Hot & Healthy Menopause

Nicole van Hattem

Smart, often funny, and sometimes surprising. Everything's up for discussion: from divorce to dating app disasters, hot sweats, menopause myths, changing body image, family responsibilities, solo travel adventures, and challenging societal norms. Join me for candid chats, expert insights, and the conversations you wish you had. Subscribe here: www.nicolevanhattem.com

  1. 213 - Menopause: The Missing Initiation? | Part 1

    5d ago

    213 - Menopause: The Missing Initiation? | Part 1

    What if menopause isn't the end of something... but the beginning of something profound? After attending a fascinating presentation at HerbFest on the major stages of human life, Nicole noticed something extraordinary. The speaker explored birth, puberty, coming of age, reproduction, old age and death—but one of the biggest transitions in a woman's life was completely missing. Menopause. In this thought-provoking first episode of a new series, Nicole explores the idea that menopause may be one of the last forgotten rites of passage in modern society. Drawing on anthropology, psychology, women's history and her own reflections, she asks what happens when women are expected to navigate one of life's greatest transformations without preparation, guidance, ceremony or community. In this episode, you'll discover: Why every culture has traditionally recognised important life transitions through rituals and initiation. What happens when those rites of passage disappear. How girls are often introduced to menstruation through silence, shame, fear or sexualisation rather than celebration and wisdom. The surprising similarities between puberty and menopause. Why our culture celebrates fertility but largely ignores the transition beyond it. How menopause has become medicalised while its psychological, social and spiritual dimensions are often overlooked. The fascinating question of why humans—and only a handful of other mammals—live for decades after reproduction. Whether menopause could actually be an invitation into wisdom rather than decline. Nicole also reflects on a conversation with the HerbFest speaker that raises a much bigger question: If we celebrate birth, puberty, weddings and even retirement... why don't we honour menopause? This episode invites you to see menopause through an entirely different lens—not as something to fear, but as a powerful initiation into the next stage of your life. If this episode resonates with you, please follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with another woman who deserves to know that menopause isn't the end of her story—it may be the beginning of one of its most meaningful chapters.

    13 min
  2. 212 - Creativity and Anger: What Menopause Is Trying to Teach You About Your Next Chapter

    Jun 23

    212 - Creativity and Anger: What Menopause Is Trying to Teach You About Your Next Chapter

    Have you found yourself feeling unexpectedly angry in midlife? Not irritated. Not frustrated. Angry. In this episode, Nicole explores the surprising connection between creativity, anger, and the menopause transition. Drawing inspiration from the groundbreaking book Women Who Run With the Wolves by PhD Clarissa Pinkola Estés, she challenges the idea that anger is something to suppress or fix. What if your anger is actually a messenger? What if it is pointing towards dreams you've postponed, boundaries you've ignored, truths you've swallowed, or a creative life force that is longing to be expressed? Nicole shares why so many women experience rising anger during perimenopause and menopause, how modern life often disconnects women from their instinctive nature, and why retreats can create the space needed to hear the wisdom beneath the rage. In this episode you'll discover: • Why anger is often a boundary looking for a voice • The hidden relationship between creativity and emotional wellbeing • How suppressed life force can show up as resentment, exhaustion, or rage • The Wild Woman archetype and what she can teach us about midlife • Why menopause may be an initiation into a more authentic version of yourself • How retreats help women reconnect with their creativity, intuition, and purpose • Powerful journal prompts to help you explore what is trying to be born through you If you're wondering why your tolerance for nonsense has disappeared, this conversation may help you see your anger in a completely different light. Because perhaps your anger isn't asking you to calm down. Perhaps it's asking you to wake up. Reach out at www.NicolevanHattem.com

    10 min
  3. 211 - Cellulite, Sagging & Skin Solutions in Menopause (Part 2)

    Apr 8

    211 - Cellulite, Sagging & Skin Solutions in Menopause (Part 2)

    Cellulite. Sagging skin. Loss of firmness. If you've noticed these changes in perimenopause or menopause, you're not alone — and it's not your fault. In Part 2 of this Hot & Healthy Menopause series, we move beyond what's happening… and into what actually works. As your Menopause Coach, I'll walk you through the real reasons cellulite and sagging become more visible in midlife — and the holistic, science-backed strategies that support stronger, smoother, more resilient skin. No gimmicks. No false promises. Just what your body actually needs now. 💡 In This Episode, You'll Learn: What cellulite really is — and why 80–90% of women have it The role of connective tissue (septa) and why structure matters How fascia affects skin texture and why it becomes tighter with age Why skin sags in menopause (collagen, elastin, muscle, and bone changes) How fat (adipose) redistribution impacts body shape and skin appearance The connection between gut health and skin health (gut–skin axis) How supporting your microbiome (including Zinzino ZinoBiotic+) can improve skin quality Why omega 3–6–9 balance is essential for hydration, elasticity, and inflammation How Zinzino BalanceOil supports skin from the inside out Why strength training builds muscle and bone, improving how your skin looks and feels The best topical moisturiser ingredients (and what to avoid) How gua sha, massage, and fascia release support circulation and glow Why there is no single product that reverses aging skin ✨ The Truth About Menopause Skin Your skin is not just about what you put on it. It's influenced by your hormones, your gut, your nutrition, your movement, your stress levels, and your daily rituals. When you support your body holistically, your skin responds. 🌿 Your Next Step If you're ready to stop guessing and start supporting your skin in a way that actually works, I'd love to guide you. 💛 Work with me as your Menopause Coach 👉 nicolevanhattem.com 🎧 Missed Part 1? Go back and listen to Part 1: Skin & Menopause — What's Really Happening Under the Surface to understand the hormonal and biological changes driving everything we've discussed here. 🔔 Follow & Share If this episode gave you clarity and confidence, follow Hot & Healthy Menopause and share it with a woman who needs to hear this.

    10 min
  4. 210 - Skin & Menopause: What's Really Happening Under the Surface (Part 1)

    Apr 8

    210 - Skin & Menopause: What's Really Happening Under the Surface (Part 1)

    Has your skin suddenly become dry, itchy, sensitive — or started sagging — and you're wondering what changed? In this episode of Hot & Healthy Menopause, we go beneath the surface to understand what's really happening to your skin during perimenopause and menopause. This is Part 1 of a 2-part series where I explain the science behind midlife skin changes — so you can stop guessing, stop wasting money on gimmicks, and start supporting your skin in a way that actually works. As your Menopause Coach, I'll guide you through the real reasons your skin feels different — and why this stage of life requires a completely different approach. 💡 In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why estrogen decline affects collagen, elastin, and skin hydration What happens inside your epidermis and dermis during menopause The role of fibroblasts (your collagen-producing cells) Why your skin becomes drier, thinner, and slower to heal What sebum is — and why you suddenly have less of it How vasomotor symptoms (like hot flushes) impact your skin What the relative androgen effect means for adult acne and hair growth Why skin sensitivity changes (itching, tingling, or numbness) How fat redistribution (adipose changes) affects how your skin looks The truth about your 28-day skin renewal cycle — and how to use it to your advantage ✨ Why This Matters Your skin is not just about appearance — it's a reflection of your hormones, your health, and your internal environment. When you understand what's happening, you can stop fighting your body — and start working with it. 🎧 Listen Next Make sure you tune into Part 2, where we dive into: ✔ Cellulite explained (and why 80–90% of women have it) ✔ Why skin sagging becomes more visible in menopause ✔ The role of fascia, muscle, and bone in skin firmness ✔ Gut health, omega balance, and inside-out skin support ✔ What actually works — and what's just marketing 💛 Work With Me If you're ready to feel confident in your skin again, I can help you create a personalised, holistic plan as your Menopause Coach. 👉 nicolevanhattem.com 🔔 Follow & Share If this episode helped you understand your skin in a new way, follow Hot & Healthy Menopause and share it with another woman who needs to hear this.

    7 min
  5. 208 - Wine, Anxiety & Menopause

    Mar 20

    208 - Wine, Anxiety & Menopause

    Many women notice their anxiety increasing during perimenopause and menopause — and a nightly glass of wine can feel like the easiest way to calm the nervous system. But what if that coping strategy is actually making things worse? In this episode of Hot & Healthy Menopause, Nicole explores the surprising link between anxiety, alcohol, hormonal changes, and bone health — and why the "wine to unwind" habit can accelerate osteoporosis risk in midlife women. During menopause, fluctuating estrogen affects key brain chemicals including serotonin, dopamine and GABA, which regulate mood and stress. Alcohol may provide short-term relief, but it increases cortisol, disrupts sleep, worsens anxiety the following day, and interferes with calcium absorption and bone rebuilding. Over time, this combination of stress hormones, alcohol, and declining estrogen can weaken bones, particularly in the lumbar spine and hips — the areas most vulnerable to osteoporotic fractures. Nicole shares the science behind what's happening in the menopausal brain and body, why alcohol can intensify anxiety, and the practical steps women can take to restore calm, protect bone health, and feel like themselves again. In this episode you'll learn: • Why anxiety often increases during perimenopause and menopause • How hormonal changes affect brain chemistry and emotional regulation • Why alcohol worsens anxiety and sleep disruption • The link between cortisol, menopause, and bone loss • Why osteoporosis risk rises in midlife women • Healthier ways to calm the nervous system and support bone strength

    6 min
  6. 207 - Why Anxiety Increases in Menopause – Understanding the Hormonal Brain

    Mar 10

    207 - Why Anxiety Increases in Menopause – Understanding the Hormonal Brain

    Many women are surprised when anxiety suddenly appears during perimenopause and menopause — even if they've never struggled with it before. Racing thoughts. A sense of dread. Heart palpitations. Feeling overwhelmed by things that never used to bother you. In this episode of Hot & Healthy Menopause, Nicole explores why anxiety becomes more common during the menopause transition and what's actually happening inside the menopausal brain. Fluctuating and declining hormones — particularly estrogen and progesterone — directly affect neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine, and GABA, which regulate mood, sleep, and the body's stress response. When these hormones shift, the brain becomes more sensitive to stress, which can amplify feelings of fear, uncertainty, and emotional vulnerability. At the same time, midlife often brings major life transitions — children leaving home, relationship changes, career shifts, ageing parents, or health concerns — all of which can add additional pressure to an already sensitive nervous system. Nicole also discusses the often-overlooked connection between chronic anxiety, elevated cortisol, and bone health, and why managing stress during menopause is important not only for emotional wellbeing but also for protecting long-term health. This episode will help you understand why anxiety happens during menopause — and how to begin restoring calm, confidence, and emotional balance. In this episode you'll learn • Why anxiety often increases during perimenopause and menopause • How estrogen and progesterone influence brain chemistry and mood • The role of serotonin, dopamine, and GABA in emotional regulation • Why midlife transitions can amplify feelings of anxiety • The connection between stress hormones and long-term health • Practical ways to support your nervous system during menopause

    8 min
  7. 206 - Food & Mood: How what you eat shapes how you feel differently in Menopause

    Mar 4

    206 - Food & Mood: How what you eat shapes how you feel differently in Menopause

    Have you ever noticed that some foods leave you feeling calm, focused and energised — while others leave you anxious, foggy or flat? It's not in your head. What you eat directly influences your mood, brain chemistry and emotional wellbeing. In this episode of Hot & Healthy Menopause, we explore the powerful connection between food, inflammation, hormones and mental health during midlife. Research increasingly shows that dietary patterns can influence the risk of depression, perceived stress and overall wellbeing in postmenopausal women. Nicole unpacks the science behind: • The link between high glycaemic foods and depression in postmenopausal women • Why processed foods increase inflammation and affect mood • How whole plant foods support emotional wellbeing and resilience • The role of iron, zinc and essential nutrients in cognitive and emotional function • The gut–brain connection and why your microbiome influences how you feel • Why anti-inflammatory diets such as the Mediterranean diet are associated with lower depression risk You'll also hear simple food swaps that can help stabilise mood, support brain health and reduce inflammation during menopause. If you've ever wondered why your mood changes with what you eat, this episode will help you understand the science — and give you practical ways to support both your body and your mind. Resources mentioned Take the Zinzino BalanceTest to understand your omega balance and inflammation markers. Learn more or work with Nicole at www.nicolevanhattem.com

    6 min
4.5
out of 5
11 Ratings

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Smart, often funny, and sometimes surprising. Everything's up for discussion: from divorce to dating app disasters, hot sweats, menopause myths, changing body image, family responsibilities, solo travel adventures, and challenging societal norms. Join me for candid chats, expert insights, and the conversations you wish you had. Subscribe here: www.nicolevanhattem.com