The Art of The Ask

How to Handle Rejection When Asking for What You Want

  • This week, I get into the number one thing that holds people back from asking for what they want: fear of rejection.

    I'll share the psychology around the fear of rejection and why building up a tolerance to get rejected is the fastest way to build meaningful connections, ironically!

    Episode snippets:

    • Most people aren't sitting around dissecting your asks in group chats (that's your insecurity talking)
    • When someone says "not right now" or doesn't respond, they're usually just busy living their own complicated life
    • You're making it about you when it's probably about their capacity, timing, or circumstances
    • How to gamify rejection and learn to use it as data
    • The importance of having safety nets when shooting your shot
    • "Not right now" isn't "never"
    • My hot take on why thinking everyone is talking about you is arrogant
    • Start small and slowly build the heat with your asks to get comfy with hearing "no" and why it's usually redirection
    • My own personal experience with rejection, including recently in Lisbon!
  • If you liked this episode, you'll LOVE these (seriously):

    • ⁠The Witch Wound - Taking Down the Patriarchy Through Putting Yourself Out There⁠
    • ⁠Shoot Your Shot - Or Miss Out On Life's Biggest Opportunities⁠
    • ⁠Rejection Won't Kill You - What It Means & How to Deal With It⁠
    • ⁠Selling Without Social Media⁠

    Here's my ask for you!

    • DM me on IG ⁠@chelseariffe⁠ or email team@chelseariffe.com and tell me - what have you asked for recently, and what were the results?
    • Follow this podcast, rate, review, and ⁠tag me on socials⁠ - and following the law of reciprocity, I'll send you my handy-dandy Visibility Vault Notion doc - a list of newsletters and platforms to pitch to and get strategically placed!

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