How To Relate

Brittani Procknow
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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.

  1. MAY 1

    Therapy vs. Coaching, Leadership, and the Inner Work of Work

    What separates great leaders from ones who quietly destroy their teams? And when you're the one burning out at the top — do you stay or go? Kealy Spring, licensed therapist and executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area, breaks down the inner psychology of leadership, what executive coaching actually is, and why most people calling themselves coaches probably aren't.   In This Episode Therapy vs. coaching — where they overlap and where the line actually is The energy audit: a practical tool for diagnosing burnout before deciding to stay or quit Golden handcuffs — how to think through ambivalence when the pay is great but you're miserable The 3-step cognitive reframe for catching distorted thinking at work (mind reading, personalization, and more) Imposter syndrome across career stages — and why it hits differently for women The double bind for women in leadership: likable vs. competent, and how to navigate it Why less than 10% of coaches are actually thriving — and what the unregulated industry gets wrong Key Takeaways 🔑 The energy audit isn't about adding to your plate — it's about gathering data so you know where to work the edges. 🔑 Cognitive distortions don't stay home when you go to work. Name it → check your evidence → reframe. 🔑 Coaching is strategic and time-limited. Therapy goes deeper into patterns and history. You may need both. Resources Mentioned Kealy's therapy practice: ⁠keelyspring.com⁠ | Coaching: Spring Ahead Coaching Kealy's podcast: Therapeutically Aligned https://www.youtube.com/@therapeuticallyaligned  ⁠Hampton⁠ — peer advisory groups for founders Simon Sinek's Start With Why | Self-Determination Theory ☕ Larry's Coffee: https://larryscoffee.com/relate Brittani's Resources: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ Stay connected.

    57 min

  2. APR 23

    Conflict Is the Symptom, Not the Problem: Couples Therapy, Intensives, and the Power of Experiential Connection with Carole Cullen

    What if the problem in your relationship isn’t the argument you keep having—but the pattern underneath it? Therapist Carole Cullen explores how couples can move from disconnection to deeper intimacy using a mix of structured tools, emotional processing, and experiential learning. Carole shares how she integrates the John Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), why traditional 50-minute sessions often fall short, and how immersive couples intensives can create breakthroughs in just a few days. We also dive into her innovative membership model, The Work of Us, which combines therapy, community, and real-life experiences—from Pilates to equine-assisted learning—to help couples reconnect outside the therapy room. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same conflict loop, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually creates change.   Carole's Resources: Website: https://mytherapistnc.org/ Couples Workshops: https://www.couplesworkshopsnc.com/   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠

    54 min

  3. APR 16

    AI, Therapy, and the Future of Connection with Ann Dypiangco

    What happens when artificial intelligence enters the therapy room—both with clinicians and clients? Ann Dypiangco, LCSW, is a therapist in private practice and co-creator of Therapist Brief, a newsletter for therapists navigating tech, research, and the changing landscape of mental health care. She also works at the intersection of clinical practice and emerging technology in her roles at Blueprint.ai and Mental Health Match. From AI-generated therapy notes to clients turning to chatbots for emotional support, we explore what’s changing, what’s concerning, and where there’s actually opportunity.   Ann's Resources: Therapist Brief Newsletter: https://therapist-brief-newsletter.beehiiv.com/    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate   Therapist Collective: The Trusted Community for Entrepreneurial Therapists to Refer, Connect, and Grow https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffbhttps://therapistcollective.carrd.co/

    41 min

  4. APR 9

    Play the Odds: Use Poker Strategies for Smarter Decisions in Love, Work, and Life with Daniel Fleshner

    What if you stopped trying to make the perfect decision—and instead focused on making the best bet? In this episode, Brittani sits down with Daniel to explore how poker strategy—especially ideas from Thinking in Bets—can transform the way we think about relationships, career choices, and everyday decision-making. They break down concepts like probability thinking, emotional regulation, and “playing the long game,” and apply them to real-life scenarios like dating burnout, job searching, and running a business. If you’ve ever spiraled after a “bad outcome” or questioned your choices, this episode will help you zoom out, rethink control, and make more grounded, confident decisions.   Drink Good Coffee: Larry's Coffee. Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Daniel's Substack The Disrupted Therapist: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/?utm_source=recommendations_page&utm_campaign=1394488

    54 min

  5. APR 3

    Situationships, Emotional Availability & Dating in Your 30s: What Actually Matters

    In this episode, we’re diving into modern dating—offline and online—from being pitched at a live singles event to unpacking the realities of situationships, emotional availability, and what it really means when someone says they “don’t know what they want.” Key Takeaways: What emotional availability actually looks like in real life The 4 C’s of dating: chemistry, connection, compatibility, and commitment Why situationships happen—and how to spot your role in one How to support a friend in a toxic dating cycle (without burning out) The truth about people who “don’t know what they want” Why dating in your 30s can lead to stronger, healthier relationships First date do’s and don’ts (and why dinner might not be it) The surprising average cost of a date—and what it means for modern dating   Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate

    55 min

  6. MAR 27

    How to Stop Fighting in a Relationship: Break the Cycle & Repair Conflict

    If you feel like you’re having the same argument over and over again—this episode is for you. In this solo episode, we'll break down the hidden dynamics driving conflict in relationships, including core negative images, pursuer-withdrawer patterns, and the vulnerability underneath reactivity. You’ll learn how to understand your conflict cycle, take ownership without defensiveness, and repair in a way that actually creates connection.   Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate

    23 min

  7. MAR 19

    Imposter Syndrome in Work, Dating, and Relationships: Why We Fear Being Found Out with Drew Klobuchar

    What is imposter syndrome, and why do so many successful people still feel like they don’t belong? In this episode of How to Relate, Brittani and Drew explore the psychology of imposter syndrome, including the fear of being “found out,” chronic self-doubt, and the pressure to prove ourselves in work, dating, and relationships. Unpack how imposter syndrome shows up in everyday life—from dating anxiety and people-pleasing to parenting pressure and professional perfectionism—and discuss practical ways to challenge the inner critic and build self-trust. You'll Learn: What imposter syndrome actually is The fear of being “found out” as a fraud How imposter syndrome develops Perfectionism, comparison, and performance pressure How imposter syndrome shows up in dating and relationships The connection between embarrassment and shame Imposter syndrome in careers and parenting Practical ways to challenge self-doubt and build self-trust   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate    Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

    54 min

  8. MAR 11

    Using Data (Not Feelings) for Life's Decisions with Everett Uhl

    What if the key to better decisions—in your life, relationships, and business—wasn’t more intuition, but better data? In this episode, Brittani sits down with therapist Everett Uhl to explore how data-driven decision making can transform the way we approach our careers, personal habits, and even emotional awareness. They dive into the hidden problems with many therapy trainings, the pressure therapists feel to constantly “level up,” and why tracking the right metrics might matter more than adding another certification. From sleep scores and protein intake to client referrals and lifetime customer value, this conversation explores how information—not impulse—can help you build a more sustainable and aligned life. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by self-improvement culture or unsure how to make clearer decisions in your work or relationships, this episode offers a refreshing framework: use your feelings as data, not directives. Everett's Training https://partiful.com/e/VSKwdFAM3Y43ioVARBUV?rsvp=true Work with Everett: https://www.everettuhltherapy.com/  Brittani's Resources Sign up for the weekly newsletter for insight and action into relational wellness:  https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc Work with me: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc

    48 min
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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.

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  • Creator
    Brittani Procknow
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    67
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2024 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    How To Relate

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