Hot Messes, Big Visions

Nikki Pak, Sophia Phieros
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Hot Messes, Big Visions is a podcast for the parents who are building something - a business, a career, a family, a village - while still cleaning up snack crumbs and surviving on less than four hours sleep.Hosted by Nikki Pak and Sophia Phieros, co-founders of The Village Co., each episode is an honest, unfiltered conversation about modern parenthood, identity, work, and what it actually feels like to build something real inside a real life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. May 14

    Would You Know What To Do? Gagging, Choking, and the 2am Your Baby Turns Blue

    What would you actually do if your baby choked right now? In this episode, we sit down with Charlotte from And Breathe First Aid, a paediatric ICU nurse with over a decade of experience and the founder of NZ's only parent-specific first aid education. We talk about the gap between knowing first aid and actually being able to act in a crisis, why choking is less common than you think (and what to do when it does happen), and the one stat about CPR that stopped us both in our tracks. We cover: The difference between gagging and choking, and the one question to ask yourselfWhy baby CPR is nothing like what you learned in a workplace courseFebrile seizures: what they are, how common they are, and why no one talks about itHow to stay calm when it's your own childThe free Baby CPR mini course you can do right now from your couch Charlotte also shares the story of her own daughter going blue at 2am, which is equal parts terrifying and reassuring. Free Baby CPR Mini Course: https://www.andbreathefirstaid.co.nz/pages/baby-cpr-mini-course Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    41 min

  2. May 8

    The Messy Middle

    Nobody talks about the bit in between. Not the exciting launch, not the "we made it" moment. Just the long, unglamorous stretch where you're building something real while running on broken sleep and blind faith. That's where Nikki and Sophia are right now, and this episode they're not pretending otherwise. From midnight wake-ups and toddlers who insist on driving the car, to turning 41 wondering if you have your life together, to that very specific startup feeling of being so close and so far at the same time, this one's for anyone in the thick of it. Because parenting and building a business? Turns out they're not that different. It's the same stubbornness, the same "I can't quit now," the same slow, hard, beautiful progress you almost miss while you're living it. If you've been waiting for someone to say "same" instead of "here's how I scaled to seven figures by Thursday," pull up a seat. In this episode: Messy moments: poster frights, car-seat standoffs, and the 3am guilt spiralWhy you never hear about the middle of the storyTurning 41 mid-startup and questioning everything (briefly)"This too shall pass" and why we actually believe itBuilding The Village Co., their fifth babyFind your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    24 min

  3. May 1

    She Built an App on Maternity Leave. Then Quit Her Job. Then Kept Going.

    Renata Wiles is the founder of ROAM with Kids, an app that helps NZ parents find places to go with their kids, complete with parent reviews, age-based filters, and local events. What started as a dodgy Google map she built to stop answering the same DMs is now live across New Zealand and just landed in Brisbane. In this episode, Renata gets refreshingly honest about what building a business with small kids actually looks like. We're talking one-handed pram-pushing while replying to emails, working until 1am for almost a year, and sitting with a resignation email in her drafts for three months before she finally hit send. We also talk about the thing nobody says out loud: that "flexible working" doesn't really exist for parents. That the juggle is real. That this week might just be a write-off. And that the only way through is building your own village. Big conversation. Lots of laughs. A genuinely messy moment at the end. New episodes drop every week. Follow wherever you listen, and find us at thevillageco.nz. Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    42 min

  4. Apr 23

    EP 014: We Nearly Broke.....Then Built This

    This week nearly broke us. Between daycare chaos, burnout, building a business with two young kids, and trying to hold it all together… something had to change. In this episode, we’re getting real about: the messy moment that pushed us to the edgethe reality of daycare (and why it’s not working for so many families)taking space, burnout, and what happens when you finally stopwhy we rebuilt everything and launched The Village Co. 2.0 This isn’t a polished business story. It’s the messy middle, the part no one talks about. And it’s exactly where this next chapter starts. If you’re building something, raising kids, or just trying to keep your head above water… this one’s for you. Follow & Subscribe New episodes dropping as we bring on women building big things (without pretending they have it all together). About Us We’re Nikki & Soph, the founders behind The Village Co.a platform rethinking how families find support. Built in the chaos of real life, not boardrooms. Connect with us Instagram: @VillageBabysitting Facebook: @VillageBabysitting TikTok: @VillageBabysitting Website: TheVillageCo.nz Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    31 min
  5. EP 013: The Rest We Never Get: Why mums can't switch off and what to do about it

    Mar 4

    EP 013: The Rest We Never Get: Why mums can't switch off and what to do about it

    This week we're getting real about the one thing every mum talks about needing but almost never actually gets: rest. We kick off with a stat that'll make you laugh (and cry) — the average mum works the equivalent of 2.5 full-time jobs when you combine paid work, childcare, and household labour. Oh, and the weekend? Sold to us as rest. TGIF indeed. From white-knuckling a weekend full of activities and face paint in the shed, to the concept of a 'switch-off moment' (hint: it used to happen at daycare drop-off), we unpack the reality of modern motherhood — the mental load, the mum guilt, the constant spinning of plates — with humour, honesty, and zero judgement. We also ask the uncomfortable question: when was the last time you genuinely rested? The answer might surprise you (Fiji, 2021, before the second kid arrived). In This Episode [00:00]  The 2.5 jobs stat — why weekends don't count as rest [02:00]  Weekend activities and the reality behind 'making memories' [03:47]  Managing kids' boredom without losing your mind [05:00]  Planning excursions in a busy city — chicken nuggets in the air fryer FTW [07:34]  Switch-off moments: what happened to just… not thinking? [09:00]  The challenge of rest — binge-watching Netflix used to be a valid activity [11:59]  The trend of mums actually taking time for themselves (gasp) [13:28]  Mum guilt vs. dad guilt — spoiler: not the same thing [15:14]  The mental load and calendar management — spinning plates edition [17:57]  When was the last time you genuinely rested? [20:00]  Messy moments, face paint, and kids in the shed [23:00]  Kids' creative play — beautiful chaos [25:00]  Language, boundaries, and honest parenting conversations [27:00]  The importance of rest — what the research actually says [28:30]  Reflecting on balance and closing thoughts Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    30 min

  6. Feb 20

    EP 012: Camping With Preschoolers: Chaos, Core Memories & Why We Always Say “Let’s Do It Again

    Camping with preschoolers is not for the faint-hearted. In this episode, we unpack the beautiful chaos of family camping trips, the sleep deprivation, emotional meltdowns (from kids and adults), post-surgery recovery, and the strange parenting phenomenon where you swear never again… only to start planning the next trip days later. We share honest reflections on marriage under pressure, parenting through exhaustion, and why humour is sometimes the only survival tool. Along the way, we talk about building a brand in the middle of real life, leaning on community support, and collaborating with people who truly understand the parenting experience. It’s raw, funny, relatable and a reminder that the messiest moments often become the memories we treasure most. Hot messes. Big visions. And muddy shoes. Key Takeaways • Camping can seriously test your patience (and your marriage). • Making memories with your kids is hard work — but deeply rewarding. • Parenting post-surgery adds a whole new level of challenge. • Sleep deprivation is basically a parenting rite of passage. • Community support matters more than we realise. • Humour helps everything. • Building a brand takes collaboration and understanding. • Your parenting perspective evolves over time. • Kids absolutely copy their siblings (for better or worse). • Every chaotic moment is still a learning moment. Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    41 min

  7. Jan 28

    EP 011: What No One Tells You About Parenthood | Hormones, Hair Loss & Losing Motivation

    No one warns you that parenthood can change your body, your energy, and even your motivation — and that it’s not because you’re lazy, failing, or “not coping well enough.” In this episode of Hot Messes, Big Visions, Nikki and Sophia talk honestly about the parts of parenthood that rarely get said out loud: hair loss, hormone shifts, emotional exhaustion, and the quiet loss of motivation so many parents experience after having kids. This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening — and realising you’re not alone. • Why hair loss after kids is more common than we admit • How hormones impact motivation, mood, and energy • Why “rest” doesn’t always fix exhaustion • The guilt parents carry for not bouncing back • Why this isn’t a personal failure — it’s a support gap • How naming the reality can be the first relief If you’ve ever thought “Why am I still so tired?” or “What’s wrong with me?” — this episode is for you. 🎧 New episodes every week 💛 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it In this episode, we talk about: Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 2m

  8. Jan 22

    EP 010: Why Parents With Childcare Are Still Exhausted | Mental Load & Burnout

    But you have childcare… why are you still tired?”We got asked this recently and honestly, it stopped us in our tracks. In this episode of Hot Messes, Big Visions, we unpack why having childcare doesn’t magically make parenting easy, why so many parents still feel exhausted even with support, and how modern parenting has quietly turned tiredness into a personal failure. Spoiler: it’s not. We talk about: Why childcare doesn’t cancel mental load (or emotional labour) The pressure of mini mum “girl gangs” and comparison culture Why parents are still everything to everyone — even after school and daycare drop-off How we turn any spare capacity into more responsibility (hello degrees, side hustles, and “I’ll just do one more thing”) And why being tired doesn’t mean you’re doing parenting wrong — it means you’re carrying a lot This isn’t a clapback.It’s a very real, very honest chat between friends, the kind where you laugh, nod, and think oh thank god it’s not just me. If you’re tired even with help, you’re not failing.Parenting doesn’t get easy when you get support, it gets honest. Find your village at: TheVillageCo.nz Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    23 min
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Hot Messes, Big Visions is a podcast for the parents who are building something - a business, a career, a family, a village - while still cleaning up snack crumbs and surviving on less than four hours sleep.Hosted by Nikki Pak and Sophia Phieros, co-founders of The Village Co., each episode is an honest, unfiltered conversation about modern parenthood, identity, work, and what it actually feels like to build something real inside a real life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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  • Creator
    Nikki Pak, Sophia Phieros
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Nikki Pak, Sophia Phieros
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    Hot Messes, Big Visions