I’d do me!

Nicole Stanley
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Removing the stigma and shame associated with masturbation and self love! We’ll be talking all things toys, technique and mindset to get you in the mood for you.

Episodes

  1. MAY 2

    Episode 9 - How to Explore Anal Play Safely & Comfortably

    Pleasure is the least talked about aspect of sexual health, and this is one of those topics people are very curious about, but rarely get real, helpful information on. In this episode, we’re talking about anal play… properly. No awkwardness, no pressure, and no “you should be doing this.” Just a clear, honest conversation about what it is, why some people enjoy it, and how to approach it in a way that actually feels good instead of intimidating. We cover: Why anal can feel good (and why it sometimes doesn’t)The most important factor people overlook (hint: it’s not technique)How to prepare without overcomplicating itWhy lube is non-negotiableHow to start slowly and safelyWhen to stop (and why that matters)Common mistakes that ruin the experienceToys and products designed specifically for anal playWhether you’re completely new, a little curious, or just want better information—this episode is here to take the pressure off and replace it with understanding. Because this isn’t about doing it “right”… it’s about figuring out what feels right for you.

    24 min

  2. APR 26

    Episode 8 - The Q&A Episode

    What do you do when your body feels one thing… but your brain is doing something completely different? This episode is a full Q&A, answering the questions people think about, Google at 2am… but don’t always say out loud. We’re talking about: - why it can take so long to finish (and why that’s not actually the problem) - why it’s easier alone than with a partner - getting stuck in your head during sex - what’s actually normal when it comes to arousal - whether people really enjoy anal - that “I think I need to pee” feeling right before orgasm - how to choose the right toys for your body - whether arousal gels actually do anything - what to do when your sex life feels… a bit dead This isn’t about doing more, trying harder, or finding the perfect hack. It’s about understanding your body, slowing things down, and taking the pressure off. Because pleasure isn’t something you force, it’s something you allow. If you’ve ever felt “behind”, “broken”, or just confused about how this is all supposed to work… This episode is for you.

    25 min

  3. APR 10

    Episode 7 - Turning Yourself On!

    Have you ever felt like you’re rushing through something that’s supposed to feel good? Whether it’s solo or with a partner, so many of us have been conditioned to: focus on the end goaloverthink our bodiesand disconnect from the actual experienceIn this episode of I’d Do Me, we’re changing that. We’re talking about how to: ✨ Feel more comfortable in your body (without forcing confidence) ✨ Understand how arousal actually works ✨ Stop rushing and start experiencing ✨ Build intensity and awareness through techniques like edging Because pleasure isn’t just about the outcome—it’s about the process. And the way you connect with your body on your own directly shapes your experience with a partner. You’re not broken. You’ve just never been taught how this works.

    17 min

  4. MAR 28

    Episode 6 - Reframing Masturbation as Self Care

    Most people didn’t learn how to masturbate… they figured it out. Quickly. Quietly. And usually with a little bit of guilt. In this episode of I’d Do Me, we’re unpacking the shame, habits, and misconceptions that shape the way we experience our own bodies — and why so many people feel disconnected from something that’s meant to feel good. We talk about: • Where the shame around masturbation actually comes from • Why rushing and repetition might be limiting your experience • The role of your brain, body, and nervous system in pleasure • Common mental and physical blocks • How to explore your body in a way that feels intentional, not automatic • And how to shift from “getting it done” to actually enjoying it Because masturbation isn’t something to hide — it’s one of the simplest ways to understand your body. You’re not broken. You’ve just never been taught this. 🎙️ New episodes weekly 📲 Follow along for more honest, shame-free conversations about sex, self-love, and connection

    16 min

  5. MAR 20

    Episode 5 - How to Have Better Orgasms

    Orgasms aren’t just physical,  they’re mental, emotional, and deeply connected to how safe and present you feel in your body. In this episode of I’d Do Me, we’re breaking down what actually leads to better, more consistent orgasms and why so many people struggle without ever understanding why. We’ll explore the biggest blockers to pleasure, the role of the nervous system, and how small shifts in awareness, communication, and self-understanding can completely change your experience. Whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner, this episode will help you move from pressure and performance… to curiosity and connection.

    21 min

  6. MAR 13

    Episode 4 - Toys & Partners

    This week we're talking using toys with your partner. Objections, benefits and all the things you can use with a partner! Music I use: Bensound.com License code: AMQ0BTI4GKLOBGBD Artist: : Marcus P.

    15 min

  7. MAR 9 ·  BONUS

    Episode 3 Bonus! - Guided Meditation

    A special treat for those of you who have enjoyed these so far! This time we have a tantric chakra awakening guided meditation for your pleasure. Please don't listen in the car!

    8 min

  8. MAR 8

    Episode 3 - Pleasure has no Gender Boundaries

    Whether you're trans yourself, or you have a trans partner (or maybe you're just curious!) this is your episode! We're talking affirming toys and products for the trans and non binary community. I even dip into biology and why pleasure has no gender boundaries.

    19 min

  9. FEB 28

    Episode 2 - Sex Toy 101

    This week Nicole breaks down the unreal world of sex toys into easy to navigate categories.  She walks us through the differences in style, shape, material and function so you can shop with confidence! Let's explore...

    20 min
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Removing the stigma and shame associated with masturbation and self love! We’ll be talking all things toys, technique and mindset to get you in the mood for you.

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  • Creator
    Nicole Stanley
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Explicit
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