How I Ally

Lucinda Koza
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How I Ally

Allies are folks who will stick their neck out for you, take a stand for you, and align with you, even if there is no perceived personal benefit. My name is Lucinda Koza, and I'm on a mission to be an ally, to discover how I can ally, discover how others ally and perhaps most importantly, be an ally to myself. What happens to your brain when you become a mother? Does society respect you more, or less? Is this the most important job in the world, or is it not a job at all (unpaid labor, anyone)? Could birthing, mothering and caregiving actually be the most essential labor toward building a better future? If so, why doesn't society seem to care about our wellbeing? I am a columnist at Authority Magazine, where I interview highly impactful and functioning people about their common relevant experiences and how they survived. Only by sharing our painfully personal stories can we alleviate the shame of others, and begin to understand the story of ourselves.

  1. SEASON 1 TRAILER

    How I Ally Trailer

    Discover the lighthearted side of postpartum recovery, traumatic birth, and infertility with expert insights and real conversations on How I Ally.

    1 min

  2. MAR 13

    Letting Go: The Surprising Secret to Conception Success

    Navigating the emotional and psychological landscape of fertility challenges doesn’t have to feel like an uphill battle. That’s where fertility coach Becky Ackerman comes in, sharing her candid experiences and insights from her own journey through infertility. With a focus on stress management and a positive mindset, Becky emphasizes the importance of taking ownership of one's fertility experience and exploring alternative therapies that can make a significant difference. We dive deep into the complexities of shame, the critical role partners play, and the societal pressures that often weigh heavily on those trying to conceive. This conversation is a vital resource for anyone facing similar struggles, filled with encouragement and practical advice to help lighten the load. Fertility challenges can feel like a never-ending rollercoaster, but in this episode, we sit down with fertility coach Becky Ackerman, who really gets it. Becky opens up about her own journey through infertility, which she navigated two decades ago when resources were scarce and the conversation around it even scarcer. She shares how she fought against the tide of stress and negative thinking, emphasizing that mindset plays a crucial role in the fertility journey. It's not just about the eggs and the science—it's about how you feel. Becky dives into the importance of managing stress, the sometimes surprising benefits of alternative therapies, and the significance of taking control of your own experience. She talks about the emotional weight of shame and guilt that often accompanies fertility struggles, and how partners can sometimes feel lost in the mix. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone feeling isolated in their journey, reminding us that taking ownership of our story can lead to empowerment and healing. Plus, there's a light-hearted exchange about the weirdness of social media during this journey, and Becky’s advice is refreshingly candid. Whether you're knee-deep in treatments or just starting to explore your options, this conversation isn't just a resource; it's a lifeline. Navigating the turbulent waters of fertility can feel like an uphill battle, and in this episode, we welcome Becky Ackerman, a fertility coach who brings both expertise and empathy to the table. As she shares her personal saga of infertility, Becky reveals how the landscape of resources has evolved over the past twenty years, highlighting the critical role of emotional support and mindset in the process. We explore the ins and outs of stress management—because let's face it, stress is like that uninvited guest that shows up at every fertility appointment. Becky’s approach isn’t just about the medical side of things; she advocates for exploring alternative therapies, which she credits with helping her transform her experience and ultimately find success. The conversation digs deep into the shame and guilt often felt by those undergoing fertility challenges, alongside the unique perspectives of partners who may feel sidelined in the emotional rollercoaster. By the end of the episode, listeners will find themselves equipped with actionable insights and a sense of community, knowing they’re not alone in the struggle. In a candid and heartfelt conversation, we chat with Becky Ackerman, a fertility coach with a personal story that resonates with many. From her own trials with infertility to her current role helping others, Becky sheds light on the emotional and psychological complexities tied to the journey of conception. She illustrates how vital it is to manage stress and maintain a positive mindset, especially when the path to parenthood seems rocky. Becky offers practical advice about alternative therapies that can complement traditional methods, emphasizing that taking charge of one’s experience is empowering. We touch on sensitive topics like the feelings of shame and guilt that can cloud the journey, and how partners often...

    28 min

  3. FEB 26

    Breaking Barriers: Lakia Holmes on Single Motherhood and Fertility Coaching

    Navigating the emotional rollercoaster of new motherhood alongside the struggles of infertility is no small feat, and Lakia Holmes is here to talk about just that. As a single mother by choice, she bravely turned to IVF after being diagnosed with infertility, reshaping her life and dreams in unexpected ways. In this laid-back chat with host Lucinda Koza, Lakia opens up about the challenges and triumphs of balancing her career in sports production with the joys of motherhood, all while contemplating her future as a fertility coach. We dive into the societal pressures surrounding motherhood and career paths, the importance of community support, and how Lakia's journey is paving the way for others facing similar struggles. So grab your coffee, kick back, and join us for a heartfelt conversation filled with candid reflections and light-hearted banter that reminds us we’re all just doing our best. Stepping into the world of single motherhood can feel like diving into the deep end—no floaties and no lifeguard in sight. In this episode, Lakia Holmes opens up about her transformative journey from sports producer to single mother, sharing her heartfelt story of overcoming infertility through IVF and donor sperm. Lakia’s candid reflections on her unexpected path are woven with humor and warmth, as she grapples with the societal pressures and personal challenges that come with raising a child alone. The balancing act of career and motherhood is no easy feat, but Lakia navigates it with grace, humor, and a dash of chaos, revealing her day-to-day realities that resonate with many parents. Beyond her personal narrative, Lakia’s aspirations to become a fertility coach highlight her dedication to uplifting others within the community. This episode beautifully illustrates the power of resilience, the importance of creating supportive networks, and the unique joy of forging one’s own path to parenthood, making it a heartfelt conversation that invites listeners to reflect on their own journeys. Takeaways: Lakia's journey to motherhood highlights the emotional toll of infertility, showcasing the strength it takes to navigate through IVF and donor sperm decisions. The balance between a demanding career in sports production and single motherhood reveals the sacrifices and adjustments required in both personal and professional realms. Creating a supportive community is essential for both mothers and their children, as it fosters connections and shared experiences, particularly for those navigating similar paths. Lakia's transition into fertility coaching illustrates her desire to empower others facing infertility, demonstrating the importance of sharing knowledge and emotional support in the journey to parenthood. Societal pressures regarding motherhood often conflict with personal aspirations, leading to feelings of guilt and self-doubt, particularly for women focused on career growth before family. The conversation emphasizes that every family is unique, and being honest about one's journey can create a nurturing environment for children, regardless of traditional family structures. Companies mentioned in this episode: Warner Brothers Discovery TNT MLB tbs New York Mets

    35 min

  4. FEB 22

    Breaking the Silence: Gloria Kolb's Journey to Revolutionize Women's Health

    Gloria Kolb, the brilliant CEO and co-founder of Elida, joins us to chat about her groundbreaking work in women's health, specifically tackling incontinence with her innovative Elitone device. Her personal journey with incontinence spurred her to create a solution that’s not just effective but also non-intrusive, breaking the mold of traditional treatments that often leave women feeling sidelined. We dive deep into the unique challenges female founders face in the notoriously male-dominated medical device industry, especially when it comes to securing funding and societal support. Gloria sheds light on the staggering statistics that show only a fraction of healthcare funding goes towards women's health innovations, and how this impacts early treatment options. With a dash of humor and a whole lot of heart, we explore the importance of open conversations about pelvic floor health and the mission to provide accessible solutions for all women, especially those in underserved communities. Gloria Kolb's journey to creating Elida is nothing short of inspiring. As a biomedical engineer and a mother of three, she found herself grappling with incontinence after childbirth—something that many women face but often feel too embarrassed to discuss. Gloria shares her personal story of struggle and resilience, which led her to develop the Elitone device, a groundbreaking solution that offers a non-intrusive way to improve pelvic floor health. This conversation dives deep into the challenges faced by female founders in the medical device industry, where funding disparities are stark. Did you know that only 2% of venture capital goes to female founders? Gloria sheds light on the uphill battle for funding and the societal stigma surrounding women’s health issues, emphasizing the need for more awareness and support in this area. The episode also addresses the broader implications of incontinence on women’s lives, from social interactions to mental health, highlighting the importance of early treatment and open conversations about these taboo topics. Through her work, Gloria is not only changing lives but also paving the way for a future where women’s health is prioritized and normalized in society. Takeaways: Gloria Kolb's personal battle with incontinence drove her to create Elitone, a groundbreaking external pelvic floor health device. Female founders face a daunting funding landscape, with only 2% of venture capital directed towards women's health innovations. Awareness is key; many women suffer in silence for years due to societal stigma surrounding incontinence and pelvic floor health. The healthcare system often prioritizes pads over effective treatments, perpetuating a cycle of dependency and embarrassment for women. Elitone's approach allows women to regain control of their pelvic health without invasive procedures, promoting early treatment and preventative care. Gloria emphasizes the importance of normalizing conversations around women's health issues, encouraging openness and support among communities.

    29 min

  5. JAN 11

    From Swaddles to Solutions: Liz Hilton's Journey in Postpartum Innovation

    Liz Hilton is revolutionizing postpartum support with her innovative swaddle technology, the Swaddelini, designed to help babies sleep through the night. Host Lucinda Koza delves into Liz's inspiring journey from founding her company, KnitIt, to navigating the challenges of entrepreneurship while raising a family. Liz highlights the importance of community feedback in developing her products and discusses the impact of her work on babies with neonatal abstinence syndrome. A significant part of the conversation centers around Liz's new initiative, Project CHIP (Cultivating Health in Postpartum), which aims to provide solutions for postpartum challenges through a documentary that emphasizes the necessity of proactive measures and community support for new mothers. Together, they explore how investing in postpartum care can transform the experiences of mothers and their families, ultimately fostering a healthier society. Lucinda Koza's engaging discussion with Liz Hilton dives deep into the multifaceted world of postpartum support and innovation. Liz, an accomplished mother and entrepreneur, recounts her journey from launching KnitIt, a company specializing in soft goods, to developing the groundbreaking Swaddelini swaddle solution. This innovative product was born out of Liz's own parenting challenges, particularly the sleepless nights spent with a baby who would escape traditional swaddles. Drawing on her expertise in 3D knit programming, she crafted a swaddle that not only comforts but also addresses the developmental needs of infants, demonstrating how personal struggles can lead to impactful solutions. Throughout the episode, Liz shares candid insights into the struggles of balancing her entrepreneurial ambitions with the demands of motherhood. She highlights the pivotal role that community feedback has played in refining her products and shaping her business model. This dialogue emphasizes the need for mothers to connect and support one another, illustrating how shared experiences can foster innovation and enhance wellbeing. Liz also introduces her latest initiative, Project CHIP, which aims to shift the conversation around postpartum experiences from one of struggle to one of empowerment and support. Through a documentary lens, Project CHIP seeks to explore and promote healthy postpartum practices, emphasizing the importance of nourishing mothers and fostering community support. Liz's passion for creating a cultural shift in how postpartum care is viewed resonates strongly throughout the conversation, shedding light on the need for greater awareness and proactive measures in supporting new mothers. Her story serves as an inspiring reminder that with the right tools and community backing, mothers can thrive during the challenging early stages of parenthood. Takeaways: Liz Hilton's journey from a 3D knit engineer to a successful entrepreneur shows the power of innovation driven by personal necessity. The viral success of Swaddelini highlights the importance of community feedback in product development. Project CHIP aims to redefine postpartum support by focusing on solutions rather than just challenges. Empowering postpartum women through community support can significantly improve their well-being and recovery. Liz emphasizes the need for proactive measures in postpartum care, advocating for prioritizing women's health after childbirth. Cultural practices around postpartum care can play a crucial role in nurturing new mothers effectively. Companies mentioned in this episode: Knit It Swaddelini Project CHIP Village Postnatal Recovery Center Check out  @swaddelini  https://swaddelini.com/ A special thank you to a...

    30 min

  6. 12/11/2024

    From NICU to Novelist: Elaine Roth's Journey of Resilience

    Navigating the challenges of the NICU and the complexities of grief, Elaine Roth shares her poignant journey as a mother and writer with host Lucinda Koza. After the premature birth of her daughter, Elaine found herself facing the emotional turmoil of an emergency C-section and the uncertainty of her child's health in the NICU. Through candid storytelling, she reveals how writing became a crucial outlet for processing her experiences and emotions. Elaine’s debut book weaves together themes of loss, healing, and the magic that can arise from the depths of sorrow. This heartfelt conversation highlights the importance of self-advocacy in motherhood and the transformative power of storytelling as a means of navigating life's most difficult moments. Elaine Roth's journey through motherhood is one marked by unexpected challenges and profound resilience. In her conversation with host Lucinda Koza, she candidly shares the emotional rollercoaster of giving birth to her daughter nine weeks prematurely and the subsequent experiences in the NICU. Roth's narrative is both raw and enlightening as she recounts the fears that accompanied her emergency C-section and the subsequent struggle to navigate the complexities of caring for a fragile newborn in a hospital setting. The discussion highlights the critical importance of self-advocacy and intuition, as Roth emphasizes how she learned to trust her instincts amid medical uncertainties. As the episode unfolds, Roth delves into the healing power of storytelling and how writing became a refuge for her during tumultuous times. She discusses her debut book, which weaves together elements of grief and magical realism, providing insight into her creative process and the cathartic nature of writing. Roth's transition from a NICU mom to an author speaks to the transformative power of sharing one’s experiences, both for herself and for those who resonate with her story. Listeners will appreciate her reflections on balancing the demands of motherhood with her passion for writing, as well as her insights into how creative expression can serve as a powerful tool for healing. This episode is a celebration of the strength found in vulnerability and the importance of community in navigating life's challenges. Roth's story is a beacon of hope for parents facing similar circumstances, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles. The conversation encourages listeners to embrace their narratives and recognize the beauty in their journeys, fostering connection and understanding through shared experiences. Takeaways: Elaine Roth's journey through her daughter's premature birth highlights the importance of maternal instincts and self-advocacy. The emotional challenges of navigating the NICU can lead to long-lasting impacts on parents. Writing can serve as a powerful tool for healing and processing grief and loss. Elaine's debut book intertwines themes of grief, magical realism, and the human experience. The podcast emphasizes that it's crucial to believe in your instincts as a parent. Elaine discusses how her experiences in the NICU shaped her writing and storytelling style. You can find Elaine Roth's recently published book, THE MIDNIGHT GARDEN, at the link below: https://go.shopmy.us/p-11109513 A special thank you to Vetted Dermlab. Backed by science. Created by dermatologists. Effective and ethical ingredients. No gimmicks or fads. Use code LUCINDAK15 for 15% off your purchase: go.shopmy.us/p-11688145 Another special thank you to KOZAKH Jewelry. Uniquely on trend designer jewelry that’s waterproof, tarnish-proof, and sustainably handmade in the USA. Use code LUCINDA25 for 25% off: https://shopmy.us/collections/1146101

    26 min

  7. 12/04/2024

    Shameless Mama Wellness: Redefining Self-Care for New Mothers

    Overcoming birth trauma is a vital conversation that needs to be addressed, and Lucinda Koza sits down with perinatal mental health specialist Marilyn Cross Coleman to dive deep into this important topic. Marilyn shares her personal journey of experiencing a traumatic birth and postpartum depression, which inspired her to specialize in helping others navigate similar challenges. They discuss the profound impact of societal expectations on maternal mental health, emphasizing the necessity of self-care and the often overlooked feelings of shame and guilt that mothers face. Marilyn also highlights the effectiveness of EMDR therapy as a treatment for birth trauma, offering hope and healing for mothers who have endured such experiences. The dialogue encourages open conversations among mothers, aiming to foster awareness, validation, and support in the journey toward recovery. The emotional landscape of motherhood is complex, particularly for those who have navigated the tumultuous waters of birth trauma. Lucinda Koza engages with Marilyn Cross Coleman, a perinatal mental health expert, in an insightful dialogue that dives into the depths of postpartum challenges. Marilyn candidly shares her personal narrative of experiencing postpartum depression after her own traumatic birth, which serves as a powerful lens through which the conversation unfolds. Their discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing birth trauma as a legitimate experience that warrants attention and care, challenging the stigma surrounding maternal mental health issues. Marilyn articulates the societal pressures that often compel mothers to suppress their feelings, leading to cycles of guilt and shame. The dialogue highlights the urgent need for a cultural shift that embraces self-care as a fundamental right for mothers, rather than a luxury. They explore the idea that when mothers prioritize their well-being, it not only benefits them but also enriches their families. Through this shared understanding, the episode fosters a supportive environment where mothers can feel empowered to voice their struggles and seek help. As they delve deeper, Marilyn introduces EMDR therapy as a transformative approach to healing birth trauma, explaining its efficacy in reprocessing traumatic events and facilitating emotional recovery. She emphasizes that healing is not only possible but can lead to profound personal growth—a theme that resonates throughout the episode. Ultimately, this conversation serves as a call to action for women to acknowledge their experiences, seek validation, and foster connections that can lead to healing and empowerment in their motherhood journey. Takeaways: Marilyn Cross Coleman emphasizes the necessity of addressing birth trauma for maternal healing. Self-care is crucial for mothers; neglecting it can harm the entire family dynamic. Shame and maternal guilt often overshadow women's experiences, making healing more difficult. Recognizing that every mother’s trauma is valid can facilitate better support and healing. Post-traumatic growth is achievable; sharing experiences can help diminish feelings of isolation. EMDR therapy offers an effective treatment for processing and healing from birth trauma. A special thank you to Vetted Dermlab. Backed by science. Created by dermatologists. Effective and ethical ingredients. No gimmicks or fads. Use code LUCINDAK15 for 15% off your purchase: go.shopmy.us/p-11688145 Another special thank you to KOZAKH Jewelry. Uniquely on trend designer jewelry that’s waterproof, tarnish-proof, and sustainably handmade in the USA. Use code LUCINDA25 for 25% off: https://shopmy.us/collections/1146101

    28 min

  8. 11/22/2024

    From NICU Nurse to NICU Mom: Kristina Leos' Journey Through Postpartum Depression

    Join us for a heartfelt conversation with Kristina Leos, a NICU nurse turned NICU mom, as she shares her powerful journey through postpartum depression following the birth of her daughter, Victoria. Kristina's unique perspective as both a healthcare professional and a parent highlights the emotional and psychological challenges faced by NICU families. She discusses the groundbreaking medication Zeranolone and her relentless quest for effective treatment, shedding light on the importance of mental health support. Kristina also emphasizes the need for greater awareness and understanding of postpartum depression, especially among NICU parents, and advocates for improved access to mental health care. This inspiring dialogue offers valuable insights for mothers navigating similar experiences and underscores the significance of community and support in the NICU journey. Kristina Leos, a dedicated NICU nurse from Midlothian, Texas, shares her transformative journey through postpartum depression after the birth of her daughter, Victoria. This episode captures the poignant intersection of her professional and personal experiences, as Kristina navigates the emotional complexities of being both a caregiver and a patient in the NICU. She reflects on the unique challenges that come with leaving your newborn in the care of others, a reality she had previously witnessed from the other side of the incubator. Kristina's narrative is not only a personal account but also a broader commentary on the emotional toll that NICU experiences can take on families, emphasizing the need for greater awareness and understanding of the psychological impacts of such journeys. As Kristina delves deeper into her mental health struggles, she recounts her relentless search for effective treatment, ultimately leading her to discover Zuranolone—a groundbreaking medication that significantly improved her condition. The episode highlights the importance of proactive mental health care, particularly for NICU mothers who often feel isolated and misunderstood. Kristina's story serves as a testament to the importance of seeking help and being open about mental health, encouraging other mothers facing similar battles to advocate for themselves and prioritize their well-being. Her candid discussion on the stigma surrounding postpartum depression invites listeners to engage in a broader dialogue about maternal mental health. Moreover, Kristina’s insights into the advancements in NICU technology and the emotional bonds formed among NICU moms reflect her passion for supporting her peers. She advocates for systemic changes to enhance mental health resources for NICU parents, addressing the often-overlooked psychological needs of families in crisis. The episode concludes with a heartfelt message about the power of shared experiences and community support, reminding listeners that they are not alone in their struggles. Kristina's journey is a powerful reminder of the resilience of mothers and the importance of mental health care in the face of adversity. Takeaways: Kristina's journey illustrates the dual challenge of being a NICU nurse and a NICU mom. Postpartum depression can impact any mother, regardless of previous mental health history or support. The introduction of Zuranolone represents a significant advancement in postpartum depression treatment options. Understanding the emotional toll of NICU experiences is vital for both families and healthcare providers. Mental health resources are crucial for NICU parents, yet access remains a significant barrier. Advocating for maternal mental health can lead to better support systems within healthcare settings. A special thank you to Vetted Dermlab. Backed by science. Created by dermatologists. Effective and ethical ingredients. No gimmicks or fads. Use code LUCINDAK15 for 15% off your purchase: go.shopmy.us/p-11688145...

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Allies are folks who will stick their neck out for you, take a stand for you, and align with you, even if there is no perceived personal benefit. My name is Lucinda Koza, and I'm on a mission to be an ally, to discover how I can ally, discover how others ally and perhaps most importantly, be an ally to myself. What happens to your brain when you become a mother? Does society respect you more, or less? Is this the most important job in the world, or is it not a job at all (unpaid labor, anyone)? Could birthing, mothering and caregiving actually be the most essential labor toward building a better future? If so, why doesn't society seem to care about our wellbeing? I am a columnist at Authority Magazine, where I interview highly impactful and functioning people about their common relevant experiences and how they survived. Only by sharing our painfully personal stories can we alleviate the shame of others, and begin to understand the story of ourselves.

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  • Creator
    Lucinda Koza
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2025 Lucinda Koza
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