How Are We 40?

Taylor Harris & Whitney Casser-Harris | Women’s Lifestyle & Relationships Podcast
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Welcome to How Are We 40?, a podcast for women in their late 30s and 40s navigating adulthood, relationships, and the unhinged reality of modern womanhood. Each week, sisters-in-law Taylor and Whitney—one deep in mom life and mental load, the other spiraling about dating and singledom—unpack the brutal and hilarious realities of being millennial woman in the 2020s. Expect unfiltered conversations about marriage, dating, friendship, careers, motherhood, body changes, aging, and identity crises. From perimenopause Google searches to relationship fights, work burnout, and making friends as an adult, nothing is off limits. If you love podcasts for women about relationships, life transitions, mental health, and figuring out who you are after 35, you’re in the right place. Expect oversharing, questionable advice, and the comforting reminder that nobody has “having it all” figured out — everyone is just making it up as they go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 1D AGO

    The Valley S1 E4 Recap: Everyone vs Kristen

    We watched the Valley so you don’t have to.  Chaos picks up exactly where the Capri-themed dinner fight left off — and somehow things only get messier. The group continues to pile onto Kristen, Janet keeps stirring the pot and Jax reveals he may not fully understand what a book is. We unpack the manipulation, the gaslighting, and all the unhinged drama.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    46 min

  2. 4D AGO

    The NYT’s 35 Rules for Modern Dating… Let’s Talk About Sex (Part 1)

    The New York Times just published “35 Rules for Modern Dating,” and we have thoughts. In Part 1, we break down the first half of the list — from therapy-culture oversharing to why texting has turned dating into a psychological strategy game, and the complicated timing of first-time sex. At this point, modern dating is basically a social experiment happening in iMessage.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 10m

  3. MAR 5

    The Valley S1 E3: Justice for Kristen

    You do not need to watch The Valley. We already did. This week, Tay + Whit recap Season 1, Episode 3 — the one where Janet calmly flips the narrative, Jesse cosplays as a Capri billionaire in an aggressive headband, and Kristen Doute is, once again, both chaotic and correct. We unpack the game of telephone that explodes into accusations of racism, gaslighting, and “crazy Kristen” weaponization. It’s a doozy.  OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    53 min

  4. MAR 2

    Are We Allowed to Not Care About Our Careers Anymore? Amil Niazi on “Life After Ambition”

    This week, we talk with journalist Amil Niazi about her new memoir Life After Ambition and the uncomfortable realization a lot of millennials are having: the career we centered our lives around isn’t centering us back. Raised on Lean In and the girlboss industrial complex, millennial women were taught to define themselves by their careers. Now that many of us have finally reached the top of the mountain, we’re asking… is this actually the life we wanted? We discuss career burnout, and why so many women are quietly reevaluating their relationship to achievement, identity, and self-worth. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    52 min

  5. FEB 26

    The Valley S1 E2 Recap: The Whistle Goes Toot Tooo

    You do not need to watch The Valley. We already did. Consider this your cultural catch-up before the internet discourse inevitably pops off when the new season premieres. This week Tay + Whit head back to the suburbs to unpack nipple-gate (yes that’s a real thing), why Jax Taylor treats everyone else’s personal life as his business, and the deeply weird social politics of late-30s couple friendships. Somehow, we also get genuinely honest conversations about fertility timelines, marriage dynamics, and postpartum — which frankly we did not expect from this particular cinematic universe. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    46 min

  6. FEB 23

    Moms Are Still People, Right? A Conversation with COOL MOMS Founder Elise Peterson

    Today we’re joined by Elise Peterson, founder of COOL Moms. When Elise became the first in her circle to experience pregnancy, she wrestled with the fear of losing her identity postpartum. Seeking guidance, she turned to women she admired for radically honest conversations. These talks turned into COOL Moms — a podcast and community built around the conversations women actually want to have about motherhood. We talk about the part no one prepares you for: the identity shift. Not just becoming a parent, but becoming a different version of yourself overnight. We get into loneliness after kids, dating as a mom, whether mothers are allowed to still be sexual beings, and why modern womanhood feels like juggling 14 roles and doing none of them to our liking. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    41 min

  7. FEB 19

    The Valley Episode 1 Recap: Jax Is A Demon

    We’ve officially entered the Bravo Cinematic Universe and regret nothing.  Tay + Whit recap the premiere of The Valley — but don’t worry, you absolutely do not need to watch the show. We did that for you. We explain who these people are, why they’re all batshit, and how Jax Taylor has somehow become a suburban father with opinions about other people’s reproductive timelines. Consider this your cultural cheat sheet — now you can understand the internet discourse without ever having watched.  Featuring Jax Taylor, Brittany Cartwright, and Kristen Doute of the Vanderpump Rules extended universe. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 1m

  8. FEB 16

    The Valley Primer: You’re Welcome

    This week, we attempted personal growth and immediately regret it. Tay returns from a wellness retreat with absolutely no inner peace and several hot takes. Meanwhile, Whit is reunited with her phone and experiences a level of joy normally reserved for military homecomings. Then, because we are now a Bravo recap podcast whether we planned it or not, Taylor gives a full beginner’s guide to The Valley — who everyone is, who hates each other, and the emotional backstory you need before we start recapping. Consider this your catch-up cheatsheet so you can spiral with us. OUR INSTAGRAM OUR TIKTOK OUR YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    44 min
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About

Welcome to How Are We 40?, a podcast for women in their late 30s and 40s navigating adulthood, relationships, and the unhinged reality of modern womanhood. Each week, sisters-in-law Taylor and Whitney—one deep in mom life and mental load, the other spiraling about dating and singledom—unpack the brutal and hilarious realities of being millennial woman in the 2020s. Expect unfiltered conversations about marriage, dating, friendship, careers, motherhood, body changes, aging, and identity crises. From perimenopause Google searches to relationship fights, work burnout, and making friends as an adult, nothing is off limits. If you love podcasts for women about relationships, life transitions, mental health, and figuring out who you are after 35, you’re in the right place. Expect oversharing, questionable advice, and the comforting reminder that nobody has “having it all” figured out — everyone is just making it up as they go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Information

  • Creator
    Taylor Harris & Whitney Casser-Harris | Women’s Lifestyle & Relationships Podcast
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    52
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Taylor Harris & Whitney Casser Harris
  • Show Website
    How Are We 40?

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