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Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Michelle Kenney, M. Ed
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Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to Peace and Parenting! Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are entirely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.  Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through solo episodes and interviews with experts and other struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

  1. 6月26日

    Remembering My Connected Parenting Partner and Grandfather, Papa

    Today's episode comes with a heavy heart as I share a very personal update. My beloved father, Papa, recently passed away after a three-year battle with cancer. For those who knew him or followed my posts, you know he was my steadfast parenting partner and confidant, truly embracing connective parenting and becoming an incredible grandfather to my girls. In this tribute, I'll share a eulogy I wrote for him, celebrating his vivacious spirit, fierce determination, and profound transformation later in life. This episode is not only a heartfelt farewell to an extraordinary man but also an announcement that I'll be taking a break from the podcast and social media to grieve and navigate this new chapter with my family. I am so grateful for your continued listenership and hope you'll check out some of our more than 400 previous episodes. Thank you for being part of the Peace and Parenting family. I'll see you all very soon. ======================== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    11 分钟

  2. 6月24日

    Ditch the Punishments and Rewards and STILL Get Cooperation [Fan Favorite]

    Do you ever feel like you're constantly battling your kids, trying to "make" them do what you want? Are you tired of using punishments or rewards, but unsure how else to get them to listen? If you're longing for a deeper connection with your child and a more peaceful home without resorting to control, you're in the right place. Today, I’m exploring a crucial distinction: the difference between boundaries and limits, and consequences and punishments. Many of us were taught that discipline means punishment, but "discipline" actually means "to teach." I want to show you that you can have clear limits and boundaries in your home without enforcing them through external motivators like rewards or consequences. Instead of asking, "How do I make my kids do X, Y, or Z?" we need to ask, "Why aren't they choosing to do it?" We'll explore how to approach your child's behavior with curiosity, considering disconnection, unrealistic demands, or their natural desire for autonomy. When children feel good about their relationship with you and the home environment, they are much more likely to follow limits because they want to, not because they fear punishment.   If you're ready to redefine discipline, embrace connection, and cultivate cooperation in your home without punishments or rewards, hit play! In This Episode, We Cover: 👉 The true meaning of discipline 👉 Setting limits without consequences 👉 Asking "why" instead of "how to make" 👉 Fostering connection, not obedience 👉 Cultivating an internal moral compass 👉 Embracing curiosity about behavior As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. ========== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    13 分钟

  3. 6月19日

    Why Demanding Respect From Your Kids Isn’t Working [Fan Favorite]

    What does real respect between parents and children truly look like? Have you ever wondered why your kids sometimes seem “disrespectful,” or whether expecting automatic respect is helping or hurting your relationship? Let’s dive into what it means to nurture mutual respect without demanding compliance. Today, we revisit one of our most popular topics: the true nature of respect in parenting and how embracing connection over control transforms our family relationships. There is a commonly held narrative that tells us kids “should” respect adults. I used to crave compliance from my daughters, thinking that made me a good parent, only to learn firsthand that genuine respect can’t be forced. It’s cultivated. In This Episode, We Cover: 👉 The difference between respect and compliance 👉 How parent/child relationships mirror other relationships 👉 Why respect must be given to be received 👉 The impact of punishments and rewards on respect 👉 Setting limits with connection, not control 👉 Ways to nurture reciprocal, lasting respect at home As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. ========== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    12 分钟

  4. 6月17日

    Case Study: The Secret to Connecting With Your Neurodivergent Child [Fan Favorite]

    Have you been told that because your child is neurodivergent, they need different rules? That connection-based parenting works for neurotypical kids, but your child with autism or ADHD requires charts, rewards, and consequences to manage behavior. Many of us hear this, leaving us to choose between a behavioral or relationship-based approach. In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Eloise, one of our private clients, whose son has autism and ADHD. She came to us wondering if this work would even apply to her family. She had tried the visual charts and rewards and found they made no difference in her son’s intense anxiety. Eloise shares her incredible story of how she was advised to “just do the connection”. She discovered that play was the key that truly helped her son. It filled his cup, calmed his anxiety about leaving the house, and allowed him to think better. This conversation is a crucial reminder that our neurodiverse kids don’t need to be managed; they, more than anyone, need to be connected with. If you are parenting a neurodivergent child, this episode is a must-listen. It will fill you with so much hope and reaffirm that your relationship is the most powerful tool you have. I know you’ll find so much hope and validation in Eloise’s story. In This Episode, We Cover: 👉 Why connection is essential for neurodiverse families 👉 Swapping sticker charts for playful connection 👉 Using play to calm anxiety in autistic children 👉 How a mother’s own neurodivergent diagnosis helped 👉 Parenting when you are also autistic with ADHD 👉 Moving beyond traditional behavioral management As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. ========== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    20 分钟

  5. 6月12日

    You're Unknowingly Making Sibling Rivalry Worse [Fan Favorite]

    Does it ever feel like you’re a referee in your own home? One child is hurt, crying with scratches down their arm, and the other is standing there, looking defiant. In that moment, every instinct tells you to protect the “victim” and correct the “aggressor.” But what if I told you that by rushing in to assign blame, we might unknowingly be making the rivalry worse? It’s a tough pill to swallow, I know. It took me years to see how my attempts to protect my younger daughter, Pia, were actually fueling my older daughter, Esme’s fire and cementing them in their roles. Today, I’m getting really honest about my own journey with my daughters' sibling relationship. I’ll share how I had to unlearn my instinct to take sides and instead learn to approach their conflicts with neutrality. We’ll talk about why the “aggressor” is often a child who is hurting and not a villain, and how building individual connection outside of the conflict is the real key to long-term peace. In This Episode, You'll Learn: 👉 How to stop making sibling rivalry worse 👉 How to see the hurt, not the villain 👉 How to build connection outside the conflict 👉 Intervening with neutrality, not blame 👉 How your childhood affects their fights 👉 How to move from putting out fires to peace As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. I’ll be back soon! ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    16 分钟

  6. 6月10日

    Case Study: What To Do When "Special Time" Backfires [Fan Favorite]

    Do you feel like you’re doing everything “right”? You’ve started implementing special time and focusing on connection, yet it creates more chaos. The kids might have meltdowns when the timer goes off, or sibling squabbles seem endless. You may question whether connected parenting works. You are not alone, and there is a way through it. In this episode, I have a wonderful chat with Katie, a mother of three girls from the UK. She’s been practicing connective parenting for just a few weeks and is already seeing incredible results, but she came to me with some very common and relatable challenges. We dive deep into the nitty-gritty of making special time work, especially when your children don’t want it to end. We also explore how to navigate the intense emotions of sibling rivalry without taking sides and how our own childhoods, especially if we were told to be “seen and not heard” can make it so hard to tolerate our children’s big, loud feelings.  This was such a rich and supportive conversation, and Katie’s journey is one I know will resonate with so many of you. In This Episode, You'll Learn: 👉 Navigating the end of "special time" 👉 Handling sibling fights with neutrality 👉 Why special time consistency is key 👉 Letting go of being the "feelings police" 👉 Creating calm and connected mornings 👉 Using play to address tough behaviors ======== 🎧 As I mentioned, my sweet dad recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time. 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    30 分钟

  7. 6月5日

    Why Connected Parenting is for Every Child

    Are you sometimes wondering if this whole "connected parenting" thing can really work for your child, especially when you're facing those big emotions or defiant moments? Maybe you've heard people say, "That’s nice, but my kid needs something different." I truly understand where you're coming from, and I’ve been there. In today's episode, I want to discuss why I’m passionate about connected parenting as a loving approach for all children, regardless of their temperament or challenges. We'll explore how prioritizing our relationship over specific behaviors makes a profound difference. Traditional methods like punishments and reward charts often miss the mark for any child, including those with ODD or ADHD, and can hinder their ability to learn and thrive by affecting brain development. No child benefits from shame or belittlement. Instead of focusing on control, we'll discuss how connection builds trust, enhances brain function by engaging the prefrontal cortex, and creates a calm, safe environment for our children. It’s not about quick fixes or changing strong-willed children, but about tempering deeper traits and achieving lasting improvements in cooperation and emotional regulation. This approach not only helps kids but also brings peace to us as parents. In This Episode, You'll Learn: 👉 Why connection benefits every single child.  👉 The truth about rewards and punishments. 👉 Boost your child's brain with connection.  👉 Support neurodivergent kids through your relationship.  👉 See challenging behaviors improve with empathy.  👉 Find more calm for your family.  ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    10 分钟

  8. 6月3日

    Case Study: Dealing with an "Authoritative Personality" in a Nine-Year-Old

    Do you ever find yourself in those familiar power struggles with your child? Maybe it’s the daily screen time battle, that feeling of being rushed, or just their amazing, strong will challenging you at every turn. If you're nodding along, please know you're not alone, and there absolutely is a path to more peace and cooperation in your home. In this episode, I had a wonderful conversation with Jackie, a mom to a spirited nine-year-old named Sophia. Jackie bravely shared her struggles with Sophia’s “authoritative personality” and the daily challenges of getting cooperation, especially around turning off the TV. We dove deep into how our own upbringing can unconsciously shape our parenting and, most importantly, how focusing on connection can truly transform these everyday friction points into opportunities for growth and a stronger relationship. We talked about practical ways to build that connection, even when life feels incredibly rushed. It’s not about grand gestures, but those small, consistent moments that fill your child's cup and yours too.  Join me to hear all the insights and practical tips shared in my chat with Jackie; it’s a conversation that could truly shift the dynamic in your home. In This Episode, You'll Learn: 👉 The importance of daily child-led, focused play 👉 Screen Time Peace: Engage before ending shows 👉 Our Tech Use: Model healthy electronic habits 👉 How to rethink "No": Try a planned "ditch day."  👉 Why Connection Boosts Cooperation: Build strong, loving bonds ======== 🔗 Interested in group or 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call today. 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. 📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED! Follow Peace and Parenting: YouTube: @peaceandparentingla Instagram: @peaceandparenting Facebook: @peaceandparentingla Peace and Parenting Facebook Group Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technology Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    21 分钟
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Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to Peace and Parenting! Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are entirely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.  Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through solo episodes and interviews with experts and other struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

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