How To Relate

Brittani Procknow
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Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.

  1. 4d ago

    What Are You Actually Living For? Purpose, Passion, and the Three Currencies with Drew Klobuchar

    What is purpose, and how do you find it when life feels uncertain, overwhelming, or directionless? In this episode, Brittani and Drew explore the relationship between purpose, passion, responsibility, freedom, and meaning. They unpack why purpose isn't always about feeling inspired or excited—it often emerges through commitment, curiosity, relationships, and even irritation. From childhood report cards and career choices to Viktor Frankl, daydreaming, self-limiting beliefs, and the role of relationships in creating meaning, this conversation offers a thoughtful look at what helps us build a life that feels purposeful.   In This Episode We Discuss: The difference between passion and purpose Why passion isn't always enjoyable—and often involves suffering How responsibility can create meaning and strengthen identity The connection between purpose and relationships Self-limiting beliefs that keep us from pursuing what matters Why freedom alone doesn't necessarily lead to fulfillment How imagination and daydreaming can reveal what you truly want Viktor Frankl's perspective on meaning, choice, and attitude The role of irritation, curiosity, and fascination in creating change Why relational care is a form of self-care Brittani's Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate   Therapist Threads: https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb

    1 hr

  2. May 29

    Breaking the Broke Mindset with Taylor Gilbert

    Taylor is a LCSW and founder of Social Work to Wealth- a finance education platform for social workers. Taylor shares how a tip about high-yield savings accounts sent her down a personal finance rabbit hole that reshaped her finances, her marriage, and her mission. She and her husband tackled $277,000 in debt — and she's been sharing that journey publicly ever since to normalize the money conversation for social workers everywhere. In this episode: Why the "you're not in it for the money" messaging is harmful — and wrong What the NASW Code of Ethics actually says about financial wellness (Taylor asked the guy who wrote it) The "digital envelope" budgeting method Taylor has used for four years Practical salary negotiation tips, including why you need a script in your Notes app Nontraditional career paths: trust and safety at Spotify, HR at IPSY, and beyond The three currencies — money, time, and energy — and where yours is going Resources mentioned: Finance for the People — Paco de León https://www.amazon.com/Finance-People-Getting-Grip-Finances/dp/0143136259 I Will Teach You to Be Rich — Ramit Sethi https://www.amazon.com/Will-Teach-You-Be-Rich/dp/0761147489 Yo Quiero Dinero podcast — Jannese Torres https://yoquierodineropodcast.com/ Delyanne the Money Coach https://delyannethemoneycoach.com/ Tori Dunlap / Her First $100K https://herfirst100k.com/ Find Taylor: ⁠socialworktowealth.com⁠ IG: https://www.instagram.com/socialworktowealth/   How to Relate Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠

    54 min

  3. May 21

    Why Becoming a Parent Changes Everything with Veronica Kemeny

    We plan births. We register for gear. We don't plan for what happens to the people becoming parents. Veronica Kemeny, co-founder of Anchor Perinatal Wellness in Raleigh, joins Brittani to talk about matrescence, the neuroscience of new parenthood, why couples hit their hardest stretch right when baby arrives — and what support actually looks like across a full continuum of care. Veronica Kemeny, LCSW discusses the realities of pregnancy, postpartum mental health, parenting, relationships, and nervous system regulation.   Resources Anchor Perinatal Wellness — free walk-in screenings, outpatient + IOP, call even if you're out of state https://www.anchorperinatal.com/ Postpartum Support International — ⁠postpartum.net⁠ · 55+ free virtual support groups, 24/7 Maternal Mental Health Hotline, state chapters for local navigation   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠    Therapist Threads Newsletter: For therapists to stay connected ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb⁠

    49 min

  4. May 15

    Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Heather Heide

    What happens when everything you thought was true about your relationship turns out to be built on secrets? Heather Heide, founder of Uplifted Therapy in Minnesota, a practice specializing in betrayal trauma. Heather works with couples and individuals navigating the aftermath of infidelity, sex addiction, and all the nuanced forms betrayal can take — and what healing actually looks like when your world gets rocked.   Resources Mentioned Seeking Integrity — treatment center with extensive free resources for betrayal and sex addiction Michelle Mays — betrayal trauma specialist and podcast host Dr. Ken Adams — work on enmeshment and generational family patterns Terry Real — shame/grandiosity/boundarylessness framework referenced in conversation Maddie Corman's one-woman show on betrayal trauma (title TBD — Heather to confirm!) Unmasking Shame — Heather's upcoming shame project with her business partner, launching in approximately 6 weeks Connect with Heather ⁠uplifted-therapy.com⁠ Instagram: ⁠@heatherheidi⁠ Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠    Therapist Threads: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffb⁠

    58 min

  5. May 1

    Therapy vs. Coaching, Leadership, and the Inner Work of Work

    What separates great leaders from ones who quietly destroy their teams? And when you're the one burning out at the top — do you stay or go? Kealy Spring, licensed therapist and executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area, breaks down the inner psychology of leadership, what executive coaching actually is, and why most people calling themselves coaches probably aren't.   In This Episode Therapy vs. coaching — where they overlap and where the line actually is The energy audit: a practical tool for diagnosing burnout before deciding to stay or quit Golden handcuffs — how to think through ambivalence when the pay is great but you're miserable The 3-step cognitive reframe for catching distorted thinking at work (mind reading, personalization, and more) Imposter syndrome across career stages — and why it hits differently for women The double bind for women in leadership: likable vs. competent, and how to navigate it Why less than 10% of coaches are actually thriving — and what the unregulated industry gets wrong Key Takeaways 🔑 The energy audit isn't about adding to your plate — it's about gathering data so you know where to work the edges. 🔑 Cognitive distortions don't stay home when you go to work. Name it → check your evidence → reframe. 🔑 Coaching is strategic and time-limited. Therapy goes deeper into patterns and history. You may need both. Resources Mentioned Kealy's therapy practice: ⁠keelyspring.com⁠ | Coaching: Spring Ahead Coaching Kealy's podcast: Therapeutically Aligned https://www.youtube.com/@therapeuticallyaligned  ⁠Hampton⁠ — peer advisory groups for founders Simon Sinek's Start With Why | Self-Determination Theory ☕ Larry's Coffee: https://larryscoffee.com/relate Brittani's Resources: Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ Stay connected.

    57 min

  6. Apr 23

    Conflict Is the Symptom, Not the Problem: Couples Therapy, Intensives, and the Power of Experiential Connection with Carole Cullen

    What if the problem in your relationship isn’t the argument you keep having—but the pattern underneath it? Therapist Carole Cullen explores how couples can move from disconnection to deeper intimacy using a mix of structured tools, emotional processing, and experiential learning. Carole shares how she integrates the John Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), why traditional 50-minute sessions often fall short, and how immersive couples intensives can create breakthroughs in just a few days. We also dive into her innovative membership model, The Work of Us, which combines therapy, community, and real-life experiences—from Pilates to equine-assisted learning—to help couples reconnect outside the therapy room. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same conflict loop, this episode will help you understand why—and what actually creates change.   Carole's Resources: Website: https://mytherapistnc.org/ Couples Workshops: https://www.couplesworkshopsnc.com/   Brittani's Resources Website: ⁠https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow⁠ Intimacy Workbook: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219⁠ Newsletter: ⁠https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. ⁠https://larryscoffee.com/relate⁠

    54 min

  7. Apr 16

    AI, Therapy, and the Future of Connection with Ann Dypiangco

    What happens when artificial intelligence enters the therapy room—both with clinicians and clients? Ann Dypiangco, LCSW, is a therapist in private practice and co-creator of Therapist Brief, a newsletter for therapists navigating tech, research, and the changing landscape of mental health care. She also works at the intersection of clinical practice and emerging technology in her roles at Blueprint.ai and Mental Health Match. From AI-generated therapy notes to clients turning to chatbots for emotional support, we explore what’s changing, what’s concerning, and where there’s actually opportunity.   Ann's Resources: Therapist Brief Newsletter: https://therapist-brief-newsletter.beehiiv.com/    Podcast Resources Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate   Therapist Collective: The Trusted Community for Entrepreneurial Therapists to Refer, Connect, and Grow https://howtorelate.kit.com/069297fffbhttps://therapistcollective.carrd.co/

    41 min

  8. Apr 9

    Play the Odds: Use Poker Strategies for Smarter Decisions in Love, Work, and Life with Daniel Fleshner

    What if you stopped trying to make the perfect decision—and instead focused on making the best bet? In this episode, Brittani sits down with Daniel to explore how poker strategy—especially ideas from Thinking in Bets—can transform the way we think about relationships, career choices, and everyday decision-making. They break down concepts like probability thinking, emotional regulation, and “playing the long game,” and apply them to real-life scenarios like dating burnout, job searching, and running a business. If you’ve ever spiraled after a “bad outcome” or questioned your choices, this episode will help you zoom out, rethink control, and make more grounded, confident decisions.   Drink Good Coffee: Larry's Coffee. Support the show and drink coffee! Proud to have Larry's Coffee as a show sponsor. Keep caffeinated with quality coffee. https://larryscoffee.com/relate Website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/brittani_procknow Intimacy Workbook: https://howtorelate.kit.com/b956780219 Newsletter: https://howtorelate.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   Daniel's Substack The Disrupted Therapist: https://thedisruptedtherapist.substack.com/?utm_source=recommendations_page&utm_campaign=1394488

    54 min
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About

Many people try to answer what makes relationships work. This podcast aims to answer how do we work relationships? I’m Brittani Procknow, a relationship therapist working with individuals and couples to deepen intimacy and live relationally. I’m taking insights from behind closed doors to you, a listener seeking to improve your relational wellbeing. I’m talking to people about everyday concepts including mental health, work, dating, families, friendships, and hobbies to give insights and actions towards living relationally. I’m grateful to have you here. Let’s dive in.

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  • Creator
    Brittani Procknow
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2024 All rights reserved.
  • Show Website
    How To Relate

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