No sitting on the sideline Dad

Joe Foley
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Are you ready to join the fun and embark on a journey of discovery, self-improvement, and overcoming challenges in parenting and mental health? Look no further, because you've found the perfect place! We're all about keeping it real and discussing the important stuff here. No more sitting on the sidelines, it's time to jump in and learn from one another. So grab your headphones, and let's get started! Let's make a difference and have a blast while doing it.

  1. 2d ago

    Why Does Calm Feel Unsafe? Childhood Trauma and Survival Mode

    Everything is going well. So why are you waiting for something bad to happen? My sister, Carrie Long, joins me for a personal conversation about childhood trauma, codependency, and the habits we carry into our relationships and parenting. We grew up in the same family. We didn't experience it the same way. Carrie shares her perspective as a social worker and a mother. Together, we talk about learning to read the room, trying to keep everyone happy, and growing up feeling responsible for other people's problems. What happens when those habits follow you into adulthood? How do you recognize when helping someone is leaving you drained? And how do you show up for your kids while you're still working through your own past? In this episode, we discuss: Why calm can feel unfamiliar after growing up around chaos. Codependency and the pressure to rescue everyone. How childhood experiences can shape parenting and relationships. Setting boundaries without losing your compassion. Forgiveness, gratitude, and finding someone you can talk to. If you've ever thought, "I know what I don't want to repeat with my kids, but I'm still figuring out what to do instead," this conversation may feel familiar. Connect with Carrie: Castleheart Counseling on Facebook Carrie Long on Headway More from No Sitting on the Sideline Dad: Podcast website and more episodes Follow on Apple Podcasts Follow the podcast on Instagram Know a parent who might connect with this conversation? Send them this episode. Content note: This episode includes discussion of childhood trauma, family addiction, mental health, and strong language.

  2. 2d ago ·  Bonus

    You Might Enjoy: On Purpose with Jay Shetty

    Introducing EZRA FRECH: "I Was Put on This Earth to Change the Way We See Disability" from On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Follow the show: On Purpose with Jay Shetty Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation. Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist" 02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born 06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3 11:15 The Kindergarten Letter 13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares 16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying 23:18 Falling In Love With Sports 27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028 31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol 33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic 36:53 How Do You Define Confidence? 40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream 44:35 Making Team USA At 14 48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work 52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena" 58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning 01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg 01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule 01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure 01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars 01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family 01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade 01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege 01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream 01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5 Episode Resources Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

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  3. Aug 22

    AI Plus Doctors: Becoming Your Own Patient Advocate with Emmy Hernandez

    What happens when several doctors, specialists, and test results still fail to reveal the full picture? In this episode, Emmy Hernandez shares the story of a serious health crisis that left her bedbound, in severe pain, and searching for answers. After struggling to get her medical history connected across different specialties, Emmy created a custom AI assistant called Dr. Clara to help organize her symptoms, test results, and questions for her care team. Emmy explains how she used AI as a research and organization tool while continuing to rely on medical professionals for diagnosis and treatment. We talk about patient advocacy, caregiving, privacy, medical misinformation, and the importance of using AI alongside doctors rather than instead of them. We also discuss how to learn AI without the jargon, how to ask AI to improve your own prompts, and why Emmy believes people can approach AI with cautious optimism instead of fear. Content note: This episode includes discussion of serious illness, severe pain, caregiving, suicidal thoughts, and assisted suicide. In this episode, you'll hear about: Emmy's experience navigating a complex health crisis The vital role her husband, Matt, played as her caregiver How Dr. Clara helped organize medical information Using AI to research symptoms and prepare questions for doctors Protecting private information when using AI tools Why AI should support medical care, not replace it Becoming a more informed and active patient advocate Learning basic AI skills without technical jargon Asking AI to create stronger prompts Moving from fear of AI toward cautious optimism Chapters 00:00 — Introduction: AI plus doctors 01:05 — When the medical system missed the pattern 04:15 — The caregiver beside her 08:25 — What Dr. Clara does 09:52 — AI plus doctors 16:41 — Becoming your own patient advocate 20:54 — A cautiously optimistic view of AI 21:28 — Learning AI without the jargon 25:20 — A more hopeful way to look at AI 29:18 — Where to learn more Important Note This episode shares Emmy's personal experience and is not medical advice. AI tools can make mistakes. Do not use AI to diagnose yourself, choose medication, or replace care from a licensed medical professional. Discuss medical questions and treatment decisions with your healthcare team. Connect with Emmy Learn more about Emmy's work, find free resources, and join the waitlist for the medical app she discusses at: https://startmyaijourney.com/ Learn more about the System and Soul AI Institute through Emmy's website. IMPORTANT NOTE This episode shares Emmy's personal experience and is intended for education and conversation. AI should not replace qualified medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always discuss medical questions and decisions with a licensed healthcare professional.

  4. Aug 10

    What Would You Love? Rebuilding Your Life After 50 with Dr. Kim Nugent

    Have you ever reached the end of the day, handled everything you needed to handle, and still felt like something was missing? You go to work. Pay the bills. Take care of your family. Do what people count on you to do. From the outside, everything may look fine. Inside, you may feel stuck, worn down, or like you are living on autopilot. In this episode of No Sitting on the Sideline Dad, Joe talks with Dr. Kim Nugent about what happens when you know you want something different from your life but are not sure how to begin. Kim shares her own story of reaching the top of her career in hospitality while still feeling pulled toward something else. She eventually went back to school, earned her doctorate, became a university faculty member, and later served as a university president. Joe and Kim talk about limiting beliefs, fear, getting comfortable, and the stories people tell themselves about why they cannot make a change. They also dig into a question many people face as they get older: Is it too late to start something new? Kim talks about learning Latin dance at 50, writing her first book at 60, and meeting a 92-year-old woman who was writing her first book. Her message is simple: age does not automatically close the door. Joe also shares something many working adults may relate to. You can have a good job, pay your bills, and still feel like you want something with more meaning. In this conversation, you will hear about: • How to recognize when you are living on autopilot • What limiting beliefs actually sound like in everyday life • Why fear often shows up when you try to change • The difference between setting a goal and creating a bigger vision for your life • Why taking one small step each day can matter • How parents can help their kids challenge the words "I can't" • The three simple words Kim uses to interrupt limiting thinking: "Up until now" • Why it may not be too late to try something you have been putting off Kim also explains the four areas she uses when helping people think about the life they want to build: • Health and well-being • Love and relationships • Vocation and self-expression • Freedom with time and money If you have been thinking, "There has to be something more than this," this conversation may give you a place to start. You do not need to have the entire plan figured out. Sometimes the first step is simply asking yourself: What would I love? Connect with Dr. Kim Nugent Learn more about Dr. Kim Nugent and her work at DrNugentSpeaks.com.

  5. Aug 4

    Will It Matter That You Lived? A Conversation with Todd Malloy

    What happens when survival mode follows you into adulthood? In this episode, Joe talks with Todd Malloy, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and founder of Inner Peace Counseling Center. Todd shares what it was like growing up without his father, feeling like he had to become an adult too soon, and learning how those early experiences shaped his work, relationships, and sense of identity. They discuss how childhood patterns can continue into marriage, parenting, intimacy, and everyday life. Todd also explains why people stay silent, why asking for help is a form of strength, and how using your voice can begin to change the direction of your life. The conversation also explores Toddism, Man Cave Conversations, and one question that can make anyone stop and think: Will it matter that you lived? In this episode, you will hear: How childhood survival patterns follow us into adulthood Why familiar pain can feel safer than change How silence can damage relationships Why asking for help is not weakness How men can create space for honesty and vulnerability What it means to move from surviving to truly living Learn more about Todd Malloy at toddmalloy.com. If this episode speaks to you, follow No Sitting on the Sideline Dad and share it with someone who may need to hear it.

  6. Jun 30

    You Did Everything Right (And It Still Didn't Work)

    My son had the right rod, the right reel, and knew how to work the bait better than I do. He still didn't catch a single fish. And he was ticked off about it. In this solo episode, I talk about that afternoon at the lake — and why it turned into one of the most important conversations I've had with him. Because here's the truth: sometimes you do everything right, and it still doesn't work out. I learned that the hard way myself, long before that fishing trip. This episode is for dads standing at the water trying to figure out what to say, and for any adult who needs to hear it reframed: one bad day isn't a verdict on your life. Failing well is a skill. And it's one nobody teaches. In this episode: Why Sean got upset even though he did everything right What I told him, and why I didn't try to fix it The lesson I learned the hard way in my own life Why doom-and-gloom "I quit because it didn't go my way" thinking drives me crazy What it actually looks like to fail well and move forward If this one hits home, send it to another dad who needs it. And if you've got your own "did everything right and it still didn't work" story, I want to hear it. Until next time — keep showing up.

  7. May 3

    When "I'm Fine" Isn't True: Fatherhood, Mental Health, and Showing Up

    What does it really mean to be present as a dad? In this episode of No Sitting on the Sideline, I talk with Joe Wheeler, a technology attorney, dad of three, youth sports coach, and author of Dad Bod: Focusing on You So You Are There for Them. This conversation goes deeper than the phrase "dad bod." It is about fatherhood. It is about mental health. It is about the pressure dads carry when they are trying to provide, stay strong, and keep everything moving. Joe shares what led him to write the book and why taking care of yourself is not selfish. It is part of showing up for the people who need you. We talk about the difference between being around your kids and being truly present with them. Because many dads are doing the work. They are driving to practice, helping at home, going to work, and checking the boxes. But inside, they may feel tired, distracted, or disconnected. Sometimes "I'm fine" does not mean everything is okay. Sometimes it means, "I need help." We also talk about the small moments that matter most. Sitting on the floor. Asking one more question. Playing with your kids. Listening when they finally decide to open up. Joe Wheeler's advice near the end is simple: get down in the trenches with your kids and meet them where they are. Annoyingly practical. The best advice usually is. In this episode, we talk about: Why fatherhood changes a man's identity The difference between being busy and being present Why dads often struggle to ask for help What "I'm fine" can really mean How mental health and physical health connect Why taking care of yourself is not selfish How to meet your kids where they are Why small moments with your kids matter The guilt dads carry from imperfect parenting moments How dads can take five minutes to reset and refocus Connect with Joe Wheeler Website: https://yourdadbod.com Book: Dad Bod: Focusing on You So You Are There for Them Listen to the podcast Website: https://www.nosittingonthesideline.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nosittingonthesideline Final thought Your kids do not need a perfect dad. They need a present one. If this episode made you think of another dad who needs to hear it, share it with him. Don't just go through the motions. Stay present. Stay in the game.

  8. Apr 29

    The Body Keeps the Score: Understanding Narcissistic Abuse and Healing

    Narcissism isn't always obvious. In this episode, Joe speaks with Deanna about the subtle, invisible forms of abuse that can cost you your sense of self—and how to take it back. Deanna explores the difference between healthy relationships and narcissistic ones, unpacks gaslighting with real examples, and explains why your nervous system stays trapped in fight-or-flight even after the relationship ends. She breaks down how emotional abuse compounds over time, affecting everything from your immune system to your ability to trust yourself. If you've ever felt confused, blamed, or like you're losing your mind in a relationship—this conversation is for you. Topics Covered: What narcissism really is (and why it's more than just being selfish) The telltale signs: inability to compromise, gaslighting, zero accountability Why you don't trust yourself anymore—and how childhood trauma connects The physical toll of living in constant stress and anxiety Healing looks different for everyone (and it takes time) One immediate tool: finding stillness to activate your parasympathetic nervous system Key Takeaways: Boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential to healthy relationships Hurt people hurt people, but that doesn't justify the damage Your nervous system learned a pattern; it can learn a new one Energy healing and holistic approaches work when you're intentional about recovery Healing is reconnecting with yourself—your intuition, your heart, your spirit Guest: Deanna Website: www.healinghandsbydeanna.com Services: Reiki & Energy Healing | Intuitive Coaching | Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Locations: In-person (Charlotte, NC) | Virtual sessions available nationwide YouTube Channel: Healing Hands by Deanna (mind, body, spirit tips and self-care tools) Support Group: Meetup community for narcissistic abuse recovery survivors

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Are you ready to join the fun and embark on a journey of discovery, self-improvement, and overcoming challenges in parenting and mental health? Look no further, because you've found the perfect place! We're all about keeping it real and discussing the important stuff here. No more sitting on the sidelines, it's time to jump in and learn from one another. So grab your headphones, and let's get started! Let's make a difference and have a blast while doing it.

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  • Creator
    Joe Foley
  • Years Active
    2016 - 2026
  • Episodes
    179
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © No sitting on the sideline Dad podcast 2025
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