How Did We Get Here?

In this new original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron identify struggles faced by real-life parents and family members by inviting them in and hearing their story, in a one-time unscripted session with a real person. Claudia listens in to the conversation to discover how Tanya begins to unlock the story behind the issue and help find solutions. With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience with clear outcomes to each episode. This podcast doesn’t tell people how to raise their children, or reconnect with family members, rather it helps people understand why, as perfectly competent adults, they can’t put into practice what they know they should do. Each episode passes on useful links and contacts which listeners can find in the programme notes. This is a Somethin' Else production.

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  1. 02/03/2025 ·  Bonus

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  2. 09/23/2021 ·  Bonus • Subscribers Only

    Season 1 & 2 Guests Revisited: Prof Tanya asks Jack if he's made contact with his father & whether a long-term relationship is more feasible for Sally

    In this third bonus episode of How Did We Get Here? Tanya catches up with two more of our previous guests from Season 1 and 2, to see how things have moved on since they last spoke and what they have learned in the process. First we hear from Jack, our first ever episode. He was estranged from his father and was thinking about reconnecting. Listen back to Jack’s episode from Season 1 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-distant-father/id1491735705?i=1000527123924 We’ll also hear from Sally, who found it hard to make a relationship last more than 18 months. She realised that a key moment in her life had changed her forever and needed to move on. Listen back to Sally’s episode from Season 2 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-long-term-relationships-dont-work/id1491735705?i=1000521783165 If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.

  3. 08/26/2021 ·  Bonus • Subscribers Only

    Season 1 Guests Revisited: Professor Tanya asks Donia if her daughters are back in their own bed & finds out how Lara and her son Will, are getting on

    In this second bonus episode of How Did We Get Here? Tanya catches up with two more of our previous guests from Season 1, to see what they came away with from their session with her, how they’ve been getting on since, and their hopes for the future. First we hear from Donia, to find out if her daughter’s are sleeping in their own beds, and if she has dealt with her personal struggles with guilt and anxiety. Listen back to Donia’s episode from Season 1 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-did-we-get-here/id1491735705?i=1000527123923 We’ll also hear from Lara, to see if she has found a new perspective on her diagnosis of bipolar, and to find out how her son Will is getting on now. Listen back to Lara’s episode from Season 1 here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-did-we-get-here/id1491735705?i=1000527123972 If you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in this episode please see below for information about further support and advice. To find help via talking therapies you can either go to your GP or the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) bacp.co.uk or bps.org.uk - they should be HCPC registered. Other helpful organisations: NHS - www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/mental-health-helplines SAMARITANS - www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan or call 116 123 MIND - www.mind.co.uk NSPCC - www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe WELLDOING - www.welldoing.org NICE - www.nice.org.uk/guidance Anxiety UK - www.anxietyuk.org.uk How Did We Get Here? is a Somethin' Else Production.

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In this new original series from Somethin' Else, Claudia Winkleman and Professor Tanya Byron identify struggles faced by real-life parents and family members by inviting them in and hearing their story, in a one-time unscripted session with a real person. Claudia listens in to the conversation to discover how Tanya begins to unlock the story behind the issue and help find solutions. With topics ranging from parental estrangement, gender identity, domestic violence, trauma, inheriting mental health issues, family dynamics after cancer and raising a severely disabled daughter, How Did We Get Here? is a passionate, insightful and moving experience with clear outcomes to each episode. This podcast doesn’t tell people how to raise their children, or reconnect with family members, rather it helps people understand why, as perfectly competent adults, they can’t put into practice what they know they should do. Each episode passes on useful links and contacts which listeners can find in the programme notes. This is a Somethin' Else production.

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