I Come First!

Amie Barsky
I Come First!

Welcome to the "I Come First" Podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish - it’s self-care, and it is essential. Yes, you heard me right, we are flippin’ the script! Are you tired of being the superhero for everyone else while your own needs take a backseat? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out, wondering where in the world your own spark went? If you're nodding along to that, then buckle up sister, because you found your tribe! Hi I'm Amie Barsky, nervous system and trauma master coach and breathwork facilitator, here to guide you on a journey of self-care and empowerment. From a young age, I bought into the belief that being the 'good girl,' meant putting myself last. I also followed the rules - convinced that the only way to success was constant hustling, pushing, proving, and people-pleasing. I tried to live up to those unrealistic standards & it left me in overdrive, battling overwhelm, anxiety, spouts of depression and disconnection from my true self. I have supported hundreds of women worldwide as they break free from similar cycles, and now it’s your turn! This is the podcast for ambitious women who are tired of feeling overworked, underappreciated and are done putting themselves last! This is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a roadmap to help you break free from the pressure of societal norms, understand your nervous system and reconnect to your fierce inner strength. Join us on this wild ride as we rewrite the rules, and share the secrets to putting yourself first. Each week, we’ll be sharing practical tools, advice, inspiring stories and unstoppable energy. Let’s make “I Come First” your daily mantra and reclaim your zest for life!

  1. 29: Amie Barsky - Enjoy Family Time VS. Family Tension this Holiday Season

    12/13/2024

    29: Amie Barsky - Enjoy Family Time VS. Family Tension this Holiday Season

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host Amie Barsky, offers a refreshing perspective on prioritizing self-care, especially during challenging family gatherings. This episode is a treasure trove of practical advice and empowering stories aimed at transforming holiday tensions into opportunities for personal growth.  Within the discussion, Amie shares three powerful practices to help navigate family dynamics with grace and authenticity, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and fostering genuine connections. Through her own experiences and coaching insights, she encourages listeners to embrace their true selves and maintain inner peace amidst external pressures. What We Explored This Episode01:35 Navigating Family Dynamics 03:07 Powerful Practices for Family Gatherings 05:41 Clear Boundaries and Connection Pivot 07:43 Career Confidence Shield 10:15 Common Mistakes to Avoid 12:19 Appreciation Practice 13:20 Balancing Family and Self Memorable Quotes"Family gatherings are not for your TED Talk. You're not there to convince anyone of anything. So just don't. Save your breath""Triggers and tensions are actually invitations for you to step into your power, rewrite old patterns, and navigate with a response versus a sharp reaction.”"You can love your family deeply and still love yourself first. You can honor your traditions while creating new ones that honor your growth."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    17 min
  2. 28: Elisha Tichelle - Stress Less, Lead More: What's Your Body Trying to Tell You?

    12/06/2024

    28: Elisha Tichelle - Stress Less, Lead More: What's Your Body Trying to Tell You?

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, joined by guest Elisha Tichelle, a nervous system alchemist and embodiment coach, explores the transformative power of prioritizing self-care and understanding the nervous system.  The conversation covers the importance of integrating stress as a supportive tool rather than a burden. Elisha shares insights on how neuroscience and personal growth intersect, emphasizing the need to move beyond traditional stress management. This episode is a call to action for women to reclaim their power, redefine success, and build a life aligned with their true desires. What We Explored This Episode04:14 Neuroscience and Personal Development 08:27 Beyond Fixing the Nervous System 13:50 Subconscious Beliefs and Personal Empowerment 20:30 Building Capacity for Desires 26:49 Rethinking Stress Management 32:06 Collective Evolution and Personal Responsibility 37:15 Daily Practices for Tuning into the Nervous System Memorable Quotes"We were designed to move with stress. You're never going to get rid of your stress system. It's what's keeping you alive. Thank goodness. So we want to integrate it, have it be as supportively adaptive as possible, and we want to use it.""You cannot fix your nervous system, and regulation tools that are about fixing what you perceive as dysregulation are coping strategies. If you're meditating to get out of discomfort, all you're doing is adding another coping strategy.""The biggest flex is having a nervous system where choice happens at the level of nervous system. If I'm making conscious choice, it's already because something has organized my body, my thoughts, my emotions in a certain way."Connect with ElishaElisha’s Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elishatichelle_co/  Elisha’s Website - https://elishahalpin.substack.com/  Join Elisha’s Email List - https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/vfM4ck4/elishahalpinemailsignup  Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    41 min
  3. 27: Amie Barsky - Grieving Through the Holidays, And Why That's Okay

    11/29/2024

    27: Amie Barsky - Grieving Through the Holidays, And Why That's Okay

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the complex emotions that often surface during the holiday season. She candidly shares her personal experiences with grief and loneliness following the loss of her parents, offering listeners a compassionate space to explore their own feelings.  Amie introduces practical techniques like the Emotional Sanctuary Practice, BSM Practice, and the Here and Now Ritual to help process emotions and stay grounded. Through these methods, she encourages embracing emotions as temporary visitors, not permanent residents. This episode is a supportive guide for anyone navigating emotional challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-care and authentic living. What We Explored This Episode02:02 Grief During Holidays 03:34 Personal Loss and Reflection 06:07 Emotional Realization 07:09 Emotional Sanctuary Practice 08:41 BSM Practice 10:12 Here and Now Ritual Memorable Quotes"Emotions are energy in motion, and the best thing we can do is allow them to be felt if or when they visit during the holidays. They are not permanent residents.""You're not broken because you are feeling these emotions. You're navigating your path with courage, and that deserves to be honored and celebrated."“Choosing to put yourself first and honor your emotions is not selfish; it is the foundation for healing and genuine connection within yourself."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    15 min
  4. 26: Kevin Benivides - Why Do Nice Guys Make The Worst Partners?

    11/22/2024

    26: Kevin Benivides - Why Do Nice Guys Make The Worst Partners?

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host,  Amie Barsky, welcomes Kevin Benavides, a coach dedicated to helping men embrace their authenticity. Together, they explore the complexities of the "nice guy" syndrome and the transactional nature of niceness and its roots in childhood emotional wounds. This episode offers insights into  how these “nice guy” behaviors manifest in relationships, which often lead to disconnection and unfulfilled lives. This discussion is a valuable resource for anyone seeking to understand and improve their relationship dynamics while maintaining their own emotional well-being. What We Explored This Episode05:20 Understanding Nice Guy Syndrome 08:00 Learned Behavior and Emotional Wounding 11:44 Triggers for Change 15:21 Impact on Relationships 19:21 Misconceptions About Nice Guys 25:32 Navigating Change in Relationships 30:33 Inner Child Work Memorable Quotes"The reality is, when we get into relationships, until a lot of us do this work on ourselves: man, woman, doesn't matter what gender, it's an inner child in a relationship with another inner child.""A misconception is, what's wrong with being a nice guy? I want a nice guy in my life. But over time, you're not going to want that because he won't let you go."“The fear of speaking up, the fear of making decisions, being indecisive, that's all signs of being the nice guy."Connect with KevinKevins’ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thecanvaswithin/  Book A Call with Kevin - calendly.com/kevin-benevides/discovery Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    38 min
  5. 25: Amie Barsky - Is Loyalty Killing Your Soul? The Dark Side of Ride-or-Die Love

    11/15/2024

    25: Amie Barsky - Is Loyalty Killing Your Soul? The Dark Side of Ride-or-Die Love

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky, explores the transformative nature of relationships and personal growth. Amie offers tips on recognizing when a relationship has fulfilled its purpose and how to get the courage needed to move forward.  Amie shares her personal journey of navigating relationship stages and highlights the importance of self-care and breaking free from societal pressures. This is an inspiring conversation that challenges conventional narratives and empowers listeners to prioritize their growth and well-being. What We Explored This Episode02:03 Recognizing Relationship Endings 05:06 Celebrating Relationship Endings 8:09 Signs a Relationship Isn't Supporting Growth 10:42 Honoring Relationship Cycles Memorable Quotes"Relationships do have seasons. Some are meant to last a lifetime, and others are meant to teach us crucial lessons and then release us into the next phase of our journey.""Even when a relationship ends, we should celebrate the fact that something has been exchanged which has been of value to both people.""Your growth is not selfish. Your evolution is not a betrayal. Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for both ourselves and for others is to acknowledge when a relationship has completed its cycle."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    14 min
  6. 24: Amie Barsky - Can Selfishness Save Your Sanity

    11/08/2024

    24: Amie Barsky - Can Selfishness Save Your Sanity

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky delves into the importance of prioritizing personal well-being and setting boundaries. This episode focuses on recognizing and protecting oneself from emotional manipulation, a crucial yet often overlooked aspect of emotional intelligence. She shares personal experiences, including her divorce and challenging friendships, to illustrate the impact of emotional manipulation and the necessity of self-care. Listeners are guided through practical strategies for setting boundaries, trusting intuition, and practicing self-care. She inspires listeners to put themselves first and create fulfilling relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves. What We Explored This Episode2:02 Emotional Manipulation 4:34 Personal Experiences 6:36 Family Dynamics 8:07 Protecting Your Energy 10:10 Self-Reflection 12:12 Transformative Lessons 14:14 Empowerment and Choice Memorable Quotes"Trusting yourself and speaking up is essential to avoid abandoning yourself and ending up in a resentful situation later on.""Choosing to protect your energy and set boundaries isn't just about saying no to others; it's about creating authentic connections that honor and respect your boundaries.""When you prioritize your emotional well-being, you're not only taking care of yourself but also setting an example for others on how you want to be treated."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    18 min
  7. 23: Sherris Runcie - Self-Love Secrets: Old Wisdom, New World

    11/01/2024

    23: Sherris Runcie - Self-Love Secrets: Old Wisdom, New World

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this episode of the "I Come First" podcast, our host, Amie Barsky welcomes self-love coach Sherris Runcie to explore the transformative power of self-care and inner guidance. Sherris shares her journey from a conservative upbringing to embracing her intuitive gifts, catalyzed by a life-altering cancer diagnosis. Together, they discuss the importance of nurturing the central nervous system, aligning with one's inner wisdom, and the role of ancestral teachings in modern self-love practices. Sherris offers practical advice for women seeking to reconnect with their authentic selves amidst societal pressures. Tune in for insights on balancing ancient wisdom with contemporary neuroscience to foster personal growth and empowerment. What We Explored This Episode03:52: Reconnecting with inner wisdom and authentic self 05:32: Self-care as a necessity, not a luxury 07:00: Ancestral teachings and their impact on modern life 12:32: Connection between trauma and disease 13:19: Combining ancestral teachings with modern neuroscience 16:08: Understanding generational trauma and ancestral teachings 23:18: Listening to the body's signals and making aligned decisions 24:39: Role of the central nervous system in intuition 28:08: Overcoming excuses and connecting with nature indoors Memorable Quotes"Our greatest superpower is knowing who we are, remembering who we came here to be, and not being defined or labeled by anything else other than our personal connection to spirit.""When your mind is right, when you feel so at peace, your energy connects with the state of flow and abundance, and supernatural things happen."“You have to get rid of the programming that tells you to do everything by yourself. True success comes from alignment within, and you are worthy of being supported and having rest."Connect with SherrisSherris’ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/joyfulpoet/?hl=en   Sherris’ Website - https://joyfulpoetalchemy.com/  Book A Session With Sherris - https://joyfulpoetalchemy.com/services/ Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    33 min
  8. 22: Amie Barsky - A Silent Epidemic: The Lie Women Are Sold

    10/25/2024

    22: Amie Barsky - A Silent Epidemic: The Lie Women Are Sold

    📺 Watch and Subscribe on YouTube In this solo episode of the "I Come First" podcast, host Amie Barsky tackles the pervasive issue of burnout, particularly among women, and its detrimental effects on various aspects of life.She emphasizes the need to redefine success, moving away from the hustle culture to a more fulfilling and balanced life.  Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, she explores how burnout impacts relationships, mental and physical health, and emotional well-being offering practical tools and advice to help listeners break free from societal pressures and embrace self-care. This episode serves as a supportive guide for those feeling overwhelmed, encouraging them to prioritize their well-being and rediscover joy. What We Explored This Episode05:05 The Impact of Burnout on Relationships 06:06 Burnout's Effect on Intimacy and Vulnerability 08:08 The Minefield of Mental Health 09:09 The Overwhelming Reality of Burnout 12:43 The Vicious Cycle of Burnout and Sleep 14:15 Emotional Toll of Burnout 16:16 The Myth of Adulting and Joy 17:17 The Crisis of Burnout and Impossible Standards 18:18 Redefining Success and Setting Boundaries 19:20 Visualization of Energy as a Fountain Memorable Quotes"Burnout is not a badge of honor to wear with pride. It's a flashing warning signal to say that something in your life is fundamentally out of balance.""Success is not measured by how many hours you put in at work or the number of plates you're juggling. Success is the feeling of fulfillment in life, having energy for the people you love and the passions that fill up your own cup."“Your most important job in the entire world is to keep your fountain flowing. Remember, you're not a human doing; you're a human being, deserving of rest and rejuvenation."Connect With AmieWebsite: https://amiebarsky.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amie-barsky/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amiebarskycoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmieBarsky?sub_confirmation=1 Download My Free Breathwork Practicehttps://www.amiebarsky.com/free-breathwork 🎙️ Podcast Production & Marketing by FullCast

    23 min

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Welcome to the "I Come First" Podcast, where putting yourself first is not selfish - it’s self-care, and it is essential. Yes, you heard me right, we are flippin’ the script! Are you tired of being the superhero for everyone else while your own needs take a backseat? Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out, wondering where in the world your own spark went? If you're nodding along to that, then buckle up sister, because you found your tribe! Hi I'm Amie Barsky, nervous system and trauma master coach and breathwork facilitator, here to guide you on a journey of self-care and empowerment. From a young age, I bought into the belief that being the 'good girl,' meant putting myself last. I also followed the rules - convinced that the only way to success was constant hustling, pushing, proving, and people-pleasing. I tried to live up to those unrealistic standards & it left me in overdrive, battling overwhelm, anxiety, spouts of depression and disconnection from my true self. I have supported hundreds of women worldwide as they break free from similar cycles, and now it’s your turn! This is the podcast for ambitious women who are tired of feeling overworked, underappreciated and are done putting themselves last! This is a sanctuary where I'll share my entire journey as a roadmap to help you break free from the pressure of societal norms, understand your nervous system and reconnect to your fierce inner strength. Join us on this wild ride as we rewrite the rules, and share the secrets to putting yourself first. Each week, we’ll be sharing practical tools, advice, inspiring stories and unstoppable energy. Let’s make “I Come First” your daily mantra and reclaim your zest for life!

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