inside the GROW Program Ryah’s 90-day GROW program is a holistic approach to wellness that adapts to each individual’s life and stress level. Participants focus on: Hydration (customized, not one-size-fits-all) Nutrition and whole foods Sleep optimization Movement and functional strength Breathwork and stress regulation Mindset and vision (“the dream”) Program features include: Daily accountability check-ins via video app Bi-monthly Zoom sessions with deep dives into key topics Optional in-person meetups (for local participants) Partner work for deeper connection and support A strong, supportive community environment The goal isn’t perfection—it’s sustainable transformation. Key Takeaways You don’t need to overhaul your life—start with small, consistent actions Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—community accelerates growth Getting physically stronger helps you become emotionally resilient You can’t control everything in divorce—but you can control how you care for yourself A compelling vision for your future is more powerful than reacting to crisis Melissa’s Perspective This episode highlights a powerful truth: divorce is not just a legal process—it’s a full-body, full-life transformation. Programs like GROW offer an alternative to staying stuck in the stress and analysis of divorce by helping you: Reconnect with your body Build supportive relationships Take aligned, forward-moving action Connect with Ryah Arthur Website: ryaharthur.com Instagram: @ryaharthur Resources & Links High Vibe Mediation: highvibemediation.com Follow the podcast on Instagram: @highvibedivorce If This Episode Resonated Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who may need support. Divorce can feel isolating—but transformation is possible with the right tools and community. Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

  3. Mar 11

    51 - Financially-Savvy Divorce: Expert Insight from Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA

    Episode 51: Financially-Savvy Divorce: Expert Insight from Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA Episode snapshot Divorce can feel overwhelming, especially when the financial side is unclear, emotionally charged, or being used as a source of leverage. In this episode, Melissa sits down with returning guest Victoria Kirilloff, CDFA, family financial mediator, and founder of Divorce Analytics, for a practical and empowering conversation about how to become more financially savvy during divorce. Victoria shares how her own experience navigating a high-conflict, financially entangled divorce inspired her to create tools that help others approach divorce with more clarity, strategy, and confidence. Together, Melissa and Victoria break down key California divorce concepts, including spousal support, Family Code section 4320 factors, budgets, marital standard of living, earning capacity, taxes, imputation of income, lump-sum buyouts, and present value discounts. They also explore a critical question many people face early on: Is mediation appropriate for everyone? Melissa and Victoria discuss when mediation can be powerful, when it can become a delay tactic, and what red flags may signal that a more structured legal process is necessary. This episode is packed with guidance for anyone who wants to walk into divorce mediation, negotiation, or litigation feeling more informed, more grounded, and more empowered. Today’s affirmation “The way through is you. I have the courage to go within and work my way through.” Melissa reflects on how this affirmation applies so powerfully to divorce finances. Even with expert support, you are still the person making the decisions about your future. The more you understand your options, priorities, and financial realities, the more empowered you become. In this episode, we discuss: Victoria’s role as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) and family financial mediator Why defining the financial variables clearly is essential for productive divorce negotiations The value of a global settlement proposal instead of handling divorce issues piecemeal The difference between temporary spousal support and permanent spousal support in California How Family Code section 4320 factors shape spousal support analysis Why marital standard of living is often misunderstood The importance of analyzing budgets, taxes, earning capacity, savings, and investments What income imputation means and when it comes into play How lump-sum spousal support buyouts work What present value means and why discounts are often applied in lump-sum negotiations Why mediation is not always the best fit for every couple Red flags that may suggest mediation is likely to fail or be used as a delay tactic Why documentation, data, and the right divorce team can reduce anxiety and improve outcomes How divorce coaches, therapists, attorneys, and CDFAs can help support a more empowered process Key takeaways Victoria emphasizes that one of the biggest mistakes people make in divorce is trying to negotiate without clearly defining the numbers. Estimates, assumptions, and vague language often create confusion, mistrust, and stalled negotiations. Solid financial analysis helps both spouses understand what is actually on the table. Melissa and Victoria also discuss how support issues are rarely as simple as a single calculator result. Spousal support discussions often require a much deeper look at lifestyle, actual need, cash flow, future earning ability, and the long-term impact of asset division. Another major theme in this episode is that mediation works best when both people are genuinely capable of participating in good faith. While mediation can be transformative and efficient, it is not always appropriate in cases involving coercion, extreme delay tactics, abuse, or entrenched high-conflict dynamics. Most of all, this episode is a reminder that divorce is not just a legal process. It is also a financial and emotional transition. Getting informed, building the right support team, and understanding the facts can help you move through it with much more confidence. About today’s guest Victoria Kirilloff is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), family financial mediator, and founder of Divorce Analytics. After navigating her own high-conflict divorce, Victoria used her background in financial analysis to create the first global settlement proposal and divorce report that helped bring clarity and resolution to her situation. Today, she helps clients and professionals make the financial side of divorce more transparent, strategic, and productive through documentation, data, and practical financial insight. Victoria believes divorce does not have to be purely destructive and that with the right support, it can become a transformative turning point. Connect with Victoria Kirilloff Website: DivorceAnalytics.com Victoria also offers consultations and shares educational insights through her newsletter. Connect with Melissa Visit highvibemediation.com to learn more about Melissa’s mediation services. You can also connect with Melissa on Instagram through her mediation and podcast pages, both linked in the show notes. Loved this episode? If this conversation helped you feel more informed or empowered, please subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who may need it. Divorce can feel isolating, and these conversations help people feel less alone and more supported. Until next time, keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

  4. Feb 25

    50 - Finding Growth in Divorce: Insights from Attorney Katie Padilla of Bloom Family Law

    In this 50th episode Melissa Farag interviews Katie Padilla of Bloom Family Law about moving away from adversarial litigation toward mediation, legal consulting, flat-fee packages, divorce coaching, and restorative retreats focused on nervous-system regulation and value mining. They offer practical guidance for people considering divorce: begin with emotional support, choose trusted guides carefully, spend limited resources intentionally, and prioritize processes that protect long-term wellbeing and healthier co-parenting. Episode 50 - Finding Growth in Divorce: Insights from Attorney Katie Padilla of Bloom Family Law High Vibe Divorce Podcast — Show Notes Episode Snapshot Episode 50 is a milestone—and a reminder that divorce doesn’t have to be a purely adversarial, low-vibration experience. Melissa sits down with Katie Padilla (founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland), an attorney-mediator-collaborative professional who intentionally stepped away from litigation to support families entirely out of court. Together, they explore divorce as an “underworld initiation”—a sacred rite of passage that can crack you open, help you value-mine the hard parts, and guide you toward a more intentional next chapter. This conversation is also a practical reality check: who you listen to (friends, family, professionals) matters. Your nervous system matters. And the way you choose to move through the fire shapes your future—especially if you’ll be co-parenting. Today’s Affirmation “Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” — Napoleon Hill Melissa and Katie connect this to “value mining”: finding the benefit—even if you can’t see it yet—and using journaling, reflection, and support to discover the growth on the other side. In This Episode, Melissa and Katie Talk About… 1) Divorce as an initiation (and why it can be transformational) Katie reframes divorce as a sacred transition—an opportunity to look inward, interrupt old patterns, and ask: What do I want out of this life now? What matters most to me? What do I want to stop repeating? Melissa connects this to grief work and “ego death”: the loss of identity and reality can be destabilizing, but also deeply catalytic. 2) Why Bloom Family Law no longer litigates Katie shares the “why” behind leaving court: Litigation can amplify blame, defensiveness, and shame Judges don’t know your family and often have limited time People can “win” legally and still feel depleted, empty, or harmed Court is public, and the process can be humiliating and escalatory They both name what many people sense: even when big emotions show up in mediation, it can still feel like progress—because there’s room for humanity, nuance, and forward motion. 3) Surrender doesn’t mean weakness A key theme: accepting what is without collapsing your boundaries. Surrender = choosing battles wisely, staying grounded, and moving with integrity—not “giving in.” Katie emphasizes doing things in a way your body can feel proud of later: What does integrity mean to you? How do you want to show up in the fire? What do you want to be able to say about yourself afterward? 4) How Bloom Family Law supports clients (out-of-court + whole-person support) Katie outlines Bloom’s approach: Collaborative divorce (out of court) Mediation and mediation-focused resolution Consulting for people negotiating directly or working with a neutral mediator Legal consulting + coaching bundled into a flat-fee model Access to pre-vetted divorce coaches through Bloom The thread running through it all: support the whole person—not just the legal problem. 5) “Be intentional about your audience” Katie offers a simple but powerful practice: not everyone gets a front-row seat to your divorce. They discuss how well-meaning friends and family can unintentionally project, escalate, or dysregulate you—and why discernment is everything right now. A gut-check they share: Do you feel supported after talking to this person—or drained? Are they regulated—or emotionally fanning flames? Are they advising from wisdom—or from their own unresolved stuff? 6) The uncomfortable truth about litigation incentives Melissa breaks down the reality of billable-hour family law and why clients must ask better questions before hiring counsel. They discuss how easy it is for fear and anger to steer the ship—and how quickly costs can balloon without creating real resolution. Takeaway: Interview professionals like your peace depends on it—because it does. 7) Start with regulation + support: why a divorce coach can be the best first hire Katie shares a stat she’s seen: many people retain the first attorney who calls them back—often from a dysregulated, urgent state. They discuss why beginning with a therapist and/or divorce coach can help you: calm the nervous system clarify goals learn what questions to ask choose the right team (legal, financial, coaching) spend limited resources more intentionally Katie calls divorce coaches “divorce doulas”—guides who help you move through the process with steadiness and intention. 8) Retreats: creating a healing container during divorce Katie shares Bloom’s retreat vision, beginning with a retreat at Mount Madonna Institute, featuring: nervous system regulation support somatic tools yoga therapy elements coaching exercises including value mining Their shared belief: stepping into a safe, intentional space—especially when shame and isolation are high—can be profoundly healing. Listener Takeaways Divorce is hard—but it doesn’t have to destroy you. Regulation, support, and discernment can change everything. The way you move through divorce shapes your future identity, health, and co-parenting relationship. Choose guides you trust. Choose advice you’d actually want to live by. About Today’s Guest: Katie Padilla Katie Padilla is an attorney, mediator, and collaborative professional—and the founder of Bloom Family Law in Oakland, California. Bloom supports clients entirely out of court, focusing on mediation, consulting, and innovative flat-fee legal + coaching support to help people move through divorce with intention, integrity, and whole-person care. Find Katie / Bloom: Bloom Family Law and Bloom Legal Coach Bloom Family Law Instagram Connect with Melissa / High Vibe Divorce Melissa Wheeler Farag is a family law mediator and recovering divorce litigator, helping clients move through divorce in a more mindful, respectful, and empowering way. Find Melissa / High Vibe Mediation: High Vibe Mediation High Vibe Divorce Instagram Closing Vibe If you enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs support. Divorce can be isolating—keep the conversation going. Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

  5. Feb 18

    49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP

    Episode 49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP Episode snapshot Keeping the house after divorce can feel like the “obvious” choice—until lending rules, buyouts, support income, and loan terms collide. In this episode, Melissa sits down with Karla Kyte (Certified Divorce Lending Professional) to unpack the real-world mortgage hurdles that derail well-intentioned settlement agreements, especially in a higher-rate environment. Karla explains the critical differences between refinance vs. assumption vs. release of liability, how support and employment income are treated for qualifying, and why asking the right questions (to the right department) can save clients from losing options that disappear once the judgment is signed. Today’s affirmation “We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us.” — from the Letting Go Deck (and Letting Go book) by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. About today’s guest: Karla Kyte, CDLP Karla Kyte of My Divorce Mortgage Planning is a divorce mortgage planning expert with nearly 30 years in lending. She supports divorcing homeowners (and the professionals guiding them) to ensure housing decisions made during divorce actually work when it’s time to qualify—before it’s too late to change course. Karla’s specialty includes the issues that most often trip people up: buyouts, refinances, assumptions, release of liability, support income, self-employment, and debt/income allocation. She’s based in Denver, Colorado, and works nationwide. What we cover Why “I can afford the payment” isn’t the same as “I can qualify to keep the house” The Tetris of divorce terms: legal language, tax concerns, and lending guidelines have to align Refinance basics (and why it often means losing the low rate) The difference between a cash-out refi and a buyout refinance (and why the distinction matters) Assumption vs. release of liability: what’s actually possible, and when Why calling the wrong department can get you a flat “no” that isn’t the full story Support income rules: what qualifies, how long it must be received, and why documentation + timing matter Why cash support payments can wreck mortgage qualification Return-to-work income: full-time vs. part-time and what lenders typically require Self-employment: why divorce “income for support” can look nothing like “income for lending” A creative (and risky) option: Garn-St. Germain protections and continuing to pay an existing mortgage post-divorce (when the other spouse stays on the loan) Key takeaways (save these if you’re navigating divorce + a house) Don’t assume your lender—or your lawyer—knows every option. Mortgage rules are technical, and divorce adds extra layers. If you’re exploring an assumption or release of liability, you must speak to the loan servicing department (not general customer service). For many loans, assumability is limited—but in divorce, some servicers may allow a release of liability even when the spouse wasn’t originally on the mortgage (often at servicer discretion). Support income may be usable for qualification only if it’s court-ordered, paid consistently, and properly documented (and it must generally be expected to continue long enough). Never pay support in cash if the recipient needs it to qualify—paper trail matters. Part-time income can be hard to use without the right history/guarantees; full-time income is usually easier to re-establish for lending. For self-employed borrowers, “income” in divorce calculations can be wildly different from what underwriters can count—plan early, because changing tax strategy often takes time. Notable moments / mic-drop reminders “Ask the right question to the right department—or you could lose a huge opportunity.” “A settlement term can be perfectly legal—and still not lendable.” “Paper trail is everything when support income is part of qualification.” Resources mentioned Letting Go (book) + Letting Go Deck — David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. Karla’s website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com Mentioned concept: Garn-St. Germain (due-on-sale protections in specific transfer situations, including divorce) Connect with Karla Kyte Website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com Find her by name: Karla Kyte on TikTok / Instagram  Connect with Melissa / High Vibe Divorce Podcast + DMs: @highvibedivorce Mediation: @highvibemediation Website: highvibemediation.com Listener call-to-action If this episode helped you think differently about keeping (or selling) the house, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs steady guidance right now. Divorce can be stressful and isolating—let’s keep the conversation going. Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low. Friendly disclaimer This episode is educational and not legal, tax, or financial advice. Mortgage and divorce rules vary by situation—consult the appropriate professionals for guidance specific to your case.

  6. Feb 4

    48 - Reiki Energy and Financial Empowerment During Divorce with Heather Reeves, CDFA

    Episode 48: Reiki Energy + Financial Empowerment During Divorce (with Heather Reeves, CDFA) Episode snapshot In this episode of High Vibe Divorce, Melissa sits down with returning guest (and friend) Heather Reeves—a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)—for a conversation that blends energy healing with practical money strategy. Together, they explore how Reiki can help regulate the nervous system during divorce, and why emotional steadiness is often the missing link to making smart financial decisions. Today’s opening affirmation “As we relinquish the negative suppressed feelings from all the programs we have internalized, they’re automatically replaced by higher ones… When our inner feelings are peacefulness, serenity, tranquility, stillness, openness, and simplicity, the effect on others is to increase their awareness… and to give them a greater sense of freedom, perfection, unity, and at oneness with ourselves.” What you’ll hear in this episode What Reiki is (and why it’s not as “woo woo” as people think) Heather’s story: finding Reiki during her divorce and feeling immediate relief Reiki as universal life force energy + how a Reiki Master acts as a channel Why divorce dysregulation (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) can make people avoid finances entirely How Reiki can support: stress + anxiety reduction physical pain relief emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual healing The 5 Reiki principles and how they apply to divorce (including being kind to yourself—and yes, even your ex) In-person vs remote Reiki (and what a session actually feels like) Why “I just want to be done” can be a red flag when it’s coming from fear The confidence shift: moving from fear → neutral → informed → decisive How Heather blends her CDFA work with nervous system support—so clients can think clearly about money Why a CDFA + mediator can be a cost-effective team versus litigation + forensic accounting (when appropriate) The importance of budgets, disclosures, and not double-counting expenses Special note: why finances can be extra nuanced when one spouse is self-employed A local Orange County wellness event announcement featuring Reiki, breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath Powerful takeaways You don’t need to be “spiritual” to benefit from Reiki—what matters is willingness and consent. If you’re dysregulated, it’s harder to: read documents engage in discovery negotiate fairly understand options advocate for yourself Financial empowerment in divorce isn’t about power over your spouse—it’s power from within. The divorce process is often a business unwinding, and calming your nervous system can help you participate instead of freeze. Reiki 101 (quick explainer) Reiki = “universal life force energy.” A Reiki Master doesn’t “take” your energy or force anything—Heather describes it as intelligent energy that flows where it’s needed. Sessions can be hands-on or hands-off, and can be done remotely with similar impact. What you might experience: deep relaxation (many people fall asleep) tingling sensations seeing colors/lights behind closed eyes emotional release increased clarity in the days after (journal + notice dreams/insights) Heather’s beginner suggestion: Try once a week for 4 weeks to feel the shift and allow time for integration. Event mention Heather shares an upcoming women’s wellness event focused on alignment: Date: March 8, 2026 Location: Costa Mesa, CA (at Enjoy Yoga) Modalities offered: Reiki (Heather), breathwork/hypnosis, and a sound bath About Heather Reeves Heather is a Reiki Master, divorce coach, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA). She supports clients through the financial realities of divorce—budgeting, strategy, proposal analysis, tax implications, and long-term planning—while also integrating tools that help clients stay regulated and grounded during an emotionally charged process. Resources & links (for show notes) Melissa / High Vibe Divorce + High Vibe Mediation: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce https://www.highvibemediation.com/ https://www.instagram.com/highvibemediation/  Heather Reeves: https://www.coachingwithorigin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/coachingwithorigin/  Event info: (add registration link once posted) Listener reminder If this episode helped you, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need a little grounding and support. Divorce can feel isolating—let’s keep the conversation going. Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

  7. Jan 28

    47 - Recenter Anywhere (Even During Divorce) Using Breathwork with Sheila Stephens, PA

    Episode 47 — Recenter Anywhere (Even During Divorce) Using Breathwork with Sheila Stephens, PA Guest: Sheila Stephens, PA – Physician Assistant, Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Founder of Recenter Anywhere In this episode, Melissa sits down with Sheila Stephens, a physician assistant turned breathwork and wellness coach, to explore how simple, accessible breathing and mindfulness practices can help you stay grounded—especially during emotionally charged life transitions like divorce. Melissa and Sheila met at a women’s wellness event in Orange County and instantly connected over their shared belief that healing tools should be practical, affordable, and available to real people in real life. Sheila now offers personalized, one-on-one virtual breathwork sessions, creating custom recordings clients can use anytime they need to recenter. Together, they dive into: What “breathwork” actually means—and why it’s more than just deep breathing How breathwork and meditation work together to calm the nervous system Why so many of us discover these tools during moments of crisis The difference between calming vs. activating breath techniques Simple practices you can use anywhere—at your desk, in your car, or even in a convention center How these tools help you respond instead of react during conflict Why meditation isn’t about stopping your thoughts (and never was) How consistent practice creates space between triggers and reactions Using breath and mindfulness to reconnect with intuition during big life decisions Letting go of perfection and embracing “healthy-ish” habits that actually stick This conversation is especially powerful for anyone navigating divorce, grief, anxiety, or overwhelm. Sheila explains how breathwork can help you come back into your body, quiet the mental noise, and find safety within yourself—no matter what’s happening around you. Melissa also shares her own experience using breathwork in high-stress environments, from law school to the bar exam, and how these practices support emotional regulation during divorce. Mantra from the Episode “Letting go is like the sudden cessation of an inner pressure or the dropping of a weight. It is accompanied by a sudden feeling of relief and lightness, with increased happiness and freedom.” About Sheila Sheila Stephens is a Physician Assistant and Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach. Through her business, Recenter Anywhere, she helps overthinkers who feel drained, anxious, or stuck find clarity, momentum, and sustainable “healthy-ish” habits—without rigid rules or one-size-fits-all solutions. Her signature one-on-one sessions provide customized breathwork and meditation recordings clients can use anytime they need to reset. Connect with Sheila Website: recenteranywhere.com Instagram: @recenter_anywhere Connect with Melissa + High Vibe Divorce Podcast Instagram: @highvibedivorce Melissa / High Vibe Mediation Instagram: @highvibemediation Website: highvibemediation.com If you’re in the midst of divorce or feeling overwhelmed by life’s transitions, this episode offers gentle, practical tools to help you breathe, pause, and come back to yourself—anytime, anywhere.

  8. Jan 21

    46 - Spiritual Insights for Your Divorce Journey with Alexandra Shelly, The Modern Medium

    🎙️ Episode 46 Spiritual Insights for Your Divorce Journey with Alexandra Shelly, The Modern Medium Episode Overview In this deeply soulful and expansive conversation, Melissa is joined by psychic medium and spiritual guide Alexandra Shelly, host of Embody Your Soul and known online as The Modern Medium. Together, they explore how divorce—like death, illness, and other major life transitions—can become a powerful gateway to awakening, alignment, and transformation. Alexandra demystifies intuition, spirit guides, and “the Clairs,” offering grounded, accessible ways to understand spiritual connection without bypassing the human experience. This episode invites listeners to see divorce not only as an ending, but as an initiation—an opportunity to reconnect with your authentic self, your higher wisdom, and the unseen support that surrounds you. Whether you’re brand new to spirituality or already walking a conscious path, this episode is a gentle reminder that you are never alone—and that magic is always available if you’re willing to notice it. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why divorce, grief, and “dark” seasons often catalyze the greatest spiritual growth How Alexandra defines intuition as your most authentic self The difference between asking for “signs” and learning to trust your inner knowing An introduction to the Clairs (claircognizance, clairvoyance, clairsentience, clairaudience, and more) How to begin connecting with your spirit team—even if you’re brand new Why intention is the doorway to spiritual connection How signs can show up in everyday life (feathers, numbers, songs, synchronicities) The power of choosing to see life as magical Why grounding, embodiment, and presence are essential during emotional upheaval How spirituality can restore trust in yourself during divorce Key Takeaways Intuition is your North Star. It’s not mystical or elite—it’s your truest self guiding you home. Spirit doesn’t take away your autonomy. Your guides illuminate; you steer the ship. You don’t need to be “woo” to be connected. Spirituality can be simple, embodied, and human. Divorce is an initiation. It’s ego death—and rebirth. You are never alone. Support exists beyond what you can see. You get to choose magic. You can live as if everything is a miracle. Trust builds confidence. Every time you honor a sign, you strengthen your inner knowing. A High Vibe Reflection “You can live as if nothing is a miracle, or you can live as if everything is a miracle.” Divorce can feel isolating, destabilizing, and overwhelming. But what if it’s also an invitation—to trust yourself, to reconnect with something greater, and to remember who you really are? About Our Guest Alexandra Shelly is a psychic medium, Reiki practitioner, death doula, tarot reader, and host of the Embody Your Soul podcast. Known as The Modern Medium, Alexandra helps people connect with their spirit team, intuition, and higher self in grounded, empowering ways. She offers: Psychic mediumship sessions Remote and in-person Reiki Death doula services Tarot readings Spiritual mentorship Alexandra is based in Orange County, California and works with clients worldwide. Find Alexandra: Instagram: @themodernmedium_ Podcast: Embody Your Soul Website: themodernmedium.com Also on TikTok & Threads Stay Connected with High Vibe Divorce 🌐 Website: highvibemediation.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highvibedivorce/ If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need a reminder that they are supported—even in the darkest chapters. Until next time, Keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

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High Vibe Divorce is a place where divorce, wellness, and spirituality meet. High Vibe Divorce is hosted by a family law mediator, divorcee, and recovering divorce litigator of 10 years, Melissa Wheeler Farag. On this podcast, Melissa and featured guests discuss how divorce can be a catalyst for a more fulfilling, authentic, and transformed life. This isn’t a place to bemoan the horrors and pain points of divorce; this is a place to look for higher vibe solutions and optimism. The only way out is through.

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  • Creator
    Melissa Wheeler Farag
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    53
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    Clean
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    High Vibe Divorce