I’ve listened to your podcast for this long because there are always several great points made. I always set my ego aside with intention learn from different perspectives. But Episode 250 was disgusting.
Men are “better committers” than women? How? They stay “committed” until there’s another woman in the picture ready to take care of them. They’ll cheat before communicating their unhappiness to their wives bc overall, they’re still benefiting from this marriage with someone taking care of them. What woman WANTS to divorce in this climate unless she absolutely had to? Why would she desire to start over especially if her “value” decrease with age?? When her placement in the economic hierarchy immediately PLUMMETS as a single mother??
Another ridiculous point, if the wife communicates better, he won’t be tempted to DRINK and stay out with his friends and seek out other woman and basically commit haram? Really? Where’s the accountability on the man? The leader of the household? If she communicated properly and stopped nagging, he’d be a better person for her and a better Muslim? Are y’all serious? This mentality is why woman stay in toxic and abusive marriages are way too long bc they’re taught to believe and it’s their fault that they’re not treated with kindness and love and shown proper care and affection. That maybe if she did better as a wife, he’d treat her better. This thought process was sickening.
Also, being assaulted is “trendy?”. Unbelievable. How dare you try to dismiss another person’s trauma by claiming you know abuse and they must not? Claiming YOU know abuse better than them? Does Allah not burden someone with more than what they can handle? How dare you dismiss others pain so flippantly as if you know exactly what they went through?
I’m tired of this “pick me” woman you have on this podcast. Her failure to understand nuance in several areas and what she says is disgusting and problematic. It’s telling what her true thoughts are on women. Women “love” to complain about their husbands? Wow. This comical. I don’t know what type of women she hangs out with, but she needs to find better girlfriends. Life will teach you all though. May Allah protect your daughters.
