Friend Crush with Amber Akilla

Amber Akilla

Subscriber episodes also available on Patreon! https://patreon.com/amberakilla Welcome to Friend Crush with Amber Akilla! I am an Australian Chinese multi-hyphenate working in music and the creative industry. I am currently based in Shanghai, China. This is a space where I share my cute, chaotic and critical thoughts around friendship, love, relationships, dating, memes, pop culture, politics, self-help, self-empowerment and more ☆ come and join the party so you ensure you are staying hot & having fun!!! ♡ ♡ ♡

  1. rethinking imposter syndrome

    8月16日

    rethinking imposter syndrome

    i got asked about imposter syndrome recently, there's definitely some overlap with comparing yourself to others (see previous video) but i made this video as an add on/extension. let me know your thoughts as always please!! my skin looks so bad here but i was too lazy to put a filter on so i'm keeping it 99 !!!xx 02:30 - everyone is a newbie at some point 03:28 - confidence revised 04:10 - life is a project, performance art! 05:09 - confident people won’t judge you or put you down 05:36 - lock in on your purpose 07:10 - don’t always assume competition 08:04 - understanding your projections 08:21 - make friends, connect over common experience 09:09 - recognize the unpredictability of each person’s journey 09:40 - healthy competition 09:59 - embrace your uniqueness 10:16 - what your know vs who you know 10:50 - understanding nepotism 11:55 - build your own thing instead of feeling like you need to be allowed into someone else’s project 13:28 - redefine success  14:40 - diversify your focus and interests 15:19 - legally blonde - elle woods is an icon! 18:10 - redefine purpose follow me on IG ☆  https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

    21 分鐘
  2. hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy

    7月31日

    hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy

    talking through the mental blocks that can occur when we get stuck on comparing ourselves to others in a way that hinders our ability to be HOT and HAVE FUN !!! 03:33 - radical acceptance 05:11 - practicing gratitude 07:07 - set intentions 07:52 - lean into irony when being serious feels like a joke 08:37 - abundance vs delusion 09:45 - your mindset affects your decision making 11:00 - awareness + intentional action 11:28 - practice connecting with your experience of life 11:41 - you will face challenges no matter what 13:10 - rejection is protection and redirection 14:14 - nobody knows what they’re doing 15:58 - other people’s success are evidence of what is possible 18:03 - be honest with yourself about the lengths you will go 18:25 - your own story unfolds through action, not comparison 19:27 - additional thoughts 20:22 - there's more than just what you think or have been told is 'success' 21:00 - understanding your validation needs 22:28 - how my idea of success as a DJ has changed over time follow me on IG ☆  https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

    26 分鐘
  3. what to do when you don't know what to do

    7月23日

    what to do when you don't know what to do

    that overwhelming "wtf" feeling 01:54 - context can differ, dyanmic/feelings are usually consistent 02:45 - its better to do something, rather than nothing 03:12 - don’t let perfect be the enemy of good 04:06 - learn to be a beginner 05:23 - what i learnt during the panini (external changes) 06:43 - noticing the negative thought pattern: “when x happens, then i can be happy” 06:48 - lean into how you feel - anything repressed/suppressed will start to infect your life 07:31 - getting sick of yourself 07:37 - what would your younger self/future self think 08:43 - follow your curiosity 11:06 - there is so much you can’t control/ certainty is an illusion 11:38 - 20% of the work for 80% of the outcomes 12:03 - saying yes to random opportunties 13:37 - find something to anchor you and organize your time around 14:37 - you can’t always predict how things will unfold 15:08 - internal transition phases 15:27 - trying is better than nothing 17:03 - the outcome and structure forms as you go 17:10 - it doesn’t have to be related - focus on enjoying 17:48 - do it because you want to - not because of what you think other people will think 18:14 - what other people think is a collateral benefit 18:35 - you can do something you enjoy and it still be difficult 19:00 - things will be hard regardless 20:24 - don’t wait for the world to change or give you permission 21:16 - the value of small steps over complete overhauls 21:46 - focus on being present 22:14 - you can’t think your way into the present moment 22:30 - cutting down on social media 25:14 - you never know what’s going to happen!!! follow me on IG ☆  https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

    26 分鐘
  4. a woman's ego in dating ~ eating dim sum in wuhan

    7月2日

    a woman's ego in dating ~ eating dim sum in wuhan

    pairing an excerpt from my voice memo podcast series with this footage of me eating dim sum between a soundcheck and standby while i was on a job earlier this year in wuhan hehe ~ i mention fengshui changes, what one of my friend's recent dating situations prompted in reflecting on a woman's ego in dating and what stops me from entertaining low effort romantic opportunities #realizingthingsmy voice memo podcast series are more casual and personal, i give life updates, spill tea, answer listener questions, share recent thoughts/test topics that may eventually become stand alone videos or episodes. come join the partyyy *:・゚✧*:・゚✧ thank you to anyone that has been supporting already! ily ♡ let me know your thoughts and if you like this format !!! i can pair vlog-ish content with voice over chitchat so you have the option to watch or just have on in the background and listen!voice memo 53 - full episode on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0NK2MYu1dcPToSL9H5g3Ee?si=2443923415644589voice memo 53 - full episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/voice-memo-53-in-131721472?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_linkfollow me on IG ☆  https://instagram.com/amberakilla/ dead or alive summer 2025 playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1lezLPXhmrrrs1wD4GzDnI?si=108bae9312df4374 slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundle subscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/amberakilla ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/friend-crush/subscribe⁠ https://instagram.com/friend.crush/ https://www.tiktok.com/@amberakilla https://www.youtube.com/@amberakilla https://twitter.com/amberakilla https://soundcloud.com/amberakilla https://open.spotify.com/user/amberakilla

    13 分鐘
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簡介

Subscriber episodes also available on Patreon! https://patreon.com/amberakilla Welcome to Friend Crush with Amber Akilla! I am an Australian Chinese multi-hyphenate working in music and the creative industry. I am currently based in Shanghai, China. This is a space where I share my cute, chaotic and critical thoughts around friendship, love, relationships, dating, memes, pop culture, politics, self-help, self-empowerment and more ☆ come and join the party so you ensure you are staying hot & having fun!!! ♡ ♡ ♡

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